I like this way of thinking.

Yes, it is. I feel exhausted all the time, staying in bed unable to do chores or even things I like. And I don't know why. Just feeling helpless.

I think a lot of people get confused the first time they have a Subway. I did.

This one is my favourite.

Well done, you!

Also, two parents and one child is still a family. I have just one child and I've lost count of the number of people who feel they should question that. You'd have thought it was a crime to have one child and not want any more.

^This

I've been in a depression for a couple years and I can tell you, is pretty messed up. And people commenting fücked up stuff while depressed people might be scrolling through this topic for consolation and to feel understood, is just so wrong.

All. The. Time. And it is so depressing.

Savahax, that's a great point and did you know that discipline can also break the cycle of 'blood getting out of that hole I just put in your body'? No need for a hospital...not that you'd need to worry about paying since discipline also makes you become a billionaire! In all seriousness depression is just...it's not like that. Discipline requires effort. It requires mental work. It requires thinking ahead to a future when the present is hard enough. It requires all those things that are really hard to do when you're depressed.

Idk about y'all, but I think it's a good thing to distinguish "committed suicide" and "died from depression". For example Chester Bennington clearly died from depression - he was one of the world's most prolific rock musicians, had awesome band, money, wife, children... and still his childhood trauma got him in the end.

In my opinion (though I seem to be the only one) it's not about being worthy. It's about the struggle to get yourself well. It's not fair to them or yourself to be trying to split your time and energy between getting well and another person. Sometimes you need to give healing your all. Then when you are in a better place you can actually have a healthy relationship where you are able to focus on their needs as much as your own. Then you aren't constantly feeling guilty for not being able to be as present in a relationship as you want to be. Obviously this isn't what everyone in that position needs, but many do.

As a girl attracted to girls, can confirm.

Fùck cancer

This is so wise.

that hits hard :(

This. I have no desire to be the boss. I just want to be able to not struggle financially

Even if you've gone through the exact same situation, it's different. Everyone reacts and handles things differently and that's okay.

Oh, so that's what that was.

The axe forgets.

Literally every problem I have could be solved with a higher income—not terribly high, just enough to meet the COL. Every single problem.

Priority one is getting out of the situation of abuse (good on OP to move on). But in a thread about mental health I'd like to point out that the mean drunk is the one who likely needs the most help, whether they're willing to admit it or not. It's a lot easier to be a happy drunk if you're not withholding a ton of trauma.

Or being unable to pay for treatment - America!

This brings me to tears. So much empathy. It means the world.

And global warming.

Only enough energy to put on a 'work' face at work, and then 'crash' at home.

Oh this absolutely. I gain a little joy though through my words of kindness towards them. I like that they appreciate my little gifts of texts or hugs.

well done Mum. Glad she's appreciated.x

😢❤️

Eeyore is my spirit animal.

"I didn't understand your joke, can you please explain it?" is allegedly an AMAZING defense agains all kinds of $hitty jokes, including racist, queerphobic etc.

My father. Only my mom knew and never told us. He seemed so happy. Now, I think at least I and maybe my sister have depression too. But we talk about it, seek for help, are understood and supported by friends...I wish my father, like many men, could do the same to feel not that alone

Yes

Omg. I never thought of it this way. Makes so much sense now.

Omg, yes.

That's depression and the brain trying to cope. This will not heal itself

In my darkest moments, one thing that keeps me from ending it all is the morbid curiosity about what would have taken me out otherwise.

That'll be me then.

Yes. This.

When things are feeling great I get anxious knowing it's not going to last and I never know how long it will.

Me and my friends are on both sides and always have to reassure, that is ok and not a burden for us because we like to be there for another. That's why it's important to open up. Sure your can get hurt very hard but also you can get a very good support team

Well, at least Janet asks questions and actually listens to th answers instead of going "discipline/fresh air/exercise/whatever else will cure you!"

i have struggled w mental health and long time and my bf has been so supportive and helpful in just the five months we've been together

Everyone has the age they thought they would not make it past. Was just having this conversation with friends the other day. Mine was 36. I will be 40 in December. What is your not gonna make it past age?

Sad, but totally true.

I once wrote letters to nearest friends what I like about them and what I'm proud of them. It felt very strange but they were so touched that it made me feel better and I knew it was right. I have them a treasure and got some back. Wonderful. But your have to overcome yourself to do this. That's hard

In my friend circle we call this "life happening" to us. If one of us says "life has been happening to me pretty hard lately", that's what we understand it to mean.

I have a friend who every day I exchange a virtual hug with - 'Monday hug', 'Tuesday hug' etc. Pointless? After over ten years it doesn't feel like it to me. Others may not see how it could be important, but it is to me and that's all that matters.

I wish I could get myself to believe this