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If you don't open up about your feelings you're a toxic man. If you do, you're either being rude or being a pu**y. We're only supposed to have the CORRECT feelings, at the correct time, at everyone else's convenience.

Kiv____ , Ron Lach Report

Final score:

223points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

Thank you for sharing this frustration. The women who put you down for being emotionally vulnerable are contributing to toxic masculinity and you're better off without them. Being comfortable talking about your feelings is a healthy HUMAN trait - be healthy, and go find healthy😘

115points

Talking/interacting with a child and instantly getting seen as a [predator]. Once headed out with my 3 year old niece to a playground . . . half an hour later the police were involved. Needed my sister to clear things up.

GMSryBut , Pauline Loroy Report

Final score:

206points

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Roger9er 1 year ago

Simply because you are a man. No other reason.

88points

The factors that have led to men and women having often quite different life experiences, particularly through history, are pretty varied. While those forces in many cases still exist, there are a myriad of smaller, day-to-day things one gender might not even think about until a member from the other points it out.

For example, while its effects are basically omnipresent in many parts of the world, many women have not considered the abject terror brought on by male-pattern baldness. Roughly 30-50% of US men will encounter some amount of hair loss by the time they are fifty, creating a booming industry in toupees and hair transplants, as perhaps too much importance is placed on this objectively smallish tuft of hair.

Older single guy here. We're on our own. Nobody wants to touch us. No platonic affection. Nobody wants to help us. We need to figure it out for ourselves. Nobody will be there for you. You have to accept that. Crippling loneliness is a given. I know I will die alone. I just want to know, why the hell is it taking so long?

everylittlepiece , Kindel Media Report

Final score:

202points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I am so, so sorry you're experiencing this 😥 I am a 35 year old lesbian who is disabled and women immediately ghost me as soon as they find out I am disabled. I've been single for over a decade, and my frustration has had me recently thinking of how much harder it must be for men who are in a similar boat of not meeting the shallow ideals so many women have. This might seem like a weird suggestion, but I've found groups that do platonic cuddle meets - strict boundaries, absolutely nothing sexual - and it helps with that need for closeness, if nothing else. You deserve healthy connection as much as anyone 💜

135points

Not being believed when it comes to sexual harassment

I was sexually harassed by a girl in my class a really long time ago and when I told it to the school they didn’t do anything

Both of my parents got involved and they still refused to do anything to the girl who was harassing me

TeaBags0614 , Ali Jouyandeh Report

Final score:

163points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I am SO sorry. This is not fair 😭 thank you for sharing, I am sure many men will relate!

36points

The level of depresion men face while basically having no support system and forever being told to just be tough and push on..

Afraid_Purpose_8512 , Luke Jones Report

Final score:

157points

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JK 1 year ago

On the flip side, i have begged my husband to look in to therapy to help him deal with his traumas, but he won't go because he's been convinced to think it's "unmanly" or "weak" or "waste of time". I asked him if I was weak or wasting my time by seeking therapy myself, he basically told me that it was fine for *me* to go, just "wasnt for him". Men - therapy is NOT bad/weak/girly. Good mental health is incredibly important, please do not feel like it's not for you just because you're a man.

74points

for_sure_not_a_lama , Grace Madeline Report

This fear leads to a large number of myths and alternative “remedies” for hair loss that, for the most part, have little to no bearing on reality. Because testosterone levels play some part in how hair works, some have speculated that weight training might lead to male-pattern baldness, despite the fact that most cases are just hereditary. While there does seem to be a connection between excess testosterone and hair loss, many balding men also report low testosterone levels.

my brother got physically abused by his ex and somehow a ton of people still assume he did something to deserve it?... Imagine if the reverse happened! Like a woman talks about how her ex boyfriend punched her because he is an abusive piece of s**t and i would go "yea but what did you do to deserve such a reaction?". if i did that everyone would agree that i am the a*****e but for some reason multiple people have said this to my brother and no one bats an eye.

Final score:

146points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I hate that this happens😖

37points

PearlJamDudeVoice , Dylan Ferreira Report

Expected to be the protector at all times. I mean I’ll do my best but damn, can we call the cops first.

Final score:

134points

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Blue Bunny of Happiness 1 year ago

Definitely! I want a partner who is still in one piece please!

41points

Trying to ask out women with little to no signals to go on. Having to approach and initiate every romantic interaction without coming on too strong and not seem like a creep.

2000dragon , Jed Villejo Report

Final score:

129points

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Roger9er 1 year ago

A lot is also screwed up by other men, who just push themselves upon women or girls and/or act like a creep and they don't care.

71points

Feeling_Nerve_7091 , Gerd Altmann Report

Some studies indicate that women have a stronger sense of smell than men, which is both a blessing and a curse, as many a young man learns a bit too late that if he can smell himself, everyone around him can as well. While there was no doubt a time when ancient humans needed every sense to be as sharp as possible, these days most aggressive aromas, from hot garbage to people who apply perfume with a hose, are more annoying than anything.

#10

Being accused of kidnapping my kids while taking them to the playground. That was fun.

Women going out of their way to avoid me when walking on a street (crossing the street). I get it, but wow does it hurt.

Feeling crushing anxiety and not being able to show it to basically anyone. My wife interprets it as me being unstable/unable to be the provider, even my therapist assumed I was just not wanting to face my demons and that I need to get over it. Gotta keep it in.

Being really sick and told it’s manflu.

Having me sense of self worth basically pinned to my ability to earn money

Very specific, but illustrates the point: I once was at a conference and I saw two ladies walking ahead of me. One was carrying a purse by its handle and it was hanging down. The purse was unzipped and stuff was starting to fall out as she was walking. I ran up and interrupted and pointed out the purse was open and stuff was about to fall out. They both looked at me and asked why I would be looking at her purse and called me a creep and walked away.

Final score:

124points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I am so sorry you've experienced these things. As a woman who has had a lot of uncomfortable encounters with men, it can be easy to become paranoid but I am trying so hard to give every man the benefit of the doubt or just politely excuse myself from an interaction rather than be cold & make assumptions. You do not deserve to be called a creep for being a gentleman, or arrested for being an involved father, ugh!! Kidnappers & thieves are quite often women, not just men. I hope you can keep going to therapy - with a better therapist - because men bravely embracing their emotions is the only way things will change 💜

55points

#11

Middle age loneliness, particularly for married guys with kids. If you're not a middle age bro douche, you probably have no friends. None. Maybe you're amiable with work colleagues, maybe you have a game night with some neighbors, but they're barely more than acquaintances. Your last friend was 10, maybe 20 years ago in the before times. Seems like It's almost a societal expectation at this point.

spiderscan , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

121points

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Not Bored 1 year ago

I couldn't agree more

31points

#12

I have a terrible issue with crying, even when I'm at my worst and feel a constant urge to cry for weeks straight, I won't and can't. Sometimes I think I can't cry without permission. I am well aware that I don't need permission, but my body doesn't care.

TheEvelynn , Alena Darmel Report

Final score:

114points

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Owen 1 year ago

I am a 35yr old man, and I cannot cry in front of other people. Even at my Nan's funeral, Mum said I looked emotionless. But when I got home by myself I cried a bucket load. No one saw, so it was ok. This is what society puts on us.

59points

Socially, men are in many ways more at risk of loneliness. Male friendships, as opposed to female friendships, are more often based on shared activities than personal connections. This can endanger friendships if the activity has to end and also limits the “scope” of the relationship. Emotional disclosure can be harder if your friend is more of a tennis buddy than a true confidant.

#13

Being expected to be able to step up in scary situations when you are scared sh**less yourself and don't want to either.

Nolan- , Max Harlynking Report

Final score:

102points

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Xenon 1 year ago

Whoever is best equiped to handle it should be the one to step up.

47points

#14

You can shake it, you can thump it, you can beat it on the wall, but until you zip the zipper, the last drop will never fall.

AlphaMaelstrom , Help Stay Report

Final score:

96points

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

That's why I pee in a cubicle and use toilet paper to soak up that 'last drop'

58points

#15

Just how f*****g lonely it is. You are expected at all times to be a simultaneous combination of guardian, emotional caregiver, leader, and provider, on TOP of being relatively successful and 100% independent.

And you have to ALWAYS be these things, 100% of the time. It's emotionally exhausting.

I know that readers may see this and list any number of the various advantages our unfair society affords men, and I won't argue that they aren't there. But I will state that I feel, and probably many other men would agree with this, that society doesn't really care about the emotional, mental, or social health of men.

Chris Rock famously said that only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally; men are loved under the condition of what they can provide. I agree with that statement. It's incredibly dehumanizing and dispiriting to constantly be told what society expects from you and wants you to be, as if all you are is a paycheck to support a family or a fearless leader who exudes strength and never falters.

Just_Plane952 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

95points

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Owen 1 year ago

This. 100% this. We must always demonstrate value. We must impress, or we are worthless.

31points

In the 21st century, given that most of us no longer work jobs where peak physique is required, some of the “evolutionary” advantages of the male body fall away. However, the image, or at least personal belief in that image of masculinity is still around, creating a psychological gap that many men don’t know how to overcome. Even worse, many men don’t even know how to ask for help.

#16

Trying to figure out if I should pay:

I should pay on the date to be polite but I also should also have us split because we're equal but there's a gender pay gap so I should pay because I'm a man but gender roles are meant to be cast aside? I...I....I AHHH

Bloody__Cosplay , Khoa Võ Report

Final score:

89points

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Sandra Morison 1 year ago

Easy solution .....ask beforehand

81points

#17

Being looked at as a pervert or weirdo for taking your kids to the park or store or anywhere. Any age too! Newborn all the way to teenager!

gigglemonkee , Derek Owens Report

Final score:

88points

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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 1 year ago

Never had that issue with bringing up my two kids. Also now as a grandad taking my grand daugher out- no issues and not feeling like there ever would be here.

2points

Bloody__Cosplay , sebastiaan stam Report

#18

Being shot down simply because you're a certain height

Final score:

86points

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Kristal 1 year ago

Mmmm I really think women can relate to being shot down due to a physical feature, both figuratively and literally.

77points

Marijn Mestdag 1 year ago

For once there's a post adressing the issues males are having and you choose to make it about women again? You're part of the problem in my opinion

36points

Blue Chambers 1 year ago

Is it physical feature you can control? Because you can't do anything about your height.

6points

iseefractals 1 year ago (edited)

Here's the difference. When a woman says she wants a guy that's 6 ft+, with abs and 8% body fat,(and other anatomical standards) making $100K/yr+ (so she can be a SAHM) every other woman on the planet says "you get it, you deserve it!" Because that's just their preference. But if any man voices any kind of preference at all about a woman, he's a sexist misogynistic pig. Man wants to stay home with the kids? Lazy parasite. Doesn't want kids? Immature. Women have preferences, men have "red flags" Women are deserving, men are shallow and entitled. Since people seem to fail to grasp the point, this isn't a declaration of all women. It's illustrating the point using comparative examples, extreme ones at that. What's acceptable for women, is toxic from men. It's called a double standard!

3points

Lauren Caswell 1 year ago

No! Don't you dare do whattaboutism. Men do not get nearly enough awareness posts, and I know that on women's awareness posts we get frustrated at men diverting and saying 'not all men'. Well now we can listening learn. It's our turn to hear this, grow, and be supportive. This is about what men face. Shhh.

2points

Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago

Both are wrong in fact, when it comes to something the person didn't choose and can't change.

2points

Pillowarmidiloroku 1 year ago (edited)

I feel that if a man tries too insult my physical features he is not the one for me and also lying like joking that I'm fat even though I'm underweight I feel you should move on just like men should from toxic women that insult there features

0points

ravn 1 year ago

Thanks, that was supportive.

0points

April Pickett 1 year ago

Yeah, men can too. Being short means you're aggressive, being tall means you are gentle and considerate, being fat means you're mean and nasty, and being skinny means you're a wimp. So whatever you are, you are stereotyped immediately. Prove them wrong.

0points

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Kristy Marion 1 year ago

My husband is 4” shorter than me. I still wear heels. And he’s still the sexiest guy I’ve ever met

12points

️Crystal️ 1 year ago

This is so ridiculous and all I can say is that if a woman rejects you based solely on height, you've dodged a bullet! I am only 5' and get nervous around tall people so I've always been confused about why all these women want a man over 6' 😅

12points

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BluEyedSeoulite 1 year ago

Having a height requirement is a red flag imo. Preference, fine. Requirement, no.

10points

Kristal 1 year ago

I appreciate the recognition of the difference of preference and requirement.

1point

Blue Bunny of Happiness 1 year ago

My husband is 5’ 6”. If a woman rejects you because of your height she’s not worth you time anyway.

7points

Francis 1 year ago

i once had a date with a man who was only a bit taller than me (i'm 5'5 and he was around 5'7) and he made so many comments about how isn't tall and why i would date him and all that. i never made a comment about his heights. i don't give a flying sh*t how tall someone is, when they make me laugh and feel good. first and last date...

7points

Mabelbabel 1 year ago (edited)

And I bet he decided you didn't date him purely because of his height. My husband is 3 inches shorter than me. It wasn't his height I fell in love with-it was his confidence and belief in himself. He's content to be who he is, he accepts himself, he loves to learn about the world around him, he's endlessly interested in other people-he's such a positive force in my world. And that's what I love, whether he's 5 foot 6 or 6 foot 6.

5points

maka paka 1 year ago

It's a preference, same as the weight and height of a woman and the problem is that some of us men take it way too seriously. If someone doesn't want someone under 6ft that's up to them. (and i say that as a lil short at 5'8)

5points

Kristal 1 year ago

Thank you, it indeed, is a preference. I think preference is fine as long as the response to someone outside a preference isn't treated badly for it.

0points

Wax0nWax0ff 1 year ago

Specific height requirements for dating baffle me

4points

Richard Michael 1 year ago

Like you've never shot down a woman who was a certain weight.

2points

StrangeOne 1 year ago

On the upside, there will always be someone out there who doesn't care about height or is into shorter guys. What's getting people stuck is focusing on what some people have said they don't like about our unchangeable appearance, and then thinking everyone thinks the same way.

2points

Paul Pienkowski 1 year ago

This is why I don't care about your boob size

2points

Not productive (but trying) 1 year ago

Dude boobs are boobs, all sizes are hot

4points

Rens 1 year ago

I'm just under 6 ft 1 and I've never dated anyone taller than me except for my ex-husband who's 6ft 6. The height of a man has never been an issue for me but if he has small man attitude, I'm not interested.

2points

ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago

This is interesting and seemingly new on the news front. As gay men, it’s so different. A cliche is that taller bigger “bottoms” really like short, more compact “tops.” Granted, queer attraction is as diverse as straight, but we seem more open to allowing for variation that doesn’t meet this tertiary desire. It’s usually not a no-go, but more of an added bonus.

1point

The Mediterranean Fruit 1 year ago

I don't care if a guy is taller than me or not. Plus, short guys are cute.

1point

Christopher Denney 1 year ago

Male here, when I was young I thought I liked certain physical traits, as I got older I realized what I like is females.

1point

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Very tall women understand this feeling.

1point

Xenon 1 year ago

Yeah, that has to be pretty annoying. I don't understand it, myself. If my date was on the short side, I might be self conscious wearing heels though.

1point

Jason Melvil 1 year ago

I'm surprised no mentioned of going bald

0points

Pillowarmidiloroku 1 year ago

im a female and I never got this like I'm short like 5'2 and as long as he's like not shorter or younger then me I like him bc 6ft is way to much but all my friends always want a 6ft man and I'm fine as long as he's 5'3 just bc I don't wanna feel like a mom to him but whoever has standards like that I don't know what there thinking.

0points

Rocky Wheelwright 1 year ago

This is so true. Men 5’9” and under aren’t seen as desirable. Men can’t change their height. Kevin Hart talks about this a lot, the dude is 5’4”. He talks about dating when he was in school and kids made fun of him all the time.

0points

Blondie23 1 year ago

this one is weird to me... why are women being such brats about that???? As if height has anything to do with the worth of a man.

0points

setsuriseikou 1 year ago

Does anyone have any idea why height (or any other physical feature) might be that important to people? Honest question, no judging or anything, just want to try to understand how it works.

0points

Lyoness 1 year ago

I've read that it's a subconscious bias towards stronger DNA - aka larger partners are more able to defend your young, better hunters blah blah, blah. Personally I think that's b*****t. It's a societal norm, and a stupid one. I'm tall and have almost always dated shorter people than me. I could care less about height, it's about the person. And anyone who didn't want to date you based solely on your height is a bullet dodged.

0points

iluvanimals 1 year ago

I actually prefer shorter guys since I am 5'3.

0points

Kiki C 1 year ago

Woman: sorry I don’t like short guys. Man: YOUR STANDARDS ARE SO HIGH. Also men: I don’t like brunettes, or girls over 5’0”, or flat girls or ones with tan lines or…

-2points

Phil Vaive 1 year ago

Blaming one man for the actions of other men is sexist, my dear

2points

Silviu Leibovici 1 year ago (edited)

I'm living in Belgium. At 1.75 (5"10) I'm not in the average height, 1.80 is ... 1.60 women call me short ... I call them greedy and silly... Not going to waste energy on them even if they are pretty good looking

-3points

Lyoness 1 year ago

How does someone commenting (albeit stupidly) about your height make them greedy?

1point

Igor914624 1 year ago

Height is the last acceptable prejudice. If you are short in our society, you face ridicule, abuse, constant taunting and discrimination. You get paid less than tall guys. Girls will literally laugh in your face for asking them out. Yet we are told we have "short man's syndrome" when we complain about all of that. For example, I was speaking at an event I organized, and my "friends" thought it would be funny to put a milk crate behind the podium. They all laughed about it. They also gift wrapped a phone book for me to sit on one time. And I am expected to laugh along with them.

-3points

#19

it's not okay to be a stereotype who tells a woman to get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich, but it's acceptable if not downright encouraged for a woman to knock me for not being able to lift something heavy saying "you're a man, you're supposed to be able to do this!"

kbyyru , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

79points

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XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago (edited)

I kind of chuckled at this, but you're right & it's something I never realized. There are no gender stereotypes in this household, my partner knows that if there's a creepy noise in the house, he can wake me up and I'll grab my baseball bat & be like "I got this baby!" but also he does all the laundry & bakes like an angel...so yeah, laundry & cake, manly af!

37points

DeliciousDoorknob , RDNE Stock project Report

#20

When a woman expresses her feelings and/or problems, everyone can't get enough. When a man does, he is either ignored or told "man up dude". And this is something that'll go on forever.

Final score:

79points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

KEEP EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS PLEASE!!! it's the only way the norms will change, being vulnerable is so healthy & brave - even more so for men in western culture! thank you for sharing this here💜

44points

butkusny , Centre for Ageing Better Report

#21

Trying to talk to others about mental health (both mine and other's). As a child, my mother struggled with mental health but she was wise enough to get help and through that became determined to break the cycle in our family. She gave me the tools to deal with these struggles myself (and for others).
So now, well into my 50's I'm an empathic, caring man, father, husband that can listen well (typically offering the advice of...you should get some professional help but I'm here for you).
The problem is, any men in today's society judge my help as being "soft" or, "nosey " or being a "wash woman". Personally, I don't give AF but it is a sad statement in our society.

Final score:

79points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

Men like you will help change the societal norms, simply by opening people's eyes to the fact that openly caring men exist. Thank you!! 💜

34points

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#22

Women have no idea what it's like to go your whole life with no one ever thinking to give you flowers.

gingimcghee , Angel Monsanto III Report

Final score:

72points

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Kristal 1 year ago

I'll be sure to give my guy friends flowers then. I grew some Dwarf Sunflowers, I'll give them those

12points

#23

Trying to find the balance of being emotionally vulnerable and masculine in such a way that maintains attraction. This leaks into communication, sex, outward behavior, and damn near everything in a relationship.

OatmealStew , Daniella Garcia Report

Final score:

71points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I feel like that balance is nearly impossible in American culture, and I wish it were different 😞 vulnerability is a healthy trait for all relationships - women who say otherwise are contributing to toxic masculinity and are not worth your time, as they likely are not capable of healthy vulnerability themselves. Thank you for sharing this.

18points

#24

The ever lasting circle women put us in where they want us to communicate openly and honestly and then when we do, we have to justify what we said and spend a half hour explaining how what we said wasn't an attack on them but rather a logical statement. Gets annoying to the point I don't care to have an opinion anymore.

anon , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

67points

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R.A. Haley 1 year ago

Married for 43 years and I still get this a lot. One learns to give one-word replies, or none at all.

33points

#25

My wife and I are very affectionate with our young son. Tons of hugs and kisses. I know that there will be a point where he will no longer want that from me specifically but will be okay with her still showing that kind of love.

smcamp23 , Dominika Roseclay Report

Final score:

64points

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lenka 1 year ago

I hope not. My husband still hugs his father. My son is 12 and still wants hugs and kisses from my husband. I expect there will be a period during puberty where it will stop, but hope that on the other side they will continue to be physically affectionate with each other.

29points

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#26

If we don’t express our emotions in a way that matches expectations, usually through actions and body language, they generally aren’t received or taken seriously, even when communicated clearly. It typically doesn’t matter how we *say* we feel.

Then if we go so far as to have an outburst like yelling or crying, the emotions are finally understood and taken seriously, but they change people’s opinions of us, and usually in a negative way.

There is no “I was just upset” excuse for us. We have to remain in control at all times because we’ll either be considered too scary or too weak, but in doing so, we’re constantly told that we don’t open up enough.

heyitsvonage , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

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59points

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Kristal 1 year ago

Even though I am not male, I can relate to this, unfortunately. It really does mess a person up

22points

#27

Talking about your mental health. In recent years I've become more open about it but a lot of the men around me just won't open up about it. There are people I know who have ended their life because of mental health issues.

I think it's a difficult conversation no matter your gender, but a lot of men are told to "suck it up" or told that "men don't cry" so they have to keep it all inside.

alexlduffy , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

59points

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️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I have so much admiration for men who bravely rebel against this status quo of men needing to be tough and emotionless. Keep going, this is how we change society!! 💜

21points

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#28

I had a situation in that I overheard my fiance's mother once say to her in very different words that men have only two emotions. Rage and horny. Basically sounded to me like she thought all men with emotions were just con-men lying to get sex.

Foodstuffs08 , PIX3L_PRODUCTION Report

Final score:

56points

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vvv 1 year ago

Unfortunately some generations of women didn't get a very good image of men.... I can recall my mother saying men only think about "that" thing ...very oddly her saying were confirmed by quite some men themselves...

26points

BibleButterSandwich , Toa Heftiba Report

#29

Trying to figure out if she’s into you, or just being nice.

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50points

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Rostit . 1 year ago

You got to ask. It'll save hassle

47points

Happy_goth_pirate , THABANG MADNSELA Report

#30

The absolute certainty that society doesn't give a flying f**k about you unless you can offer something. There's no net for men, you're on your own.

Final score:

46points

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Kristal 1 year ago (edited)

Could someone explain how this is a male only thing? To me, this seems true for any human being in society, I mean, look how people who are mentally ill or severely disabled are treated cause they can't "contribute to society"

54points

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#31

"Why don't you just go out there and find a girlfriend?"

i have tried, and nothing, every single dating app i have used i have never gotten a match

"just go up to a woman and ask them out"

that is sexual harassment

"you just have to try harder"

i am in physical pain from trying just to get one compliment

Final score:

15points

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Solidhog 1 year ago

I really relate to this. My son is 21 and has this exact problem. He needs someone to explore life and share experiences with such as traveling. He has tried, but society has made it so hard to find a girlfriend that is not obsessed with social media exposure or just using dating sites to confirm their attractiveness rather than looking for a date. And trying to date in the real world is whole minefield as all men are now seen as either killers, stalkers or rapists.

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#32

Sometimes she just wants me to listen (which I do) and other times she wants me to fix it (which I also do). I get it right more than 50% of the time, The other times I get yelled at for not doing the right thing.

She'll go on a rant about me not providing the correct response. I just remove myself from the situation and wait for the cool down.

Carl-is-here , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

14points

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Sandra Morison 1 year ago

Get the hell out , you sound lovely

3points

#33

Modern society can view us being totally useless but somehow in charge of everything

Or getting your c**k caught in a zipper a la Something About Mary style

The latter is probably the worst thing

DavosLostFingers , Andrew Neel Report

Final score:

11points

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JB 1 year ago

Getting things snagged in a zipper is bad, but have you ever had testicular torsion? That s**t is next level pain!

4points

Open_Caregiver_4801 , Tim Mossholder Report

#34

The whole series or why do you like/why are you doing/wearing/eating/drinking/feeling x or why do you know about or how to do x, you’re a guy? Questions we get on a regular basis.

Why are you wearing pink? You’re a guy

Why are you drinking anything that’s not a beer? You’re a guy

Why are you in this pottery class? You’re a guy

Why did that movie make you tear up? You’re a guy

Hell my favorite was when I was asked that question because I asked for water on a hot day. Apparently drinking water isn’t a thing guys are supposed to do.

Even got asked that when someone asked why I was wearing glasses. Apparently if you’re a guy you’re not allowed to see properly.

Just about every guy gets questions like these on a regular basis that they probably don’t even notice any more.

It’s also not just other guys that ask this but men, women, family members, kids, servers, and I’ve had people at places that tried to make a point that everyone was loved and accepted ask stuff like that even if it wasn’t intentional.

Final score:

11points

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Ace 1 year ago

I can't imagine what sort of a world you live in where you experience these things at all, let alone on a regular basis. Never happened to me, none of them. Well, maybe once, many years ago on a stag do, all the guys including me drinking beer and I ordered a glass of red wine to go with my steak. TBH I think they really didn't get it, rather than being a man thing, until I just said "one cannot possibly eat a steak without a glass of red".

3points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#35

Honesty & feelings: Women ask for that in a relationship & yet when you do, they say that not true & you don’t feel that way. Or worse, look down upon you because you let to much feelings come out. Don’t be vulnerable around a woman, get into a men’s therapy group to let it out.

Youth-Successful Report

Final score:

6points

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Daria 1 year ago

I get the same from my bf who acts like he (thinks he) knows me better than I know myself, and if I say anything different it means I'm lying. This labeling c**p is so annoying :(

4points

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lenka 1 year ago

This post actually serves to highlight that a lot of the issues suffered by women as a result of toxic masculinity also have repercussions for men too. Women have been encouraging men to feel, communicate, express, ask for help and engage emotionally - not only for our own benefit but for yours too. Gender roles don't serve anyone well. You don't need to be tough, brave, male, alpha, stoic, lonely or otherwise emotionally void. Please share.

34points

Marcos Valencia 1 year ago

Indeed. Feminism means liberation for men, too.

30points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Exactly. 'Toxic' masculinity (perpetrated by men or women) is toxic to men, women and children.

10points

Brocken Blue 1 year ago

💯 Also, all the men hurting because society gives them the side eye for being around their own children… this is just the other side of the same misogynistic coin that insists “women are the natural child-carers.” I find it interesting that this post’s title claims women won’t understand these issues, because it was feminist writers who I first saw articulate these ideas. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

6points

Rocky Wheelwright 1 year ago

Toxic feminist is also a huge problem. I see all the time in dating. Women telling me to “be a man…” or “you’re not tall enough…” or “don’t initiate anything with me…” the list goes on…

-1point

lenka 1 year ago

I am sorry you experience that Rocky. Its not OK. However that's not toxic feminism. That's not feminism AT ALL. That is toxic masculinity at its best. Unfortunately as a society, both women and men learn certain gendered behaviours and expectations that are patriarchal in nature. When those behaviours create unrealistic and unhealthy expectations regarding the role of men, it is toxic masculinity. And it is toxic precisely because it is both untrue and unhealthy for both men and women.

6points

Soyexfox 1 year ago

Took my 13 year old daughter to her first concert earlier this year and had to book a hotel room for the weekend. My first thing to pack was my ID and my daughter's birth certificate. Why?.....so I had proof that she was my daughter and I wasn't a sexual predator if I was called out. Also having to explain to my daughter why have to do such things. It still makes me really upset to think that I have to prove my innocence before I have to enjoy something with my kids. By the way, we had a fantastic weekend and she got to see r favourite artist, Yungblud.

20points

vvv 1 year ago

OK but what is the root of the problem...why do you have to do that ?

2points

R Dennis 1 year ago

I don't know if I should be more surprised or saddened by the lack of empathy from people in the comments. "Until all suffering is equal, yours has no value" is a terrible standard... I guess it's just disappointing...

14points

Cydney Golden 1 year ago

I think what most are saying is that the rules of suffering need to change for everyone.

0points

David A Paterson 1 year ago

This thread is so sad.

11points

Rens 1 year ago

Every time I read these posts, I want to stand up, wave my arms and shout "Here I am! I will listen, I will not judge, I don't care if you're tall or short or thin or fat, regardless of orientation etc, I am here; if you need someone to talk to, I'm here; if you need a hug, I'm here x

9points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

One that's not really on here: I have two stepkids, but they're older. I came into their life when the youngest was just turning 4. I biologically cannot have my own children. I've always wanted to have a baby with my wife, but it isn't going to happen. Women are seemingly allowed to fawn over babies even if they're strangers. If I think a random baby is cute, I can't do the same, and it makes me sad. I haven't held a baby in a very long time, but I can't just ask to hold people's babies. I'm holding out hope for grandkids, but that's not something that's up to me.

9points

- 1 year ago

What if the parents were close friends or relatives? At one workplace, several of my male colleagues were fawning over a baby. Personally, I will not hold a baby unless I'm sitting down because I'm scared to drop them - so I'd gladly be the non-fawning woman and let you hold it. I hope you get your wish. Maybe you can say, "I'm looking forward to grandchildren and I need to practice holding babies."

2points

Christopher Denney 1 year ago

The one thing I didn't seen on this list is the fact that guys still seem to be expected to be the one to initiate any relationship. Guys are seen as weak if a girl asks them out, and the girls are seen as some slanderous word for sexworker.

8points

Harry Koppers 1 year ago

Fortunately I think this one is changing. Slooowly.

1point

️Crystal️ 1 year ago

I have so much admiration for all the men who shared their frustrations! Western society has such absolutely toxic standards/expectations for men. Some men happily feed into it, but I honestly think even more women do! We can't have a change without conversations, awareness, and men bravely embracing their emotions despite the repercussions. Be a rebel, feel your feels, and find healthy spaces where you're safe to express your emotions💜

8points

Dirk Daring 1 year ago

We're not ready for The Horizontal Mambo 100% of the time at the drop of a hat. If we're not In The Mood, it doesn't automatically mean we're cheating on you, no longer attracted to you, or secretly gay.

7points

sofacushionfort 1 year ago

What dark place have I taken as home, where my response to the cry of humanity is only dismissal and righteous condemnation because “my team” is the only worthy humanity?

5points

Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago

Hey male/male identifying Pandas? ... Trolls, this excludes you. Anyway, I love you. I care about you. I'm glad you're here. I don't know if you can send messages on here, but if you can and you need someone... Reach out to me, okay? And if no one's told you today: you look handsome.

4points

Meh 1 year ago

I don't understand the men with their children comments. Where I live the parks, pools etc are full of men with their kids. Nobody gives a s**t ( apart from the occasional nut case I guess )

4points

anarkzie 1 year ago

These comments are scaring me because if I see a child I will say "Ah, he/she is cute", do people think I'm a pedo? :/

1point

freakingbee (any pronouns) 1 year ago

this is really sad

4points

Kat 1 year ago

I don’t understand why this post is title as “things women don’t understand” when most entries are obviously things women have been going through for centuries.

3points

HyperSocialCheeseFoe 1 year ago (edited)

I hate this. Everywhere you go, everything you do, every part of you will be hated. No matter your race, gender, personality, and no matter how hard you try to do the best you can you will be hated. But, at least some people share love. We need more love and hope in this world, not abuse, hate, and discrimination. But there is nothing I can do about it, no matter how hard I try.

3points

Pavlina G 1 year ago

Can we add, being married for 20 years, wife stops working at 7 to be a SAHM for a special needs kids, you travel 50% of the time for work, then proceed to have a 7 year affair before she wakes up and divorces. Then you complain about being lonely and depressed.

2points

similarly 1 year ago

Just reading through the comments here, it's really obvious that very few people care about men or care about men's issues. I see a lot of dismissing, minimizing, mocking, victim-shaming and victim-blaming, but precious little sympathy or understanding.

2points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago (edited)

I think it's compassion fatigue; it's more than a little grating when the article is '--things women will never understand', when many of the entries on this list are things we not only understand, but go through ourselves. It shows an exhausting lack of awareness for the problems women face as well as men, and to be brutally honest for a moment, I personally have a harder time sympathizing with men when a number of the problems on this list are of their own making (not showing emotions, having to be the breadwinner, etc.). I'm not saying it's right, I'm not saying they deserve to suffer. What I am saying is that, I feel like if some of these men paid even a little more attention to their female counterparts, they'd realize that many of their issues are not unique.

1point

Gozer LeGozerian 1 year ago

Men can thank the patriarchy for all of these. It was designed to oppress women, but damn, did it backfire on themselves

2points

Harry Koppers 1 year ago

No. Just no.

-3points

Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago

Very interesting posts, but how come so many are redundant? I read the same things twice. BP could clear up and keep the most interesting even if it means less posts, instead of trying to make a long list as a policy.

2points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago (edited)

I feel for the men in these posts. I really do. But given the title of the article, a lot of the items on this list show an exhausting lack of awareness of women's problems; we absolutely understand a lot of the entries on this list, because we also live with them. Firstly, it means that because many of these entries are not unique, it means they are not alone in their struggles. Secondly, the change needs to come from men; patriarchy was made by men, for men, and to dismantle the parts of it that are harmful, it needs to be men who redefine what it means to be a man.

1point

Gary 1 year ago

Well just one or two posts of something fun would have been nice, PB is so F depressing most of the time.

1point

Bob La Capra 1 year ago

You are right, Gary. Some days the vast majority of posts are negative. I suppose BP has analytics that show the depressing ones get more views and comments which is what it's all about.

1point

Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 1 year ago

Thank you for publishing this list.

0points

Chris D'Asta 1 year ago

Read through everything and I almost wish I hadn't. It's 5:30 am and I kinda wanna die.

0points

Sara Wilson 1 year ago

Sadly, women have lists like this too! What's needed is for people to start talking and LISTENING and trying to see things from the other side. Not just trying to get your side "winning". It's the only way this works! It's why the US is so f*cked up too

-1point

similarly 1 year ago

Honestly, Sara, I see lists for women on BP about once a week, but I agree: communication is absolutely essential.

0points

vvv 1 year ago

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Jonathan MacFarlane 1 year ago

So... men's struggles don't matter? In your push for equality, you've accidentally done the oppisite.

0points

The Idaho Potato 1 year ago

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Harry Koppers 1 year ago

Deliberately being hurtful?

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The Idaho Potato 1 year ago

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ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

This is a toxic take. The idea that promoting attention on men's issues removes attention from women's issues is insane. Saying posts like this "detracts attention from real issues" is saying that men's issues aren't real, which only makes the actual men's issues worse. That's like saying raising awareness of prostate cancer detracts from awareness of ovarian cancer. Very bad take. It's all important, and this kind of thinking only makes matters worse for everyone.

14points

R Dennis 1 year ago (edited)

So men don't have real issues? I guess having a woman SA me at a party 25+ years ago isn't a real issue. The shame and embarrassment of it and the fact that I still think about it often must be my imagination. Suffering and struggle isn't a competition. Edit: This is the first time I have ever mentioned it because of people like you who devalue trauma experienced by men.

5points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

How are these issues not 'real'? (genuine question, would like to know your thoughts)

4points

anarkzie 1 year ago

This is an example of how feminism can be just as much a problem as the ideology of incels.

3points

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lenka 1 year ago

34points

Marcos Valencia 1 year ago

Indeed. Feminism means liberation for men, too.

30points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Exactly. 'Toxic' masculinity (perpetrated by men or women) is toxic to men, women and children.

10points

Brocken Blue 1 year ago

6points

Rocky Wheelwright 1 year ago

-1point

lenka 1 year ago

6points

Soyexfox 1 year ago

20points

vvv 1 year ago

OK but what is the root of the problem...why do you have to do that ?

2points

R Dennis 1 year ago

14points

Cydney Golden 1 year ago

I think what most are saying is that the rules of suffering need to change for everyone.

0points

David A Paterson 1 year ago

This thread is so sad.

11points

Rens 1 year ago

9points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

9points

- 1 year ago

2points

Christopher Denney 1 year ago

8points

Harry Koppers 1 year ago

Fortunately I think this one is changing. Slooowly.

1point

️Crystal️ 1 year ago

8points

Dirk Daring 1 year ago

7points

sofacushionfort 1 year ago

What dark place have I taken as home, where my response to the cry of humanity is only dismissal and righteous condemnation because “my team” is the only worthy humanity?

5points

Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago

4points

Meh 1 year ago

I don't understand the men with their children comments. Where I live the parks, pools etc are full of men with their kids. Nobody gives a s**t ( apart from the occasional nut case I guess )

4points

anarkzie 1 year ago

These comments are scaring me because if I see a child I will say "Ah, he/she is cute", do people think I'm a pedo? :/

1point

freakingbee (any pronouns) 1 year ago

this is really sad

4points

Kat 1 year ago

I don’t understand why this post is title as “things women don’t understand” when most entries are obviously things women have been going through for centuries.

3points

HyperSocialCheeseFoe 1 year ago (edited)

3points

Pavlina G 1 year ago

2points

similarly 1 year ago

2points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago (edited)

1point

Gozer LeGozerian 1 year ago

Men can thank the patriarchy for all of these. It was designed to oppress women, but damn, did it backfire on themselves

2points

Harry Koppers 1 year ago

No. Just no.

-3points

Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago

2points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago (edited)

1point

Gary 1 year ago

Well just one or two posts of something fun would have been nice, PB is so F depressing most of the time.

1point

Bob La Capra 1 year ago

You are right, Gary. Some days the vast majority of posts are negative. I suppose BP has analytics that show the depressing ones get more views and comments which is what it's all about.

1point

Jerusalem Cat Syndrome 1 year ago

Thank you for publishing this list.

0points

Chris D'Asta 1 year ago

Read through everything and I almost wish I hadn't. It's 5:30 am and I kinda wanna die.

0points

Sara Wilson 1 year ago

-1point

similarly 1 year ago

Honestly, Sara, I see lists for women on BP about once a week, but I agree: communication is absolutely essential.

0points

vvv 1 year ago

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Jonathan MacFarlane 1 year ago

So... men's struggles don't matter? In your push for equality, you've accidentally done the oppisite.

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The Idaho Potato 1 year ago

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Snow_White 1 year ago

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Janet Sparrow 1 year ago

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Harry Koppers 1 year ago

Deliberately being hurtful?

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The Idaho Potato 1 year ago

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ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

14points