For one; Why would you tell your mother about your sex life? That's extremely odd and creepy. If you're not satisfied you tell your partner (who is the one who needs to know and then you COMMUNICATE about both persons wants and needs, sex should be a MUTUAL thing). Second; why the sudden rush of getting pregnant, seems like the couple haven't even discussed it at all so why is it pushed so hard? Third; it's absolutely not ok to remove birth control without the other person knowing about it. Ever. Nah. Is she only a breeding animal to him?

It's telling that the husband (the only son) is the clear favourite of the siblings and the sisters haven't spoken up for the mother. The mother is a male chauvinist and a misogynist. Thank goodness the wife is going for a divorce.

If OP stays in this relationship any longer then more forms of abuse will happen

In my state its a felony sex crime to mess with someone's birth control pills. If convicted, you go on the list with the rapists.

To be honest, it seems like he is completely infatuated with his mother, I do not think he would ever take anyone else's opinion over that of his precious mommy.

“Dear satan-in-law. I feel that I need closure after kicking your little baby boy/lover boy out of my life so fast his head spun like Linda Blair being possessed by Pazuzu, so I’m ending our contact with an explanation of my behaviour. A: your son is a coddled man baby whose emotional diapers I have no inclination to be changing. B: I have no intention of being your and your sons incubation chamber. If you want his child so bad, fúck him yourself or pay a surrogate mother like everybody else. C: You’re the devil. Have the life you deserve, I would have recommended therapy, except I don’t give a shìt. Kindest regards: the abuse victim who got away.

Mr No-Nuts has major mommy issues & allowing his family to abuse his spouse is just the tip of this dysfunctional iceberg. Kudos OP!

what kind of parent these people have? my MIL and my family never ask us for that. they were pretty happy when we had kids but never push us to have one.

If his mother wants him to have a baby that badly and is so involved in his sex life, why doesn't she just have his baby? Creepy, gross, and super-abusive fam right there. Run girl run.

I saw things like messing with the birth control is borderline abuse. There is no borderline about it. Reproductive abuse is real. As is medical (sabotaging medication)

The MIL will never change. I had the MIL from Hell. He was a momma's boy and I got away from him as fast as I could.

Never marry a mommies boy, you will mever come first.

For starters, you are WAY too easy-going. You let so much stuff slide that I think you HAD to have noticed the red flags - you just chose to ignore them. MIL wore white on your wedding day? MIL sending you links to sex sites to help with pregnancy? I hate to say it, but if you did get pregnant, you wouldn't be able to raise your child. You'd be lucky if you got to see it at all! MIL would simply take over, especially if it was a boy. Now - pack up your stuff, get out of there, find a good lawyer, and let MIL find some other incubator for her next child. (oh, and if by some chance you are pregnant, whatever you do, don't tell either of them - ever!)

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"When are you going to have a baby?" 😲 "Well, gee. When are you going to have sex with your spouse?" Honestly, why do people think it's okay to ask such a personal question? Family member or not, it's none of their freakin' business!

NTA...Please run. I was married to a man that could not and would not stand up to his mother. I blame her for the major downfall of our marriage. It gets worse after any children come.

I didn't even finish the first paragraph and already knew this is open and shut. It's a huge f0cking red flag if there ever was one. Since she doesn't have kids, a divorce is in order. That "husband" has his bollocks kept in his mum's purse and she is going for the OP lady.

Am I the only one concerned that the MIL said she was looking out for "her baby" ? It seems to me beyond unacceptable to consider your son's baby yours and act as if his wife hadn't have anything to do with it.

Is she wants grand babies so bad maybe she should have sex with her son. Since they share everything may as well do it. What I'm saying is that is really creepy that she "knows" so much about her offsprings sex life. It's gross and it seems like the son really tells her everything, probably in graphic detail. That's disgusting and mental incest may as well make it physical.

Either there are SO MANY my boyfriend/husband is close to his mother/my MIL AITA or BP is good at finding them. Because JFC. And they are rarely the a*****e and are in terrible relationships.

This is what happens when somebody is ignoring glaring red flags even before the marriage.

Um ... maybe before you divorce him get a marriage counselor immediately... talk to him about what he tells his mother about your sex life cuz thats just a boundary crossed.. you do not ever talk to others about your sex life with your partner if the partner a) doesn't know you're sharing about it.. and b) your partner wants to keep your sex life private. He needs to understand that he broke your trust and personal boundary if he's been telling his MOM about it! And 2 he needs to apologize to you and make ammends... life changes. 3. Do you have access to his phone or does he get defensive if you look through his phone? There should be no phone privacy within a healthy marriage. 4. Your husband needs to put you and your needs before his mother because you're the no1 woman in his life the moment he married u. 5. Stop avoiding your husband by running away.. and deal with your issues like an adult. Running away isn't helpful unless there's physical or mental abuse. There's no perfect marr

"from what I've heard"! What have you heard, and from who?

The MIL said she was looking out for the baby. WHAT BABY!