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50 Pics Of Men That Personify The Idea Of Weaponized Incompetence (New Pics)
In most relationships, at a certain point it just becomes common sense to move in together. More time shared, lower rent and a sure sign that the relationship is being taken to the next level. However, as many women have learned, often this can mean becoming a truly surrogate mother for a partner who suddenly doesn’t know how to do basic tasks.
We’ve gathered some of the most egregious examples of “weaponized incompetence” shared by women across the world. So get comfortable as you scroll through, prepare to roll your eyes, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
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Boyfriend Put His Drink On My Brand New Notebook, Yesterday
This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves
This would make me so mad. Its just plain dirty and lazy to do this
For those who are unfamiliar with the concept of weaponized incompetence, it’s rather simple. Imagine a couple, living together. Perhaps they have just moved in together. It’s time to do the laundry. The man, either lying or entirely truthfully goes "I don’t know how to do it!" So now it’s the woman’s household task.
Now this suddenly becomes her regular routine chore. She asks him to learn, but he either insists it’s impossible or, even worse, he attempts to do it and does the laundry so poorly that she feels like she should do it next time. None of this to say that all women are saints, but this flavor of poor behavior is often male.
Sisters Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Moms
My Boyfriend Puts The Butter Away Like This In The Fridge Door. Fully Exposed And Touching The Fridge I Haven’t Washed In Months
Oh so now EVERYBODY cleans their fridge on the reg, every few weeks, apparently. I've seen many fridges. At least half of you are liars. Where's my "I can't remember the last time I deep cleaned my fridge' squad?
This Can Has Been Directly In Front Of My Boyfriend's Sink Side For Two Weeks And I've Chosen Not To Toss It Just To See If He Would. He Still Hasn't
Remember, asking a grown adult to do a household task is a normal thing to do. If someone can work a job, even an entry-level one, they have the necessary skills to wash a plate, mop the floor or iron some clothes. It’s ok to not be good at it at first, although it’s really never that hard, unless the plates are truly piled sky-high.
My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays, But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet Up
My boyfriend does this too. He'll make a lovely elaborate dish and transform the kitchen into a warzone in the process (which he then leaves for me to deal with, because he thinks it's 'not that bad').
Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads, He Said ‘No There’s Loads Left’
Went To Get Some Ice Cream And My Boyfriend Left Me This. In Case I “Needed A Pick Me Up But Didn’t Want A Bunch Of Ice Cream.”
Unfortunately, some men seem to think that doing their share of manual labor is worse than openly admitting that they can’t figure out which end of a broom to use. This entire strategy relies on the fact that no one calls them out. After all, at some point, as the live-in partner of such a man, you will need some dishes, so you will end up cleaning them yourself.
Boyfriend Leaves All His Trash In The Car
My ex-husband did this. I remember the reaction i got from him when I left a straw wrapper in a cup holder. Wow, you'd think the car was spotless before I did that. Apparently it's OK if he makes a mess because he'll clean it up (false), but not me because I'll just leave it. Uh, excuse me? But who just bought gas for this car?
I suggest leaving some trash that will quickly become smelly. See if that helps!
This is my ex 100%. You can't open a car door without a bunch of cans and bottles rolling out. It's disgusting. And his room is no better.
yeah, I've known people with food waste, laundry , unrecognizable things... this is a dozen bottles, an empty paper bag, and a home depot(?) receipt. This would take 30 seconds to clean, not exactly a pearl-clutching mess. Most construction workers I know come home from work like this.. If you're driving two hours to get to manual labor this is a day's worth of junk, not a day's time worth of cleaning.. At least there's not spackle dust and banana peels ground into carpet. As a person who cleans up litter..this is a joy to see. No mold.
Load More Replies...Looks like my sister's and brother's cars. My mum's is also packed with stuff, just not rubbish.
yes, a perfect way to escalate the relationship.
Load More Replies...My dad used to be like that with his tools (he’s a mechanic). You usually had to move half of them just to get into the passenger seat. He’s gotten a lot better at organizing his stuff now though
My Boyfriend, Who Doesn’t Buy Any Of The Groceries, Decided To Use Multiple Pounds Of Chicken In A Cooler Instead Of The Bag Of Ice We Have
Boyfriend Leaves His Used Dental Floss On The Side Table By The Couch
The causes are myriad, but it mostly comes down to the fact that these things simply have to be done. Most likely, growing up, these fellows had a parental figure, a maid or even a sibling who picked up the slack while they relaxed. They never mature into adults who take responsibility for the environment around them, to the detriment of their partners. Even worse, they can’t do the most simple things, like finally taking out the trash (themselves.)
Instead Of Rinsing His Cup Between Drinks, My Boyfriend Will Just Refill It With Whatever Since It “Mixes In His Stomach Anyway”. Pictured Is His Glass Of “Water” After Milk And Oreos
When the title said "cup" I was thinking like coffee cup, like a mug or whatever, and didn't see what the fuss was - if I finish my coffee and decide to have another one straight away I just slosh it out under the tap and reuse it. I was not quite prepared for what the photo shows, and now feel slightly unwell.
My Boyfriend’s Solution To Me Being Mad That He Finishes Everything In The House Without Buying A Replacement
Boyfriend Keeps A Graveyard Of Shower Gel With One Half-Squirt Left
When My Boyfriend Leaves Empty Packages In The Fridge
Safari On My Boyfriend’s Phone
Stayed The Night At My Boyfriend’s, Didn’t Bring Breakfast Because He Said I Can Cook There. Morning Comes, He Proceeds To Pull Out These Two Things. Out Of The Dishwasher No Less
My Boyfriend "Tastes Tests" All The Chocolates One By One Whenever I Buy Us A Box Of Chocolates To Share
Why Is My Boyfriend Doing This? ) ‘ :
Whenever I see those signs in public restrooms reminding people to only flush toilet paper, I wonder who could possibly still need to be told this? Now I know.
My Boyfriend's Job Title Is Actually "Solutions Engineer." This Was His Solution
Well it _is_ a solution. Is it a good solution? No. Is it an annoying solution? Yes – but it is a solution.
How My Boyfriend Leaves His Coffee Cup Every Morning
The Amount Of Tea My Boyfriend Left In The Pitcher
Omg my son does this to avoid making more. Drives me nuts! At least he has the excuse of being a literal child but I've been putting my foot down so he doesn't become a grown man who does this b.s.
According To My Boyfriend, His Toothbrush Does Not Need To Be Changed
My Boyfriend : *does The Dishes* The Sink :
Every time, but I don't complain because he did the dishes.
Are These Really Still Ok? My Boyfriend Thinks That These Shoes Are Fine. Wears Them To Work, Around Town. “50% Of People Wear Their Shoes To This Point”
This Is How Much Ice Cream My Boyfriend Left In My Pint Of Ben & Jerry's 🙃
The Way My Boyfriend Is Eating This Pie
Came Home To A Smokey Apartment And A Boyfriend Asleep On The Couch. Not Even Sure What These Were
My Boyfriends Food Cupboard 😳 I Think He Must Upend His Shopping Bags Direct In The Cupboard Rather Than Unpack
My Boyfriends Gaming Set Up
Can hardly call that a gaming setup without keyboard and mouse. 😇😁
My Boyfriend Ate All The Skin Off Our Rotisserie Chicken
My Boyfriend Insists On Storing Leftovers In Ziplock Bags Even Though We Have Plenty Of Tupperware. His Reasoning Is It “Saves A Dish”, Even Though They Have To Be Transferred To A Dish Later Anyway. In Reality He Just Makes A Huge Mess And Wastes A Bag
Good Morning. Found My Boyfriends Glass Bottles In The Freezer. He’s At Work
My Boyfriend’s Toilet Paper Graveyard
Asking My Boyfriend To Not Empty The Entire Can Of Pringles (My Fav Flavor)
I learned when I was married to my ex-husband that if there was a specific snack that I wanted to actually last, I kept it in my car (or hidden in the basement by the washing machine during the summer), otherwise it would be gone before I even got a bite of it. I still have a tendency to stash little snacks in hiding places around my house, which is actually fun when I forget about them and then suddenly find a "surprise" later on when doing chores.
How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work
The Container My Boyfriend Picked To Put Away Leftover Pancakes
At least he DID pick a container (remembering the exposed bit of butter in the fridge further up?)
My Boyfriend Took A Bite Out Of All Three Of My Hashbrowns
Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This 🤨
My Boyfriend 'Helpfully' Put My Expensive Indoor Plants Outside For "Fresh Air", And They Got Irreparably Sunburnt :(
My Boyfriend Forgot To Buy Shower Curtain Rings
Recently Moved In With My Boyfriend Who Has A Habit Of Leaving His Clothes On The Floor, I Asked Him To Put His Jeans Away In His Closet And This Is What I Found Later
My Boyfriend Made Croissants This Way.. Am I Dating A Serial K*ller?
If he's a serial killer, he will be caught soon because he doesn't seem awfully smart.
Hos Much Dishsoap My Boyfriend Think He Needs For One Pot
My (Now Ex) Boyfriend Just Broke Up With Me Via Text Message Tonight :|
Boyfriend Always Buys A Bag At The Store
My Boyfriend's Single Bite Of My Apple
My Boyfriend Made Me Coffee The Other Day
My Boyfriend Puts Snacks In My Fruit Hanging Basket
How My Husband Leaves This
Note: this post originally had 76 images. It’s been shortened to the top 51 images based on user votes.
I may or may not have had a slightly different upbringing and different life experience than most (walked 30 miles to school and 30 miles back, uphill both ways in the snow, at Christmas we got one lump of coal to share between all 58 of us etc etc, you know the drill) but it amazes me just how many blokes are entirely incapable of basic human functions. Basic hygiene, pride in your appearance, grooming and dress standards, pride in your surroundings, take care of your possessions... Seriously lads, if this is you, get a f*****g grip, sort your s**t out. It is not difficult. What's manly - or attractive for that matter - about needing a girl to do everything for you? "Last time I tried using a urinal unsupervised I ended up waterboarding myself with my own p**s" isn't a chat-up line....
Honestly, these are no weaponized incompetent. These are men who's parents/family/caregivers failed to teach them the basics of self care. If their partners continue to carry on with allowing that then that is weaponized incompetence. You either tell him to pick up his act and insists he learn, or she leaves. Complaining and whinging about male incompetence is a choice
There were a handful that were deliberate (eg takeing a single bite of every piece of food) but there were quite a few innocent and often harmless ones as well like the guy who wore his socks wierdly
Load More Replies...Instead of posting this insanity online, why not kick the toddler men to the curb? This stuff isn't cute, funny, or endearing.
THANK YOU! God, the amount of commenters going "we have to pick our battles" or "it's fine I just rewash the dishes/redo the laundry/etc" on here is insane. No way I'd just fall in line and clean up after this sort of person, regardless of gender. It's insanity.
Load More Replies...The worst are the ones who are SOOOO PROUD that they "gamed the system", aka leaving just a tiny bit left = "I didn't *finish* it". Why are women having relationships with mentally 8 year olds? Ladies, if he's too lazy and selfish to replace ice cream, what do you think he'll do if you need serious help?
It seems strange these are pointed at men, as I have seen more than my share of women who are equally bad at cleaning. Seems biased...
bored panda had this week an entire post where men pointed out "gross habits" of their female partners, so not so sure about the bias
Load More Replies...Who ARE these boys? The operative word being boys. These girls are a hell of a lot more tolerant than I'd be.
Most of these are weird or annoying, or even incompetent... but I see very little evidence of *weaponized* incompetence.
I'm a bit of a slob myself, bc I have ADHD and honestly don't even SEE the messes. This stuff wouldn't bother me (except eating my food.) Shaming the person who you love online because they don't value neatness as much as you... Well that's worse. Life is too short to make a big deal over toilet paper rolls.
And as per usual a non-controversial personal opinion is getting downvoted.
Load More Replies...I'm usually not the one to say 'not all men' but this is f'ing disgusting! These are gross trolls not humans. Nasty.
When they show you who they are believe them. Now dump them all and hope they never reproduce.
Most of these are atrocious but several are complaints about not doing it your way or on your schedule.
Married guy here, I'm amazed at what a woman puts up with. No matter how rude or stupid the guy is, there are multiple women willing to tolerate it. It's insane.
There is nothing amongst these that doesn't pop up in lists of 'my worst roommate' or 'annoying things my partner does' - they are (nearly) all things that messy people do, both men and women. Some men are much cleaner and tidier than their female partners and vice versa. I'm fed up with men always being portrayed as the 'slob' and women as 'long-duffering saints'. It's just not true.
Oh nice BP, international mens day and you decide this is the perfect day to put an article aimed specifically at men and weaponized incompetence, out of 365 days a year we can't even get one day without it eh SMH
Trust me, it was intentional. BP has a long history of denigrating men.
Load More Replies...One perfect article demonstrating an author with no idea what "weaponised incompetence" actually means.
Scrolling through this comment section, nearly every comment that points out BP's bias is downvoted. Shocker.
Just to be fair, try this title out exchanging women instead of men. Does it still sound okay or amusing? No. Then stop it.
Here you go, from two days ago. https://www.boredpanda.com/infuriating-wives-girlfriends/
Load More Replies...Well, THAT escalated quickly.... never looked at a pile of empty toilet paper rolls and wondered, "Huh, bet this guy is on some kind of registry. Abusive a*****e." But you do you, I guess.
Load More Replies...I may or may not have had a slightly different upbringing and different life experience than most (walked 30 miles to school and 30 miles back, uphill both ways in the snow, at Christmas we got one lump of coal to share between all 58 of us etc etc, you know the drill) but it amazes me just how many blokes are entirely incapable of basic human functions. Basic hygiene, pride in your appearance, grooming and dress standards, pride in your surroundings, take care of your possessions... Seriously lads, if this is you, get a f*****g grip, sort your s**t out. It is not difficult. What's manly - or attractive for that matter - about needing a girl to do everything for you? "Last time I tried using a urinal unsupervised I ended up waterboarding myself with my own p**s" isn't a chat-up line....
Honestly, these are no weaponized incompetent. These are men who's parents/family/caregivers failed to teach them the basics of self care. If their partners continue to carry on with allowing that then that is weaponized incompetence. You either tell him to pick up his act and insists he learn, or she leaves. Complaining and whinging about male incompetence is a choice
There were a handful that were deliberate (eg takeing a single bite of every piece of food) but there were quite a few innocent and often harmless ones as well like the guy who wore his socks wierdly
Load More Replies...Instead of posting this insanity online, why not kick the toddler men to the curb? This stuff isn't cute, funny, or endearing.
THANK YOU! God, the amount of commenters going "we have to pick our battles" or "it's fine I just rewash the dishes/redo the laundry/etc" on here is insane. No way I'd just fall in line and clean up after this sort of person, regardless of gender. It's insanity.
Load More Replies...The worst are the ones who are SOOOO PROUD that they "gamed the system", aka leaving just a tiny bit left = "I didn't *finish* it". Why are women having relationships with mentally 8 year olds? Ladies, if he's too lazy and selfish to replace ice cream, what do you think he'll do if you need serious help?
It seems strange these are pointed at men, as I have seen more than my share of women who are equally bad at cleaning. Seems biased...
bored panda had this week an entire post where men pointed out "gross habits" of their female partners, so not so sure about the bias
Load More Replies...Who ARE these boys? The operative word being boys. These girls are a hell of a lot more tolerant than I'd be.
Most of these are weird or annoying, or even incompetent... but I see very little evidence of *weaponized* incompetence.
I'm a bit of a slob myself, bc I have ADHD and honestly don't even SEE the messes. This stuff wouldn't bother me (except eating my food.) Shaming the person who you love online because they don't value neatness as much as you... Well that's worse. Life is too short to make a big deal over toilet paper rolls.
And as per usual a non-controversial personal opinion is getting downvoted.
Load More Replies...I'm usually not the one to say 'not all men' but this is f'ing disgusting! These are gross trolls not humans. Nasty.
When they show you who they are believe them. Now dump them all and hope they never reproduce.
Most of these are atrocious but several are complaints about not doing it your way or on your schedule.
Married guy here, I'm amazed at what a woman puts up with. No matter how rude or stupid the guy is, there are multiple women willing to tolerate it. It's insane.
There is nothing amongst these that doesn't pop up in lists of 'my worst roommate' or 'annoying things my partner does' - they are (nearly) all things that messy people do, both men and women. Some men are much cleaner and tidier than their female partners and vice versa. I'm fed up with men always being portrayed as the 'slob' and women as 'long-duffering saints'. It's just not true.
Oh nice BP, international mens day and you decide this is the perfect day to put an article aimed specifically at men and weaponized incompetence, out of 365 days a year we can't even get one day without it eh SMH
Trust me, it was intentional. BP has a long history of denigrating men.
Load More Replies...One perfect article demonstrating an author with no idea what "weaponised incompetence" actually means.
Scrolling through this comment section, nearly every comment that points out BP's bias is downvoted. Shocker.
Just to be fair, try this title out exchanging women instead of men. Does it still sound okay or amusing? No. Then stop it.
Here you go, from two days ago. https://www.boredpanda.com/infuriating-wives-girlfriends/
Load More Replies...Well, THAT escalated quickly.... never looked at a pile of empty toilet paper rolls and wondered, "Huh, bet this guy is on some kind of registry. Abusive a*****e." But you do you, I guess.
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