Narcissistic manipulation at its finest!

i dont get how so many people dont understand this one

My first experience with a "nice guy" was exactly this. I didn't know guys could be that way and found it romantic that I quickly became "the one" after many crazy ex. I blame me reading"Romantic books" as they are really bad for young girls, they introduce a lot of toxic behaviour as normal and acceptable and even romantic. I learned really quick that books are not real life...

That’s very manipulative

Excuse me how did an internet stranger perfectly describe my father??? 🤔😂

yeah service staff and animals , if their mean to those walk away

man children never grow up , they want a mummy not a wife

At this point I'm afraid to ask why.

My mother does this

My girlfriend legit has zero desire to meet my friends. We've been together for four years. I keep offering, she just isn't very social and takes forever to get comfortable with others.

Kind of like unemployable white men who blame Mexican laborers for stealing the work?

This is a red flag both ways.

Those exist? Amazing.

Many men seem to (erroneously) believe that to admit to being wrong is a sign of weakness, as with many forms of vulnerability. A truly strong man is able to maintain a sense of humility, and to realize/embrace their mistakes as a way to grow and learn. No one is infallible, and one who tries to pretend they are is in fact displaying an extremely weak character.

35 years never checked my wife's phone once , just like her FB , it's HERS not mine , if she wants a private friend list so be it

Most of them, yes. Edit: I'd like to elaborate a bit... The crucial thing is whether or not there is a power gap within the relationship. I've seen several pandas comment that their parents had such toxic traits (and so did mine). Clearly, between a parent (male or female) and a child, there's a power gap. Also, traditionally (and physically) there is a power gap in heterosexual relationships; that's why pointing out such red flags to women is a good thing, and if a man's knee jerk reaction is "but applies to women, too!", it may be a case of downplaying and minimizing this fact, as someone pointed out in the comments. But of course it is COMPLETELY possible to end up in a dependent relationship with a toxic female person; it's just much more frequent in heterosexual relationships to be on the woman's expense. Hope I got my point across... I didn't mean to offend or downplay anyone's experience. 🏳

I had to learn to lower my tone , i'm short and grew up in a rough area so i was LOUD and swore a lot , not violent , i just had to act like i was

Dropped my partner off at Rehab yesterday. 2-3 months.... let´s hope for the best.

This can come from a place of trauma. People who've grown up or spent a long time being a victim of violence can feel like if they don't seem like they're always ready to defend themselves against physical attack they're automatically vulnerable.

Very paranoid

No one should go into a new relationship talking about their ex. I don't care if your ex was wonderful. They are an ex. You are only hurting yourself, and possibly your romantic interest, by carrying on about your previous relationships.

Or just generally talking nonstop and not letting you speak. I once got that at a first date, but made excuses for him, thinking he was just nervous, but nope, when we were in a relationship, he was still constantly just talking at me and interrupting me the minute I spoke.

Much better to be a feminist by action - get on with raising the kids, cooking the meals, or just going down on a woman.

The pedant in me wanted to say, "I think you mean guilt *trip,*" but after thinking about it a moment, 'guilt trap' also works. Perhaps even better 🤔

I disagree. Someone who says this might simply suffer from low self-esteem. Not great but not necessarily a horrible thing... The idea is to lower the other person's expectations because one is afraid to be seen as a disappointment lateron... typical coping mechanism if you were never good enough when you grew up. Source: been there, done that.

Too money centered is not a good thing!

A good SO always thinks about their lover!

Well, I sometimes wear sunglasses at night. I suffer from migraines and light just hurts.

To everyone taking this seriously, it's a reference to an 80s song, not a real red flag.

As an autistic with sensory processing disorder I strongly disagree. Ask them why they wear sunglasses.

But he's trying to keep track of the visions in his eyes. But don't switch the blade on him

Corey Hart says not to be afraid.... LOL!!!

There may be a medical reason for that. Don't just assume.

Haha anyone sing this in corey harts voice?

Maybe a Corey Hart fan?

I wear my sunglasses at night 😎

Not always true. My son suffered a TBI (traumatic brain injury) and as a result bright lights, more specifically, strobe lights, can cause an epileptic-like seizure so he often wears sunglasses at night. He's not trying to "be all that" he's just trying to be safe.

My husband has photophobia (light sensitivity). He has to wear sunglasses at night and indoors else any form of light make his eyes feel like he's bleeding. He is legally not allowed to drive at night. Some people just have medical problems.

What absurd nonsense. Here's a red flag: if someone has fashion rules that mean people are bad people

This isn't a red flag. It's someone's taste.

This whole time I thought he was saying don't mess around with a guy in shades and now I have to rethink everything.

I dont take this one seriously and nobody should. I see halos and its terribly bright, so I understand why some people wear them at night, especially in cities cause theres so many lights.

This one I don't agree with. I wear darker glasses especially when I go out. I don't want to make eye contact with everyone if I don't have to. Social anxiety maybe. . It's like the kid wearing sunglasses to be invisible in Big Daddy. This doesn't seem like a red flag unless he just us trying to block everyone from seeing how drunk or high he is. The eyes tell a lot.

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In Yugoslavija as teens. An old guy put on his mirroring glasses, so he could stare at us better. We thought it was hilarious

I have sensitive eyes and often wear sunnies when other people probably wouldn't. And my wife has a permanently blown iris so can't regulate how much light enters her eye , so does the same. Makes you feel a right tit sometimes...

The obvious exception is if they're blind.

Obviously some people need to but this is people who wear them without a real reason.

Sunglasses at night is VERY GenX

you guys know some right creeps