Timely reminder that a baby's sex is determined by the sperm; her son

My father in-law and his girlfriend are exactly like this to me. They treated me so horribly when I was pregnant and I had a traumatic birth and was in ICU. They both came to the hospital to see my son but didn't even care to see me, they both want me dead I know this. I refuse to be in the same room as them. My fiancé can see his father if he wants to, but I will not go near them , and neither will my son. They can't hide their hatred for me, not even for the sake of my son. So no, he'll not be seeing them too

A miscarriage would in fact solve this situation. Unfortunately it's too late for the mil's mother to have one.

If your son goes to school or a daycare make sure to let them know she is NOT allowed to pick him up. You could have major problems if she gets her hands on him.

Please don't trust that women. I wouldn't want MIL alone with or around any of children regardless of their gender. Again, please don't trust that woman.

Wonder what country/ethnicity these people are? Sometimes can be telling with male oriented child comments. Or maybe just a complete batshit crazy b***h who needs cutting off like a tumour.

My hand would have slapped her so hard and so fast I would have had no time to think about it. This MIL does'nt need therapy just a tombstone.

My father knew how to be down right hurtful as he was a narcissist but in this instance I believe he just didn't think how it might be heard. My sister was pregnant and had had a miscarriage a 6 months prior to falling pregnant. We were out eating lunch and he said to her it might be better if she had a miscarriage what he actually meant was if there was something wrong with how the baby was developing as it would be unfair to the baby if it was born with a serious issue that would cause it pain. Needless to say that sister was extremely upset. In this instance of the OP I do believe the MIL is a serious a*****e. You do not say such things to an expectant parent. It is never justified even suggesting that the baby will never be born

"Insensitive" - no, she used that deliberately out of spite. This is a toxic relationship that needs severing. And almost guaranteed that granny will suddenly want to meet grandchild right on arrival.

Who was the pinhead moron who voted MIL's remark was 'insensitive but forgivable'? We like to shake his NECK!

When I started reading the "keep your receipts, you can still..." I genuinely thought it would end with "be proven wrong and have a boy". That escalated quickly.

If someone made a threat like that to me, I’d call the police, file for a restraining order, and then change my name and move somewhere she’d never find me. I really and truly hope karma shows up and bites her on the a*s so hard that it becomes infected and falls off. Eff her and her 🐂💩.

Are there others on the husband's side of the family & what have their reactions been? & Kudos to OP's husband - it can be difficult to go against or reject family even when knowing they are wrong/harmful/toxic.

What the f**k

IF HER FAMILY DOESN'T HVE GIRLS MY GOD HER TRANS SURGERY WAS A MIRACLE ND INCCLUDED A WOMB TRANSPLANT. oh your husbands the adoptEd son of a trans creature

(New to this site & apologize if this post appears twice - if so, will delete one - & really would like to know how to make paragraphs. When I typed the post I made paras & when it posted it all ran together - help, pls!) OF COURSE I agree with you & with everybody else on the planet that what she said was vile & she should not be allowed to be part of your family. But, thank goodness she has turned her back on your son. Even if things should "thaw" a bit in the future, I'd never let her be alone with him, much less babysit him . She sounds vindictive enough to make up & tell him terrible lies abt you, your husband, even about your baby. On the outside, infinitesimal, chance that she should apologize, there are apologies & there are apologies. You sometimes hear politicians & other public figures "apologize," after having said something truly egregious, "I'm sorry if anybody was offended by what I said." Or, "I'm sorry if what I said offended anybody." I.e., I said it/believe it/meant it/, but if you took offense that's on you. Then there's, "I'm sorry (THAT, not IF) what I said hurt your feelings," similar, but acknowledging that your feelings are legitimate (even if the apologizing person doesn't agree with them) & that the statement caused pain. (In my MIL's opinion it would be acceptable to follow with, "but it's the truth." The rest of the family has repeatedly called her on it, telling her that not everything she thinks has to be said aloud but .....) But in a real apology, the offender accepts ALL responsibility: for what she did/said; for the hurt she caused; for repercussions (rift in the family); admits that what she did/said was wrong; that it was a terrible thing to do/say; that what she said is not how she truly feels (i.e., doesn't secretly wish for a miscarriage). & Asks for forgiveness, not presuming that what she has said makes everything all right again - some things are unforgivable. And no excuses, rationalizations, or hedging: "But I was so upset ..... ; disappointed..... ; having a bad day."

That wasn't a gender reveal, all this person revealed was the kid's genitalia. Really don't understand the obsession with sharing this publicly.