The irony is shingles is because of chicken pox.... love to hear the follow up to this

Check your local laws. The MIL could be charged with a felony.

If she would sneak behind your back to infect your child, I worry about what she was putting in those meals. Some of those "crunchy moms" brag on Facebook about sneaking urine into their family's food for... immunity or something?

???!! Report both of the to the freaking POLICE?! MIL for child endangerment (and probably assault) and dear husband for child neglect and also child endangerment for locking her in the car. Don't treat this like a small thing! Sue them. Sue them for everything they own and more.

Chickenpox is horrible. My husband caught it from me when he was 26 and had a rough time. I had chickenpox as a kid and then got shingles when I was 26. My shingles gave him chickenpox. The weird thing is that his mom had tried to get my husband infected with chickenpox (back in the 1970s it was a thing people did to 'get it out of the way'), but it never worked. That MIL is insane. Chickenpox is difficult for a 10-12 year old to handle and absolutely awful for a toddler to endure. I actually caught chickenpox because my dad's mom brought over her youngest child, who was just a year or two older than me, to visit when she had chickenpox, without telling my parents first and just days before we were to leave for a vacation. I hope the OP files for divorce and full custody.

Exposing your kids as toddlers to chickenpox was the right thing to do 40 years ago when there was no vaccine available. Chickenpox parties were common and even doctor recommended. If you get chickenpox as an adult, it can be very serious. I know a guy who was off work for six weeks with them. But it’s 2024 and there's a vaccine now that also protects against shingles! Op has a husband who seemed fine when he was away from his mother but the toxicity was revealed in a longer visit. Divorce is the only answer.

"shingles is completely natural, no one dies from it" /s actually if you get shingles you may wish you had, that stuff's way more painful and lasts much longer than the chickenpox. GET YOUR SHINGLES VAX FOLKS

The cherry on top of this schist sundae for me is what a lazy useless piece of schist hubby is. He sat chatting to his parents while the wife packed everything into the car? Then he saunters out and pulls the I'm the man routine and orders his wife to apologise to his mom while his baby is locked in the car being held to ransom by him....what a charmer, a soon to be divorced charmer.

Also the husband said "no one dies of the chicken pox", while rare, it does happen. According to the CDC in 2023 97% of children were immunized, but despite that still 30 children died and 1,400 hospitalizations (mostly children too young to get vaccinated, like this baby) from it. Back in the 90s, when the Vaccine was first being rolled out there were between 100-150 child deaths in the US from it every year, with between 10,000-13,000 hospitalizations. This is very serious and abuse https://www.cdc.gov/chickenpox/vaccination-impact/index.html

Trish should be charged with child abuse

Police report - this is child abuse and endangerment. Shingles is from the chicken pox virus - ask me how I know... Also, divorce is in your future.

Leave him too his mother,RUN RUN RUN TO A LAWYER NOW

DIVORCE - and let dad know that due to grandma, your daughter is now at risk of getting shingles, which he has seen up close with his mom. Keep all of the texts so that you can request full custody, with evidence that he supported your MIL of intentionally infecting your daughter.

Glad karma smacked Trish with shingles ironically caused buy the chicken pox virus

She needs to fight for full custody and husband needs supervised visits with his daughter. The man can NOT be alone with his child

Both of my daughters had chickenpox before they were 2 years old from completely natural (day care) causes. My oldest's 1st birthday party had to be canceled (woke up with them on her birthday). Luckily I'm naturally immune to most of the things we vaccinate for. A letter from the pediatrician wasn't enough, I still had to have the shots for school.

i has chicken pox around 6 or 7. about 90% were in my mouth and throat. so awful. that was early 70s. my kids got it when my oldest was maybe 3ish from his daycare. the owners daughter caught the pox from family at just 6 months old. exactly 2 weeks after #1 son got sick #2 son got sick. he was 13/14 months old. all in his diaper area. poor little guy but he was pretty good about it. hardly scratched himself.

He locked his sick baby in a car, thought he'd locked his wife's keys in the car with said baby and then just went inside as casual as could be?? How is this man not in a grave or a jail cell? Or at the very least not served with divorce papers? Not a mom and don't want to be one but I'd have unleashed hèll on this jerk for putting a young baby at risk not once but twice. You can't tell me that mama's boy had no idea what his mom was planning.

There is no discussion. Divorce his a*s and get full custody.

A man only has one mother. He can get another wife anytime.

What I hope is that she made a police report, and saw a doctor to confirm what the MIL did. I hope to hell she saved every text, every message and can confirm everything. And I'd get a lawyer immediately, and file for sole custody, and talk to CPS.

I always get a good chuckle at crunchy folks who don't understand that *adult exposure to chicken pox is a top factor in developing shingles*.

File for divorce and full custody. Let the courts slap him with the papers and look up the laws in your state. You may be able to have both of them arrested for what they did. She had no right to infect your child with chickenpox and he had no right to lock your child in the car. I wouldn't allow him any visitation rights because the first thing he'll likely do is take her to see that dingbat. Keep your kid as far away from him and his psycho mom as possible.

I was just thinking, how horrible to make a child get chicken pox in this day and age, when she could get shingles later in life. I got chicken pox at twenty, and every time I get the smallest nerve pain, I wonder about the damn chicken pox virus in my body. To hear MIL now has shingles brings me evil joy... I could understand if the child's father wanted OP to forgive his mom and move on, but to apologize? And to lock the baby in the car? RUN, OP! I am glad you are back with the people who love you and actually care about you and your baby!

Funny he stayed to take care of his mother, but not take care of his DAUGHTER. father of the year. NOT. Divorce the whole family.

That woman is deranged and her son is a stooge. Vaccines are a God damn miracle that allows us to develop immunity without going through the hell of preventable diseases. Get a lawyer, divorce, and restraining order against Typhoid Granny & her idiot son.

I'd be suing MIL and filing for divorce. Idiot husband can have a nice happy life catering to his idiot mother. And where's FIL in all this? Why isn't HE taking care of his wife, or is he just glad his son is still there so he doesn't have to deal with crazy wife?

She needs to press charges on mil file divorce papers on dad and demand full custody. Insane. And the baby won't even get immunity from this b******t, too young, might keep the scars though, the physical and emotional ones. Jfc 🙄

Keep the child away from father and his entire psycho family. File a police report. Your daughter was purposefully infected with a dangerous disease. In some states, that's a felony. You clearly have lots of evidence, texts, etc. Divorce immediately and use all this as justification to fight for full custody, because clearly the child isn't safe with them.

*Chicken pox can kill.* That, along with preventing shingles in the future, is why a vaccine was developed. Children can get it down their throat and into their lungs. Adults can end up hospitalized. If that was my kid, those people would NEVER see her again.