40 Hilariously Accurate Memes About Mental Health, As Shared By This Instagram Page
InterviewWhether you love or loathe social media and memes, you can’t deny that they can be very powerful. When used for good, they can raise awareness about important issues—like mental health, something that's relevant in all of our lives.
That’s where ‘How Mental’ comes in. It’s a charity, app, and social media project that touches on important mental health issues with the help of memes, webcomics, and witty videos. We’ve collected some of the top images from their Instagram account to remind everyone that self-care should always be a priority. Scroll down for some truly relatable memes.
We reached out to the founder and CEO of ‘How Mental,’ George Taktak, and he was happy to tell us all about the project, raising awareness about mental health, and what to do when someone’s struggling. You’ll find Bored Panda’s full interview with him below.
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Wow... I didn't realize how much I needed to read that until I did. Thank you, BP!
I love this. Hugs to the people who have soft hearts because they've been broken. 🤗
From one internet stranger to another, just let me say I care about each and every one of you. Truly. If you are hurting, do not hesitate to reach out and talk with your fellow pandas. I love you guys❤️
This is why I love BP. Thanks to people who care ❤
Load More Replies...A Good traumatised person is any traumatised person who is convenient to others. So if you’re super nice, you’re a Good Traumatised Person and if you’re a boss you’re a Good Traumatised Person. But if you cry easily you’re a Bad Traumatised Person and if you’re hard in a way that isn’t a capitalist wet dream, you’re the scum of society.
Also known as 'high functioning' anything - which basically translates to: it doesn't effect other people terribly much.
Load More Replies...This will sound grim, but if you can still cry easily, it's not rock bottom yet. Sometimes think I'd feel better if I could still cry.
Depression and anxiety are very common in the United States. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, around 21 million American adults have had at least one major depressive episode in their lives. That’s 8.3% of all adults in the country. Meanwhile, over 40 million (nearly 1 in 5) adults in the US have an anxiety disorder.
‘How Mental’ is a project that’s dedicated to promoting mental health. “We are proud to call ourselves mental health advocates,” the team behind the project writes on Facebook. “There is no limit to the possibilities of things we can do to improve the world’s mental health & wellbeing,” they share on their website.
The project has 783k followers on Instagram, 1.5k on Twitter, and 8.4k on Facebook. ‘How Mental’ combines important social questions—taking care of one’s mental health—and spreads the word about it with the help of memes and spot-on social media posts. Many of them are very relatable.
Right. When I had to correct a student's behavior and they said "Sorry", I would reply "Good, people who are genuinely sorry change their behavior. I'll be monitoring you for that."
Yes, I was raised to believe my needs were selfish and everyone else comes first, and have spent years unlearning being a total doormat!
I was a total doormat in relationships for years, and then helped to ruin my most recent one of over a decade by being unhealthily assertive because I was overcompensating. It’s such a balancing act.
Load More Replies...Me too, but a construct of my own mind made the fear, not anything my parents did
George, the founder of ‘How Mental,’ has been working in the mental health sector for over a decade, building innovative technology to help people’s wellbeing.
“Then, about 6 years ago, a friend of mine approached me and said, 'George, I'm feeling really depressed. What should I do? Where should I go? Should I just go on this ancient-looking charity's website?' It stopped me in my tracks and made me realize that no matter how much support is out there, most people don't know where it is, don't know what's right for their mind, and don't want to engage with these old charities, they're too clinical, not relatable and make us feel 'less than'!” he told Bored Panda about the roots of the project.
“So I got angry about it! There was clearly a gap between people and mental health support. And so I started How Mental, initially on Instagram, now on our website www.howmental.com to bring together the world of mental health/wellbeing support in one place and make sure support is accessible to people around the world.”
... answering an email, answering the phone, answering the door, answering a text, waiting on delivery, waiting on a package.... drugs. I mean prescription medication. Ironically though, you have to get over this fight or flight response several times just to get to a doctor to get the drugs lol
For me it's making a phone call or having to do a return on something I bought online. :)
I hate phone calls I only call if I want your phone to ring so you see my text
Load More Replies...you eat the f*****g rich because no one gets ptsd for shits and giggles
This is dark, I know. But personally, I have never been happy, I wake up disappointed--that I woke up--- and literally hope a tragic accident kills me on a daily basis. I'm not actively suicidal, though I do maintain my state pistol permit for that purpose one day, as my only hope for retirement is a revolver and a bottle of scotch... Dark humor is the only way I can handle daily life. Obviously not everyone's style, but I feel so utterly empty and isolated when anyone around me just looks concerns and starts walking on eggshells around me. Trying to make light of a dark situation through humor is an attempt to make a human connection... Saying "suicide" in my presence isn't going to throw me over the edge. Call it inappropriate, show any feeling whatsoever as long as it's not this distancing fearful concern...
Slightly unrelated but Marina Diamandis has such good music (I saw that she posted the post someone quoted. Also, if you don’t like her songs that’s fine with me. I’m not here to start drama, just stating my opinion 😊)
It's sad that people with certain interesting and considered by some entertaining mental health issues may choose not to seek help for fear of becoming a modern day circus freak as part of some questionably intentioned clinician's pet project. Multiple personality disorder, for example.
However, George pointed out that accessibility is more than just having access to support: it’s about making mental health relatable, engaging, and even fun.
“Just like we go to the gym and try to stay healthy for our bodies, why not do the same for our minds? And thankfully, there are plenty of ways to take care of our mental health that don't involve breaking a sweat,” the founder of ‘How Mental’ told us via email.
Bored Panda was interested in getting George’s take on what can be done to raise awareness about mental health. He told us that everything starts by understanding and advocating for your own mental health.
“We all have a mind and everything around us (and inside us!) affects our wellbeing. Don't make this cause about other people just because they have a diagnosable condition. Everyone has their own unique 'mental condition,’ so start with you! What do you need for your wellbeing from your school, work, or government?”
I’ve been half-asleep since I got here. Anything before noon is too early for me to respond both quickly and accurately.
This is so hard to change. I am not my best friend; I am my harshest critic. If I am so hard on myself, maybe others won't be? I really am working more on being gentle with myself, but forcing it seems fake and then I critique that. 🤷🏻♀️
“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
He also suggested finding some humor in the topic as a whole. “Mental health, like anything else, can be pretty dark at times. We need to find the levity in it. Humor allows us to process difficult things. Yes, life can be tragic, but it's also pretty funny when we take a step back and that's equally valid.”
On top of that, George urged everyone to continuously take care of themselves and the people around them. “Put the effort in to ask people how they're doing and really mean it, community is an invaluable resource for ourselves and everyone else. And, when it comes to you, check in and take care of yourself every day, don't wait for things to get bad! We actually have an app called 'How Are We' that helps with tracking our feelings and taking care of our wellbeing together.”
According to the founder of ‘How Mental,’ some people still consider mental health issues taboo out of fear. “People think they might actually be 'crazy' or have the propensity to 'go crazy'. They're scared that they might have lost grip or may lose grip on reality so they prefer to shun it. People also prefer to present an air of strength and infallibility. That they could never be weak or vulnerable. It's an unhelpful kind of 'survival' mechanism, a kind of 'posturing,'” he explained to Bored Panda.
“The truth is, we are vulnerable, we all question our reality, we are all constantly changing our minds. In fact, it's healthy to do that. People stuck in a certain frame of mind may be more likely to suffer mentally,” he said.
And if you insist you must, at least be at a safe distance!
Load More Replies...I love my folks. But if I had known that my grandmother's occasional wellness retreats were to a psychiatric facility to treat bipolar disorder, and that my mom's glossed over year long nervous breakdown when I was born was evidence of same... well I wouldn't have been prescribed Mefloquin as a malaria prophylactic while travelling which resulted in a psychotic episode that almost killed me and a diagnosis of: bipolar disorder. No resentment, it just would have been nice to know...
Exactly. It would have been nice to know instead of everything being hush hush.
Load More Replies...when I told my mom that my Doc. said I have a fear of abandonment and I think it might have to something to do with my dad working as an off shore driller. She said, no that was me. I was a young mother and had to leave you with people for weeks at a time so I could get my stuff together.
When I was about 30, my mother snapped at me "You've never really grown up." Well. Mom, who was in charge of me when that wasn't happening?
My dad was bipolar and an emotional blackmailer, my mum a doormat - I was so glad he died when she was still young and it enough to have her own life afterwards. But regrettably I see doormatism in myself ... Delighted to be raising a strong young woman who isn't afraid to stand up for herself!
I had great parents from the "meet your needs" standpoint. But, I suffer from intimacy issues because I rarely saw or experienced affection from my parents. I don't blame them though. My mom grew up in the Bronx back in the 50s and 60s with an Irish immigrant parent. The stories she has told...
Mom literally tries to joke that I talk about her to therapist and then further probes me to give hints that I did 🥴
I brought up quite a few things that my mom did and I'm lucky enough she is very aware of the fact that she should not have had kids
Okay I take longer than 4 minutes to shower but this is how I feel about showering even though I love showering.
Then the next store i cant find my card because i was feeling pressured to " finish up and get out of the way"
Load More Replies...People who would put the coins on top of the folding money which makes it more fiddly to put the money away. Contactless is still such a relief.
I always ask for the coins first. The way cashiers just heap everything together in a "boat" is rude. Remember the days when the cashiers actually "counted out" your change- coins first?
Load More Replies...I refuse to do this. Regardless of whether I’m working or shopping. I got all damn day. It’s not gonna kill the rest of the people waiting in line to wait a few more seconds
Why I always use debit cards. Then you have to gather your things as fast as possible so you don’t hold up the people behind you.
“Finally, people have a particular perception of those with diagnosable mental health conditions as 'ill, 2nd class citizens, not fit to work, perhaps even unable to find a partner' so people fear that... But mental conditions are just conditions. They're not life sentences for those who receive a diagnosis. They are open to change. And, in any case, they are not to be judged by others”
Meanwhile, George was kind enough to shed some light on another important question and gave some practical advice for anyone who is currently struggling with their mental health.
“Personally, I didn't see depression coming. So, my first piece of advice would be to get real about how you feel and monitor your mental wellbeing continuously. Use 'How Are We.’ Don't wait for things to get bad!” he said.
“Having said that, if you are struggling right now: Get support. Don't wait for things to get better on their own—that may or may not happen. Take control. You have the power to get what you need. If you need to talk to a friend about what's going on: Call them. If you think a diagnosis might be helpful: Reach out to a doctor. And, if you're not sure what you need, that's OK too!”
Have you read anything regarding empaths? Some people will say it's mumbo jumbo, but you might find it interesting.
Load More Replies...When a politician says "don't you worry about that", one politician is famous for it, he's talking to himself, not to you.
Oh this is so true. Like yeah, they love me - I get good grades, I'm pretty good at my hobbies, that's good. Oh, no, they definitely hate me - I'm recovering from sh and attempts, I have a pretty bad ed, my mental health is absolutely terrible, I have no friends and wow audhd on top of that, how great!
I am sorry things are so difficult right now. Please know there are people who genuinely care and want the best for you. You are incredibly strong (Managing good grades and hobbies while conquering everything else you are facing definitely qualifies as strong.) and I applaud your successes. Hugs from a proud-of-you Panda. 🤗
Load More Replies...As a writer I tend to give my characters more angstier backstories when I like them…so idk if that means anything or not
Me trying to decide what to do to my characters: Hm. Let’s see.. bad upbringing… got betrayed multiple times… friends are being mind controlled by evil dude right now..: let’s have her love interest get an injury! - I don’t think I like her…
I try to keep the parts of myself that hate me away from the parts who haven't made up their minds yet.
I have good news and bad news. It is. This person is you. I am sure there are plenty reasons to like you. So you should defintely like you
I worried to much about all the mistakes in the past until I realized if I went back and fixed them I might now have the kids I love so much. So F- the past, but I still carry all the guilt. That's why god made whiskey
Right before I had back surgery at age 71, the doctor told me "I'm not going to make you 18 again." And he was a man of his word.
George pointed out that ‘How Mental’ has lots of ideas for how to care for your mind on their social media accounts, as well as their website. Anyone can go take a peek. “Discover what's out there and get to know yourself. Simple questions like asking yourself, 'How are you feeling?', 'what do you want right now?', then 'Why do you want that?' and 'How can you help yourself?' Remember you don't have to do this alone, if you're scared at any point in your journey, reach out for help. We are a global community of human beings. There are people who care out there, I promise,” the founder gave some great advice.
We were also curious to get George’s take on when it’s best for someone to reach out to a mental health professional for help. “If you're not feeling like yourself and finding that you're unable to help yourself feel better in a real, sustained way: Reach out to a therapist. They're basically like a friend who is super clued up on how the mind works, with whom you don't have to feel guilty for just talking about yourself and saying how you really feel the whole time,” he said, stressing the fact that therapy isn’t just for the times when things get really bad.
“Think of it as a space to reflect on your life with the help of someone else. I mean, who doesn't want that? And if you don't want it because you're scared of what might come out, it's probably just what you need! Start by learning about the different types of therapy that are out there. Then, once you're more aware, if you feel a pull towards one of them, go for it! Finding the right kind of therapy and the right therapist is essential to making progress.”
Oh dear. Had three of those yesterday. One was choosing a paint colour.
Load More Replies...More like, be anxious for the next problem that will pop up when you're finally happy.
This is me. But let me encourage anyone who is going through this...it gets easier. It won't define you forever. You are just beginning to discover how beautiful you are free and unburdened. You really can, and will, be truly happy. You can, and will, make meaningful relationships. You can, and will, learn to love yourself the way you need to. Never give up.
If that's true for you, that's lovely. But for some people it does define them or shape their beliefs, thoughts or behaviour - who and how they are in the world. If so, I'd like to hope they can find acceptance and peace as they are. You can be wounded and traumatised but you have as much right to be here as anyone else. A life is a life.
Load More Replies...Ah, that feeling when you think of a specific person when reading this.
Was having an argument in public with an ex and I was bawling my eyes out. Didn’t have any tissues so was wiping my tears on my sweater. A random stranger sitting nearby randomly offered me some tissues and I immediately started crying even harder at how kind this random stranger was to me (while my ex was just screaming at me the whole time, not helping at all). It’s forever going to be some random act of kindness I’ll remember.
I feel so bad for you I’m glad that you are out of that relationship that stranger is an amazing human 😊
Load More Replies...my ex was having a bad day and I got a box from the back room to give to her, she asked what it was and I told her it's my emergency chocolate I keep around for when you need it. Then she started crying.
100%. Fortunately my partner is the non-huggy type so I can pretend to be brave.
Like being inside a canvas tent in heavy rain: one touch and you can't stop the torrent.
I remember right before a show ( i'm in a theatre group) I was having a panic attack. One of the assistant directors noticed and held my hands. She sat down with me, got my water bottle and talked with me to keep me grounded. After about a year, it happened. Luckily, she still knew what to do and came to help. I will forever be grateful for that. I am currently making a small gift for her to say thank you. A month before the show, I was struggling with sh and anxiety. She only realized when I started not socializing with anyone. I don't think she actually knew what was going on, but she literally saved my life multiple times. She will always be my hero.
There’s a song in French that goes ‘Don’t start shaking me, because I’m full of tears ‘, and I can often relate to that feeling
However, George pointed out that all of this is easier said than done. After all, therapy isn’t financially accessible to everyone. “But in the case you're reaching out to publicly funded mental health support, it's even more important you reach out sooner rather than later so you can get on their waiting list as soon as possible,” he said.
“How Mental is only a small charity but we do a lot of work to help millions of people around the world take care of their mind! If you want to donate or support our work, please go to our site and connect with us via our Contact form! We're also running free events called 'Mental Space' for Students, Educators, Parents/Carers, and Health/Social Workers as part of our mission to improve wellbeing for generations to come. So, if that's right for you, come on down! And share the events with anyone else they might help.”
This. My parents taught me how to be a good liar and be defesive all the time. Got to a point where i would lie just bec i could or it's more convenient to do so. Took years to unlearn this
My parents get mad at me for lying on the spot, but they don't realize that I have a dead mom, trauma, anxiety, depression, I'm a closeted homosexual, and that I was taught to instantly think of a lie for every situation.
Load More Replies...Oh yes. Or when you know why is coming home just by the keys are put into the lock. Or you know when the elevator door opens, which of your parent is coming home, and act on the point. Take your book out and read get some old notes out so it's appears that you were actually writing a lot. Or if you were eating , stop immediately and go to your room, of course before they get into the apartment.
One of the most abusive parents is the one who only wants to be a friend, not a parent
This doesn't sound like a strict parent. Sounds like an emotionally abusive parent. They aren't the same. My parents were more strict than average, but none of this happened to me because they weren't a******s.
I would add that there are non-strict abusive parents who could have this exact same effect on kids. I think strictness and emotional abuse are not connected.
Load More Replies...This might be true on some people, but I don't see how this is universal. Therapist said "always". Almost all people are empathetic. And unfortunately, there is an epidemic of people not having self-respect. But some people with that combination still won't put up with being mistreated, regardless.
F*ck. Well, looks like someone has to sit alone for a bit and process this........it's me. Someone is me.
Lol I have a test on quadratic equations in two days and I still don't understand it.
or find a way to teach kids that the way you treat people now may come back to haunt you.....
Nobody really loves themselves though, right? I mean, that's narcissism. We all hate ourselves, surely.
Self love is not the same as self-aggrandizement, thinking you're exempt from social norms/rules, or that you should receive special treatment for no discernable reason.
Load More Replies...Teenagers are angsty by definition. I didn’t learn to love myself/stop giving a s**t what other people thought, until I was in my forties. Chemo just reinforced it
When I was in high school, many of the people who loved themselves really shouldn't have.
If I hadn’t had the opportunity to crush maths exams that were intended for kids older than me, I would have had even less love for myself.
Burnout, chronic exhaustion, depression, anxiety, phobias—these are issues that many people deal with in their lives. And though awareness of mental health issues is definitely increasing these days, for some people, it’s still a taboo topic. Opening up about struggles, going to therapy, and talking about self-care is still something that some folks avoid doing because they see it as a sign of ‘weakness.’
It’s because the topic is still taboo for some that projects like ‘How Mental’ are so important. They bring the discussion about mental health to people’s social media feeds. They also add a comedic but relatable twist when they choose to tackle these issues in the form of memes. That way, the message ends up reaching more people.
Therapy should not be seen as something taboo or shameful. It’s important to recognize that seeking a mental health professional’s advice is not a sign that you’re ‘weak.’ Everyone, no matter how tough they are, needs support from time to time. As we’ve covered on Bored Panda recently, for instance, people with phobias need to reach out to a mental health professional if their fear becomes so intense that it causes anxiety and panic attacks.
Rorschach test, projective method of psychological testing in which a person is asked to describe what he or she sees in 10 inkblots, of which some are black or gray and others have patches of colour. The test was introduced in 1921 by Swiss psychiatrist Hermann Rorschach. https://www.britannica.com/science/Rorschach-Test
Load More Replies...All I ever see is a blob of ink when they show me an ink blot 🤷
Yes. I did one 30 years ago. I had the pleasure of seeing the psychologist snatch the ink blot back from me and stare at it saying "well I suppose so" after I gave an answer that wasn't in the textbooks.
Load More Replies...I'm good at anxiety in the way McDonalds are good at haute cuisine. Yeah I've got loads of it but none of it is any good.
Yk what I'm willing to give it for free. Who wants it??
Umm, I'm good, thanks but no thanks. I already have some
Load More Replies...I googled it. No luck. All the results are about overcoming the fear of selling stuff.
Seriously, such a rip-off. Anyone know how to get a refund?
Who else just wants to help others and not themselves? Like you put others first before you
Professionals who specialize in anxiety disorders, for example, can offer a wide range of treatments for their patients, whether that’s cognitive-behavioral therapy, exposure therapy, or even medication.
The important thing here is to recognize that these professionals will not judge you for your struggles: they have a lot of experience, they’ve seen it all, and they’ll be very empathetic.
I’m confused, you can’t just make a personality… your personality is who you are. Changed behaviors or etiquette would be more accurate, right? (Please don’t downvote. Just answer me. I am dumb and would like to understand.)
It doesn’t last, but it’s like you’re playing a role, like an actor.
Load More Replies...Trainingfortheballetpotteh, I am sure you are adorable. 😘
Load More Replies...I didn't really attach to the damaged/adorable part...my brain latched to "reusable." Oof...
However, at the same time, it’s pretty critical to understand that not every therapist is going to be a good fit for every patient, and vice versa. Sometimes, their personalities or backgrounds simply aren’t a good match. That’s why patients should never feel guilty about asking to see another specialist if they feel like their needs aren’t being met.
And of all else fails then there's the magical replay button in my brain that will find every past instance of hurt feelings...
The convenient thing about hurting my own feelings is that I know exactly where my most vulnerable spots are.
No no no - we're not overthinkers! It's the other people who don't seem to think much.
Um, if your mental health is affecting your physical health, I’d don’t think you need to pretend as if you’re sick; you ARE sick. Do as this post suggests and heal yourself up as best you can!
I get where you're coming from but a lot of us with mental illness deal with some form of derealisation, so there's scenery that needs to be set for the method to have a chance of success. In this, the implication is even though you're tackling your mental illness, it does seep into your physicality. The thing is, part of you thinks "this is silly, nobody buys that" or something like that. So you almost have to trick yourself into getting out of the toxicity. "I'm going to pretend I am sick" and then going through rest and healing because you actually ARE sick. But because you're constantly in a tug of war with an arsehole in your head, it's almost like you're constantly trying to "gotcha" said arsehole, because that arsehole lives in your brain, which is also where the plan - resting as if sick - came from. I'm really stoned but this makes sense to me and is also my personal experience. Long story short you have to actively remove the power from the negativity in your head.
Load More Replies...Clearly the therapist hasn't worked a day in the corporate world in their life.
That was the first thought that entered my mind too! Like, which employer would give you at least a day off for self-care? Preposterous, unfortunately...
Load More Replies...I recently got really physically sick. Lots of doctors. Work ups all negative. I decided it was from toxic stress. I stopped working Mondays. Now on that day I go for a walk in nature, get a massage, take a nap, and read all day. I'm starting to feel much better. My whole body was hurting from constantly being tense with anxiety. I was sleeping non-stop. Zero energy. Headaches. This has helped so much.
Not as easy when you're a caregiver. I appreciate the advice but sometimes it's just not possible.
Not the best advice. I stay laying on sofa all day I'm stuck in the cycle now
Damn I got distracted and missed the line. Okay let's rewind. Argh I did it again. Just stop and listen this time. Rewind.
The only bad parts of songs for me aren’t hurtful but the ones that make me think.. interesting thoughts 😭 I hate my mind
I'n having a really bad morning, and this just wrecks me: Long lay the world in sin and error pining/ 'Til He appears and the soul felt its worth/ A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices/ For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn
I'll always remember the night my then-boyfriend spent sitting on my floor, crying, playing the same song over and over and over and I couldn't do anything to help 😢
helena by my chem for me. the so long and goodnight part makes me cry
🎶 "I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does" 🎶
Of course, this doesn’t mean that a therapist should mollycoddle their patients. A huge part of their jobs is helping others see their lives from different perspectives. This involves looking at both subtle and harsh truths, as well as dealing with lots of uncomfortable emotions.
Therapy does not mean telling a patient how wonderful they are all the time. It’s about helping them solve their issues and improving their quality of life by giving them the emotional tools to handle tough situations.
Aside from therapy, self-care is all about nurturing relationships, eating well, getting plenty of exercise, as well as spending time away from tech and out in nature. On top of that, what really helps is if you find purpose in what you do, whether that's your job, a fun hobby, or volunteering.
How do you ensure that you take care of your mental health, Pandas? Which of these memes did you resonate with the most? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.
Avoid involuntary hospitalisation. Get yourself hospitalised volunterily, it'll change your life.
Therapists are like the internet. Some things can get buried, and other things can go viral. And it’s almost always the option you don’t want.
Couldn't trust enough during inpatient stay for small bowel obstruction. Every ptsd and white coat phobia is now magnified dramatically and leavened with the fiercest shame ever heaped on me since Navy style potty training before age 15 months. I may not trust any medical person again even those I worked with for years. Somewhere near you I promise an older person, human but inconvenient now, is left to lie in her own diarrhea and nobody answers the call button. Insurance was looted. Then I was sent home. Too weak to do what I believe is my natural right, to sail beyond the sunset, at the time I determine is the last reasonable moment. They will make me live screaming in pain and humiliation, a burden I can see is far too great for those who feel obligated to emergency midnight laundry. To fetch me something that might stay down before the tide turns. To hate me because I need the care instead of being the caregiver.
So true the world could be on fire and my husband would just keep calmly snacking and watch it burn.
When I get home after being away longer than a day, obeying the cat's request first is granted. She has the right to command me to where she'd like me to be then, and I happily follow her orders because she knows best anyway. So, basically, I always plan that we'd play Butterfly (a cloth butterfly attached to a stick via rubber rope), and that I'd give her a treat, like Crème de poisson or so, and then, basically, hang out on the bed for 1...2 hours, where I pet her, and she falls asleep, and I, too, and then we wake up and continue loving each other. She's so nice, has such a perfect fur, ... nice, lovely cat, she is ...
Exactly. Seasoned to the max. With EXTRA salt. That’s how I like my food, not my life 😭
SAD. On top of everything else. The psyc. wants to give me more meds. He says it's not safe to give me more meds. Life is two much to deal with.
Yes. I had an anxiety attack over going to the gas station up the street
Or you could just be like me and fall asleep the couch every night, then wake up at 4am and stumble to your bed like a zombie.
I used to do that but when I went to bed I wouldn't be able to go back to sleep
Load More Replies...I basically learnt to go to sleep by fantasizing, kind of "day-dreaming". Started as a teen, when I still had to go to bed far too early and of course couldn't sleep. Through the fantasies at least I could pass the time being awake pleasantly. Over the years, my body "learnt" that daydreaming meant: time to sleep :D
or you have to -pretend- to- be really wasted, then you passout to sleep. smart
I did that almost every day when commuting by train. Especially when they came to check on tickets, practically just about where I'd fall asleep for the additional 30 minutes this allowed me (if you do that five times a week, or don't, also five times, at the end of the week you should see and feel a difference, one that's worth the sleep). They knew me and my student ticket anyway, as I did this daily, so I always pretended to be asleep already if I wasn't, or I was already anyway. Most of the conductors got that and left me sleeping, but one guy insisted to wake me up every day, by whatever means it takes (of course, I pretended to be still asleep, in order to be remembered as hard to wake up and in ownership of a valid ticket), and that dude looked like a prototype postpunk ... peroxide blonde, a worn-down leather jacket, a collection of hooks and straps and other textile connecterians, quite the opposite of the stiff german official living by the very letter of the law. But, by looks only. He on shift every morning meant that I'd be lacking about two accumulated hours of sleep by friday.
Dude looks a bit like if Elon musk got average persons icome this month
Poor them. It has to feel really bad before most adults will do that.
My son's dad kept telling me I needed counseling. I told him I absolutely knew I needed counseling but I wasn't the only one. Then I told him that crazy people don't know they're crazy and I know I'm crazy, but he's the one that keeps denying things. His response to that was "don't play those word games with me" I was like "what? sentences?"
"Insanity is hereditary. It's caused by children."
Load More Replies...Keep doing that. When you can recycle your experience to support someone else and save them pain, you give it value.
Eh, I understand it rationally and scientifically. I know what SHOULD be done. I think of it as excessive compartmentalizing. I have just compartmentalized that knowledge away from my actions.
Who tf should be texting them mental health advice? Neuro-frickin-typicals? 🤮
I don’t know why this was downvoted. You’re just strongly opinionated. Nothing wrong with neurotypicals, but downvotes can ban people. :(
Load More Replies...Maybe if you're under 35ish. The most frightening and at the same time freeing thing about middle age is realising no one probably even notices.
If you need proof of these silent lovers, I am one of them. Comment if you are too.😎
I am, but I am learning to be less silent. If I notice something about someone, I try to discreetly let them know. Whether it is a sweater the person is wearing, the way they are interacting with their children, or some kind action they did for someone else, I try to quietly compliment them. If it is a child, I let them overhear me telling their caregiver. It may make all the difference to them.
Load More Replies...Twitter. 280 letters max. Look at the context before being condescending.
Load More Replies...Tip from an older person: if you can hear a 'should' in your self-talk, it's someone else's goal, not something you genuinely want right now.
One of the reasons I stopped going on Tumblr is because the so-called socialists on there developed a massive hard-on for the concept that people who are struggling are lazy.
Someone send this to my friend so he doesn't know that I know he does this.
I was on medication that did that. Thought, for a while, I had cavities in all my teeth because it hurt so much.
Sent the muscle up the side of my face into spasms by clenching my teeth. Twelve aspirin a day every day for 30 years. Forty good-for-nothing doctors over those 30 years just blew off my headaches. Finally got rid of the headaches when I didn't have to work anymore.
Yes, if you change it to "loves people but hates their friends". Only a friend can stab you in the back.
Me except I don't get panic attacks. Instead xan it be really happy but really sad??
We hug a snake because that’s the only pet with me right now. He’s a little cold and likes to slither down my shirt but it’s ok.
Not a dog- just a big cat but I will give free hugs to whoever wants them
THIS. Never underestimate our ability for violence...but we don't want it. We just want peace.
We are very good at violence. We just choose not to express it outwardly. Because we are civilized.
To be fair, I did ghost my dad out of spite. Keep making excuses for why you're too busy to meet you new granddaughter who you "love so much" and find out what happens.
Maybe you're an introvert who has been hurt. Or maybe you're a passive-aggressive d**k. Or maybe you're a self-centered a$$hole who doesn't want to listen to somebody else's problems. or maybe you're all three. Because everybody who ghosts has this excuse, and everybody who has been ghosted complains that it happened because they wanted to get support instead of to provide support.
My narcissistic ex. Physically and emotionally abusive. Drove me to the point of hating my life and wanting to end it. Years of both emotional and physical trauma. And I definitely know he’s going to end up seriously hurting someone in the future. He knows he has narcissistic personality disorder. But doesn’t think he needs therapy. Wouldn’t even hear of it.
tbf i didn't ask for tasks either let alone skin. this whole deal is not in my favour bro
No, I just realised I could totally coast and school all these fools, until I reached the crossover point where you needed to work hard to be the best, but had never learnt how to do so.
Is that what happens? I thought maybe I got lead poisoning or it was my toxic family.
Load More Replies...my dog gets all excited and wants to play when i'm singing. i'm usually singing when i'm happy. I'm usually happy when i'm going well in my video games. my dog getting excited makes me laugh which stops the singing. but I get it. I totally agree
I start doing what I refer to as Comedy Rants. Don't know where it comes from but thank heaven when it does.
I put the dormant assshole part of me in charge of this and it got easier
Load More Replies...I just choose when I can and try to not make it worse when I can't.... after awhile the currents shifted a bit and sometimes bridge the gap now. There is NO SUCH THING as full choice *or* full no-choice, I try to keep aware of the alignment of the currents
Load More Replies...If this happened, my brain would just keep going "....but what if they're lying"
Life didn't change for me. Although I did notice when things opened up nobody was still out there singing songs for me, or checking in on how I was, or opening their digital back-catalogue for free to help me get through it. It's almost like society says it cares, but really f*****g doesn't.
Y’all weren’t aware of the distinction between “bad” and “really f*****g bad”?
I hate when people text me "hey call me when u get a chance" when they know I will not do this and then I get to feel guilty about it. My mother just did this yesterday and she knows I have problems with phone calls....no respect..
Calling is so 90s. Emailing is so 00s. If you can't text in the 2020s, you don't deserve to get communication lol
You're assuming I've always got credit on my phone to reply. Jokes on you. My phone exists solely as a way to carry my internet around the house.
Load More Replies...Yep, calling is so old-fashioned. In fact, the only person I willingly call is my Mom. Other than that, bruh, e-mails or texts are the only way to go.
My sister.😂 While me, as a recovering rebel with depression, is now going through my "peaceful and mild country peasant" phase.
just get to be old - I remember when I could stay up past 9pm. I remember when I could eat after 3pm and not have dreadful heartburn all night.
At 69yrs I wish I could feel sleepy at 3AM. Since I'm don't, I have a hamburger. Thankfully I have the digestive system of a teenager.
Load More Replies...A frontal lobotomy has been known to do it. But I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy
I do it and I’m not even old enough to do drugs
Load More Replies...It's called a "smart watch". It insists that I take more than a hundred steps a day.
Load More Replies...The bright side is that my best friends became apparent when they made efforts to understand
Load More Replies...And that's why I spend my time being the person who will give it back
So now I guess that volunteering is a "toxic trait". Sorry, but this looks like somebody'd excuse for not doing anything for anybody. Too many people claim "I always help everybody but nobody helps me", for it to be possible.
Since the post is about mental health this is about toxic relationships where one partner gives everything, chases etc but doesn't get the same back from their partner. Be happy that you misunderstood and never had to go through the fight for a tiny amount of self worth.
Load More Replies...Like that time my boss asked how I was doing and I unloaded two decades of pain and trauma on them. Surprisingly, they still asked how I was doing afterwards from time to time lol
My boss asked me last week if I was ok. I said "nope but if I keep talking I will start crying" she just said "you know where I am if you need me"
Load More Replies...Ohhh nope nope nope. If you’re chronically ill, you get to hear nonstop about what a burden you are on society. If you get a short term illness, you better not live in a country with inadequate sick days and/or work somewhere where the boss acts like you killed their mother if you call in sick. All sick people are despised.
Not in my family. We baby our sick people Do you need to move closer?
Load More Replies...I feel this. People be like "Your teens and twenties will be the best years of your life" No sir. The best years will be the years I am actually happy after doing therapy through my teens and twenties.
Ask anyone over 40 and most will tell you they wouldn't choose to be in their teens or twenties again. I wouldn't.
I lived in a toxic family for most of my life and had not left the house for the previous eight years. I went to my Mom and told her I was so depressed I felt like suicide. She looked me in the eyes and said, "How will it reflect on me, as a Mother, if my son commits suicide"? Ah, a Mothers' love.
This the same thing unfortunately, I've been on the receiving end too.
Load More Replies...I love solipsists. Take nothing for granted. Question everything.
Load More Replies...Depression kills plans for the future. But it's okay, because they will come back as you heal. Trust me.
Guh. Reading some of these things makes me think I’m surrounded by people in all manner of pain. Good grief. Now I’m gonna whine to BP. Hey, BP:What’s with all the bad mental health posts? Can’t you give us collections of happy things more often? I suggest a ratio of one sad article for every five happy ones. Contribute to the solution, not the problem. Thanks! (Sorry; I gather I’m not so hot at this whining stuff.)
Huh. I'm reading these thinking "I feel so seen! Someone put it into words and I'm not alone! So uplifting."
Load More Replies...From Spongebob? It looks like the Krusty Krab.
Load More Replies...The problem with this kind of thread is that it tends to attract the 'be positive' / 'you can fix yourself if you want to' comments that can be really unhelpful for people who might feel validated by some of these posts.
I try to indicate that they don't know WTF they are talking about
Load More Replies...I’ve been really down lately yet again and it’s nice to not feel alone. Thanks, all :)
The problem with this kind of thread is that it tends to attract the 'be positive' / 'you can fix yourself if you want to' comments that can be really unhelpful for people who might feel validated by some of these posts.
I try to indicate that they don't know WTF they are talking about
Load More Replies...I’ve been really down lately yet again and it’s nice to not feel alone. Thanks, all :)
