30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them “The Ick” About Women

Anyone who has been even tangentially interested in dating content online has no doubt come across the idea of an “ick” as well as “red flags.” For those who are unfamiliar, both of these are things people dislike and aim to avoid when dating. This can range from personal preferences to behavior one should absolutely avoid.

Someone asked “Men/boys what are your biggest icks or turn-offs in women/girls?” and males shared their thoughts. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and be sure to share your own thoughts in the comments section below.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Absurd caterpillar eyelashes. Absurdly gross long finger nails.

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

Yes, what a turnoff.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I recently visited Santorini. One evening, I had dinner at a place overlooking a very popular spot with an amazing view of the island and the water. I lost count of how many Insta girls dragged their dead-eyed boyfriends there and proceeded to cycle through two dozen look-at-me poses while whining photo instructions. Treating people in your life like props or unpaid crew just so you can appear glamorous on social media is a major ick.

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282points

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keyboardtek 8 months ago

Everyone carrying a camera around all the time and their need for attention on social media has created a pathological narcissistic world.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Treating people like servers, bartenders or cashiers like complete garbage is a huge red flag and it shows what type of person they really are.

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Final score:

270points

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 8 months ago

This works both ways, of course, not just 'women icks'

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The options these men shared cover a pretty wide range of possible issues. What a woman’s voice sounds like is closer to an ick. After all, everyone has their own preferences, there isn’t exactly an “objective” superior vocal tone. However, a few of the men here seem to have misunderstood the assignment.

After all, a partner who suddenly ghosts you because she feels like it sounds like a nightmare for the vast majority of people. This is less an ick, and more a major behavioral issue. Oftentimes, icks are superficial, physical traits, although those can still bring forth pretty sizable emotions.

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women My big three: Materialism. Sincere belief in Astrology. Kardashian worship.

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269points

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TheAmericanAmerican 8 months ago

100%

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they say s**t like “if he’s under 6 foot or makes less than 100k a year I’m not interested.”

Ironically I am 6’2 and make over that, it’s not about feeling secure it’s just about being annoyed by idiocy.

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253points

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Doctor Strange 8 months ago

You are not an amusement park ride, you don't need a "you must be this tall" sign

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I am a simple man, but botox lips is an instant turn of.

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248points

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Bilja M 8 months ago

You mean filler in lips? I don't think they put botox in lips.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Racism. Had a girl call a group of black kids the nword because they very slightly delayed us. Like literally they were just walking across the crosswalk.

Never went from 100% to 0 that fast. She was so confused why I didn't want to stay the night with her.

Ds0990 , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

Final score:

241points

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

Racism is below the lowest of the low. I'd keep far away from any racists, men or women. It's just evil. It's not even zero interest, but -100 interest.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When every other word that comes out of her mouth is "like". Drives me crazy.

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219points

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Angela B 8 months ago

As a female, this drives me nuts as well.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Phone addiction.

Doc911:
Phone addiction which too often is just social media addiction. The worse of this addiction results in "phubbing."

If she's already on the phone all the time with insta/texts/messages, you already feel like you're never alone with her. Your time together is always shared. If on top of that she's on the phone for social reasons when you are specifically trying to spend time together ... rude, lack of respect, and a clear sign whatever is on that phone is more important than you are. Most women wouldn't tolerate it, men should not either.

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Final score:

170points

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Tobias Reaper 8 months ago

i had a friend like this i am guy but we were just mates we used to grab a coffee or lunch together but she would always be texting on her phone when we hung out i started to not enjoy being around her its fine to answer a text but to be on the phone the whole time and not be present i cant help but feel like i must be boring

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I hate this trend where women are getting work done surgery/botox/filler to try an achieve that ig/tiktok influencer look. IT LOOKS SO FAKE AND UNNATURAL. Not to mention everyone just look f****n homogenous so no one stands out with whatever unique beauty they might’ve had.

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169points

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Angela B 8 months ago

Clones with long straight hair, centre-part, duck face with caterpillar eyelashes and artifical mammaries is a thing. It's a bleugh thing.

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#11

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When their dating profile is a list of qualities they want in a man, but doesn't say anything about what they're like or what they bring to a relationship.

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Final score:

160points

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Dirk Daring 7 months ago

When their entire profile is "Just ask." No thank you. You couldn't be bothered to find one interesting thing to say about yourself, and that tells me all I need to know. Bye.

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#12

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Baby voice outside of talking to a baby or animal.

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152points

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Caroline Nagel 8 months ago

Little girl or baby voice on an adult woman is cringy and irritating.

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#13

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they always portray themselves as the victim and take zero responsibility.

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151points

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

Any behaviour that you would expect from a 5 year old.

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#14

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I'm a lesbian, so I hope I can wage in here.... Obsession of TikTok and Taylor Swift. Like I like Taylor, but paying thousand of euros for tickets and acting like a psycho when someone say anything bad...no...also that TikTok gf behavior, ex.expecting people to treat her like a queen, without her doing anything to deserve that.

Look I treat my gfs like queens, but they don't act entitled to it, they also deserve it.

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Final score:

134points

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Guess Undheit 7 months ago

I have never understood wanting to know about the personal lives of musicians. It reeks of a lack of personality or fantasizing in the obsessed fan.

48points

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#15

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Caring more about their appearance on social media than their real life.

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134points

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

Caring more about their appearance than being a good person.

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#16

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Demanding emotional vulnerability and using it as a weapon after the guy's opened up. One of the worst betrayals someone can pull on a man, and if I'm talking to a woman who casually mentions a previous bf/lover and talks s**t about his vulnerabilities behind his back in conversation? I'm out, you can handle the check.

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Final score:

130points

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Papa 8 months ago (edited)

Women say they want a man to be vulnerable, but all too often they see it as weakness.

45points

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#17

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women If she’s hardcore religious or even remotely religious for that matter. I don’t want a woman who’s going to expect me to be some godly, spiritual leader of the house or relationship….

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Final score:

124points

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Lydsylou (she/her) 7 months ago

Fair enough. I'm religious but I don't think I'd want a partner who wasn't because it would make things more complicated if we believed different things. But each to their own

62points

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#18

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Only has guy “friends”. Claims other women are “too much drama”. Coincidentally is always involved in drama and loves gossip. Always talks about “haters” and “fans”. Social media bio: “Keep lurking sis 💅💋✨🧿”.

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Final score:

117points

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Enuya 8 months ago

I agree with most of it, except of "only guy friends". I have almost exclusively male friends and colleagues, because most of my hobbies are male-dominated (like, I only found 2 women interested in them in my area - one is my sister, the other one and I didn't "click"). I don't badmouth other women and/or think that I'm better than them, it's just that it's easier for mw to find male friends

60points

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#19

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Based solely on my experience? Believes in astrology. Has untreated borderline personality disorder. Stays friends with people who have hurt them. Lack of social awareness.

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114points

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Enuya 8 months ago

Interestingly, BOTH of really obsessed with astrology/being a witch people I knew were later diagnosed with borderline. It's probably a coincidence though

23points

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#20

Inability to admit to and apologize for doing rude or s****y things.

For example:

"Hey, did you eat the food I made before bed? That was my breakfast. I told you I didn't have time to cook anything before work, now I'm gonna be late."

"What makes you think that I ate it? Why are you assuming it was me?!?"

"We're the only two people living here, and you asked me about it before I went to sleep."

"Maybe you ate it and forgot!"

"No, I didn't drink last night. We had no guests over. I passed out right after putting it away, and now it's gone. I'm less upset about you eating it than I am that you're not being honest."

"FINE. EVERYTHINGS ALWAYS MY FAULT, YOU A*****E! I GUESS I WON'T EAT ANYTHING ANYMORE!" *storms away*

I've been in this type of scenario more times than I can recall. Just admit what you did and apologize, I'll forget about it in an hour. Freaking out instead of being honest just leads me to eventually breaking off the relationship.

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Final score:

112points

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Nina 8 months ago

Gaslighting is so charming...

59points

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Excessive vocal fry. Sounding like a Kardashian/Jenner is the opposite of attractive.

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105points

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Trillian 8 months ago

I never knew what that was until a couple of years ago on vacation I heard two American women talk like that. It sounded SO weird. Is that a thing in real life or just some wanna-be star thing?

30points

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#22

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Tries to force beliefs, diets, etc onto others - i don’t give a damn what you believe in, what you will or won’t eat, whatever, but if you try to convince, guilt trip, etc your beliefs/systems onto me, or another person, i don’t trust that you’re a very good person.

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99points

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Iseabail Munro 7 months ago

I have a bunch of beliefs, values and been veggie for 20+ yrs and even I hate when people try and push s**t on others. These are my choices and I made them myself, you can't make them for others. I cook meat for my husband, I'll answer questions he has about my faith but always allow the topic to come up naturally and vice versa. You should never get together with someone with the intent to change them, choose them because they're right for you not because you can make them right for you.

22points

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#23

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women If they never initiate.

I don’t mean sex. I mean if the only time we talk or get together is if *I* make the first move.

I get enough of that with my friends, and I hate feeling like I gotta micromanage my relationships because I’ll just be left behind again if I let someone else take the lead.

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Final score:

98points

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Shark Lady 7 months ago

I would want to initiate but there is only so much rejection you can take before you start retreating back into yourself. Now I think it's best if I don't put myself out there because I don't want to have to build myself back up yet again.

30points

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women The ones who think they need to cut down every other female they see. It's repulsive.

No, Karen. I didn't notice the top that woman was wearing until you pointed it out, but even now that I have, it's still not as tacky as the sewage you keep spewing from your mouth.

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91points

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Rachel Pelz 8 months ago

I'm confused. Does he mean he doesn't like Karen or he doesn't women criticising Karen?

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#25

Women that think it's cute to be a near non-functioning adult. My ex loved to rely on me/others for like everything, almost took pride in having no idea how to use public transport of find her way around.

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90points

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TheAmericanAmerican 8 months ago

Gross.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women The silent treatment. It’s passive aggressive, manipulative, whack b******t.

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85points

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Pheebs 7 months ago

I do this sometimes, but usually it’s so what comes out of my mouth is reasonable, and not a ticked off scream. Plus, if the person you’re mad at doesn’t f’ing listen when you tell them why, then it kind of becomes pointless to try to explain it.

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#27

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When a woman doesn’t hold herself to the same standard that she holds her man. Not to say that the roles and responsibilities of each party need to be exactly the same in any given relationship, but it’s the worst when a woman acts a certain way/has a certain attitude but gets upset when the man acts that way as well.

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Final score:

84points

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Kate Jones 7 months ago

The mean mommy problem. Some women feel like they need to be your mom instead of your partner. But sometimes that's triggered by a guy acting like a child. Either way...it's horrible.

15points

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Rude and demeaning attitudes. Like aggressively rude or demeaning. That ends it for me.

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73points

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keyboardtek 8 months ago

Snarky comments and snide remarks about other people behind their backs. Always feeling superior to other people.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they don’t know how to have a conversation unless it’s talking bad about someone.

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69points

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THE COOL ZACH 7 months ago

That’s just sad.

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#30

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women No reciprocation of efforts.

u/AyybrahamLmaocoln:
If you don’t let me know in some way that you’re feeling me after I’ve made it clear I’m feeling you, then I stop pursuing. It happens a good amount, and a week later they’ll ask why I stopped trying to spend time with them.

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Final score:

60points

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TheAmericanAmerican 8 months ago

We men are simple creatures. We don't like the "mind games" much. We like direct communication.

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Dan 8 months ago

The way that some girls/women end every sentence with a question mark is annoying?

21points

Doctor Strange 8 months ago

Treating me like a backup option. I went out with a girl one time, it did not go great for various reasons. It was over when she told me her dream was to get a job in a certain field, but on the other side of the country from me. I had already told her, before we even went on that date, that I wasn't looking to move out of my general area, because my last long term relationship ended precisely because she took a job on the other side of the country. So it ended, I, gently, let her know I wasn't interested in a second date. We parted ways. Then a few weeks later she reaches out to me again, wanting a second date, because she couldn't get her dream job, and all the other guys she had gone out with were losers. I said no. Because she wasn't asking me out because she wanted ME, she was asking me out because she couldn't get what she really wanted and so she'd settle for me. At least until something better came along.

9points

Shane S 7 months ago (edited)

Enforcing hypermasculinity. If I want to watch a RomCom, then let me. If I want to take a bubble bath, so what? Maybe my favorite color is Purple. You’re most likely going to get more fulfillment out of your relationship if you let men be who they are and not try to stick your social stereotypes on them. Insecurity and shame is what breeds insincerity and secrecy.

7points

Jayjay 8 months ago

Many of these posts can be reversed for men as well.

7points

DB 7 months ago

Being "one of the boys". If that's your nature then fine. Some guys like it. I just don't.

4points

KillerKiwi 7 months ago

Lots of these weren’t specific to women

4points

Simba 7 months ago

She contradicts herself all the time. Say something, mean something else. Yes means no means yes means no.

2points

Tobias Reaper 8 months ago

i dont get the jealousy thing my bestie who is a woman gets jealous if we are out together and there is a nice looking woman i dont know why she gets jealous we aren't a couple just friends makes no sense to me

2points

theoneandonlynoira 7 months ago

Most of these apply to both genders

1point

BarkingSquirell 7 months ago

I have to say that all of these entries are repulsive behaviour. This is why some women don't have female friends. If one is lucky, one finds a stable, enjoyable friend.

1point

DoubleDoubleTiredAndTuckered 7 months ago

You know, I’m glad they included the lesbian :D 🏳️‍🌈

1point

Happy Sunshine Panda 8 months ago

What do people have against astrology?

1point

Olu Bakare (BVKVRE) 4 months ago

When they talk about how independent they are and how much money they make in their jobs and then look at you to pay the bill. Hate that.

0points

Alphonse Louis 7 months ago (edited)

Something curious is that people can't keep reading to the end. The number of reactions is never higher than any of the previous ones, which means that people quit as the article goes on. Sad.

0points

Patricia Baltasar 7 months ago

As a Portuguese woman, I found that going to the US and speaking with most girls my age was like going to the Movie Theater and watching a teen show... I'm 40yo already...

0points

Sherryl Anne 7 months ago

Gossip, I missed seeing Gossip Talk. I truly don't care what other people are doing or saying, especially if that person has nothing to do with my life.

0points

DRMAGDN 7 months ago

I think selfishness in general is a bummer from both guys, girls and groups of people. I really dig people who have a bit of empathy these days more than the alternative.

0points

Rodney McKay 7 months ago

Big turn-off: wearing clothes that over-emphasize her breasts, as if that's what she expects to make her attractive. Bonus antipoints if she's just itching for an excuse to use the phrase "I'm up here!".Personally, I like women who wear T-shirts, and not tight ones.

-2points

Chris M 7 months ago

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Dan 8 months ago

The way that some girls/women end every sentence with a question mark is annoying?

21points

Doctor Strange 8 months ago

9points

Shane S 7 months ago (edited)

7points

Jayjay 8 months ago

Many of these posts can be reversed for men as well.

7points

DB 7 months ago

Being "one of the boys". If that's your nature then fine. Some guys like it. I just don't.

4points

KillerKiwi 7 months ago

Lots of these weren’t specific to women

4points

Simba 7 months ago

She contradicts herself all the time. Say something, mean something else. Yes means no means yes means no.

2points

Tobias Reaper 8 months ago

2points

theoneandonlynoira 7 months ago

Most of these apply to both genders

1point

BarkingSquirell 7 months ago

I have to say that all of these entries are repulsive behaviour. This is why some women don't have female friends. If one is lucky, one finds a stable, enjoyable friend.

1point

DoubleDoubleTiredAndTuckered 7 months ago

You know, I’m glad they included the lesbian :D 🏳️‍🌈

1point

Happy Sunshine Panda 8 months ago

What do people have against astrology?

1point

Olu Bakare (BVKVRE) 4 months ago

When they talk about how independent they are and how much money they make in their jobs and then look at you to pay the bill. Hate that.

0points

Alphonse Louis 7 months ago (edited)

Something curious is that people can't keep reading to the end. The number of reactions is never higher than any of the previous ones, which means that people quit as the article goes on. Sad.

0points

Patricia Baltasar 7 months ago

As a Portuguese woman, I found that going to the US and speaking with most girls my age was like going to the Movie Theater and watching a teen show... I'm 40yo already...

0points

Sherryl Anne 7 months ago

Gossip, I missed seeing Gossip Talk. I truly don't care what other people are doing or saying, especially if that person has nothing to do with my life.

0points

DRMAGDN 7 months ago

I think selfishness in general is a bummer from both guys, girls and groups of people. I really dig people who have a bit of empathy these days more than the alternative.

0points

Rodney McKay 7 months ago

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Chris M 7 months ago

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