Men Share 30 Things They Believe Women Will Never Understand About Being A Man

Years ago there was a late night TV programme in the UK, it featured several men who were the victims of domestic violence, one reported how he had been stabbed by their partner with a pair of scissors and other men reported how their partner would hit and beat them and when the police did arrive the woman claimed he was the one that assaulted her, the audience thought it was so funny hearing these reports. It was shocking and it seems things haven't changed at all.

There are many women who have had the same experience!

Hopefully, this is changing (although probably not fast enough) and anyone who is the victim of domestic abuse is being believed and offered support. We need to continue to break down the stereotyping of victims.

Same happens to women. We do understand it.

I worked as a domestic violence victim's advocate for several years. I was the only man in my county doing that kind of direct victim services in the field. In the four years I did that job, eventually become the Assistant Director of my agency, I only ever saw one other male advocate at meeting in the entire state. Approximately 15% of REPORTED DV cases involve male victims, and that number is low because men underreport for the very reasons stated in this post.

Well… my husband is very open about his feelings. Very emotional. Except, he yells and screams at the top of his lungs, talks in circles, for hours on end. He leans on me like I’m his therapist and personal nurse. I don’t feel like his wife anymore. I’m tired of walking on eggshells not knowing when that cycle will start again. I’ve encouraged him to seek therapy as he has a lot of childhood trauma, I’ve tried to be there to listen (without being able to get a word in edge-wise.) He’ll ask a question and when I start to answer it, he’ll fly into a rage again. He’s punched holes in the wall and has locked me out of the house before.

I do think men should share feelings (if they want to) but men also need to know how to express how they feel. “I’m upset with you” or “don’t talk to me I’m still mad” instead of punching a wall or screaming in my face. And it goes both ways. Don’t tell your gf she is dramatic for crying or she is b****y for saying that you were wrong.

That's a statement but we don't know how the conversation really went... because there's a whole range of how to open up about one's feelings.

Share your feelings. Wait! Not those feelings!

I think we all need to be willing to question whether our approach and the people we seek relations with has something to do with the outcomes. Some people are just jerks... And some people unconsciously seek abuse. Some people pursue shallow or immature people and then are surprised to find them to be shallow or immature. If you're having problems relating to people I can't stress enough how helpful a counselor can be ... IF you want to consider whether you are part of the problem and you're willing to see things about yourself, you probably could change some of the dynamics leading to these frustrations.

Ok, goddamn. Who ever called the cops, get a freaking grip.

Gay married couple with a son. Said it many times here. I carry his birth certificate in my wallet & a copy of my passport & his travel documents because I deal with this DAILY. We’ve been harassed so many times in so many places. We’ve even had cops show up at our home at dawn because of reports we abducted a child and the person reporting had our license plate. Dealt with it in stores, playgrounds, traveling, school, medical facilities, you name it. Two middle aged men with a 9yo son is automatically suspect nearly everywhere. Even the well-intentioned people use the “better safe than sorry” c**p. Meanwhile, a woman cusses her little 6yo daughter out in Target, smack her her bottom and telling her to behave or she’ll get a beating and customers mind their business. We’re on the other aisle being followed by store security & being met by sheriff because we had our son picking out clothes. Every day we are guilty until proven innocent. Suspect for not reason than unfounded fear.

Yep, sad that all men are seen as predators. I remember being out with my boyfriend and seeing a woman sat in a car. We weren’t sure if she was asleep or unwell. My boyfriend insisted I was the one who checked on her as he thought he would scare her.

My husband had to deal with so many looks when our daughter was going through a "don't touch me! Leave me alone!" phase, and would be in any public space with her. She looks just like me, and nothing like him so he would only go to places he knew the employees in case some overzealous Karen thought he was doing something inappropriate and called the police.

That's messed up

Again, so real. 😞. My buddy, Grant, isn't even that old, only 45, but chronically single (and understandably due to his severe alcoholism). He mentioned having a really rough day mental health-wise and his shift was making it worse. I asked if he needed a hug and he eagerly accepted. I don't think I've received such a long hug in my entire life and I could feel him holding on and not wanting to let go as his breathing changed to hold back his tears. We stood in the way of all our coworkers during a busy dinner shift just hugging and I was so appreciative that nobody said a peep. They could all see him hurting and see how much he needed human contact. 😞😞

If platonic friendships are what all these guys need couldn't they make friends with other men? I see a ton of them hanging out having coffee at the fitness/rehab center I go to. This sounds like depression and I hope those dealing with it can get some help. Counselors don't just talk about feelings... they help you find solutions to get on a different track.

I'm there. Over thirty and unmarried? You are automatically damaged goods. I just turned 40. I spend every day alone. And its not for a lack of trying. I keep putting myself out there. But I'm just never good enough.

I am a 45 yr old divorced man in a fairly new town where I don’t know many people. The people I do know have spouses and kids. My best friends all live in other places. Normally go out alone, which doesn’t bother me too much because I am very outgoing, but makes it very hard to meet women. Most look at me like I am that creep at a bar. It sucks making new friends or by some miracle a new partner. The struggle is real.

That's depression you are talking about. Please get help. 🙏

I'm very sorry for every man that ever experienced that. Man can definitely be survivors of SA. But saying that women don't understand what it's like to no be believed is not right. Women are told all the time "boys are just playing with you, don't be so sensitive", "he touched you a little bit, what is the harm?", "I'm sure that you secretly wanted it". So it's very universal "stupid people and opressors don't belive victims". Thank the author for sharing his story and it's good that at least his parents were on his side.

Men should be listened to as well. But I am tired of hearing the “they always listen to women” thing. They don’t.

Sexual harassment (or worse) victims are rarely believed unfortunately.

Happened to me in school. Nothing was done. Boys are supposed to like having their d**k's grabbed. Granted my situation could have been worse but I reported it and no one cared. This was 30+ years ago so I've dealt with it but this hits close to home.