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30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All

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As children, we admire our parents and view them through rose-colored glasses. They’re the coolest, smartest and most amazing people on the planet! But as we get older, sometimes reality sets in, and we realize that Mom and Dad didn’t actually know everything. In fact, they may have even done some harm when raising us.

Redditors have been sharing things their parents taught them that they later realized weren’t healthy, so we’ve gathered some of their honest responses down below. Keep reading to also find a conversation with the user who sparked this discussion in the first place, and be sure to upvote the replies that make you want to be a better parent.

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#1

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All “No kid should be on drugs” I was 11, diagnosed with ADHD by a psychologist back when that was pretty new…

Yeah… Every teacher stated some version of “if you weren’t so smart, I’d hold you back” and I barely graduated high school. Seriously thought I ‘couldn’t do math.’

Flash forward to 28. Get over the stigma… Take good meds - graduate cum laude with with degree in Finance at 32. Turns out I can do pretty heavy equations in my head when the hurricane isn’t spinning…

Quartz_Starbursts , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

163points

ADDee 1 year ago

Wow!!! Just wow!!!

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That you are at least partially to blame for ANYTHING bad that happens to you.

Get beat up by a bully? It's at last partly your fault and you're to be blamed and punished for it.

Get bit by a dog? It's at last partly your fault and you're to be blamed and punished for it.

Accidently step on a nail, cut yourself, fall, have an asthma attack? It's at last partly your fault and you're to be blamed and punished for it.

A few years ago my younger brother (we are in our 30s now) was out on the town at night and got mugged, I had to drive him to the hospital. I started blaming him for it and had to pause and ask myself WTF was I thinking and right then and there had an epiphany that the way we were raise was totally screwed up.

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Final score:

147points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

OMFG THATS SO FÜCKED UP IM SORRY THAT YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT ABUSE

55points

robin aldrich 1 year ago

agreed....and how awesome that he stopped and recognized that it was wrong!!! and that is a Huge step right there to break the chain!!!!

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BewilderedBanana 1 year ago

You can see how this leads to women getting the blame when they're raped by some spineless neanderthal... Would be curious to know if the parents were very religious. Not bashing religion or anything like that, but my parents would always tell me to thank "god" when something good happened, but when it was something bad, then it definitely wasn't their all-powerful, all-knowing, benevolent god... it was obviously my fault.

14points

Snorkeldorf 1 year ago

Boy is this spot on. When one of my friends got married, her husband started physically abusing her. She was out with her mom and told her that one day she was driving and got caught in a traffic jam due to an accident. He was napping but when he woke up he started yelling at her that she should have gone another way. She snapped and yelled back at him and he punched her in the face. When she told her mom her mom said "what in the world did you say to him to make him hit you?" Fortunately they did get a divorce.

9points

Danish Susanne 1 year ago

Hopefully she also got divorced from her mother

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Where's_My_Adderall 1 year ago

my parents use this logic. I wrote a letter, pouring my heart and soul about how I feel because I'm about as emotionally mature as a rock (traumatized kids if you know, you know) about how my mom telling me I'll never be her son unless I get surgery and DID isn't real (idc about your opinion here, just be kind) and my mom wanted me to write one to my dad. he refused because he said "If you don't take responsibility for your actions, then I'm going to talk to you about it." and I didn't want an argument. so I told him off and called him out for his toxic BS. I'm 16, for reference.

3points

- 1 year ago

There are ways to reduce incidents, BUT... nothing is fool-proof and the victim needs help first. Discussions about prevention and or mitigation come later, not right after the incident.

3points

Ken Beattie 1 year ago

This is the truth. Many of the things the OP wrote about *may* have had some component they contributed, like the nail one if they were walking barefoot and not paying attention. Or the dog one, did they provoke the dog by pulling it's tail? But like you said, it shouldn't be about blaming them. But helping them learn from the mistake, to be more aware of their surroundings.

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Jen Schurman 1 year ago

My mother was raised in the German Lutheran church. She told me every action had an immediate consequence from God. One day we were in the car, and I was smarting off in a typical 8 year old way. She knew I loved animals and spotted a dead rabbit on the side of the road. Told me that was God’s way of punishing me for my attitude. I still fight those feelings and she has been dead 14 years.

1point

Fester Sixonesixonethree 1 year ago

Sounds very "Xtian" in my experience.

1point

H.J. carlson 1 year ago

👏 A revelation and now you know what not to do!!🥲

1point

Richard Henderson 1 year ago

Least*

0points

Ana Lima 1 year ago

I’ve been there too, still trying to stop blaming everything on myself… It is a long, hard process…

0points

Joey 1 year ago

In all fairness, people who get bitten by dogs often did something to scare or hurt the dog. Like going near it even though the dog is scared, trying to touch it by putting their hand down on top of it head which feels threatening for a dog etc. Many children mishandle dogs and get bitten because their parents are irresponsible and don't pay attention. But otherwise, yeah, this is horrible. Victim blaming needs to stop.

0points

TVLA 1 year ago

This is exactly why I never told my parents I was robbed at a gas station a few years ago… a gas station I picked over others because it’s well-lit and has security cameras. Just bad timing on my part. Luckily they just wanted my wallet. Sometimes s**t just happens no matter what “right” things you do.

0points

María Hermida 1 year ago

I think we may have some degree of responsibility in most things that happen to us so we should try to analyse and learn. A lot of small accidents can be avoided by being careful, for example. But s**t happens. Just happens. And even if you did nothing wrong you can end up in a bad situation. That's the difference between idiotic, toxic parents and good parents: toxic parents punish and screw your life; good parents teach how to deal with stuff and support you. I'm happy you suddenly understood you are not to blame for all the evils in the universe. Enjoy your freedom!

0points

Jennifer Checki 1 year ago

I had the same thing! I wonder if it was gender related, or if it would have been the same if I were a boy. I also wonder if this is generational, or just an individual issue.

0points

Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago

A guy I worked with believed that sh*t. When I told him that a woman being raped wasn't her fault, he went the whole victim shaming route. So, Jon - if you get attacked just walking down the street, that's somehow YOUR fault? You're a moron.

0points

stuart burdett 1 year ago

As some one that was bullied...this..no one helped...when I started to fight back it was my fault for getting in so many fights.

0points

Shiva Ho 1 year ago

Sounds like my childhood! Only my father was my doctor and he just loved sewing me up without anything for the pain while yelling how stupid & good for nothing I was & if I cried he would beat me for all the trouble I caused him! Now I can barely feel anything other than constant migraines from all the head injuries & getting dragged by my ears down to his office in the basement of our house!

0points

Hyrule26 1 year ago

My ma does this

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Cosmologist wannabe 1 year ago

that is abuse. Stand up to her. seriously.

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Pat C 1 year ago

I don’t think it’s wrong to teach people to look inward when something bad happens. In most cases, there is something you could have done better to avoid that outcome. Teaching kids to look at their own actions first and take accountability for what they can control, is better than teaching them to blame someone or something else every time something unfavorable happens to them. There’s obviously a line, but it’s not bad advice. Is it your fault you have an asthma attack? As someone with asthma, having an attack is avoidable as long as I have my inhaler. If I know I have asthma and forget to bring my inhaler, and have an attack.. I would absolutely consider myself to blame. I can’t control the fact I have asthma, but it is my responsibility to manage my circumstances.

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Anne 1 year ago

Implying OP has an inhaler, given his parents love to blame him for every circumstance he's in. Get real.

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To find out how this conversation started in the first place, we reached out to Reddit user Timdood3, who posed the question, "What did your parents teach you as a kid that you didn't realize was actually [messed] up until you were older?" Lucky for us, Timdood3 was happy to have a chat with Bored Panda. "My inspiration [for asking this question], if you can call it that, was simply a desire to share my own experience and give others an opportunity to share their own," he explained. "After all, everyone has a 'my parents messed me up' story."

#3

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All If you’re sad that means the devil is inside you and you need to pray for forgiveness.

I was 6 and my cat had just died

AngstyRacc00n , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

142points

ADDee 1 year ago

Holly shít!!! Your parents were evil.

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#4

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All After arguing with a girlfriend and not speaking with her for a few days, BOTH my parents told me separately to hold onto my beef with her like a grudge and use it against her later.

I've been married to the girlfriend now 25 years this year, never once took my parents' advice, and have NO IDEA how my parent's marriage survived LOL

mcbrian67 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Final score:

125points

Moos 1 year ago

ffs. ~facepalm~

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"The story that I shared tells of the time my dad taught me the concept of 'micro-murder'," Timdood3 went on to note. "It was the idea that if someone wastes your time, usually through stupidity or incompetence, that is time they've stolen from you, and you should be upset about it. Whether it's someone driving too slow in traffic or standing in front of the item you need at the grocery store, they're killing you one second at a time."

"And being around 10 years is at the time, it made enough sense not to think about it too hard," he added. "But as I grew older and wiser, I came to realize what a backwards perspective it was. For whatever reason, he just needed an excuse to be mad at strangers all the time."

#5

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Anytime I felt hurt by a conflict with a friend, my parents would tell me to never talk to them again because they aren't real friends anyway.

I ghosted all of my best friends thinking it was the right thing to do.

Now, I know that real friends talk things out and it makes the friendships even stronger. A very painful realization. I never even considered my parents could have been wrong. :(

PegasaurusTrex , Christina Morillo Report

Final score:

114points

Moos 1 year ago

This is sad :(

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#6

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All "If you ignore bullies they will go away."

21stCenturyGW , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

106points

François Bouzigues 1 year ago

But "If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by" part was true

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We also asked Timdood3 what he thought of the responses to his post and why he believes parents instill these unhealthy lessons in their children. "Obviously there are far too many responses for me to have kept up with, but the most common ones by far are religious, racist, sexist or outright abusive," he noted, adding that he supposes there are two major factors behind why so many people have stories like these. "First, people are eager to have people agree with them to feel validated. And second, kids are vulnerable, impressionable, and trusting. They don't know any better, and that makes it so so easy to convince them to think the way we do, which feeds our desire for validation."

"While a great majority of responses have probably been brought up in therapy, there were lighthearted responses too, like reframing the fairy tales we all grew up with, like the tooth fairy and Santa Claus," the OP pointed out. "Those really got a laugh out of me!"

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#7

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Parents and other related adults would give me awful s**t any time I didn’t want to kiss/hug my male cousins and relatives or deal with them physically touching me to “wrestle” or “play,” saying that I was hurting their feelings. Basically just teaching me that my feelings didn’t matter about my own body.

Snuffcarcass , Monstera Report

Final score:

105points

Huddo's sister 1 year ago

Exactly how I felt when my mum and brother kept tickling me when I was a kid, even though I said no (and would wet myself).

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#8

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Do not ever be a bother to anyone. Solve all your problems by yourself.

Soobobaloula , Sofia Alejandra Report

Final score:

93points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago (edited)

I tend to do this mostly because other people do not want to prioritise me (or anyone else apart from themselves anyway), so it's just more efficient. I'm not saying it's a bad thing , just realistic. It's rare to find someone else who is efficient and willing to prioritise someone else's projects/needs.

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"My partner and I agree that we're not ready for kids for a variety of reasons, but a lack of parenting wisdom isn't one of them," Timdood3 went on to share. "I think the most important lesson to impart on kids above all else it to treat everyone with respect and compassion, and not in the 'let people take advantage of you' way. Understand that every person you see is living their own life, just like you. No one is better than anyone else. Everyone deserves kindness. Be kind, especially to yourself."

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#9

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All My dad was “teaching” me about credit cards and said you can just make the minimum payment every month. It blew my mind, made it seem like free money. Thank god I didn’t take that advice. I pay my credit card off every month and he’s drowning in credit card debt.

lilmrs-t , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

88points

Anne Jones 1 year ago

I always told my kids that when you use a credit card, you aren’t spending money, you are borrowing money, and you will need to pay it back.

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#10

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Situation awareness, what seems odd or out of place. Felt like i was being trained by batman when I realized what he was doing… dads from a ruff part of mexico with a lot of Narco gang wars… so, he was just teaching me to read if a place or a situation was “out of the ordinary”.

Plane_Tomato369 , JAGMEET SiNGH Report

Final score:

88points

Moos 1 year ago

First good advice on here...

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#11

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Let boys think they're smarter than you. Nobody wants to go out with a smart girl.

MessyLina , Katerina Holmes Report

Final score:

88points

Roger9er 1 year ago

If you're smart but play dumb because you think that's cute: it's not. It's annoying.

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#12

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Upon hearing stories of my childhood my husband had to break it to me that it was not in fact normal for moms to share their anti-psychotic meds (or “chill pills”, as she would call them) with their young children.

TysenTrainz , Michelle Leman Report

Final score:

80points

Moos 1 year ago

This whole list should be brought out every time smbdy starts with "EveRyboDY SHouLd hAve KiDz" spiel. no, just no.

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#13

That there was nothing that could be done about my superheavy periods, that it ran in the family and that was it. Found out when I was thirty that there are literal doctors for that and got on birth control and just like that, normal periods. I had missed so much school and work and suffered in pain and nausea since I was 12 for nothing. Thanks, Mom.

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Final score:

73points

Huddo's sister 1 year ago

If it ran in the family maybe she had been told the same thing or just didn't know?

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#14

That anytime something bad happened, it was just a dream and if I talked about it, then I was just seeking attention and no one would believe me. It wasn’t until I was in my 20’s when my brother brought up some of the terrible things that happened to me that I realized I wasn’t going crazy.

Final score:

70points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

Abuse!

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#15

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All 1. Mental illness is not real. You are just thinking of it, and you dont pray enough.
2. Being gay is wrong.

michael0103 , Darina Belonogova Report

Final score:

70points

Lakota Wolf 1 year ago

Ah yes. I got the "mental illness isn't real" schtick from my mom too, except her reasoning is that depressed people "just want attention" and "can feel better whenever they WANT to". At least I didn't get any forced praying/religious indoctrination along with it, for what that's worth.

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#16

"If a boy is mean to you, that means he likes you!"

Took me a while to learn what a healthy relationship was when I hit adulthood.

SuitableNegotiation5 Report

Final score:

70points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

GOD I HATE PEOPLE WHO GIVE OUT CRÄPPY ADVICE LIKE THIS

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#17

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All That every interaction with other people is transactional in some way. Nobody ever wants to be around you just because they like you.

darklightdiana , Mental Health America (MHA) Report

Final score:

67points

Moos 1 year ago

ouch :(

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#18

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All My parents told me that I had a limited number of words and when I got to that limit I would die. I guess it was an easy way to make me shut up.

aganalf , Oleksandr Pidvalnyi Report

Final score:

65points

Anne Jones 1 year ago

Abuse!

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#19

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All How to lie or avoid situations where truthful responses would get me in trouble.

Anytime I spoke up about anything really id be ridiculed and put down by my mother so I stopped talking. If I told her something good happened at school she'd ask why I was still getting such bad grades.

So I just stopped talking.

splintersmaster , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

63points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

Shïtty mum.

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#20

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All That having and expressing emotions was shameful. Thats some b******t.

KungFuAllOvaU , Pixabay Report

Final score:

63points

Helen Bennett 1 year ago

Yep :-(

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#21

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All My dad instilled crippling perfectionism in me, which I realized was insane when I got older and people told me to just “do my best.”

When I was in grade school, I would come to my dad with A’s all super excited. But, if it was anything less than a 100%, he would ask for the missing percentage. So, when I had a 98%, he’d say “well where’s the 2%?” And now, if I do anything less than perfect, I beat myself up

Gremlin-o-Chaos , August de Richelieu Report

Final score:

61points

- 1 year ago (edited)

One of my colleagues has a learning disability and was put down by her family. I found a few ways to boost her self-confidence: show her how to do something that she doesn't know and make her try it so she learns it; if I don't know something, I suggest she do research and get back to me; tell her "It was hard for me, too, when I started learning that". By the way, sometimes she teaches me and she does love learning new techniques. When I had self-confidence problems at another job, the boss gave me "easy" assignments. That made it worse for me.

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#22

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All My mom taught me that when you have bug bites, you should scratch them until they bleed, and then rub salt on them to make them stop itching.

It wasn't until I was 23 and passed that "home remedy" on to a friend and they immediately told me how masochistic it was that I realized something was weird about it.

HorseGirl666 , James West Report

Final score:

59points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

or you can get antihistamine cream, which works better and doesn't leave you with scars.

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#23

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All My Dad told me he could drink beer in the car if he drank it while the car was stopped. It’s only drinking and driving if the car is in motion. I was like makes sense. I was around 4.

Diggler149 , energepic.com Report

Final score:

58points

Moos 1 year ago

That should have been such a moment of reflection for him. "what is my life if I have to make up lies for my 4 yo"

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#24

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Apparently healthy conflict resolution doesn't involve complete avoidance in the form of locking yourself in the bedroom for days on end.

TheBiggestWOMP , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

57points

Weasel Wise 1 year ago

Or the flip side, get locked in your room against your will for the whole day and "you can come out when your dad gets home and it's time for dinner...then you'll do the dishes and go back to your room to think about what you've done."

19points

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#25

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All "Only TV families resolve their problems and apologize after a big fight. Real families just act like it never happened."

3thantrapb3rry , Annushka Ahuja Report

Final score:

56points

Ace 1 year ago

This one is all too real.

28points

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#26

That if you're not bleeding, vomiting, or broken, you don't get to cry about it

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55points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

this is quite a common one I've heard from a number of parents.

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#27

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All "If someone ever touches you hit them back and don't stop hitting until they stop moving"

-> my dad who is facing his third attempted [criminal] charge.

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Final score:

47points

The Other Guest 1 year ago

I'm assuming that it's a mur‌de‌r charge. Getting awful tired of Bored Panda "sanitizing" everything. Do they think their readers are six years old?

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#28

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Definitely not as bad as a lot of these other ones, and I know it wasn't done on purpose to be malicious, but to eat when I was sad or upset. It's easier and faster to tell a kid to go eat something as a distraction than it is to sit down and deal with it - especially if said kid is upset a lot due to living in abusive environments, getting bullied at school, etc. It definitely really f****d up my relationship with food, leading to emotional eating, overweight turning into obesity, even more bullying, disordered eating and other mental health issues. I realized probably 15 years ago that this was an issue/the cause of it but even though I know that, it's still something I'm working on unlearning.

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Final score:

47points

Cyber Returns 1 year ago

My mom would ask what would cheer us up, and then we would do it, whether its watching TV, making a cake or farting in a jar. If it made us happy when we were upset, we did it

19points

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#29

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All That parents are completely infallible. know exactly whats best for you, should never be questioned and you should do everything they ask you to do. Including being effectively a slave

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

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#30

My mom told me that “you can fall in love with anyone.” The context was like go marry rich because you can fall in love with anyone. Terrible advice. I would tell my kids to find someone who is kind and makes them laugh.

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42points

Cyber Returns 1 year ago

Don't look for someone right now. Look for someone who is just right: My mom

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#31

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Men use their head and hands for the will of god. Women use their hearts and bodies for the will of man.

fairie88 , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

19points

Helena 1 year ago

eeeeeew

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#32

That all adults should be blindly obeyed.

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18points

Cyber Returns 1 year ago (edited)

Jesus Christ! My mom would have gone to each of these people in all of these posts and slapped the stupid out of their parents!

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#33

Self hatred. My mom had problems with her weight and projected those feelings onto me about my own body. She restricted my food, forced me to go to a dietitian at 12 years old, and was obsessed with making me exercise, and would fixate on the fact that I was growing out of my clothes because of my weight. There was one time when she wouldn't buy me new clothes until I lost weight. I felt very self conscious about my personal style when I was in middle school and I desperately wanted to change it but she refused to buy me new clothes unless I lost 10lbs or more. I was a little curvy but definitely not overweight at that time. I am now because I struggled with over eating to compensate for my emotional problems, I was also starving and snuck a lot of food in the middle of the night when I was still living at home. I developed an ED because of all of it, which I'm recovering from. I still struggle with self-confidence to this day. Even through all of that, the one thing I currently fixate on the most was when my mom scolded me for gaining weight before my wedding, and she was mad I had to get my wedding dress altered. I felt broken, incredibly flawed, and couldn't stop sobbing.

Bubbly-Substance-112 Report

Final score:

18points

Andrea Wylie 1 year ago

this. My mom even did the whole "bought you a new outfit!" but it's a size too small as an "incentive" to lose weight. I never did wear those clothes.

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#34

I asked my dad why he doesn't have friends over like I do. He told me "adults don't have friends, we have acquaintances." And it stuck with me for so long in my formative years that as an adult it's very hard for me to make friends. I'm personable, and I enjoy hanging out with people, but I don't really make friends.

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Final score:

18points

Weasel Wise 1 year ago

"No, Mom & Dad, you both don't have friends cuz you're shítty people."

4points

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#35

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All During a car ride my dad once explained to me the concept of "micro-murder." It was the idea that the seconds spent in traffic behind someone driving below the speed limit (and other instances of people inconveniencing you) were seconds of your life that you couldn't get back, and should be upset about.

I realize as an adult that he's got some issues and just needed an excuse to resent random people on the street.

timdood3 , Chi Hou Ong Report

Final score:

15points

Jenny Barton 1 year ago

I bet his blood pressure is a tad high

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#36

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All Emotional self sufficiency. In other words don't show your emotions, don't feel your emotions, don't be swayed by others emotions, empathy is bad and for the weak

Basically also reenforce these teachings by making me having to do bloody and demoralizing task (carrying entrails bare handed without being allowed to use buckets or [taking out] animals), lots of physical punishment, verbal abuse, isolation from others.

Stepmother insisted I should remain pure so when the rapture took place I would be a warrior saint.

Yeah when I moved out and found out people don't have to live like this it took me a week just to decompress what I escaped from

ZentheOgre , Pixabay Report

Final score:

14points

EarthGrowl 1 year ago

Religious fanatics are a blight on humanity. Even God is sick and tired of them!

17points

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#37

That it’s totally ok to abuse everyone and everything around you. If you aren’t physical with them.

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Final score:

14points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

WHAT THE FÜCK IS THAT SHÏTTY ADVICE!!!??????

6points

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#38

Keep secrets to protect family. No matter what they are.

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13points

EarthGrowl 1 year ago (edited)

Ancestry.com and 23andMe are kicking down those closet doors and showing the 'perfect' world that conservatives long for never existed! The perfect nuclear family living in a cottage with a picket fence is a filthy lie and an unattainable ideal. If you peel back the surface of the 1950's, you see the only difference between then and now is; Now we don't lie about the affairs and the abuse in order to maintain a veneer of respectability.

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#39

To be in constant survival mode. Like as in always worrying about the end of the world. Why? Why am I constantly as a child looking over my back in fear of what I will offer to a group if “the apocalypse happens”. Weird stuff. I thought I was savvy in “bunker mode” but really it’s trauma inducing.

ohhmagen Report

Final score:

13points

Erin Miller 1 year ago (edited)

This hits home. My parents still, to this day (I'm 41), in every conversation, bring up some bat$h1t crazy conspiracy doomsday nonsense. I was TERRIFIED about the world ending every single day growing up and had no one around me to point out that this was ridiculous. I'm still working through the trauma and my inability to long-term plan, which has prevented me from career advancement, buying a home, commitment, etc. And for @censorshipsucks, yeah, we were Christian....it's likely a correct assumption.

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#40

Punishment means they love you.

No, it does not.

cyberdoritos Report

Final score:

13points

Ace 1 year ago

"This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you."

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#41

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All They made me distrust my own intelligence. They talked down to me and treated me like an airhead, giving me a smirk every time I tried to be serious about anything. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I learned that I am intelligent and gained self confidence despite the negative self esteem they had instilled in me.

Kelbel2525 , Pavel Danilyuk Report

Final score:

12points

Helena 1 year ago

How did you manage it? I still have to fight with myself when that inner voice tells me I can't do it, I'm too stupid.

7points

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#42

In an effort to teach me to be considerate, or not selfish, I guess, my dad said, “Love yourself last” more than a few times to me. That’s a mess I’ve been untangling for about 35 years.

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12points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

Not entirely bad advice in a western culture which teaches people to be huge individualists. It teaches humility. BUT in the case when you're getting abused or taken advantage of, no.

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#43

I remember my Dad outright saying he did weaponized incompetence "If you do the job badly enough she'll do from then on"

ThomasEdmund84 Report

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11points

E Schmitt 1 year ago

This is so disrespectful.

6points

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#44

That “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”

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11points

Carrie B 1 year ago

My mom totally said this to me. Thanks Kate Moss.

4points

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#45

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All That the police were going to come and take me away unless I hid. Nothing sinister - he just thought it was funny.

Timely_Egg_6827 , Pixabay Report

Final score:

10points

BewilderedBanana 1 year ago

It was either the police, the "black man" down the street (not that there were any black people in my neighbourhood) or, in extreme circumstances, the devil himself

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#46

30 People Share Things Their Parents Taught Them That They Later Realized Weren’t Normal At All I always had anxiety as a child and my mother said the only way to get over it is to deal with the situation head on. Sounds great until I told her my dear of escalators and she pushed me down and I fell and almost got my hair caught.

Another thing she loved to teach me is how self defense is necessary. Great! Where do I take lessons? There were no lessons.. she said being with my abusive ex was enough of a lesson. I should have learned then.

throwrathebagelway , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

10points

ScarletRos 1 year ago

I have a fear of escalators. No idea why, it’s only come on since I’ve been an adult had no problems until my mid twenties. I just avoid them. It’s easier these days because places tend to be disability friendly so need to provide elevators.

9points

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#47

My dad basically conditioned everyone to hide in the room when he had guests over. Now as an adult I have to fight the urge to not hide in the room when we have guests over because it’s considered rude or whatever

maggiejm Report

Final score:

10points

H.J. carlson 1 year ago

What was he hiding: illegal or amoral activities? Or was he making a fool of you?!

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Adelaide Ross

Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

Ieva Pečiulytė

I'm a Visual Editor for Bored Panda. I’m also an analog collage artist. My love for images and experience in layering goes well with both creating collages by hand and working with digital images as an Editor. When I’m not using my kitchen area as an art studio I also do various experiments making my own cosmetics or brewing kombucha. When I’m not at home you would most definitely find me attending a concert or walking my dog.

I'm a Visual Editor for Bored Panda. I’m also an analog collage artist. My love for images and experience in layering goes well with both creating collages by hand and working with digital images as an Editor. When I’m not using my kitchen area as an art studio I also do various experiments making my own cosmetics or brewing kombucha. When I’m not at home you would most definitely find me attending a concert or walking my dog.

What do you think ?

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

so many abusive parents out there. They really should make a course that you have to go on before you have a child. Maybe also a license.

7points

Danger Bunny (She/Her) 1 year ago

But the thing is - the people who most deserve kids, often do not want to have them

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Cyber Returns 1 year ago

I'm going to point out that I had mental problems with my emotions when I was little and would very frequently burst in episodes of extreme rage and violence. I got treated for it and from the age of 4 until I was 17 I was in a lot of therapy. I had1 abusive dad who fixed his alcoholism out and has been awesome since, making up for what he did, and 2 very violently abusive stepdads. I'm 52 now and have gained so much in my lifetime that I am always happy to share and help. I hope that anyone having these kinds of problems gets the help they need and deserve. My heart goes out to them all

5points

Tee Wallace 1 year ago

The employer is NEVER wrong no matter what they do to you. You're lucky to have a job. My mom is still like that to this day and it took me years of being abused by my employer to leave and not put up with all their c**p. Now I don't suggest that jumping from job to job is a viable way to live but at some point you need to look out for yourself and stop taking all the c**p an employer throws at you.

4points

Gg 1 year ago

Ugh why don't they do a funny one if these?? Like, my Dad said Red lights don't count after midnight once when I was a little kid and I believed it for way too long. When really he was exhausted, there was no one on the road and he just wanted to get home already!

1point

blinkaoa187 1 year ago

That saying about boys being mean to you means that they like you should be changed to : if a boy is mean to you because he likes you, don't get involved with him

0points

Seadog 1 year ago

My first marriage (24+ years) was mentally abusive to me and our kids. 2 people that came into my life opened my eyes to what was going on and I moved on. One child immediately ghosted the ex-wife. The other eventually saw what kind of person she is although the damage is done. Her effect on him is causing some issues with his wife. I tell any newlyweds or soon to be weds, "No cheating, no lying, no secrets, no arguing. You can disagree but arguing solves nothing and just creates more problems." These are the things I told my second wife before we married, she agreed and this will be our 11th year together and we're both the happiest we've ever been and not one argument, no lies, no cheating, no secrets.

0points

Percy the Band Rat 1 year ago

My Grandparents will say stuff like "you are happy" or "you do want to go stop crying" when I do NOT. They seem to think they know my emotions better than me. I can't "stop crying" I'm not a faucet. I was 5.

0points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

so many abusive parents out there. They really should make a course that you have to go on before you have a child. Maybe also a license.

7points

Danger Bunny (She/Her) 1 year ago

But the thing is - the people who most deserve kids, often do not want to have them

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Cyber Returns 1 year ago

I'm going to point out that I had mental problems with my emotions when I was little and would very frequently burst in episodes of extreme rage and violence. I got treated for it and from the age of 4 until I was 17 I was in a lot of therapy. I had1 abusive dad who fixed his alcoholism out and has been awesome since, making up for what he did, and 2 very violently abusive stepdads. I'm 52 now and have gained so much in my lifetime that I am always happy to share and help. I hope that anyone having these kinds of problems gets the help they need and deserve. My heart goes out to them all

5points

Tee Wallace 1 year ago

The employer is NEVER wrong no matter what they do to you. You're lucky to have a job. My mom is still like that to this day and it took me years of being abused by my employer to leave and not put up with all their c**p. Now I don't suggest that jumping from job to job is a viable way to live but at some point you need to look out for yourself and stop taking all the c**p an employer throws at you.

4points

Gg 1 year ago

Ugh why don't they do a funny one if these?? Like, my Dad said Red lights don't count after midnight once when I was a little kid and I believed it for way too long. When really he was exhausted, there was no one on the road and he just wanted to get home already!

1point

blinkaoa187 1 year ago

That saying about boys being mean to you means that they like you should be changed to : if a boy is mean to you because he likes you, don't get involved with him

0points

Seadog 1 year ago

My first marriage (24+ years) was mentally abusive to me and our kids. 2 people that came into my life opened my eyes to what was going on and I moved on. One child immediately ghosted the ex-wife. The other eventually saw what kind of person she is although the damage is done. Her effect on him is causing some issues with his wife. I tell any newlyweds or soon to be weds, "No cheating, no lying, no secrets, no arguing. You can disagree but arguing solves nothing and just creates more problems." These are the things I told my second wife before we married, she agreed and this will be our 11th year together and we're both the happiest we've ever been and not one argument, no lies, no cheating, no secrets.

0points

Percy the Band Rat 1 year ago

My Grandparents will say stuff like "you are happy" or "you do want to go stop crying" when I do NOT. They seem to think they know my emotions better than me. I can't "stop crying" I'm not a faucet. I was 5.

0points

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