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We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.

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#6

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.

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#7

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.

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#8

"Period s**ts."

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#9

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.

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#10

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers What home feels like.

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#11

When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment

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#12

They fart just as much as men.

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#13

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.

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#14

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.

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#17

If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.

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#18

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.

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#19

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.

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#20

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.

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#21

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!

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#22

One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.

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#23

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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#24

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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#25

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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#26

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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#27

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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#28

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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#30

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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Sophie Greeff
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Girl here I'm not allowed to load the dishwasher as i do it wrong husband is in charge

Llewella
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom here, my son keeps telling me I load the dishwasher wrong and then corrects it... But I'm the mom, like what the hell

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is another one that I’ve apparently been doing all wrong and my boyfriend does it the correct way lol growing up we never used our dishwasher and just hand washed the dishes so I didn’t know there was specific way of loading the dishwasher until my boyfriend suggested a better way which does make a lot of sense

Brendan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's my job (the husband) to fill the dishwasher because I'm the one who does it right.

Phyllis Evers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can load a DW to within an inch of it's life and still have everything come out spotless...it's a talent!

Kristof De Smet
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my wife loads it, I have to put a lot of things back in it, or wash them by hand, because they are so close to eachother, they don't get washed properly.

Krystine Patterson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares, as long as everything is loaded facing down, it'll get clean.

Julie C Rose
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With the kind of schedule I might go back to after the borders reopen, I honestly DGAF. If someone takes a load off me and it doesn’t result in me having to clean up the results of poor execution, they’re most welcome to do it differently from me.

John Otruba
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one minds the loading of the dishwasher in my house. It is a battle to get it UNloaded!!

Bobby
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife is too efficient. There isn't space between the dishes for the water to jet onto. Just split the load or do those last few by hand baby, just wasting water and time when everything is in there too tight!

Lisa Yario
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But does it come out clean? Who really cares how they are loaded if they are clean ? When my husband empties the dw the things that are in a little stack on the counter are things that he doesn't know where they belong. He tried to put all of them away and hid them from me. Take your dw energy and save it. Don't sweat the small stuff. You're going to need it later when you fight over the remote.

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Gabunya Matata
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my bf loaded it just once ever and did it in a way that i would absolutely hate ( and things were touching lol ) .. he just let me do it my way since xD i like washing them clean before i put them in the dishwasher ( i soap them all up real good and scrub everything off and then just rince them with just a little water, not to waste cuz it loses the purpose of a dishwasher but i feel a need to know they will be 100% clean and nothing will clog the filter)

M Kate McCulloch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my husband is slightly too efficient in loading the dishwasher - things do not get clean because there is no room for the water to reach anything.

Celtic Pirate Queen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I swear men do this intentionally for that very reason. He (occasionally) unloads the dishwasher & I'll find a few items sitting on the counter because he doesn't know where they belong. We've lived here 8 years and NOTHING has changed.

skool gurly
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i don't know anybody who uses their dishwasher except 1/ as a drying rack 2/ occasionally to kill bacteria in sponges, loofahs etc

Berlinda Dunbar-Nye
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband, since retiring, thinks he needs to reload our dishwasher.....go for it hun

danielw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If loading the dishwasher "Efficiently" means filling every nook cranny and gap... then you're overloading it, and it's actually less efficient. there's a balance there. Also, it may not be efficient, but I tend to run it more frequently rather than waiting for it to get full. we don't have a gazillion spatulas and I use them pretty much every time I'm cooking.

Robert Thompson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Quite the opposite around here. She doesn't like the way I do dishes, so I do them. That sounds like spite. It is more about me not telling her how I would have her do them.

Curry on...
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any woman my son dates only needs to ask me what he was taught to do.

Suzanne Clark
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband can fill up, actually fill up, the dishwasher only using 4 plates, 2 bowls, and a 3 glasses. Yes, I reload.

Sofia Monteiro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me and my husband we simply don't discuss this and don't peak when it's the others turn to load the dishwasher... We're so different at it!

Linda Williams
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This can work both ways. I'm a woman and according to my boyfriend I'm always doing it the wrong way.

John C
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm twitching at the wooden utensils I see in that dishwasher.

Tim Haight
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I load the diswasher. I do it the right way and everything comes out clean.

Oskar vanZandt
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. Only my mother knows how to load a dishwasher correctly... all her adult children know nothing.

Pernille Dyre
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

😂😂😂 You play Tetris in the dishwasher... you have to pass the levels...

Mojones
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure that MY way of loading is way better! I wonder when we find consent in this. We haven't in the last decades... but I will stand my ground!

Gabby M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dishwashers I can handle I wasn't allowed to food shop. Imagine my horror and disappointment at this news after having 3 kids lol

Son of Philosoraptor
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to take the loading privilege away from my wife. I load like a 3D "15 puzzle," super tight and efficient. She loads like she's putting socks in the hamper.

I I
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Snap , apparently there's a certain way that works best , she won't tell me it , i just got to figure it out i guess

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#31

Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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Men Share 'What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?': And Here're 40 Of The Top Answers They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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