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Now, if you go to Google and type microfeminisms, you might not find a precise definition. And based on the comment section of the viral video, not many people have heard about the term either. So, what is it?

Feminism itself is about believing in and working towards equality between men and women. It's not about one gender being better than the other - it's about everyone having the same rights and opportunities. It’s about making sure that females get treated the same in society, in politics, and at work.

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By As a woman who works in nuclear weapons policy, geopolitics, international security, my favorite thing to do when men want to debate nuclear deterrence theory with me, is to start by complimenting them on their passion for this issue. And it really throws them off because just the idea of their views being connected to emotion really puzzles them.

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Final score:

122points

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Rachknits 6 months ago

I love this one, its a positive way to challenge sexism

62points

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By When a man takes credit for a woman's idea or a woman's work, I will always call this out, whether that's for me or another woman.

It's not at all unusual for me to turn around and say something along the lines of, "Oh, John, that's a fantastic point and I think it's really relevant in this conversation. I also really enjoyed when Mary brought it up earlier."

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Final score:

117points

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LaserBrain 6 months ago

It's excellent to call out people who take credit for other people's work! Because people who do that suck.

62points

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For instance, many people advocate for a woman’s right to make decisions about her own body, including access to contraception and safe, legal abortion. For many years, women have fought for greater representation in leadership roles, including politics. An increase in the number of women in diverse roles at all levels amplifies their voice in the decision-making processes. Other movements like equal pay, maternity rights, and health access work towards creating a more inclusive society.

While significant efforts are being made to address these larger issues, we can't overlook the smaller, yet equally impactful, instances of discrimination and misogyny against women. From casual remarks to inequalities in the workplace and public spaces, women deal with microaggressions in their day-to-day lives. And pushing back against these small injustices can be seen as microfeminisms.

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By I find in general at work that I'm not interrupted by women in meetings, but I am often interrupted by men. So if I'm interrupted by men, I will then, in turn, interrupt them back, but I will never interrupt another woman when she's speaking.

This is one that I am pretty feral for, but I will not stop talking if I'm interrupted by a man. I will keep talking until he becomes so uncomfortable that he stops talking, and then when he finally does stop trying to interrupt me, I will finish what I'm saying. But I'll usually say something that's a little bit uncomfortable for him, like, "Oh. Great. Now that you've finished interrupting me, I can finish my point before you continue." I also do this if anyone interrupts another woman that is speaking. I will ask the man to stop interrupting to let her finish her thought before he continues.

Final score:

112points

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RP 6 months ago

A simple "I'm not done" or "hold that thought" sends a clearer politer message and doesn't waste everyone's time.

49points

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33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By So I teach a class at a university and the other day I'm walking on campus, going back to my car after class. So I'm on the sidewalk, on the correct side of the sidewalk, only taking up my one little lane, and I'm walking to the car. And sure enough, there's a group of eight young men walking towards me, taking up the entire sidewalk.

None of them are on their phones. They're talking to each other, but they're all looking forward and they just keep walking forward. Nobody moves over there, taking up the entire sidewalk. And I kept walking in my lane and I literally walked into one of them.

Final score:

108points

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Lyone Fein 6 months ago

When I am in this type of situation, I usually stop walking. I stand stock still facing straight ahead, looking right at whoever is going to walk into me. I have found that the other person usually moves aside.

88points

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33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By My favorite form of microfeminism is to bulldoze through life acting like I've never even heard of sexism or like I've never received the messaging that I need to play it small in order to avoid upsetting others. You will be shooketh when you realize how well this works because a lot of modern sexism is upheld by women's willingness to censor and shrink themselves in order to avoid being confronted, challenged, or corrected in any way.

Many of us are taught from a young age that the worst thing that you can do is upset or disappoint somebody outside of you. But when you walk into a room with confidence and authority and like God herself sent you and you don't care what anybody thinks about you, you'd be surprised how many people will just fall in line.

Because a lot of people depend on women to take the first step of censoring and shrinking themselves so they don't have to be the jerk and do it for them. In fact, what I've learned in my personal experience is that most people are not willing to confront, correct, or challenge me because I moved through the world in this way.

Because I moved through the world acting like I've never received this messaging. In fact, most people learn pretty quickly that the best way to deal with me is to get out of my way. So go forth. Be oblivious, my loves. You will not be sorry.

Final score:

108points

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Michelle-Randy Carlson 6 months ago

I joined the Navy right out of high school and this was what I had to learn. It's served me well through the years.

34points

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In many households, it's common for people to assume that the women will keep the house clean and tidy. Even if both partners work full-time jobs, it's often the woman who takes on the majority of the housework, including cleaning, laundry, and cooking. As per the Gender Equality Index 2021 Report by the European Institute for Gender Equality (EIGE), employed women spend an average of 2.3 hours per day on housework, while working men dedicate about 1.6 hours to household chores. Asking men questions like "Did you clean all this by yourself?" reinforces the stereotype that cleaning is primarily a woman's responsibility.

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By I like to always notice when people use passive language to describe actions that men have taken against women. So often you'll notice this if someone gets followed home, then they'll just say it like that. My friend got followed home or my friend got harassed at a bar, when, in fact, the unsaid is that a MAN harassed your friend at a bar. A MAN followed your friend home.

And by taking the man out of the sentence, you are basically just leaving the unsaid that it is a man to be normalized. Because if a woman followed your friend home, that would be the first thing that you said. Like, "Oh my God, a woman followed my friend home. That's so weird."

Like, "Oh, this woman was harassing my friend." And the fact that it's so normalized that we can use the passive tone and know what's happening shouldn't be normal.

Final score:

99points

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Lyone Fein 6 months ago

Thank you for pointing this out.

53points

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33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By Whenever a man calls me like, sweetie or darling or gorgeous, I will call them THAT back.

Final score:

93points

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DB 6 months ago

Interesting. I've found that women usually address me that way first.

18points

Carol LeMay 6 months ago

I do it all the time, sweetie.

4points

Ronstantin 6 months ago (edited)

I honestly wonder if the sex/gender really matters here. Bc if a person adresses me inappropriately I will ask to refrain from that. (I don't mean to be rude, so if I'm missin something specific here, I'm happy to hear about it :) )

7points

Adira Bennett 6 months ago

I think the piece you might be missing is that many women have experienced being called "sweetie", etc, in a demeaning and/or inappropriate fashion everywhere from a stranger on the street to a superior at work. Those terms are used sometimes by men with relative power to make women feel almost like children. When you fire it back on them and they get unsettled, it's because they knew on some level that their use of the word was belitting, and they're startled to be made uncomfortable with a reminder of how those words can feel from the other side of the table.

5points

Manana Man 6 months ago

This has come up before here and I've pointed out that these terms can be regional customs. In parts of the south (US) darlin' is not unusual at all.

5points

BWC 6 months ago

That would make me smile. I was at a restaurant and, throughout the meal, the wait person, who was a woman, referred to me as "sweetie", "honey, and " darlin'". Same thing at a bar that I used to frequent. Sometimes it's just a local thing and not meant as condescending, though, I do recognize that there are times that it is intended that way. "Bless your heart" 😉🖖

4points

Cammy Mack 6 months ago

You will find that the men won't mind. Like, even a little. This is not the "own" you think this is.

4points

Noproblem 6 months ago

I used to host regular conference calls for a team with two Steves. One day just jokingly, I told them that in order to cut confusion, I would call one “Peanut” and the other “Kitten.” They loved it. They started introducing themselves on calls with their new pet names, and signing emails with their new pet names. The other guys on the team wanted pet names, too. That year I got a Christmas card from Peanut, Kitten, Tater, Champ, and Sweet Pea.

2points

Zophra 6 months ago

I haven't had this work for me . I've had men think I'm flirting. Ugh.

2points

HTakeover 6 months ago

Call them baffling pet names that will make their brain reset in place. Like "muffin juice", "burrito supremo", "Tom Jones", "squeaker". Or go with the condescending standbys like "champ", or "slugger".

2points

ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

Sweetie doesn't seem to do much, but "princess"...oh man.

7points

JK 5 months ago

I address *everyone* like this, irrespective of gender. I honestly dont get the big deal??

1point

DippityDooDerp 6 months ago

I'm from the south. I don't care if you're 8 or 80, man or woman or anything in between I'm gonna call you sweetie, dear, darling, sweetheart, etc.

1point

Janet Martinez 2 months ago

I'm from north US but I do the same 'xact thing, I think it adds extra personality and character and just makes you seem more interesting.

0points

Jayjay 6 months ago

I call them "poppy" :)

1point

Auntriarch 6 months ago

Sweet pea. Not that it happens much these days. Partly because I'm an oldie, but partly because chaps seem to be be rather better informed

0points

Stephanie Barr 5 months ago

I like to use "punkin"

0points

Strings 6 months ago

I'll be honest, I tend to call most women "dear" out of habit. Of course, I also use that on my male managers ("yes dear"), so...

0points

G A 6 months ago

I do it, but only things like bud or hun, fella, lovely, mate. Or you're a star. Hopefully.nothing offensive. I get called sweetie by several ladies I work with. No harm in it. We've all known each other for years through work. Might seem different to someone new I suppose. On the other hand, they might feel bad to be excluded.

0points

Awesome At Being Autistic 6 months ago

I live in a part of the UK where men and women will call you "love." When I moved here it really blew my mind and when some guy called me "love" I immediately responded "Okay, sweet cheeks!" Like I don't care if you consider it a cultural thing, if you wouldn't call a man "love" but you're calling me "love," it's sexist. The women get a pass as they will call both women and men "love."

0points

Justme 6 months ago

It has always rubbed me the wrong way to hear someone address me (or anyone) in such an informal way. Unless we are family or very close friends this is so inappropriate.

-2points

Wang Zhuang 6 months ago

Seems fair

-2points

When I'm in a position to be introducing people who are part of a couple, I always introduce the woman first, talk about her job, and then introduce the man as her husband or boyfriend or whatever.

"Oh, have you met Dr. Jane? And this is her husband, John." That one always earns a smile from the women and kind of a baffled look from the men.

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Final score:

93points

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May 6 months ago

I just start with the one I know best.

64points

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At work, when female colleagues present an idea during a meeting, they might be interrupted and offered a detailed explanation of the same concept, as if they don't know what they are talking about. "Mansplaining is rarely intentionally vicious; it's far more likely to arise from a place of patronizing. Because the mansplainer assumes they know more, it increases the chances of viewing a co-worker as less knowledgeable and, thus, less competent," said Jessica McCall, Ph.D., an English professor at Delaware Valley University, in Pennsylvania.

#10

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By Not asking women about their relationship status.

I assume women are single by choice in the same way that we assume men are single by choice. I had a grandmother who would grill everyone about their relationship status and it made me cringe, so I vowed that would never ever be me.

Final score:

78points

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Marcos Valencia 6 months ago

A word for this is "discretion".

29points

#11

Whenever somebody comes to ask me if they can borrow some big strong boys to do something helpful around the school, I have always made it a point to send them some strong girls. Because usually the job is really fun, everybody wants to do it, and we all know that girls are just as capable of doing any job that a boy can do.

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Final score:

64points

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kath morgan 6 months ago

I still have a hangup about this, how “big strong boys” got to get out of class. I can lift things, it won’t cause hysteria

39points

#12

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By If everyone is on the same level in a meeting, I will ask any follow-up meetings that need to be booked to be booked by a member of the team that is male.

Just because women typically get asked to do it all the time and it's just assumed, so I will go out of my way to ask one of the men on the team to book any follow-up meetings and to make sure that that all happens.

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Final score:

62points

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Debbie 6 months ago

We just ask the one who brough a laptop or is logged into the pc in the meeting. Purposely asking men isn't the way to select who books it. Just take turns, or ask who wants to book it.

20points

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#13

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By I don't give body-specific compliments positively or negatively.

I grew up in a family with a lot of men and this is something that I've actually learned that men do a lot. A lot of times when they see somebody has made improvements to their health, their compliments are like, "You look great, bro, like you look really strong," and so I thought of giving compliments to women in a similar way and saying, "You're really glowing, you look really radiant." Even if they've happened to lose a lot of weight. But I'm not affirming that the weight loss is the thing that made them beautiful, but like that they're beautiful and maybe they happened to lose weight. I don't know. Maybe they changed their skincare. It could be anything.

Final score:

59points

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random username 6 months ago

"Oh, you lost so much weigh, you look great" - "Have you just told me that I was fat and ugly?" Also, so many negative things can result in weight loss (depression, major diseases) it's really not a good idea to bring it up in a casual talk as something unequivocally good.

29points

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#14

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By If somebody says I have to talk to the board, or I have to talk to the chairperson of the board, or I have to talk to the CEO or CFO or whoever, I will say "Let me know what she says." Always "she." Like, my default is she or her instead of he or him. Obviously, unless I know the person and I know that it's a man. I don't go out of my way to be wrong.

Final score:

58points

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LB 6 months ago

Could just use 'they'

31points

#15

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By On every rental application and lease we've ever had, I've put myself as the primary contact, and every time a real estate or a tradesperson gets in contact and defers to my partner, I make him then re-loop me in.

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Final score:

55points

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HTakeover 6 months ago

Hopefully the S/O is involved. I would totally back my S/O up on something like that; "Did you talk to the primary contact first?"

17points

A study from the Harvard Business Review showed that female Supreme Court justices are more frequently interrupted by their male counterparts and advocates during oral arguments compared to their male peers. Such incidents undermine a woman’s expertise and contribution to the discussions at work.

In this situation, a microfeminist action would be for others to let the female justice speak without interruption. This not only lets them have a chance to fully participate but also gives them the same respect and attention as their male counterparts.

#16

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By When I'm at work and I am speaking to an owner-level CEO, high-level individual, oftentimes a man, and they will give me no handshake at all.

Literally last week, it was a high level, he shook my husband's hand, but not mine. I called him back to shake my hand and then he did and it was a bad handshake and then I made him redo it.

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Final score:

49points

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Debbie 6 months ago

I'm not sure how this helps, but I know if this would happen it would infuriate me. My ex and me once went looking for new windowsills (is that the word?) and the salesman was talking to my ex about all the technicalities. Then he turned to me and said: And it's very easy to clean with just green soap! (That is the moment he lost the sale).

48points

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#17

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By I'm a waitress, and my form of microfeminism is every time someone pays a check, I give it to the woman. And then the guy just looks at me all weird.

Final score:

45points

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May 6 months ago

Just put it in the middle of the table or hand it over to the closest person. I don't see the feminism there. We adults can figure out who gets to pay the bill.

41points

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#18

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By My favorite form of microfeminism is that when I send an email, let's say to like a CEO, and you have to copy their assistant for scheduling purposes, if the assistant is a female, I will always enter their email address before the CEO's. So if like the CEO was Bob and the assistant is a female named Jane, I'm always going to put Jane and then the CEO. Like nobody probably notices, but it makes me feel like I see you. Another thing that I do, kind of along the same lines, is if I'm emailing a team, I will always address the woman first in the actual email. So I'll be like, "Hey Kathy and Joe."

Final score:

32points

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CanadianDimes 6 months ago

I always do it by alphabetical order (first name). Removes any hierarchy

30points

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Casually making unsolicited comments about a woman’s body is also not acceptable on any occasion. Imagine you are attending a family wedding and your aunt comments on your weight, saying things like, "You've put on some kgs, haven't you?" in front of other relatives. Not only does this make you feel embarrassed but also self-conscious. We should refrain from commenting on women's bodies, whether it's to give positive or negative compliments.

#19

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By Playdates. I'm making a point to schedule as much playdate time as possible. A lot of times I'm dealing with other moms. Moms of other children.

But I force the dads to be involved. I'll text them first. I'll email them first. If I run into them, I say, "Hey, here's my number. Let's set something up for our kids."

Final score:

31points

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K. LNU 6 months ago

I hate the wording here and will probably get down voted but "force the dads" by texting them? How about asking both parents or the parent that is there with said child/children "hey, can I contact you both and set up something for our kids?" Otherwise, it could turn into a Reddit story.

20points

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#20

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By If we're in a group and a man and a woman talk at the same time, I am 100 percent going to listen to the woman.

Final score:

30points

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May 6 months ago

Dunno about you, but I am absolutely incapable of doing that. It's sometimes very very awkward in parties, at the restaurant etc, if the people next to me are just a little bit loud, I will be absolutely incapable of focusing on what my interlocutor is telling me, and stare in the void. Brain automatically tries to pick up on both conversation and is confused and ends up understanding none of them. I hate when it happens.

20points

#21

I always use female-identifying language.
So if you're telling me you went to the doctor: "What did she say?"
"Oh, you've been consulting with your lawyer. How did she advise you?"

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Final score:

26points

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EP 6 months ago

I say They when I don’t know as not to assume, period.

48points

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Other instances include assuming that all women have motherly instincts, thinking girls love the color pink or accusing a woman of being a bad driver. Change begins at the grassroots level. And changing how we perceive and respond to these small, unintentional acts of misogyny can make a big difference. What are your thoughts on “microfeminisms”? Do you currently practice it, or do you plan to start now?

#22

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By When I've just had a baby and when people come to my house, like a man and a woman or like relatives or whatever, I will always thrust my baby in the direction of the man first. So I'll be like, "Can you hold my baby while I have a shower or something?"

Because women are always holding babies. We always expect it. So men can get used to it.

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Final score:

22points

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Matt Du 6 months ago

We are child free by choice if someone thrust a child at us, when it wasn't an emergency neither of us would like it.

25points

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#23

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By I literally got comments on when I was printing stuff for my wedding. I always list the woman's name first. In my head I just think of it like we're entering a room and guess what? Ladies first.

Final score:

18points

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DavZell 6 months ago

This post is ironic. You want the invite to be non-male-first, but you are happy to leverage ladies first?

7points

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#24

If a woman says something in an email, like they do some research and they have an opinion on something, and I think it's right, but I think more needs to get added, I will say, "I think Jessica's 100 percent right. This is correct." I'll affirm and then continue. But like, if a man says it, I'll just say, "I want to add," and I'll just go into whatever I'm going to add. And I think that part is just important because it's important to like, cement, especially for women, to like, boost confidence and just be like, "Hey, they're f**king right. They're f**king smart and they're f**king right."

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Final score:

15points

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May 6 months ago

Sorry, but that's bad management. You need to be fair with all colleagues. Clearly not all men are confident. Just do what you say with over-confident employees, and support the less confident or more junior staff.

39points

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#25

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By If I compliment a man on his shirt, I love to say, "Ooh, I love that top."

They always look so confused, like, "What, thank you for complimenting me, but also, huh? This is a shirt."

Final score:

14points

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Ace 6 months ago

Right, cos a man is going to be really confused and upset by you referring to his shirt as a top. Now if you called it a blouse it would have some effect, sure, but would 90% of the time be taken as being petty or snide, even as an insult and not a genuine compliment.

4points

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#26

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By Sometimes in the lift, if a man is waiting for me to go, I also stand and wait for him to go.

mamamiaaus , Liliana Drew / Pexels Report

Final score:

12points

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Marcos Valencia 6 months ago

Courtesy is for everybody, of course.

25points

#27

When I send an email, my natural impulse is to say, "Hey, just checking in."
"Hey, just checking on that brief."

And I always delete the "just" and say, "Hey, checking in. Give me the brief."

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Final score:

6points

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May 6 months ago

It sounds like you're in a hurry or annoyed. My two very nice and shy female team members would believe I am upset at them.

13points

#28

You know how the art that men like is seen as universal and the art that women like is seen as girly? Well, my form of microfeminism is addressing girly music or TV or movies as the norm, while whatever men like is niche and unknown.

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Final score:

6points

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May 6 months ago

What's 'art that men like' and 'art that women like' ? Genuinely asking. I think Britney Spears, Katy Perry and Taylor Swift are quite universal at this stage.

12points

#29

If I'm on an email with a bunch of people who do not outrank each other, obviously, this is like, if there's not a secretary, not an assistant, anything like that, and someone has to send like a calendar invite or a Zoom invite or something like that, I will, um, ask the men in the group to send it, or like a specific man in the group, like, "Hey John, do you mind sending that?"

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Final score:

2points

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Papa 6 months ago

I, like, found that really difficult to, like, read.

41points

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#30

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By If a male and female student in my class either raise their hands at the same time or begin speaking at the same time in the course of a discussion, and this happens a lot, um, I will kind of pause them and say, "Oh, I can only hear one of you at a time."

And I'll ask the female student to go first.

ashley.unfiltered , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

Final score:

1point

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May 6 months ago

You should let the shyest (or less participative) one first. I had very shy, yet very smart male students who often didn't dare participate, so I let them first as a way to encourage them. Otherwise they'll politely put their hand down and won't raise it again.

41points

#31

33 "Microfeminism" Practices People Swear By Anytime you're being told a story or someone recounts an article or something that happened and doesn't identify the gender of the main character of that story, like:
"Oh hey, did you see that drunk driver crash into the hospital?"
"Oh my god, what was his name?"

"Did you hear about that firefighter that saved three kids?"
"Oh my god, she sounds incredible, that's great, good for her."

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Final score:

-3points

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Polterbean 6 months ago

Does no one here like the word "they"

38points

#32

This isn't one that I get to engage in anymore, because I left working for the federal government to teach a couple of years ago. But when I did work for Uncle Sam, part of my job had me dealing with minors, and I had to verify parental relationships, confirm parental identity, and get parental consent.

And in cases where the parents were both a man and a woman, I always spoke directly to mom. I also documented her paperwork first on forms and got her signature first.

ashley.unfiltered Report

Final score:

-18points

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Debbie 6 months ago

Not sure about this. This is "default parent is mom, eventhough DAD is listed as the one to be called when things happen, school still calls mom."

37points

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#33

I'm a server in a restaurant, and if a man and a woman come in together, and they're like, "We're just gonna split this one thing," when I bring the food out, I put the full plate of food in front of the woman, and I put an empty plate in front of the man. And then I say, "This is for if she decides to share with you. Enjoy your lunch, sweetie."

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Final score:

-23points

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roddy 6 months ago

The problem with this is you're asking the woman to be mom and portion out the food. And she'll skimp on her own portion. Just put it in the middle.

35points

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Polterbean 6 months ago

Feminism is NOT about putting men down, what a lot of these acts are apparently.

40points

May 6 months ago

Some of them are just rude, or evidence a lack of teaching or management skills. Which would cement the idea that women are poor managers in the workplace, and that's really not what we want.

24points

Ms.GB 6 months ago

Yeah I wouldn't classify some of these as feminism but more as favoritism or misandry.

8points

DoubleDoubleTiredAndTuckered 5 months ago

Correct, perhaps we should petition to rename this article 'micromisandry' instead of 'microfeminism'.

0points

Islandchild 6 months ago

Today I learned that microfeminism exists and it's apparently nothing more than small and petty acts that do nothing whatsoever.

27points

Ms.GB 6 months ago

Some of these are very petty but I found that some of them make sense. This list was all over the place though, some people are confusing feminism with misandry.

16points

Debbie 6 months ago

Many examples were about diminishing the man, not empowering the women. There were some that were, though. And some that raised more awareness to an issue - women being more interrupted or ideas being stolen, is more common and people who do that aren't aware of it. But it should not be solved gender-specific. Just if someone interrupts someone else, call them out on it. Same as idea stealing.

18points

Falcon on Dizzy 6 months ago

TIL that to some people, feminism means not trying to fix the problem, but just reversing it

6points

Kare Deter 6 months ago

I have a problem with most of these and with racial/religious issues as well - I want equality. Equality means: same rules apply to ALL. It isn't about turning tables and stepping on whoever is on the other side of the equation. I am not here to belittle or emasculate anyone. I refuse to promote bigotry or sexism no matter what coat it wears - in this case, feminism. Many of the posters above are petty.

5points

Wilfredo 6 months ago

Nothing better than sexism to fight sexism...... Amazing job panda once again

5points

KillerKiwi 6 months ago (edited)

The last few were just misandrist.

2points

Steve Hall 6 months ago

Bad manners and poor etiquette are not going to advance feminism.

2points

Noproblem 6 months ago

I used to work in a hardware store, and SO MANY (usually older) men would not let me help them. They would straight-up ask, “Isn’t there a man here who could help me?” So I would smile at them, “Sure, no problem,” then go & get for them the most useless guy working that day.

1point

My O My 6 months ago

My favourite thing to do is call men out in a cheeky/joking kind of way when they say/do sth diminishing/ misogynistic

1point

NannernomminNanaPanda Premium 5 months ago

Some of these are just snarky.

0points

a a 5 months ago (edited)

if you have to resort to underhanded, machiavellian, and passive-aggressive tactics to get ahead, or if you get to where you're at simply by virtue of visibility and volume, then you are a truly pathetic and useless individual. it's time men start speaking their mind about some of this cult-of-feminism bs.

0points

a a 5 months ago

if you have to resort to these underhanded and passive-aggressive tactics to get ahead, you are a truly pathetic individual. furthermore, if you believe the men you eventually want to replace aren't intelligent enough to pick up on your bs, you are a truly stupid individual as well.

0points

Definitely a Human 5 months ago

While one of two of these re interesting, I feel a lot just miss the mark and overcompensate. Also, the um... like, language is like really umm hard to like read.

0points

JK 5 months ago

Im sorry, but most of this is not feminism. Most of it is either misandry or plain stupid. This helps no one, increases and incites hate towards women from men, and hate for men from women. Can't we all just be and accept our differences, and celebrate them rather than picking at them???

0points

Toothless Feline 6 months ago

An awful lot of commenters here don’t seem to understand the point of acts of microfeminism. It’s not about being “fair” or “inclusive”; it’s about subverting expectations by treating men the way they treat women. By turning the tables, one can make the inequities more obvious. Certainly, when the point doesn’t need to be made, gender-neutral behavior is best. But the problem doesn’t go away as long as men and women don’t realize how they’ve been indoctrinated to treat each other in specific, different ways.

0points

Squiffle Noses 6 months ago

I'm seeing a lot of Utopianism here - people thinking that, in a mature democracy, compromise will win against extremism, and that as soon as we all learn to compromise the sooner we will achieve a permanent state of equality. DEMOCRACY is a permanent state of bloody/peaceful war between factions - and the moment you get complacent about having 'won' is the moment you will find your opponents boot on your neck... and see the democracy watered down so you cannot get back to where you were. Good Luck ladies.

0points

Aiden Brough 6 months ago

I'm all for femanism. In fact, I actually think it's been knocked back over the past few years and ironically by woman who have accepted men into their 'gender' (not sex, but gender). To read stories about how men have infiltrated numerous female domains in sports, social settings etc and then to read how it's not only allowed but by some quarters DEMANDED without question (erst you be a 'terf' or whatever ridiculous phrase they use) I feel that being a woman in 2024 must be a nightmare. It seems that equality is only for the selected vocal minority and to hell with those who dare question them.

-1point

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Polterbean 6 months ago

Feminism is NOT about putting men down, what a lot of these acts are apparently.

40points

May 6 months ago

Some of them are just rude, or evidence a lack of teaching or management skills. Which would cement the idea that women are poor managers in the workplace, and that's really not what we want.

24points

Ms.GB 6 months ago

Yeah I wouldn't classify some of these as feminism but more as favoritism or misandry.

8points

DoubleDoubleTiredAndTuckered 5 months ago

Correct, perhaps we should petition to rename this article 'micromisandry' instead of 'microfeminism'.

0points

Islandchild 6 months ago

Today I learned that microfeminism exists and it's apparently nothing more than small and petty acts that do nothing whatsoever.

27points

Ms.GB 6 months ago

Some of these are very petty but I found that some of them make sense. This list was all over the place though, some people are confusing feminism with misandry.

16points