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Men Point Out Male Behaviors That They Hate And Here Are 35 Of The Best Spot-On Answers

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The concept of manhood has been evolving a lot lately and it continues to be a subject of ongoing discussions.

The notion of "being a man" is no longer limited to conforming to rigid social stereotypes but instead encourages them to express their unique identities authentically.

Earlier this month, a Reddit user made a post on the platform, asking, "Men, what do you hate about men?" And it quickly went viral. Here are some of the most upvoted replies that they have received among thousands of comments under the post.

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#1

It bugs me that so many men can't just have female friends. One of my best friends is female. She is married, I have no interest in her romantically. She talks with me about her pregnancy, vents to me about issues she hss with her husband, etc.

My male friends always act like I'm trying to hook up with her or she is trying to hook up with me.

Nope. She is genuinely just a friend.

ASemiAquaticBird , Luiz Woellner Fotografia Report

Final score:

237points

Yo-kai Pro 1 year ago

Spread the word! There is such thing as platonic relationships!

115points

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We got in touch with the Redditor who started the discussion and they were kind enough to have a little chat with us.

"The reason I asked this is because I was talking to someone and they were saying that they wish men were more aware of what they do, so I thought maybe if I asked men what they hate about men, I could see how many of them actually realize what is wrong and also see that not all men are bad," the Redditor told Bored Panda.

#2

If you have to declare that you are a nice guy or that you are an 'alpha', you are neither of those things.

SinisterYear , Amirali Shaghaghi Report

Final score:

214points

Adam Belaire 1 year ago

I'm the Supreme Ultimate Ubber Super-Duper #1.0 Alpha Alpha. In fact, I'm so Alpha, I make the other Alphas like like they were Alphas in Alfalfa. ALPHA!

5points

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#3

I get criticism for liking knitting and baking I'm over it

No I don't want to watch sports and drink alcohol

Ok_Disk_8936 , Los Muertos Crew Report

Final score:

182points

WhiteClawOfDeath 1 year ago

Knitting is fun dude

50points

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"I think society doesn't really have an 'ideal man' because no one is the same. If there was, there are definitely multiple versions of it, as there are many different cultures," the Redditor explained their point of view.

"I don't see it changing anytime soon, as the world takes very long to change."

Meanwhile, a Pew Research Center survey found that relatively few men (9%) say it’s very important to them, personally, to be seen by others as manly or masculine, while 37% say this is somewhat important to them.

However, the survey also discovered that many men face at least some pressure to engage in activities that are sometimes associated with “traditional masculinity;” more than eight in ten say men face pressure to be emotionally strong, with 41% saying men face a lot of pressure in this area.

More specifically, 57% say men face pressure to be willing to throw a punch if provoked, 45% say men face pressure to join in when other men talk about women in a sexual way, and 40% say men face pressure to have many sexual partners.

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#4

That we’re constantly yelling about men’s mental health, then turning around and calling a dude feminine for having any emotion other than anger.

JanitorShwan , christopher lemercier Report

Final score:

181points

Yo-kai Pro 1 year ago

What other emotions? /s

14points

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#5

- Objectifying women.

- Being proud of cheating but expect fellow men to be silent about it because of "bro code".

joshmaula , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

179points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

side note: what an absolutely accurate stock photo. that's exactly what men look like while they're degrading women. good job BP. genuinely.

11points

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#6

I can't stand the recent rise of this horrific alpha, sigma, machismo, misogynistic, toxic, incel, red-pilled manosphere b******t. It's destroying insecure young men across the globe, and it sets them up to be angry and bitter a******s as they grow up. Guys who blame women, and literally anybody other than themselves for their romantic shortcomings are upsetting.

ChaosRainbow23 Report

Final score:

170points

Luke Branwen 1 year ago

Pathetic redpill chuds like Andrew Tate or Elon Musk are getting WAY too much platform these days.

67points

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The author of the post is right, change takes a lot of time. In his book Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It, Richard Reeves, a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, explores several of the key challenges that boys and men are currently facing, including the "friendship recession," the evolving nature of marriage, and the gender pay gap.

The friendship recession is particularly affecting men, with the percentage of men who report having no close friends increasing five-fold compared to the 1990s.

This social isolation can lead to numerous mental health issues and negatively impact their overall well-being.

#7

They don’t seem to really like women. Just having sex with them.

Dancing-in-the_dark , Dylan Sauerwein Report

Final score:

156points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Far, FAR too many men seem to view women as a hole to f*ck with an unfortunate personality/opinion attached to them. It's disgusting.

11points

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#8

My guy, just cuz she's being friendly it does not mean she wants to f**k you

Final score:

144points

James016 1 year ago

I used to have a fried who had this attitude, not spoken to him in forever nor do I intend to.

22points

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Meanwhile, marriage patterns also have shifted, creating a growing class divide, with educated couples more likely to marry and stay together than their less educated counterparts. This divide only exacerbates economic and social inequalities.

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The gender pay gap persists, driven by differences in work patterns and time spent raising children. Women are more likely to work part-time or take career breaks, impacting their earning potential, and societal expectations and gender norms play a significant role in shaping the choices men and women make in their careers and personal lives.

To Reeves, these problems are generally structural, not individual, and the interventions tried so far haven’t been very effective. He argues that we ought to confront these issues in a deliberate and thoughtful manner. By addressing them head-on, society can work toward a more equitable and inclusive future, allowing manhood to evolve and thrive.

#9

Maybe I’m too old… but recently I went to a dancing club after years of break (children and stuff) and watched literally tens of situations, where a drunk guy tries to dance with a stranger woman, to hold her, hug her, even kiss her - she clearly says „no”, pushes him, but he still keeps trying - from the left, from the right, from behind. Terrifying and disgusting. Especially when I think what my daughter would have to get through in maybe 10 years…

Paszczakojad , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

143points

Nea 1 year ago

Any man or woman who sees something like this happening could/should intervene calmly. I have had strangers intervene in such situations and I felt lot less scared to continue the party.

70points

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#10

That you need to be an a*****e to get women.

Be good at something. Be funny. Ask questions.

That's it. It's not rocket science.

If a girl doesn't like you. Move on.

WeCanRememberIt , Quang Nguyen Report

Final score:

140points

Jesse Setliffe 1 year ago

That last line is very important.

78points

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#11

I don't want to fight you because we accidentally bumped each other, or your girl. When I said, "excuse me, sorry," I meant it. Relax.

Raspberries-Are-Evil , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

137points

Strings 1 year ago

The part that gets me the most with this is the tactical fail. You're going to throw down with someone you know NOTHING about: their training, the possibility they're armed, etc

6points

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#12

That all men seem to want to talk about sports. I care absolutely nothing about other people playing sports.

abernathym , Amit Lahav Report

Final score:

133points

Karl 1 year ago

I can’t stand sports. I think men think it’s the international male language but Christ, it’s dull and I try to change the subject asap.

50points

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#13

A coworker of mine constantly tries to flirt with another coworker even if she keeps shutting him down. One day I asked him why he keeps trying to flirt with her when she is not interested, his answer was "I take it as a challenge". Hate men like this. I hope the other coworker will make a formal complaint soon.

SuvenPan Report

Final score:

131points

StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 1 year ago

NO! Don’t take it as a challenge! Back off!

25points

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#14

"locker room talk".

I mean, I get it to an extent. But there are dudes who go overboard with saying pretty heinous things about women in general or even specific women.

The dude will turn around and be all lovey dovey.... Ladies..... If y'all only knew the things that half of y'all's men say behind your back.....

I had a coworker who would say nasty s**t about women, but then he found out I was friends with someone he was interested in. He asked me to put a good word in for him.

I talked to her about him and found out she was kind of interested in him to. I told her not to touch him with a 10 foot pole and told her about all the stuff he says about women. She blocked him pretty much immediately thankfully.

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Final score:

127points

DebB 1 year ago

Good for you!

40points

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#15

I absolutely hate competitive banter from strangers. I don't mind the occasional jibe from my mates, but if you don't know me, f*kc off with that sh1t.

MrPandabites , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

126points

Tiramisu 1 year ago (edited)

Yes please!

16points

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#16

It's sad that so many (mostly) young men are constantly obsessing about whether or not other men think that they're gay.

"I can't wear this, it's gay"; "I can't listen to X type of music, it's gay".

I used to work for my university's YouTube channel and was interviewing a guy and he asked us to move from where we were filming because the LGBTQIA+ student club's poster was behind him and people could think he was part of it.

You realize how much more energy these dudes could put towards things that actually matter in life rather than this obsession? It's seriously depressing how insecure they are.

Rant over.

Kbrito9 , Dayvison Tadeu Report

Final score:

110points

Monday 1 year ago

You know what's gay? Being romantic with someone the same gender as you. No joke here just seems like the definition is required at times.

14points

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#17

I hate the "ball and chain" humour. I'm at the age now where a bunch of my friends are getting married now and it just started all of a sudden. I'm getting married soon and I've had so many of my friends tell me "it's all downhill from here". They're obviously joking, but it's just not funny. I don't like thinking of marriage as a battle of two opposing forces. I love my partner and enjoy our life together, I genuinely don't see then humour in constantly making fun of the person who's always supposed to have your back, and vice versa.

ZNasT , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

110points

Karl 1 year ago

My wife and I have been married so long we occasionally pretend we’re like this in front of other people in a highly exaggerated way e.g. “Alright, me old trouble and strife, ball and chain, battle axe, etc.” and she replies “You men! All useless bastards! I’m going home to my mother!” 😎

48points

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#18

The shift from when we're all hanging with women around to just the two of us and suddenly it becomes okay for them to start making derrogatory or overly sexual comments about whoever we were just with. I'm glad you feel comfortable with me dude but I don't think you should ever feel comfortable enough to start saying those things. Respect for people still goes even when they're not there to listen.

vendettamoon , William Fortunato Report

Final score:

102points

Telepathetic 1 year ago (edited)

If they talk Sheet about others who aren't there they'll certainly talk Sheet about You when you're not

33points

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#19

Why do you pieces of s**t have to be so damn creepy to women to the point they look at men they don’t know as a potential threat? Ffs is it really that hard to not be a pervert?

Swordbreaker925 Report

Final score:

102points

Andy Cran 1 year ago

apparently not

11points

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#20

How creepy other men are. I’m still young, mid teens with my first job. At that job a pool is involved and my co workers, the female ones, get hit on constantly, all the time, by creepy guys. There’s one guy that comes in with kids and hits on my co worker. Another that came in yesterday had to be reported by my other co worker because the dude hit on her! She’s 16 dude!

Jordan, if you’re reading this, stop going and hitting on that 16 year old blonde you perv.

Sufficient_Gain_1164 Report

Final score:

98points

Tiramisu 1 year ago

It really is disgusting. Part of me feels hopeful, though, since these conversations seem to be becoming more and more open, and at least a lot of guys I know seem invested making things right when they see things.

34points

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#21

Bragging.

Just f*****g stop. You look like a tool, and yes, it's the reason nobody likes you.

GuybrushBeeblebrox , Sane Sodbayar Report

Final score:

95points

JoyfulZebra 1 year ago

Well, I for one never brag! /s

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#22

Toxic men are constantly claiming that they have iron wills and total emotional control and are the strongest, but put them into a situation with high emotional context and expect them to be emotionally literate and articulate and they fall to pieces. Meanwhile, they constantly chap my a*s for being able to talk about emotions and being able to hold it together in difficult emotional contexts (and somehow related, for knowing more than five names for colors), by calling me effeminate or gay.

(NOTE: I am bi and have no trouble being identified as gay but don't tolerate being insulted for it.)

Another thing that absolutely drives me up the wall is intentional incompetence, usually to get out of doing housework, where a dude will intentionally f**k up laundry or cooking so that his partner never asks for his help again. I rat out every dude I ever hear about doing that. I've quit jobs rather than spend time around dipshits like that.

tsaomao , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

91points

StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 1 year ago

The household thing is especially annoying. It’ll only take like an hour out of your day, depending on what you’re doing, IF that? It’s helping your partner out! That’s what being a good husband is!

11points

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#23

Road rage. It’s a bigger problem among men. Everyone needs to just chill out and be patient on the roadways.

self-hating-redditor , JÉSHOOTS Report

Final score:

85points

Sean 1 year ago

Men and women both experience road rage in relatively equal amounts, but overly aggressive driving due to road rage is a predominantly male thing and is the “bigger problem”. It endangers everyone else on the road and is just a stupid thing to do. To the guys who do this: Slow down (both mentally and your vehicle’s speed), take a deep breath, and let it go. The car in front of you cutting you off or similar isn’t worth dying for and isn’t worth killing someone else for.

15points

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#24

I was raised by a single mom and have a baby sister (who is an adult now). I can't stand it when men are misogynistic, condescending, controlling, etc., with women.

Nervous_Magazine_200 , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

85points

Sebby's Mama 1 year ago

My older brother (38) and I (36/female) were raised by a single mom. He watches right wing videos constantly, and has absolutely no interest in the rights of anyone other than his own. And guess where he lives? With Mom 🙃

8points

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#25

I hate men who have a constant commitment to the “tough guy” act. I’m someone who doesn’t take myself too seriously and often makes self deprecating jokes to break the ice. I was doing this at a casino once with a group of strangers and one guy seemed to see my joke as an opening to repeatedly mock me and assert his “dominance”. Pretty much ruined the overall mood at the table. Like dude can you just be a person for 20 minutes and laugh along with the rest of us instead of playing some kind of Johnny Bravo character?

IronSavage3 , Brooke Cagle Report

Final score:

79points

Mycroft1967 1 year ago

I'm a very chill guy but I'm 6 foot 2 inches and built like a linebacker. Always get the guys who act tough but are looking for the nearest exit. I just ignore them and smile.

20points

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#26

The thought that any emotional openness means the guy is a homosexual.

MailSalt4828 , Khoa Võ Report

Final score:

78points

Ace 1 year ago

The thought that being gay is something negative.

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#27

The fact that a handful of selfish a******s who can't keep it in their pants makes all men look terrible. Talking s**t about women you find unattractive doesn't make you cool. It makes you a garbage human being.

Any guy who posts videos on how to pick up women on the street. I don't watch them, but people talk about them and it's the most pathetic and creepy thing. If it's not staged, then the women look so uncomfortable and annoyed. A hard kick in the balls to these pieces of s**t should be legal and encouraged.

Fallen311 Report

Final score:

77points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Assuming the first sentence is referring to sexual predators, they CAN keep it in their pants, they just WON'T. Men are not brainless animals who are slaves to their sexual impulses, they CHOOSE to ignore boundaries/consent/laws for their own gratification or entitlement.

6points

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#28

How so many of them can’t stop being f*****g creepy and aggressive towards women. A guy tried hitting on my wife at the store the other day, which isn’t bad inherently, but he followed her to her car. When she said she was married he backed off, but guys don’t realize how scary getting followed is for most women. Even if you’re a nice dude, just don’t follow them.

mashington14 Report

Final score:

72points

Nicole Weymann 1 year ago

...not to mention her boundaries ("NO!") weren't enough to deter the creep, but "poaching" another guy's territory was a no-go. So the potential opinion of a man who wasn't even present was more relevant than the voice of the person creep was "interested" in (not interested enough to listen to her, though)

44points

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#29

I worked in an all-female shop for a few years then transferred to the shipping department that was all-male.

I have found the biggest gossips were men, hands down. We accuse the women of being nosy, not being able to keep a secret, but my experiences tell a different story.

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71points

Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

A lot of stereotypes about women are just men projecting onto us; studies have shown that men talk WAY more than women, perceive conversations as equal when women only speak 30% of the time, and think women dominate conversation when they speak 50% of the time.

28points

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#30

That literally everything between us seems to always become a d**k swinging contest.

Nobody cares who can pee the furthest from the urinal my guy.🙄

Consistent_Edge9211 , Mídia Report

Final score:

59points

PlatinumTheCat 1 year ago

This is one of the grossest things I have other heard, who the 🦊 cares about any of that 💩, people who care about the length of their thing or who can do it better with their thing are disgusting (by the way I’m saying thing and using emojis because I’m not allowed to curse and I just don’t want to say the other word)

1point

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#31

My friends have had no success with girls, and now they're at a point where they'll only make misogynistic comments all the time, while still having "getting laid" as their ultimate goal in life.

Bonemarrowchutney , AllGo - An App For Plus Size People Report

Final score:

57points

Ace 1 year ago (edited)

It's misogynistic ducks like Andrew Tate, not to mention the whole incel 'community' that encourage this sort of behaviour in some young men.

32points

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#32

I hate the lack of empathy and compassion displayed by so many men. I’m thankful to have had a father who was very empathetic, stuck by his morals, and did not believe displaying emotion/affection is weak or something to hide.

My entire life I’ve had too many interactions with other men where I’m just taken by surprise at how they are completely incapable of seeing things from other perspectives or considering the emotions of other people.

“I’m JuSt BeInG lOgIcAl”

B******t, you’re making decisions and don’t care about how it makes other people feel.

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Final score:

53points

J 1 year ago

It’s illogical to ignore emotions.

6points

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#33

I'm not a man but I've heard both my brothers talk about how most guys won't speak up when they see another guy behaving inappropriately, even if it bothers them. Can't go against the pack.

And, in their defense, I've actually see them walk the walk and call friends out when they say/do something *particularly* objectionable.

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50points

Jon Lee 1 year ago

In the UK there is a new campaign against misogyny - 'say maate' which is for men to challenge their friends. https://www.standard.co.uk/comment/comment/sadiq-khan-tfl-say-maate-sexism-b1096355.html

1point

John Harrison 1 year ago

This is everyone, not must men ... it's just that men are the ones committing the heinous acts, and therefore more often witnessed by men.

0points

Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago

Tbh I have anxiety so I can't

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#34

The manosphere “dating coach” grift on YouTube and Twitch makes me despair. I’m not exactly Lothario here but I bet I could give better relationship advice

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Final score:

48points

Sahil Islam 1 year ago

Omg the amount of those videos I keep disliking is embarrassing. All the advice they give is absolute BS.

2points

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#35

I definitely fit the bill for average dude interactions (head nods, sizing up rooms, reserved (emotionally dead), etc)

Though I cannot f*****g ***stand*** how if you have 10 things in common, and one thing that you don't agree on or enjoy together, the entire discussion always turns into *that* subject.

Ie. I'm a pretty avid weightlifter, gamer, hobby artist. I meet plenty of dudes with a shared interest in lifting. So instead of talking about that, they'll ask why I waste my time playing videogames.

Why do you *not* waste your time and lift less? Idk dude, f**k outta here.

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Final score:

40points

Sophie 1 year ago

And you didn't mention how much of the men gamers harassh women gamers, just because they are being man and "better". But I get your point too.

17points

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#36

Lots of things. Mainly the predatory part of men at public places and events, preying on any woman. Slipping date rape drugs in their drinks. Rape as a whole. The whole Alpha Male b******t.

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20points

Luke Branwen 1 year ago

All rapists, no exception, should get the "Ken doll treatment", if you know what I mean.

13points

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#37

The over focus on getting laid and talking about chasing pussy. I like sex but I don’t sit around and talk it non stop

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17points

James016 1 year ago

Those who talk about it the most, do it the least.

12points

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#38

that some of us have almost no control on their sexual urges and horniness.

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16points

Tiramisu 1 year ago

Fr, and they’re so proud of it too. No, shut up. You’re not manly. You’re an animal.

2points

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#39

Men that have to always prove their manliness everywhere they go.

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16points

Tiramisu 1 year ago

If you have to prove it constantly, are you really all that manly?

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#40

Donald Trump / Andrew Tate types that think they have all the answers for everything.

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15points

Mike Fitzpatrick 1 year ago

They do, in fact, have the answer, if the question is: how do I set myself up for a trip to prison?

3points

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#41

The random/unsolicited advice. Especially from people who are doing financially worse then me.

Final score:

15points

Andy Cran 1 year ago

one of my worst flaws is me giving unsolicited advice on many subjects (I'm a reasonably intelligent and knowledgeable person and happy to admit that I don't profess to know everything about everything)thankfully I'm aware of it and do my best to avoid it ...but guilty just the same

4points

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#42

Incel behavior and the "alpha" mentality. Just a toxic mess of masculinity.

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15points

StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 1 year ago

They don’t even realize that by doing creepy stuff like that, they’re showing that they’re less of a man than the nice guys. Real men back off and take no for an answer. Real men respect women. Real men learn to agree to disagree and don’t get in fights over stupid things. Be a real man

5points

#43

The men who think it's acceptable p**s all over the public toilet seat and leave it for the next guy

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15points

Andy Cran 1 year ago

poor home potty training

2points

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#44

Anyone who calls themselves an “alpha”

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14points

Linda Roeleveld 1 year ago

Isn’t that a girls name? Nudge, nudge. It ends on an A?

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#45

The aggression. You can communicate with people without attacking them, and a person disagreeing with you doesn't have to be seen as an attack.

You don't need to endlessly posture and watch your back for fear of looking weak or whatever. Honestly, all that posturing and defending makes a guy look way weaker than whatever he's afraid of.

The other thing is that we're generally discouraged from talking about pretty much anything that stops us from being "useful". So we all bottle it up inside, and it tends to come out in unhealthy ways.

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Final score:

14points

Kimberly Alison 1 year ago

Always thinking they are right about everything- so boring. Learn to take an interest in someone other than yourself.

1point

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#46

I hate that we assume other guys are just like us or know as much as we do.

Example, I have a 2020 Ford Ranger, I love that truck. But I'm not exactly a mechanic. I can change oil and a tire, that's about it. Here recently, for some reason, I've been approached by other random dudes asking me all sorts of engine questions and towing rates and capacities and all this other s**t. My dudes, I don't know. And don't look at me funny because I don't. The f****r has a bed so I can haul trash, enough seats for me to fit my family, and it's not terribly expensive. I cannot tell you the spark plug firing rate of my fourth cylinder's rotator cuff splint crank case pad. I'm sorry.

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Final score:

13points

Andy Cran 1 year ago

I generally just be honest and admit I don't know or dont particularly care about the firing rate of the 4th piston....... real strength comes from admitting you don't know something often I end up asking more questions to learn more

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#47

THAT THEY DON'T WASH THEIR GOD DAMN HANDS. THEY'LL GO STRAIGHT FROM STALL OR URINAL AND OUT THE DOOR. Y'all, men are so so so gross, please don't touch 90% of their hands or anything they've touched. Foodborne illness would legit reduce by more than half, I'm convinced but have no hard data on this.

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Final score:

13points

Karl 1 year ago

See also the knuckle crushing handshake some men do to prove their “dominance”. Used to have a sales rep who did this every time we met - until one day I was sick of this and got in first. Watching him sweat as I pumped his arm up and down while squeezing as tightly as I could, then releasing his hand and saying “It really f*****g hurts doesn’t it?” Stupid macho shite.

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#48

Bro/frat boy mentality

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12points

#49

Casual misogyny.

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Final score:

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Wendy Hamilton 1 year ago (edited)

There is no casual misogyny.

3points

#50

Insecurities. Insecurities, everywhere.

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Final score:

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Andy Cran 1 year ago (edited)

I have been guilty of many of the behaviours listed until I realised I had to fundamentally change myself (an epiphany if you will)......I got help ,I'm not perfect but anyone can change for the better of themselves

6points

#51

Machismo seems stupid

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6points

#52

Not expressing their feelings or innermost thoughts. My first gf had to be extremely patient with me and in her own words "I had to work a little more than a year to get you to be even remotely comfortable with the idea of sharing your feelings."

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Final score:

5points

Kimberly Alison 1 year ago

It’s utterly exhausting as a woman and I won’t do it anymore - go see a therapist.

2points

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#53

On the whole? Not much.

I guess generally speaking I find dudes harder to get along with. In a manner of speaking. We either click and can get along like the bestest of pals, or (for the majority) we don't click and never really get along... it's more like we tolerate each other because we have to.

With gals it seems more like we can almost universally get along, but it's *far* less likely that we'll ever get close.

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4points

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Rocco MZ 1 year ago

Another thing is that I'm the guy (54yo) who never felt like he fit in anywhere. I'd hunt with my dad, play GI Joes with my buddies, build forts behind our fence, sing Grease into a hairbrush in front of my mirror and play Barbie's with my cousin Shelly. My dad couldn't see that me playing with a GI Joe doll the same size as Barbie was the same thing as playing with a Barbie. When I came out in the early 90s, I thought I would find my tripe, but I didn't. I found the gay scene to basically be a gay Mean Girls. In my 50s, I've found my tribe, my husband and my chosen family. We support women, people of color, the LGBTQIA community and we don't tolerate a******s. Our close male friends are straight and they are such good men, they give me hope. Find your tribe and love them hard.

20points

John Harrison 1 year ago

Excellent post.

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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Sexual predators and creeps CAN control themselves, they just WON'T. They feel entitled to do what they want, and since they clearly don't give a $hit about women's boundaries or consent, MEN need to be the ones policing each other.

12points

John Harrison 1 year ago

A GREAT observation started making the rounds on the internet within the last two years: Abusive men who say they can't control themselves are full of sh!t, because they only "lose control" around their spouses and children. They somehow manage to control themselves around their bosses and other men that are bigger than them.

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Adam S 1 year ago

As a guy I hate having to justify my interests or beliefs when another guy doesn’t share them. Why not ask me about it to find our more, rather than just demand I explain myself? Or, you know, just accept people are different?!

10points

David A Paterson 1 year ago

Nowhere near a complete list of problems of men, or solutions. I'm a sensitive new age guy, usually, no interest in sport, one-upmanship, malicious gossip, sexist talk etc. But if I'm seriously sexually frustrated, or in serious pain, literally starving, or totally exhausted, I can get very very snarky.

6points

Diolla 1 year ago

Well you're only human :-).

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Rocco MZ 1 year ago (edited)

I'm a masculine gay combat veteran. Not bragging as I was a bit of an effeminate teenager. I never changed who I was, but as I got older (in my 50s now) I became more masculine. I have zero interest in sports and toxic masculinity. I live in a pretty liberal and progressive area, but I'm often amazed at when some men find out I'm gay they think it's immediately okay to ask me about my sex life and if I've ever been with a woman. I've had men blatantly ask how I could like sucking d**k or getting f****d blah blah blah. When this happens it typically makes people around us uncomfortable so I will typically turn it back on them and ask, "Why are you so interested in if I like sucking d**k? You looking for a blowjob or advice on how to give one?" They usually back track and try to make jokes, and they usually exit the situation. I've never understood why straight men like to ask me about what I like sexually. Why do they care? One time I met two guys, best friends since childhood.

5points

Rocco MZ 1 year ago (edited)

One of the guys was an Alpha Male. He started grilling me about what sex with a guy was like. So then I said, "You two are best friends, right? Since childhood. Have you ever seen each other naked?" The one dude got offended, but his best friend was snickering. Then I asked, "Did you guys ever mess around together as teenagers?" The guy was getting pissed. His friend was still smiling. "Then I turned to his best friend and asked, "Has he ever asked you about eating pussy or f*****g a woman?" His friend laughed and said, "No." Then I asked, "Have you ever had a threesome together?" His friend laughed and said, "No." Other guy was fuming. Then I turned to the other guy and said, "You've known this dude since childhood and never asked what he likes sexually, but you seem to think it's okay to meet me five minutes ago and ask what I like sexually? Either you're a closet case or an a*****e or both." Then I walked off. Dude stormed out of the bar. I got hammered with his best childhood friend and no we didn't hook up.

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LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago

The amount of times the words alpha, machismo, and assault were used in this thread truly made me sad. I know that there are truly kind-hearted, funny, intelligent, empathetic men out there who are working everyday to combat machismo and misyogynistic views against women. To all the men who stand up for women and for gender non-confirming people, thank you! For all the men who work to break stereo-types, thank you! For all the men who challenge the notion that men cannot show emotions, thank you. For all the men who also take on the role of child-rearing, thank you!

5points

Roan The Demon Kitty 1 year ago

Speaking as a lesbian the worse thing about SOME (of course not all) men is the belief that somehow their shrimp dicked sexual prowess is going to turn a lesbian straight. It isn't. But the amount of times I've seen this kind of rhetoric is extremely disturbing. (I've also seen jokes about r*pe when it comes to this. as someone who actually was assaulted after I came out.. that s**t wouldn't be funny either way but it's especially unfunny to me)

5points

LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago

I had a guy in martial arts who I thought was a friend get handsy with me during a class and try to solicit sex from me after he broke up with this girlfriend. I openly told them that I was struggling with my sexuality and that I had romantic feeling for both men and women (I currently identify as a biromantic asexual woman). He then continued saying that I should have sex with him to get over my "fear of sex" and maybe I just hadn't found the right man to be with. I wanted to scream and was so hurt afterward and felt scared and like something was wrong with me. I also had another man at a martial arts summer camp think that since I did not openly say I was queer that I was an object for conquest. I didn't even know this guy and he asked me to sleep with him and just assumed that I wanted to share a cabin with him and not the only other woman who happened to be a lesbian and who was sweet and kindhearted. Needless to say, I have not gone back into martial arts.

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similarly 1 year ago

This is why I barely leave home anymore except to go to work. This is why I'm suicidal. I just don't want to live in this world anymore. I'm completely fed up with everything and everyone. Seriously, I just can't take it anymore.

4points

Bored Retsuko 1 year ago

Noooo, hang in there. :-( It's true though that horrible people are everywhere and it's depressing. Sending hugs.

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Kristal 1 year ago

This is quite interesting. Thanks for sharing to everyone in the comments too! As a woman, it helps me understand the dynamics of men. I've also learned I was seen as a "guy buddy" cause I was spoken to with similar vocabulary here, that I've never experienced before, so I thought he was upset/mad at me. Nope, just how guys communicate with guys ... which is a little sad. Hugs to all that feel like they need them!

3points

Appalachian Panda 1 year ago

Guys who think that once you're past a certain age, you're only allowed to be interested in "grown-up" things like beer, sports, and the pros and cons of different roofing materials. Dude, if you're into comic books or dinosaurs or My Little Pony or anything else, keep enjoying those things! The inability to discuss any topic other than the World Cup and how drunk you got last Friday is just boring.

2points

DBear 1 year ago

Wow. 35 totally fake posts. Must be a BP record.

1point

LargeMarge 1 year ago

Men who are only respectful to women they find attractive.

1point

Diolla 1 year ago

Dogs. Where I live it seems that the men who feel the most insecure have the meanest looking fighting dogs, like pittbull and Staffordshire types. Even when they have small children in the house which is not an ideal combination with htis type of dogs. Accidents have happened. On the other hand, I had a male colleague who owns a Kaninchen ( mini wiener dog) and did not care AT ALL what he looked like when walking it. Now THAT's non toxic confidence. Really just like men who wear make up or pink shirts or whatever is considered "gay"these days. Kudo's to men who are not afraid to be themselves!

1point

Bored Retsuko 1 year ago (edited)

This is going to be the most off topic reply ever on BP but, is a dog really called kaninchen where you live? (LOL I mean I get it, stemming from "canine", but in German, Kaninchen means rabbit. Completely different etymology though.)

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Brainmas 1 year ago

So I'm not a guy, but I keep seeing videos of guys literally breaking their TVs over sports and video games, and I'm surprised it isn't on here. Wtf is that about? Like, you can't have emotionals, but it's fine to throw a temper tantrum over something that has zero affect on your actual life? (If it's because you bet money, bigger problems)Violent outbursts over trivial things are not cool. I can't imagine your buddies that came over to watch/play the game are thrilled you ruined it.

0points

Rocco MZ 1 year ago

Another thing is that I'm the guy (54yo) who never felt like he fit in anywhere. I'd hunt with my dad, play GI Joes with my buddies, build forts behind our fence, sing Grease into a hairbrush in front of my mirror and play Barbie's with my cousin Shelly. My dad couldn't see that me playing with a GI Joe doll the same size as Barbie was the same thing as playing with a Barbie. When I came out in the early 90s, I thought I would find my tripe, but I didn't. I found the gay scene to basically be a gay Mean Girls. In my 50s, I've found my tribe, my husband and my chosen family. We support women, people of color, the LGBTQIA community and we don't tolerate a******s. Our close male friends are straight and they are such good men, they give me hope. Find your tribe and love them hard.

20points

John Harrison 1 year ago

Excellent post.

7points

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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Sexual predators and creeps CAN control themselves, they just WON'T. They feel entitled to do what they want, and since they clearly don't give a $hit about women's boundaries or consent, MEN need to be the ones policing each other.

12points

John Harrison 1 year ago

A GREAT observation started making the rounds on the internet within the last two years: Abusive men who say they can't control themselves are full of sh!t, because they only "lose control" around their spouses and children. They somehow manage to control themselves around their bosses and other men that are bigger than them.

6points

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Adam S 1 year ago

As a guy I hate having to justify my interests or beliefs when another guy doesn’t share them. Why not ask me about it to find our more, rather than just demand I explain myself? Or, you know, just accept people are different?!

10points

David A Paterson 1 year ago

Nowhere near a complete list of problems of men, or solutions. I'm a sensitive new age guy, usually, no interest in sport, one-upmanship, malicious gossip, sexist talk etc. But if I'm seriously sexually frustrated, or in serious pain, literally starving, or totally exhausted, I can get very very snarky.

6points

Diolla 1 year ago

Well you're only human :-).

2points

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Rocco MZ 1 year ago (edited)

I'm a masculine gay combat veteran. Not bragging as I was a bit of an effeminate teenager. I never changed who I was, but as I got older (in my 50s now) I became more masculine. I have zero interest in sports and toxic masculinity. I live in a pretty liberal and progressive area, but I'm often amazed at when some men find out I'm gay they think it's immediately okay to ask me about my sex life and if I've ever been with a woman. I've had men blatantly ask how I could like sucking d**k or getting f****d blah blah blah. When this happens it typically makes people around us uncomfortable so I will typically turn it back on them and ask, "Why are you so interested in if I like sucking d**k? You looking for a blowjob or advice on how to give one?" They usually back track and try to make jokes, and they usually exit the situation. I've never understood why straight men like to ask me about what I like sexually. Why do they care? One time I met two guys, best friends since childhood.

5points

Rocco MZ 1 year ago (edited)

One of the guys was an Alpha Male. He started grilling me about what sex with a guy was like. So then I said, "You two are best friends, right? Since childhood. Have you ever seen each other naked?" The one dude got offended, but his best friend was snickering. Then I asked, "Did you guys ever mess around together as teenagers?" The guy was getting pissed. His friend was still smiling. "Then I turned to his best friend and asked, "Has he ever asked you about eating pussy or f*****g a woman?" His friend laughed and said, "No." Then I asked, "Have you ever had a threesome together?" His friend laughed and said, "No." Other guy was fuming. Then I turned to the other guy and said, "You've known this dude since childhood and never asked what he likes sexually, but you seem to think it's okay to meet me five minutes ago and ask what I like sexually? Either you're a closet case or an a*****e or both." Then I walked off. Dude stormed out of the bar. I got hammered with his best childhood friend and no we didn't hook up.

7points

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LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago

The amount of times the words alpha, machismo, and assault were used in this thread truly made me sad. I know that there are truly kind-hearted, funny, intelligent, empathetic men out there who are working everyday to combat machismo and misyogynistic views against women. To all the men who stand up for women and for gender non-confirming people, thank you! For all the men who work to break stereo-types, thank you! For all the men who challenge the notion that men cannot show emotions, thank you. For all the men who also take on the role of child-rearing, thank you!

5points

Roan The Demon Kitty 1 year ago

Speaking as a lesbian the worse thing about SOME (of course not all) men is the belief that somehow their shrimp dicked sexual prowess is going to turn a lesbian straight. It isn't. But the amount of times I've seen this kind of rhetoric is extremely disturbing. (I've also seen jokes about r*pe when it comes to this. as someone who actually was assaulted after I came out.. that s**t wouldn't be funny either way but it's especially unfunny to me)

5points

LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago

I had a guy in martial arts who I thought was a friend get handsy with me during a class and try to solicit sex from me after he broke up with this girlfriend. I openly told them that I was struggling with my sexuality and that I had romantic feeling for both men and women (I currently identify as a biromantic asexual woman). He then continued saying that I should have sex with him to get over my "fear of sex" and maybe I just hadn't found the right man to be with. I wanted to scream and was so hurt afterward and felt scared and like something was wrong with me. I also had another man at a martial arts summer camp think that since I did not openly say I was queer that I was an object for conquest. I didn't even know this guy and he asked me to sleep with him and just assumed that I wanted to share a cabin with him and not the only other woman who happened to be a lesbian and who was sweet and kindhearted. Needless to say, I have not gone back into martial arts.

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similarly 1 year ago

This is why I barely leave home anymore except to go to work. This is why I'm suicidal. I just don't want to live in this world anymore. I'm completely fed up with everything and everyone. Seriously, I just can't take it anymore.

4points

Bored Retsuko 1 year ago

Noooo, hang in there. :-( It's true though that horrible people are everywhere and it's depressing. Sending hugs.

3points

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Kristal 1 year ago

This is quite interesting. Thanks for sharing to everyone in the comments too! As a woman, it helps me understand the dynamics of men. I've also learned I was seen as a "guy buddy" cause I was spoken to with similar vocabulary here, that I've never experienced before, so I thought he was upset/mad at me. Nope, just how guys communicate with guys ... which is a little sad. Hugs to all that feel like they need them!

3points

Appalachian Panda 1 year ago

Guys who think that once you're past a certain age, you're only allowed to be interested in "grown-up" things like beer, sports, and the pros and cons of different roofing materials. Dude, if you're into comic books or dinosaurs or My Little Pony or anything else, keep enjoying those things! The inability to discuss any topic other than the World Cup and how drunk you got last Friday is just boring.

2points

DBear 1 year ago

Wow. 35 totally fake posts. Must be a BP record.

1point

LargeMarge 1 year ago

Men who are only respectful to women they find attractive.

1point

Diolla 1 year ago

Dogs. Where I live it seems that the men who feel the most insecure have the meanest looking fighting dogs, like pittbull and Staffordshire types. Even when they have small children in the house which is not an ideal combination with htis type of dogs. Accidents have happened. On the other hand, I had a male colleague who owns a Kaninchen ( mini wiener dog) and did not care AT ALL what he looked like when walking it. Now THAT's non toxic confidence. Really just like men who wear make up or pink shirts or whatever is considered "gay"these days. Kudo's to men who are not afraid to be themselves!

1point

Bored Retsuko 1 year ago (edited)

This is going to be the most off topic reply ever on BP but, is a dog really called kaninchen where you live? (LOL I mean I get it, stemming from "canine", but in German, Kaninchen means rabbit. Completely different etymology though.)

3points

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Brainmas 1 year ago

So I'm not a guy, but I keep seeing videos of guys literally breaking their TVs over sports and video games, and I'm surprised it isn't on here. Wtf is that about? Like, you can't have emotionals, but it's fine to throw a temper tantrum over something that has zero affect on your actual life? (If it's because you bet money, bigger problems)Violent outbursts over trivial things are not cool. I can't imagine your buddies that came over to watch/play the game are thrilled you ruined it.

0points

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