It's worse if you try report it while it's happening. Good chance you'll be the one who gets arrested

Thank you for sharing this frustration. The women who put you down for being emotionally vulnerable are contributing to toxic masculinity and you're better off without them. Being comfortable talking about your feelings is a healthy HUMAN trait - be healthy, and go find healthy😘

Simply because you are a man. No other reason.

I am so, so sorry you're experiencing this 😥 I am a 35 year old lesbian who is disabled and women immediately ghost me as soon as they find out I am disabled. I've been single for over a decade, and my frustration has had me recently thinking of how much harder it must be for men who are in a similar boat of not meeting the shallow ideals so many women have. This might seem like a weird suggestion, but I've found groups that do platonic cuddle meets - strict boundaries, absolutely nothing sexual - and it helps with that need for closeness, if nothing else. You deserve healthy connection as much as anyone 💜

I am SO sorry. This is not fair 😭 thank you for sharing, I am sure many men will relate!

On the flip side, i have begged my husband to look in to therapy to help him deal with his traumas, but he won't go because he's been convinced to think it's "unmanly" or "weak" or "waste of time". I asked him if I was weak or wasting my time by seeking therapy myself, he basically told me that it was fine for *me* to go, just "wasnt for him". Men - therapy is NOT bad/weak/girly. Good mental health is incredibly important, please do not feel like it's not for you just because you're a man.

I hate that this happens😖

Definitely! I want a partner who is still in one piece please!

A lot is also screwed up by other men, who just push themselves upon women or girls and/or act like a creep and they don't care.

I am so sorry you've experienced these things. As a woman who has had a lot of uncomfortable encounters with men, it can be easy to become paranoid but I am trying so hard to give every man the benefit of the doubt or just politely excuse myself from an interaction rather than be cold & make assumptions. You do not deserve to be called a creep for being a gentleman, or arrested for being an involved father, ugh!! Kidnappers & thieves are quite often women, not just men. I hope you can keep going to therapy - with a better therapist - because men bravely embracing their emotions is the only way things will change 💜

I couldn't agree more

I am a 35yr old man, and I cannot cry in front of other people. Even at my Nan's funeral, Mum said I looked emotionless. But when I got home by myself I cried a bucket load. No one saw, so it was ok. This is what society puts on us.

Whoever is best equiped to handle it should be the one to step up.

That's why I pee in a cubicle and use toilet paper to soak up that 'last drop'

This. 100% this. We must always demonstrate value. We must impress, or we are worthless.

Easy solution .....ask beforehand

Never had that issue with bringing up my two kids. Also now as a grandad taking my grand daugher out- no issues and not feeling like there ever would be here.

Mmmm I really think women can relate to being shot down due to a physical feature, both figuratively and literally.

I kind of chuckled at this, but you're right & it's something I never realized. There are no gender stereotypes in this household, my partner knows that if there's a creepy noise in the house, he can wake me up and I'll grab my baseball bat & be like "I got this baby!" but also he does all the laundry & bakes like an angel...so yeah, laundry & cake, manly af!

KEEP EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS PLEASE!!! it's the only way the norms will change, being vulnerable is so healthy & brave - even more so for men in western culture! thank you for sharing this here💜

Men like you will help change the societal norms, simply by opening people's eyes to the fact that openly caring men exist. Thank you!! 💜

I'll be sure to give my guy friends flowers then. I grew some Dwarf Sunflowers, I'll give them those

One of my male friends was just chatting with me once, and leaned down and picked a little flower and tucked it behind his ear without thinking. It makes me grin just thinking about it.

I've always wanted to buy my man flowers he gave me a funny look when I gave him some once so now I buy them for the "house" but give them to him to "look after

I'll make sure to buy flowers to my future partner 🙂

For me, it's not about the flowers specifically, but about the thought. On the rare occasions I have a girlfriend, I love giving her little gifts. Not necessarily expensive, some times it is literally just a rock I found that I thought was pretty. But the point is that it is a tangible thing, something she can hold in her hand, and know I was thinking of her. When I go on a trip, I get her a souvenir. Not because of the 'thing' but because its my way of including her, even though she isn't there. When I spent a week in Europe, I wrote a letter to her every day. She didn't get them until I after I got home, but what matters is she got them, and she knew she was on my mind every day. THAT is what we want. For some guys, flowers are a great way to do that. For others, it might be something else. But we just want to know that we matter to you. That you think about us as much as we think about you. Guys need to feel special too.

In all honesty, as a man, if I'm given something perishable, I prefer baked goods. Flowers are nice, I guess, but random donut because you thought of me will make me melt like butter in the sun.

Still remember my grandfather who was a amazing gardener tear up when my mum bought him flowers

I sent my dad flowers for Father’s Day once. I had them put them in a tool box and put different hand tools I knew he liked. I mean, one can never have enough screwdrivers. He loved it. A friend of mine was having hernia surgery. I sent him flowers with a card that I won’t say what I wrote, but it was pretty hilarious. He appreciated it so much. I have no problem sending a man flowers.

I do give flowers to anyone, especially if I know your favorite colour. And I knew guys love flowers too because of my work as a florist with lots of guys getting some flowers for their home :) some guys do go a bit manbro though, even though I know they do love that flower alot, so I understand if people don't want to risk it.

its like the saying the only time most men ever get flowers is at their funeral

I've given flowers to men.

My husband loves living flowers. I've bought him flowers to plant and he loved them. He does not buy me cut flowers, even though I love them and would thank him profusely. He sees no purpose to have flowers in the house.

I’ve given my (former) boyfriend flowers before, he was pleasantly surprised and giddy about it.

Morrissey used to get tons of flowers thrown on stage. Tom Jones got panties. I'll take either, they both mean someone likes me. (Sarcasm, had to have a laugh in the midst of all this darkness.)

I have absolutely no interest in plants whatsoever, and I still think flowers are wasteful. (Why spend money to rip something out of its habitat just to be mildly allergic to it while you watch it wither and die on your coffee table?) If you want flowers, more power to you. I hope you get tons and tons of them. But you're literally the first male I've ever encountered who thought "being given flowers" would be nice. Again, more power to you, but I think the onus is kind of on you to express that desire since its so uncommon. (And again-- please don't read judgement into that statement. None is meant.)

See, a lot of women would be hesitant to give you flowers for fear you’d think it is too girly. :(

Hah, I figured that out and bought some flowers for my son-in-law for his birthday. He was puzzled. I've done it before and have gotten very strange looks. We need to loosen that up a lot. Men should get flowers and be able to enjoy them, we should be able to give them and be recognized for it like a man is.

I mean yea... But I'd rather get chocolates or pizza 😅

I have bought flowers for my hubby more than once and he loves getting them xxxx

Try again. I used to love giving flowers to my guy. Now we grow marigolds and visit the desert blooms.

Express to your female friends that you'd like to get flowers! I sent flowers to a good friend of mine unsure if he'd enjoy it, but once he told me how happy he was to get them, I do it every year.

My ex said he liked flowers so I gifted him some. All other men I know sadly don't care or all for the purpose and what they skid do with them. I would be glad if I could make them smile by gifting flowers but they don't want some (not because it's not "masculine" enough, they are not this way. They just give getting flowers unnecessary)

We are starting to realise. I give my husband and father in law flowers. Tell your significant other that you like them....

What GUY wants flowers? Put my hops into beer, otherwise, no use for em

I feel like that balance is nearly impossible in American culture, and I wish it were different 😞 vulnerability is a healthy trait for all relationships - women who say otherwise are contributing to toxic masculinity and are not worth your time, as they likely are not capable of healthy vulnerability themselves. Thank you for sharing this.

Married for 43 years and I still get this a lot. One learns to give one-word replies, or none at all.

I hope not. My husband still hugs his father. My son is 12 and still wants hugs and kisses from my husband. I expect there will be a period during puberty where it will stop, but hope that on the other side they will continue to be physically affectionate with each other.

Even though I am not male, I can relate to this, unfortunately. It really does mess a person up

I have so much admiration for men who bravely rebel against this status quo of men needing to be tough and emotionless. Keep going, this is how we change society!! 💜

Unfortunately some generations of women didn't get a very good image of men.... I can recall my mother saying men only think about "that" thing ...very oddly her saying were confirmed by quite some men themselves...

You got to ask. It'll save hassle