Narcissistic manipulation at its finest!

i dont get how so many people dont understand this one

My first experience with a "nice guy" was exactly this. I didn't know guys could be that way and found it romantic that I quickly became "the one" after many crazy ex. I blame me reading"Romantic books" as they are really bad for young girls, they introduce a lot of toxic behaviour as normal and acceptable and even romantic. I learned really quick that books are not real life...

That’s very manipulative

Excuse me how did an internet stranger perfectly describe my father??? 🤔😂

yeah service staff and animals , if their mean to those walk away

man children never grow up , they want a mummy not a wife

At this point I'm afraid to ask why.

My mother does this

My girlfriend legit has zero desire to meet my friends. We've been together for four years. I keep offering, she just isn't very social and takes forever to get comfortable with others.

Kind of like unemployable white men who blame Mexican laborers for stealing the work?

So knew a guy who did this but with his dating life; total incel behavior. "All the women my age are stupid! They don't know a good man when they see one." He then took a friend of mine out on a date: sent her dodgy texts beforehand, was rude to the waitress, showed up straight from the gym (did not shower either), did not groom, wore a weed shirt, and kept turning the conversation to video games though my friend said more than once she didn't have any interest or knowledge of them. He put 0 effort into anything but expected every reward for it.

That's a boy who hasn't made the change into a man yet.

I blame ME for my lack of friends, I take FULL responsibility for not improving my situation in life...

This is another one that works for everyone.

I hate when people don't take responsibility for their own actions. Any time I call my kids out in something I have to tell them anything you say after "but" is just trying to make it something else's fault

Same goes for women too. I was married to one who always blamed others for her situation. I still have to deal with her because she has my daughter. Constantly blaming me. And making me look like the bad guy.

Yes and yes.

This is a red flag both ways.

Those exist? Amazing.

Many men seem to (erroneously) believe that to admit to being wrong is a sign of weakness, as with many forms of vulnerability. A truly strong man is able to maintain a sense of humility, and to realize/embrace their mistakes as a way to grow and learn. No one is infallible, and one who tries to pretend they are is in fact displaying an extremely weak character.

35 years never checked my wife's phone once , just like her FB , it's HERS not mine , if she wants a private friend list so be it

Most of them, yes. Edit: I'd like to elaborate a bit... The crucial thing is whether or not there is a power gap within the relationship. I've seen several pandas comment that their parents had such toxic traits (and so did mine). Clearly, between a parent (male or female) and a child, there's a power gap. Also, traditionally (and physically) there is a power gap in heterosexual relationships; that's why pointing out such red flags to women is a good thing, and if a man's knee jerk reaction is "but applies to women, too!", it may be a case of downplaying and minimizing this fact, as someone pointed out in the comments. But of course it is COMPLETELY possible to end up in a dependent relationship with a toxic female person; it's just much more frequent in heterosexual relationships to be on the woman's expense. Hope I got my point across... I didn't mean to offend or downplay anyone's experience. 🏳

I had to learn to lower my tone , i'm short and grew up in a rough area so i was LOUD and swore a lot , not violent , i just had to act like i was

Dropped my partner off at Rehab yesterday. 2-3 months.... let´s hope for the best.

This can come from a place of trauma. People who've grown up or spent a long time being a victim of violence can feel like if they don't seem like they're always ready to defend themselves against physical attack they're automatically vulnerable.

Very paranoid

No one should go into a new relationship talking about their ex. I don't care if your ex was wonderful. They are an ex. You are only hurting yourself, and possibly your romantic interest, by carrying on about your previous relationships.

Or just generally talking nonstop and not letting you speak. I once got that at a first date, but made excuses for him, thinking he was just nervous, but nope, when we were in a relationship, he was still constantly just talking at me and interrupting me the minute I spoke.

Much better to be a feminist by action - get on with raising the kids, cooking the meals, or just going down on a woman.

The pedant in me wanted to say, "I think you mean guilt *trip,*" but after thinking about it a moment, 'guilt trap' also works. Perhaps even better 🤔

I disagree. Someone who says this might simply suffer from low self-esteem. Not great but not necessarily a horrible thing... The idea is to lower the other person's expectations because one is afraid to be seen as a disappointment lateron... typical coping mechanism if you were never good enough when you grew up. Source: been there, done that.

Too money centered is not a good thing!

A good SO always thinks about their lover!

Well, I sometimes wear sunglasses at night. I suffer from migraines and light just hurts.

you guys know some right creeps