I'm 5'6'' and got pretty f****d up during my child and teenage years to the point I am still trying to fix the damage. So yeah, pretty insecure about that. My fiancee is such a wonderful woman and she is gorgeous. I worry that one day she'll see that in herself (Naturally, I am trying to build up her confidence and show her how wonderful she is!) and decide she can do better, but I am doing my best to be the man she needs. ^.^

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That she will leave me. I never express this to her because I know it's unattractive. But I feel like I'm dying sometimes just thinking about it.

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What if she doesn't actually like me, and she's staying with me as a dare or joke with her friends?

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My neighbor, because he's very tactile with my wife and always asking me to call before I come home.

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I'm an athletic guy but I'm constantly scared of not being able to protect them, if some 250 lb Muay Thai fighter disrespects or hurts her then I have no idea what I'd ever do

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That I'm not attractive... Always feel that she's "settled"

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I have the worst trust issues. Probably an adhd thing but my brain is always contemplating the worst scenarios and ill kinda need reassurance or ill overthink. It's the worst feeling but I cant help it. Had multiple arguments about it. She gets annoyed and thinks I'm accusing her all the time. I'm nit I just need that reassurance to put my mind at ease. I don't like it and I wish I could turn it off but I can.. I'm like... you can be as grumpy with me i understand why, And I apologise I'm like this. But I have no choice in the matter. I just overthink everything. But because of these insecurities. I always make the extra effort to keep her from worrying. Takes a couple seconds to just send her a snapchat so she knows what I'm up to, she wants to go on my phone? (She never does) Take it. You know my password. I have nothing to hide so why should I get upset?

I do feel a lot of relationships crash because of insecurities, I don't understand why if someone is the type of person that needs reassurance, you can't just... make the effort to reassure them?

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My gf becoming dissatisfied with the relationship and slowly losing the affection she has for me eventually leading her to cheat.

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I don't have a relationship with my family so I don't really have a support system at all. They abused the hell out of me growing up, so. I also have really bad PTSD from a myriad of other traumas and just have to deal with it and be strong for myself and my wife. I don't have a choice and it's really hard to keep it together most of the time.

I feel like I live in my own personal hell but I do my best to fill up my free time with art, reading, music, you name it.

The state of humanity right now really bums me out and I'm getting more sad every day. I'm going to keep it up, though. I feel like that line in Fight Club, "everyone is just waiting for their turn to talk."

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I lack a lot of confidence in my sexual performance. Due to having what I believe less experience than the majority of my peers as well as a poor stamina.

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That I don't find her attractive anymore. It makes me feel like s**t. I need therapy about it because I've been lying to her about my attraction for some time and I really don't think that's good...

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I'm worried that I've gotten boring. I don't think I'm any more boring than the average dude, but since we've been together for so long I don't really have a lot of mystery and excitement left.



I'm hoping graduating and the pandemic ending will add a lot of new options for date nights.

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Not knowing if I’m ever good enough

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That I could be or should be doing better as a husband and father.

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The fear of not continuing to make the money I do. Over time my life has become dependent of my income, but it’s rare to get paid the way I do. So I genuinely fear not being able to find a job to keep my obligations in check. And before you say that I could downsize my life, I did. I have no debt, but because my ex and I were married for so long she gets about 2/3’rds my paycheck. I’m legally obligated to pay her that.

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Not doing enough to supporrt her emotionally. I grew up moving around a lot, being on my own, and then having my only family memeber die. It's hardened me and made me closed off.

She is the black sheep of her family and is really seeking a lot of affection and cuddling, parts of me that I have to work on.

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Money, supporting my family, because cost of living is f****d.

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That our marriage is only here because we have kids.

That I'm never going to make up for my past, that I'm not the man she married, that I'm never going to be a good enough father, or that I'll never be the partner she needs and that it's all existing because we have kids together.

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That I’m sexually on par skill wise with her previous partners. I wanna be my best for her.

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I am a large dude.. kind of a bulky muscle if that makes sense? Anyway, I am also over quiet and have a bad case of RBF.. so.. yeah. I tend to passively intimidate/scare people.
I'm insecure about who does and doesn't trust me because of this.

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Other men making her uncormotable by flirting with her on a girls night out, or even worse, her liking it. Just the fact that I only can know if she tells me, or somebody that I know sees it, makes me insecure.

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I have been dealing with not being “enough” since my first relationship.

Being cheated on can, for some people cause deep scars.

In past relationships this has affected my self confidence, created body issues, and jeopardized my health. It taught me to not have a voice and to prioritize my partner above myself.

(Edit: expanding for context)
Im not sure if this is because I am an Asian male, but when I was in the middle of my 20’s K-pop stars and Kdramas were increasing incredibly popular. As much of body image issues that caused women, the same was also true for the guys around me and myself. For some reason asian culture likes to caricaturize non-handsome pretty boys as either frumpy lonely men, antisocial uncharming “nerds”, or shady scruffy blue collar guys who won’t be able to provide for you and your kids well. Especially in media where you see “success” as being with someone beautiful like in a fairytale and a growing real life trend of people who are single or “fail to find a partner before 30”. It doesn’t help that family members will always criticize features about you either. My relatives kept encouraging my younger brother to get a nose surgery and eyelid surgery in Seoul because “being a guy with a fun personality is not enough just like a restaurant might have fun food but if the outside looks _condemned_ no one will go inside.”

Every day I am so thankful for my wife and the mother of my children that I can now live healthier. Those feelings come and go but she taught me ways to properly deal with those waves.

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I just got out of an almost 4 year on and off again relationship with a woman I still love. At first, she came after me hard. She made all the moves and I went along with it because it’s hot when a woman knows what she wants. I slowly fell head over heals for her. We would get into small arguments and I would double down on my feelings with her. These arguments eventually turned into her regularly breaking up with me. She would never leave me alone. I came back so many times, only for her to toss me to the curb time and time again. I probably deserved it but it got to the point where she could do anything to me and I would always leave the door open to her. I would’ve died for her, by her hand. The door is still open for her but I know she has never really loved me the way I love her. At this point, I don’t think anyone will ever love me the way I can love someone else. This has left me so scared I am not sure I will recover. I am here now so I guess that’s a good thing.

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My hair.

I have that disease Jada Smith has.

When I grow it, it's curly and people have said a few times 'You have clown hair', or 'You look like Krusty the Clown'.

Next time someone makes fun of me, I'm going to get my wife to slap them. I don't care if I can't go to the Oscars for 10 years, my pain needs to be avenged!!

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That I don't make her truly happy. That maybe she could be happier.

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That I'm just a stable long term option because I can financially provide. That unless I work hard, can fix the house up, cook/clean, and make her cum often, that I'll stop getting attention or affection.
Basically that my partner's love / passion for me is gone & unless I remain useful, I will be either left or worse neglected

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Guilt

I think often about how I have wronged people I have been in relationships and if I am still practising those negative traits. I feel like I constantly have to take responsibility for my wrong doing even though I am not with those people in my life really anymore. I carry it around with me every day and no matter how hard I try to explain it, everybody just says "it's not your fault, and it's not your responsibility anymore." But it doesn't change how I feel and I don't think it ever will.

For context - I was in a relationship with an amazing girl, who I still have love for to an extent. It was not a very healthy relationship as we would go from amazing times and experiences to bad times when I would refuse to deal with conflict or acknowlegde her emotions and it eventually crumble after 8 years with her developing a condition with similar symptoms to Lyme disease speeding up the collapse.

Fast forward to my next relationship a few years after that, I was a lot better at the short comings I had previously. But the problem was my hang up of guilt with my ex and the fact I held on to that translated into an "I still lover her" opinion (which is true to an extent but I have no desire to be with her) which caused even more problems which were new to me and I struggled to deal with as I thought guilty again for trying to have a relationship.

So now with two failed relationships, I feel guilty about both failing and my short-comings for both. I still try and take care of them both when I can at the detriment of my own sanity and well-being some times. I am terrified to date again as a 34M.

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That they dont love me and instead only love what I can do for them. If something happens and I can longer do that thing what reason do I have to believe they'll stay with me?

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The fact I don’t have my drivers license. I have two university degrees, am a teacher, but can’t drive. Feel like a loser but driving terrifies me lol

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No longer being seen as attractive or desirable, when all you want is affection.

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That I'm not good enough and she's settling for me while fantasizing about some toxic "bad boy" that she truly desires, or she meets that toxic bad boy at a bar/club but still settles for me because I "take care of her" emotionally. All the while she thinks about him when we have sex.

Basically the entire show of "Sex/Life" is my insecurity.

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I can accept breakups or divorces, but I wouldn't want to be remembered as a bad boyfriend or a terrible husband by the way I treated them in the relationship.

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I don't know what to do to help my SO about their emotionally abusive mother. Wherever it comes up I get really anxious and shut down even when I'm trying so hard just to be supportive and actively listen. It sucks knowing that this is one thing they really need from me and I can't be there for them the way they need.

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That I'm short. 5'6". I'm not as chubby as I used to be but her previous bf (we talk and have talked openly about prev relationships since we met) were tall. It's been a 15yr relationship and 11yr marriage and she's always made me feel tall but it's still there. It's possible it's irrational and I need to get over myself.

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I feel like the sex always has to be on point because we’ve been conditioned to believe once that goes it all goes.

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Losing her. Especially because of distance and for not being able to see each other. I'm in a long distance relationship and I couldn't even describe the importance she has to me. I really don't wanna lose her, because she always gives me the feeling that I found a person that is perfect for me, and that my life would no longer have a meaning if she leaves.

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What if I'm not enough and she finds a man who can do better for her

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One of my Ex-Girlfriends once told me I am too clingy.
Since then I am always afraid I annoy my partner😅

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I'm not a bf/husband yet but I severely lack self confidence, am insecure of my looks and my pp size (5 Inches) and just scared asf to be cheated on or getting dumped and I'm also afraid of not being able to understand my partner and not being able to keep her happy in general.

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My partner randomly deciding they’ve had enough of my quirks and unexpectedly leaving

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Her suddenly realizing that I am not what she wants and that she wants to be “free” to experience her younger years. I’ve had enough experience to know this is what I want but I’m the only person she’s every been with…

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I'm not in a relationship right now, but one of my biggest fears is meeting someone who I genuinely like, committing to a long term relationship with them, and then years (or decades) into our relationship/marriage, one day things just change. Like what if she leaves me, or has an affair, or pulls a jada pinkett smith and asks for an open relationship. All of those are things that would end with me being absolutely crushed, the relationship would definitely be over, and also potentially are huge financial risks, if I had to pay alimony for example.

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I have a couple of noticeable birth defects (even tho they've been repaired, you can still tell something's not quite perfect) so that's a big one, also the fact that I'm a bit short and skinny. Also being not white but surrounded by white people most of the time, I always worry about negative stereotypes.

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I'm not currently in a relationship and genuinely terrified to get in one because of my mental instability, but I also really want to be in one because, well, relationships are good.

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That she sent you to test me

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Heh, sigh. Here goes. I have ADHD and some other stuff going on. I am, seemingly, incapable of maintaining stable employment, as a result I struggle massively with frustration, self loathing, you get the idea. I didn't have kids, and it was probably best for them that I didn't make them exist. I'd be a moody, unreliable let down to them. Doctors, meds, therapy, just didn't make enough of a difference, I just kept slip sliding on down further into my depression and such. I left my wife, she's got a better life now, or the chance for it. What comes next for me? Who knows. Don't do the reach out, wanna talk about it, or supportive replies. This is a cautionary tale of not supporting your kiddos while raising them, and ignoring mental health/developmental issues. I'd rather you focus on that, so that more people like me, don't end up as I did.

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That I’m not a good enough husband to my own standards.

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My height is my biggest insecurity, I have been under 5'5 since I graduated high school and it annoys me because women like tall guys

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That she’s going to leave me. She can do so much better than me, and it seems like for every step forward I take in becoming more for her and the kids, I stumble and fall back three.

I don’t deserve her, and I think she’s starting to see it.

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How can someone so beautiful marry such an ugly man? There are so many other guys out there that look so much better than me. I can’t even look at myself in the mirror. I’ll never understand

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Not fixing things/re-doing things around the house..I’m not exactly the handy-fix it type of guy

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Overly High sex drive/ vicious adhd = constantly horny unfocused husband.

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That I can't provide.

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My constant mental instability. I have really bad depression and terrible self esteem.

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That she’ll fall for someone else, I’m in the USA and she’s in Australia

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Mood-Swing of my GF , Unfortunately!

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Well, one of my ex's in high school dumped me because I didn't text her for like a week, which was more due to me dealing with this essay that I had to write for English or whatever the f**k. Never got a word in to try and explain s**t nor did I get time to like...explain it to her in person. she just told me that "I didn't make her happy" and then like...the next year she just starts texting me out of the blue over Christmas break and this goes on for like a couple of months, and then she just ghosts me out of the blue. I find out from her friend that she apparently called me a "Stalker" or some s**t and that she had been dating a friend of mine...so...

I'm pretty sure she's probably the cause of whatever like...trust issues I have now. Probably the reason why I smoke too, come to think of it.

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Well, for me, it’s a really big thing. We’ve had a DB for a long time. I’ve hated every second of it. Then, 12 years ago, I got prostate cancer. After being treated with T compressing drugs that made me feel fkn crazy, I had about 50 radiation treatments.
My erection totally disappeared and shrank by 50%. Its totally dead. Even so, I still get very horny, but can’t do anything about it.
I not only feel I’m no longer a man, but a freak that cannot provide sexual release for himself nor anyone else. My spouse is in the “don’t touch me” stage of a DB and I feel less than human and unlovable.

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That she will feel trapped by being in a relationship with me, considering my feelings or having to plan stuff will be too tiring. It'll be easier for her to be single and not deal with me when I have emotionally weak moments.

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That no matter how hard I try to be the best possible partner… i could still end up murdered if she happened to be a serial killer. (I’ve seen too many documentaries)

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