Men Share ‘What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?’: And Here’re 40 Of The Top Answers

We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

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Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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#23

An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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#24

The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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#25

You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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#26

Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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#27

You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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#28

I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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#30

I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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#31

I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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#32

That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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#33

That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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#34

Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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#35

The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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#36

There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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#37

No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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#38

To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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#39

When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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Veronica Mars 3 years ago

Some of these are kinda gender stereotypes... Not all women wear inches of makeup or are clean freaks... Also some of these are just usual relationship things not specifically female. I know plenty of guys who use more products than me everyone has their own ways of doing things regardless of gender.

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Mimi M 3 years ago

Just came to say the same. A lot of this was not male-female, but just people stuff.

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Monday 3 years ago

Sure, but these are also experiences shared by people. A guy is allowed to say how surprised he was with the amount of makeup or that his girlfriend is super clean. We know we aren't all like that but these were posts made form personal experiences.

10points

Enea 3 years ago

True. There's things to know that are gender-specific and should be known to enhance mutual understanding, and there are really some useless stereotypes. Do you really want to state that half the world's population "have an obsession with glass jars"? And some of the statements are just maked misogyny.

4points

K O 3 years ago

#notallwomen

0points

Bella, Your Kitty-Loving Queen 3 years ago

Yeah I came to say the same thing

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Brendan 3 years ago

I must confess that, before I moved in with my wife (then- girlfriend), I thought that women wore matching bras and nickers (panties), like in the lingerie ads. But, thinking about it, I don't match my socks with my boxer shorts.

56points

Carrie Laughs 3 years ago

GASP! You don't? 😁

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Jessica Aubé 3 years ago

The generalized sexist remarks here about woman are gross .. do better bored panda .. woman do not fit in a box .. we are unique people

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K O 3 years ago

It is not sexist for people to relate their experiences in life. Try understanding the article next time

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Mimi777 3 years ago

Thank you! I don’t do or agree with half of these things.

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Bob Bobbins 3 years ago (edited)

This is from Reddit. Bored Panda is an aggregator site. They don't write their own stuff and just find things from other sites to write articles about. Either way, the content of each example was given by some random person in the Internet(in this case on Reddit), not Bored Panda.

4points

D C 8 months ago

There were plenty of generalizations about woman being wonderful and better than men. Did you have a problem with those? No?

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Kj Johnson 2 years ago

Calm down there. This wasn’t a mean jab at women. I found them hilarious and very relatable.

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Aahzmandus Pervect 3 years ago

As a man with long hair, I just laugh at all the comments about hairs everywhere, because they are usually mine. Or I just notice them because they are gray and my wife's are not. I really don't know.

15points

Grace DeGroot 3 years ago

Can’t believe nobody talked about hair getting everywhere! 😂

15points

Matt Du 3 years ago

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Sleazy Weaver 3 years ago

Aww, that's so sweet of her! Your wife is definitely a keeper. What a kind person!

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blugeagua 3 years ago

Just a reminder that just because you live with a woman that doesn't mean that's an indication of what all women do. We're still not a monolith. We're individual humans just like men are and no two women will be the same.

9points

Bob Bobbins 3 years ago

Yeah, but the thing is that most stereotypes have a basis in truth. Enough women do these things that a large number of men have noticed them on a large scale. Therefore while there are exceptions, these are true in general.

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K O 3 years ago

#notallwomen

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Marianne 3 years ago

Judging from many of these posts, there are so many women who rule that their partners do stuff "wrong" just because they do it differently. Please be considerate! Often, there is more than one good way to do something.

7points

Sleazy Weaver 3 years ago

As long as the task gets done, there's no right or wrong way. Some ways may be more efficient, but if the end result is the same it doesn't really matter how you get there! :)

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

In the articles where men are idiots everyone agrees.In articles where women do something different everyone rants about stereotypes

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Aside from the "women are all like this" implication, what about the "men apparently never know anything about women" implication? Maybe "neat freaks vs slobs", but not really gender. You should see how my hubby gets about his concert t-shirts! Forget the "good bra"! Do not touch his concert t-shirts! See? It's just people being people.

3points

Cupcake168 3 years ago (edited)

I really love this thread! I’m living on my own (is that said right when you live alone?) and I almost forgot how lovely it was sharing a home. So heartwarming, even the discussions!

3points

The Chosen One 3 years ago

All the hair-related ones are true for anyone with long hair, not just girls

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Totally legit 3 years ago

Very relatable, I've lived with men and women and there are definitely some things that differ. But preferences regarding cleaning etc are individual...

1point

will.u.b.mine 3 years ago

so...I'm gay...have a bf...I have never lived with a woman...

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Daniel Atkins 3 years ago

Did anyone else notice most of the post were about hair.

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Aahzmandus Pervect 3 years ago

No, just you

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Nerdlife 3 years ago

I enjoyed this post!!

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Amanda Simmons 9 months ago

As a wife of 20 years....yesssss I definately do all these things😁....I laughed at almost all of them...

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J Torr 1 year ago

#1 a UK comedian also thought that the pads went sticky side up. My husband thought this was hilarious and now pads are referred to as 'stick ons' in our house.

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Paul Claxton 2 years ago

I I have 1 wife 3 daughters all with long hair, cleaning the shower trap every month was a must. Fortunately they didn't stick hair to the shower wall which is a bit gross, weirdly enough.

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Sam Chopra 3 years ago

I don't really understand #12, I'm pretty sure we're humans too. What'd you expect, we suppress farts? Unless this is satire, in which case please don't get mad at me lol

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Elizabeth Chandler 3 years ago

To the gentleman who asked why women only own one good bra is because a good bra that is well made, fits properly and is comfortable is EXPENSIVE and they only get more so the bigger a woman's boobs are. Another reason is the life expectancy of a bra. A cheap bra will only last anywhere from 2-6 months with regular wear(depending on bra size, brand/style, how often its washed); whereas a good bra will last anywhere from 12-18 months with the same amount of wear(though the life expectancy of a good bra is nothing compared to a good quality corset which can last anywhere from 5-10 YEARS with proper care).

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Treessimontrees 3 years ago

I put everything I can snack size in old candle jars. I can't seem to handle throwing them away, and it looks nice.

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Sonia M 3 years ago

Some of these men should learn to care of themselves. I am quite disgusting myself as a girl but that's me. I follow the protocoll of having a sort of clean home

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steven 3 years ago

my wife is the queen of the dishwasher. I have given up any attempt of trying to load it correctly. My sons have inherited the dishwasher loading gene. Sometimes family dinners degenerate into mockery of us lesser types missing the dishwasher loading gene. Apparently proper placement of cutlery is important.

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Rens 3 years ago

My hair gets EVERYWHERE, I have Fibromyalgia so my hair constantly falls out. I always have a massive ball of hair after I wash it. I do my best not to leave it all over the shower. However, I can't do much about what gets on the carpets. Regular vacuuming still yields masses of my hair.

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Dunno why you were downvoted, I too shed hair like mad, it seems impossible that I can produce so much!

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Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 3 years ago

I think I'm meeting the wrong women... I've never had a tidy GF; I'm always the one being a**l about keeping everything tidy XD

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Jon S. 3 years ago

Three things that surprised me: 1) How shitty women's shoes are. Honestly if my shoes give me blisters after the first day I wear them, they are defective and I'm getting my money back. My wife (and pretty much every woman I know) accepts this as normal. 2&3) That apparently smell and colour matter. I'm happy living in a beige home with no artificial smells, but that's just not civilized anymore (I don't mind the colour, but I find all the fragrances in women's products actually offensive to my nose).

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Victoria Lenny 3 years ago

some of yall just hate women lmaoo but okay go off i guess

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Ben Moss 3 years ago

ITT: a lazy list of sexist jokes. “What’s the deal with women having only one good bra?”

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MagNat 3 years ago

It's a bit cringy how many of them are about cleaning...

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Kate 3 years ago

Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

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OoNijNoO 3 years ago

True and I'm loving it

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Veronica Mars 3 years ago

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Mimi M 3 years ago

Just came to say the same. A lot of this was not male-female, but just people stuff.

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Monday 3 years ago

10points

Enea 3 years ago

4points

K O 3 years ago

#notallwomen

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Bella, Your Kitty-Loving Queen 3 years ago

Yeah I came to say the same thing

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Brendan 3 years ago

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Carrie Laughs 3 years ago

GASP! You don't? 😁

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Jessica Aubé 3 years ago

The generalized sexist remarks here about woman are gross .. do better bored panda .. woman do not fit in a box .. we are unique people

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K O 3 years ago

It is not sexist for people to relate their experiences in life. Try understanding the article next time

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Mimi777 3 years ago

Thank you! I don’t do or agree with half of these things.

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Bob Bobbins 3 years ago (edited)

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D C 8 months ago

There were plenty of generalizations about woman being wonderful and better than men. Did you have a problem with those? No?

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Kj Johnson 2 years ago

Calm down there. This wasn’t a mean jab at women. I found them hilarious and very relatable.

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Aahzmandus Pervect 3 years ago

15points

Grace DeGroot 3 years ago

Can’t believe nobody talked about hair getting everywhere! 😂

15points

Matt Du 3 years ago

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Sleazy Weaver 3 years ago

Aww, that's so sweet of her! Your wife is definitely a keeper. What a kind person!

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blugeagua 3 years ago

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Bob Bobbins 3 years ago

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K O 3 years ago

#notallwomen

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

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Marianne 3 years ago

7points

Sleazy Weaver 3 years ago

As long as the task gets done, there's no right or wrong way. Some ways may be more efficient, but if the end result is the same it doesn't really matter how you get there! :)

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

In the articles where men are idiots everyone agrees.In articles where women do something different everyone rants about stereotypes

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

3points

Cupcake168 3 years ago (edited)

I really love this thread! I’m living on my own (is that said right when you live alone?) and I almost forgot how lovely it was sharing a home. So heartwarming, even the discussions!

3points

The Chosen One 3 years ago

All the hair-related ones are true for anyone with long hair, not just girls

2points

Totally legit 3 years ago

Very relatable, I've lived with men and women and there are definitely some things that differ. But preferences regarding cleaning etc are individual...

1point

will.u.b.mine 3 years ago

so...I'm gay...have a bf...I have never lived with a woman...

1point

Daniel Atkins 3 years ago

Did anyone else notice most of the post were about hair.

1point

Aahzmandus Pervect 3 years ago

No, just you

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Nerdlife 3 years ago

I enjoyed this post!!

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Amanda Simmons 9 months ago

As a wife of 20 years....yesssss I definately do all these things😁....I laughed at almost all of them...

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J Torr 1 year ago

#1 a UK comedian also thought that the pads went sticky side up. My husband thought this was hilarious and now pads are referred to as 'stick ons' in our house.

0points

Paul Claxton 2 years ago

I I have 1 wife 3 daughters all with long hair, cleaning the shower trap every month was a must. Fortunately they didn't stick hair to the shower wall which is a bit gross, weirdly enough.

0points

Sam Chopra 3 years ago

I don't really understand #12, I'm pretty sure we're humans too. What'd you expect, we suppress farts? Unless this is satire, in which case please don't get mad at me lol

0points

Elizabeth Chandler 3 years ago

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Treessimontrees 3 years ago

I put everything I can snack size in old candle jars. I can't seem to handle throwing them away, and it looks nice.

0points

Sonia M 3 years ago

Some of these men should learn to care of themselves. I am quite disgusting myself as a girl but that's me. I follow the protocoll of having a sort of clean home

0points

steven 3 years ago

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Rens 3 years ago

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Dunno why you were downvoted, I too shed hair like mad, it seems impossible that I can produce so much!

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Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 3 years ago

I think I'm meeting the wrong women... I've never had a tidy GF; I'm always the one being a**l about keeping everything tidy XD

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Jon S. 3 years ago

0points

Victoria Lenny 3 years ago

some of yall just hate women lmaoo but okay go off i guess

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Ben Moss 3 years ago

ITT: a lazy list of sexist jokes. “What’s the deal with women having only one good bra?”

-1point

MagNat 3 years ago

It's a bit cringy how many of them are about cleaning...

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Kate 3 years ago

Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug.

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Tim Haight 3 years ago

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OoNijNoO 3 years ago

True and I'm loving it

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