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35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users How do I show I'm interested without being a creep?

Can I read her signals accurately?

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72points

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Trillian 8 months ago

It is really not difficult. Ask them and be ready to accept a no.

44points

Leonardodapunchy , Suliman Sallehi / Pexels Report

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users The feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness that come from being ignored by women all your life and or being treated like your're a horrible monster just because you exist. I personally think that both men and women have it hard, but for different reasons and neither side is willing to acknowledge any kind of fault in their own behavior, but would rather put all the blame on the other side. .

Final score:

54points

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

This is legit. The best humans are good listeners. And good listeners make the best partners.

32points

TheEmperor0fNothing , Ralph Labay / Unsplash Report

Forbes reports that nearly a third of adults in the United States have used a dating site or app. Meanwhile, most people feel quite optimistic about their dating lives.

According to a Pew Research study from 2023, 36% of respondents felt somewhat positively about dating, 24% felt very positively, and only 4% felt very negatively.

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users The hardest part of dating as a man (who isn't super duper model-tier hot) is keeping the woman on board long enough that she gets to see your charm, and humor and positive points.

Personality DOES count, but it's a moot point when most women will ghost or dismiss you LONG before you get a chance to show what a charismatic, fun person you can be.

Final score:

47points

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

I'm thinking the person who said this is going after the wrong women? Of course I've never met him. But if he chooses who he pursues based on appearance, then it more likely that they will dismiss him based on appearance. Maybe his own criteria need to change for his experience to change?

97points

13inchmushroommaker , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users This is true. I saw myself as a "catch" because I owned my own place, had a masters, and was making high 5 figures, and took care of myself and still couldn't date anyone.

Ironically now that I'm older and they are older the tables have turned cause I'm "stable", but I've been stable, what the f**k changed?

Final score:

45points

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

Maybe you matured.

59points

rhb4n8 , Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 / Unsplash Report

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users The constant rejection. Get rejected 1000 times and you get more than a little gunshy. The worst is when they assume it must be a joke. Because you have to be joking if you think she might be interested.

Final score:

43points

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

And you think women don't get rejected all the time? Most of the guys who are gross enough to catcall and act superior are just generally jerks in real life. There is a middle ground. How about meet someone in a social setting and see if you have anything in common instead of being interested in looks alone?

31points

Heffalump 8 months ago

OP didn't mention looks. Nothing he said has anything to do with catcalling or acting superior. And no, women don't get rejected all the time, because few women put their heads up above the parapet to make the first overt move.

7points

Bear Hall 8 months ago

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Knitting Panda 8 months ago

You're looking for the wrong girl. The one you want is right behind you. You can't see her because she is the girl version of you.

8points

kath morgan 8 months ago

It’s odd to me that rejection would be constant? There are that many people you connected with enough to ask out? Maybe try being more selective…

5points

François Bouzigues 8 months ago

Highway to loneliness. Just to give you an overview. During his studies, my BFF had this girl in a mainly male field. They would go out, a whole 50 bunch every thursday. And they had a competition, that honnestly random looking girl vs all the 49 guys. Who scored the most numbers. She won three years straight every week. Some of those guys were the whole deal handsome funny clever athletic. On a good night, they would score 2 numbers in total.

2points

Debbie 8 months ago

If you get rejected a 1000 times I think you are liking everyone that presents as female on those apps? I hardly hit the like button because I am actually hating these apps and just want to meet new people without them immediately falling in love and rushing to the altar. The most annoying rejections I had, was when I had a match and they cancelled the match right away. That only affirms my beliefs that men like everyone and only check if they are interested if it's a match.

5points

LaserBrain 8 months ago

It works differently for different people. Some get gunsum-shy after many rejections, some just get thicker skin.

4points

Charles McChristy 8 months ago

Sound's like you're trying to box out of your weight class.

1point

Jill Rhodry 8 months ago

I know it's hard not to but don't take it personally - she doesn't know you to make any personal judgement. If you think it's a 'no' for some shallow reason be thankful for the dodge.

1point

Lena Flising 8 months ago

Women get rejected a lot too, or they are "pumped and dumped", when they were looking for The One, the one to build a family with, and grow old with. These women get assumed as jokes too, to think that those guys were interested in a long-term relationship.

0points

weatherwitch 8 months ago

Has it occurred to you that she thinks it's a joke as she's been set up so many times? I'm 50, on the very few occasions I have been asked out I have Looked BEHIND me to see who they're talking to because my brain doesn't even compute that it could be Me they're asking.

0points

PeepPeep the duck 8 months ago

I consider my self good looking and although I’m vain as hell I’m humble and see beauty in everyone else too, but hot dam some of the rejections I’ve had compared to when I was ‘fatter and uglier’ were polar opposite, it’s like they let you down easier 😝 some comments you get rejection wise once you loose weight ‘get pretty’ and gain self love and confidence seem to be harsher 😂

0points

Isaac Harvey 8 months ago

And then you become afraid that one nano-misstep could end a relationship for good.

0points

Lee Henderson 8 months ago

Nothing quite like asking an attractive woman out and she laughs at you (especially as a teen/20s)

0points

Rocky Wheelwright 8 months ago

Most women don’t face constant rejection. Most men face constant rejection, and it never goes away.

0points

Chris M 8 months ago

I'm going to guess you're a man.

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Leigh James 8 months ago

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Even though dating apps have exploded in popularity in recent years, they are far from perfect. For one, they demand a very different way of communication compared to asking someone out in real life.

On top of that, it’s often hard to fully understand what someone’s character and behavior are like online. We tend to present idealized versions of ourselves on the internet. And dating apps are no different. What you’re seeing is a highly curated version of the person.

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users I can’t speak for the majority. But ever since I stepped foot out of college, dating has become sort of…transactional.

Through non-work social/networking/private events, they say I look like a “one-night” kind of guy.

Though work events, I always sense that they just wanna use me for my network.

However, the best dating experiences I’ve had were from girls I met at volunteering, exercise groups, or when I’m abroad. It’s just more wholesome to meet people without introducing yourself as “XYZ from XYZ industry.” They judge you as who you are without the added spice.

Final score:

40points

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Howl's sleeping castle 8 months ago

I am a woman. People just assumed I am lesbian and not interested in men. I was in a long distance relationship and didn't use social media so they decided I am faking a relationship. I am a happy go lucky person and talk to everyone with same level of excitement, I was branded 'flirt'. There is no winning.

50points

You are supposed to know which woman is interested in you and to approach her while simultaneously being told by women never to approach them under any circumstances. If you do approach them and it's unwanted, then you're an entitled creep. The risk isn't worth the reward.

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40points

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

This is a fair complaint. But so much depends on how you approach someone! Right? Like don't ask a woman if she's attracted to you. And for gods sake, don't tell her you think she's cute/beautiful whatever! Just ask her if she'd like to have a cup of coffee or tea together. Low pressure invite.

46points

Constant rejection.

I have seen female friends cry for hours over the fact that one guy said no when they asked him out, and how awful it was and how guys could never understand how they feel. Lady, guys get rejected all the time, we know how it feels.

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38points

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Lotekguy 8 months ago

The closer we can get to both (or all) genders feeling equally appropriate in taking that first step, the higher the percentage of good matches.

7points

Moreover, online dating tends to create a deep sense of FOMO (fear of missing out). Even if you match with a great person and have a genuinely fun date, there’s always a nagging thought at the back of your mind: what if you can do better?

Instead of committing to a good relationship, some people give in to the FOMO. They’re perpetually on the lookout for someone better and better. All the while, they’re moving on from truly quality people while their standards keep rising.

#10

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users Nobody wants to date someone who classify themselves as good X for the same reason you don't say "I'm not racist": actions speak louder than words, and if you have to vocally affirm you're not a racist or a good guy, then maybe you're not so much those things in the first place.

To me the hardest part about dating as a guy is to make others confortable. There is an inherent display of power at play with men, and showing that you are in fact a gentle giant is hard in the beginning can be hard, especially if the relationship is new.

Apotatos , Toa Heftiba Report

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31points

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Elizabeth van Oers 8 months ago

No no please show the gentle giant.

8points

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#11

You have to both impress and be yourself, but if being yourself isnt impressive you wont get anything started, and if being impressive isnt being yourself, you may get things off the ground, but it will be unsustainable and fail in the future.

Final score:

26points

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Devon Archer 8 months ago

I feel this in my bones. If you have someone you can just chill with and feel safe and comfortable with. Hang on to that. No one is funny all the time. No one is “ON” all the time.

15points

mdgaspar , Yogas Design / Unsplash Report

#12

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users For men it's the **absence of opportunity on dating apps:**

* The staggering lack of matches
* The occasional match that goes unreplied
* The conversation that evaporates after saying hi
* The "maybe-date" that never materializes

It's also the **fear of social alienation or punishment in real life** as the internet has socialized young men to view approaching women as harmful or annoying (a courting faux-paus).

This puts men into a losing position as they don't approach and are left unapproached — essentially a ship sailing alone afraid to hail other ships and ignored by those who sail around them.

Final score:

24points

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Ti Al 8 months ago

I've seen many of my friends usind dating apps and noticed two things: First, mens profiles very often seem made to impress other men, not women (e.g. showing off your big fish, car, muscles etc.). Second, womens profiles simply seem to get more attention the more cleavage she shows. There is a big difference between the male and female gaze, and it seems easier for women because we've been trained to be attractive for the male gaze our whole lifes whereas boys aren't even taught there is another gaze. For men who want to have more chances: try to take a look at the female gaze and ask female friends what they'd want (and its not what those "manosphere" j***s think we do).

36points

failingupwards4ever , Mizuno K / Pexels Report

As we’ve covered previously on Bored Panda, some of the most attractive traits that people can have include being kind and loving and having a good sense of humor.

The latter indicates that someone is smart, creative, and socially aware, which are great attributes for a potential mate to have.

What do you personally think are the biggest challenges for anyone dating in the modern world, dear Pandas? Have you ever run into any difficulties yourselves? What are your thoughts about online vs traditional dating? Share your thoughts in the comments!

#13

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users How difficult dating is for an individual man depends on a many factors. When people talk about dating being harder for men than women, they’re mostly referring to men aged 18-29. This demographic of men have trouble finding partners because there are simply fewer available women in the same age range. There is already around a 5% surplus of men in the 18-29 demographic of most western countries, plus a significant number of women in this bracket are either dating men over 30 or have no desire to date. So a big part of it is the numbers game not being in young men’s favour.

Another big issue is declining social capital, both younger men and women have far smaller social circles than previous generations. This puts them in the position of having to date people outside their circles, which is part of why online dating and bars/restaurants have become the most common ways couples meet now. This is hard for women because they’re forced to date strangers, they’re taking a much bigger risk than men in regards to their safety. However, it’s bad for men because physical appearance is far more important in these methods of dating.

There is a perception that women aren’t visual creatures when it comes to attraction, but this isn’t accurate. The research seems to suggest that for women, physical attractiveness is important, but they need additional context to know if they are truly interested in a guy, I.e. personality, interests etc. The problem is, in online dating you can’t really convey this context through a profile, so women can only filter by looks. Whereas, they may have been more inclined to give a less physically attractive guy a shot if they met him through friends/family or in a setting where they get to know him first. I think this is evident by the number of average or even below average guys that had no trouble getting married in previous generations.

There is also a massive gender imbalance in both online dating and social spaces like bars/clubs. This exacerbates the problem, as some women have so many options they end up with choice paralysis. They struggle to commit because they have the perception that there’s always a better/more compatible guy out there.

Ultimately, dating has become worse for both men and women, people are now forced to date total strangers, which is deeply unnatural for humans. Though I think it’s fair to say it’s harder for men on average. You could look at it as an analogy of being in a race, would you rather be in the race but losing, or would you rather not be able to get off the starting line?

Final score:

21points

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

I think the shortest way to say this is that dating has become harder for men and more dangerous for women. There's no reason to make it a competition on who's got it worse

31points

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#14

Being denied any support or compassion whatsoever and somehow being expected to be confident. THEN I might get the support and compassion I don’t need as much anymore.

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20points

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Lotekguy 8 months ago

The loneliest times are found while in a bad relationship. When single, there's hope for an upswing at any moment.

3points

Crusty_Dingleberries , JD Mason / Unsplash Report

#15

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users The hardest part about dating as a man, is that you're never good enough.

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17points

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SM 8 months ago

There is seems to be a perception that "I need to find my perfect match." That person doesn't exist.

33points

thelostnewb , Dollar Gill / Unsplash Report

#16

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users Walking on egg shells for miles to reach a person who 9 times out of 10 isn’t “good” themselves. Mehhhh.

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17points

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Stephanie 8 months ago

If you have to walk on eggshells at all, then start over after a couple steps. Why walk miles in the first place. Eggshells are a huge red flag the person is not "good" themselves.

37points

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#17

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users The perspective difference between dating for men and women can be summarized as such:

For women, the struggle is to find a **good** man to date. For men, the struggle is to find **any** woman to date.

Women are extremely quick to dismiss men in this day and age, to the point that it feels like their real goal is just to find some excuse to do so.

My personal belief is that this is due to the dynamic created by a combination of two things:

1. Young women today have been told that they can "have it all", regardless of the truth of that statement. 2. Online dating apps reinforce the idea that there is always another, better dating option. This extremely short-sighted dating landscape undermines the fact that healthy, long-term relationships aren't found, they are built.

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16points

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

That very last statement is an important point. But relationships still need a foundation to be built on.

15points

ARocHT11 , René Ranisch / Unsplash Report

#18

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users It's the amount of competition. Back in college before all the online dating apps, you were just essentially competing with other dudes in that general area at that time. Now, you're competing with every male within your specific age range within a 50 mile radius or more.

Also, your profile needs to be exciting and interesting enough. When I first started online dating before I was married, you just needed a couple photos. Now 10 years later and divorced, I need a picture of me on a mountain top. A picture of me, but not too close, but not too far away. I need a picture of me with friends, but not too many friends. And I need a candid photo of doing something outside.

I luckily met my current GF after using Hinge for a couple weeks, but I absolutely hated the experience.

Final score:

13points

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

I think there should be a photoless dating app. Where all that space is dedicated to talking about who you are, your background, your values, your views. Then once you match up, you can get to pictures later... I don't know, just an idea.

30points

#19

Can sum it up in a conversation I read in a forum outside of reddit. Someone asks "Should a guy bring flowers on a first date?"

Most responses were ambient, just stating a preference but a fair few read like this:

1: "Ugh, flowers, tells me the guy is a total cheeseball and now I've got to carry flowers around all evening."
2: "If a guy doesn't bring flowers on a first date it tells me he's trash and has no class."

Both examples, guy is getting cussed as if he's a problem. Caught between being cheesy or rubbish. Not even a thought of looking within to see if they are the problem for getting bent out of shape about the presence (or lack thereof) of flowers.

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11points

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

Have you ever thought about what YOU want to do rather than relying on a cheeseball forum like Reddit? Sincerity counts.

19points

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#20

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users Women who like bread-crumbing and only provide one line dead end responses to thoughtful conversation starters. The entitlement that comes with the “entertain and impress me,” mentality that some women have all while contributing little to nothing to the interaction. That said, the fact of the matter is dating is not the goal. You shouldn’t want or expect to have meaningful interactions with most people. The goal of dating is to find someone who accepts and love’s you for who are and gives you permission to exist just as you are. At least it is for me anyway. Whether you find yourself more often f*ck-zoned or friend-zoned this is probably a difficult proposition regardless of gender.

Shafiqur1205 , Kelly / Pexels Report

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10points

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Krd 8 months ago (edited)

This is actually a massive problem with a lot of woman (maybe men too, but I can't definitively say). Mind you, I am pretty damn good at messaging, I always make sure to say something/enough to give them something to say or ask. Too often you ask someone basic questions, like "what kind of movies do you like?" And they answer the question, but that's it, no "and what kind of movies do you like?“ Like I literally gave you half your reply, all you have to do is ask me the same question I just asked you, and we'll have an actual dialog going! I've started calling out people on it (politely). Most get mad or embarrassed and stop talking, but I hope I made them better for the next person. Granted I've also met and talked to a lot of woman and had deep conversations/relationships with.

9points

#21

I think that dating as a woman is like having Netflix and wanting to watch a good movie among a lot of trash movies and shows, and dating as a man is like wanting to watch a good movie, but only having over-the-air television networks.

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Final score:

10points

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LaserBrain 8 months ago

Huh?

4points

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#22

> My female friend was saying that dating as a woman is the hardest thing in the world because you can never find a good guy.

It's hard to find a gal at all... good or bad, lol. I feel romantically/sexually invisible to women. I get way more attention from gay/bi men and that's saying a lot considering how much smaller potion of the population they make up.

Not that I'm looking right now, but it's not like I'm turning anyone down either. I haven't had a woman besides my SO obviously interested in me in 14 years.

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9points

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Brazen 8 months ago (edited)

Why is he looking for a gal? Why does he care if he's romantically/sexually invisible to women if he has had a SO 14 years? "it's not like I'm turning anyone down either" comment just makes me dislike this man even more. This is why women have to weed out the "good ones".

14points

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#23

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users Meeting single women. Where can you meet them without being shamed and lambasted? Yet you're a loser if you can't meet them.

If women are interested, they'll "drop hints" like blinking and breathing. If you approach and she doesn't like you, then you're "creepy and weird".

If she likes you and you don't approach, then you're "not a real man" and it's your loss. You're expected to initiate everything from the first conversation to physical intimacy but you're "creepy and weird" if you find women sexually and romantically attractive.

Final score:

9points

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kath morgan 8 months ago

Get off Reddit, mate.

29points

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#24

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users After a while it feels like going hat in hand asking for money trying to get a damn date for Saturday night.

I mean if a female friend approached me and asked me to set her up with a 5’11” 160 pound single guy who likes to bike, rollerblade and has a slight British accent and is studying physics, my reply would be - I can do that but can probably only get 4 guys that match this description exactly and it’s gonna take me about 20 minutes.

Whereas you ask a female friend if she has any single friends that would be interested in a guy like me, I get a quick reply of - no.

CarlJustCarl , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

Final score:

6points

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Alicia M 8 months ago

It's really not his friend's place to find him dates. I've had guys ask me this before and I don't have any single friends. Should I invent one?

4points

#25

The hardest part about dating as a man is women like your friend.

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1point

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Not Bored 8 months ago

That is dumb

4points

#26

Not all women are impressed by the knowledge that I know and have the same interests. Especially in the Bible belt. I am a loving and caring partner. Most good guys have certain hobbies that they deep dove into. And a good bit of women will want him to get rid of the majority of it or put it in the shed or storage. It can be hard to talk about our hobbies because a lot of women would consider it childish if we are nerds. I have told women my interests just to try to make friends and they ghost me.

And trying to convince a woman you are not her ex half the time can be exhausting. But not all women are like that.

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1point

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Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

The ex thing is universal. About hobbies: I encourage hobbies unless it's your entire personality and all you can talk about. But again the goes for both women and men. I might not be as interested as you in tropical fish, but you do you, it's great you have a passion in life.

8points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#27

35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users A. Because if you met the girl online you are literally competing with probably dozens of other guys for her attention.

B. You always have to pay.

B doesn't sound that bad on the surface. But it adds up and sometimes starts to feel as though we are being taken for granted.

It feels like we are escorting this beautiful princess around, which everyone loves and adores. Everyone is fawning over her, if you make one mistake she's gone and on to the next one.

You're just some chump who happens to have the credit card tonight which is paying for everything. Even the silly little add ons she orders and doesn't eat. (*"Did you really have to order that appetizer? You didn't even eat it?"*)

C. You'll spend the whole night talking about her and her problems.

Nobody cares how you feel. Nobody wants to hear about your day or your life. You're there to keep the girl entertained. And if you can't do that, then there are ten guys waiting on her phone to take her out at any moment.

Antique_Soil9507 , Cassiano Psomas / Pexels Report

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0points

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Stephanie 8 months ago

It sounds like op is lamenting bc they only want to "swipe right" on the hot girls...and a lot of them know they can get away w anything because they absolutely do have a queue of men waiting and always will. But are these problems truly there when going into a date for reasons other than hotness?-from a girl who has been best friends with many a hot girl...and many a non hot girl who feels the same way as OPs last paragraph.

42points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#28

I’d say back in the day be the most charming, funny or best match in the room to compete for some of us harder then others but, you can find someone.

Today’s dating swipe left or right have been tweaked to the dopamine fiend mind of a gamer. Everything has been tweaked to almost a gambling like formula, you will be judged immediatly by a few pictures and two sentences as that combined value of your worth and worst of all competing with every other single (or not) man in the city. Now them is some tough odds.

And if you like me dating way above your pay grade, you will be so f*****g aware of others and how aware they are of it, you can’t even enjoy it.
I was like a dog chasing a car, the f**k was I gonna do with it when I got it? I was ill equipped to deal.

DrDomVonDoom Report

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-1point

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#29

I've always found it annoying that essentially ZERO women ask guys out. That ish is a lot more common in TV and other entertainment, but I personally have only heard of it twice in my life. They don't have to put forth any effort.

Split10_1 Report

Final score:

-4points

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

Good Lord, I have asked many guys out, as have my friends. That's how I got my spousal unit.

25points

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#30

It's funny when you hear women saying they can't find a good guy and as a guy you're like "you mean you can actually find *anyone* at all?" Women go through their own struggles and I'm not trying to downplay that, but I don't think most of them understand what it's like when you have not options because it seems like no one wants you in the first place.

That's lonely af and destroys your self esteem. Women might complain that they can't find a good dude, but at least there are guys pursuing them. There's a degree of self worth there, where as guys can feel like they have no worth.

The thing too is that women have that inherit self worth because they're women. They don't have to make themselves more interesting or atleast not until they get older. The most given advice on this sub for dating is that we need to improve ourselves and make ourselves more desirable to women. We need to workout, build our careers, acquire hobbies and skills, get out of your comfort zone and learn how to communicate/approach. What do most women need to do? Mostly to look pretty and show up, don't be an a*****e and you're good.

There's a reason why there's a growing number of guys just walking away from the dating scene entirely. All that effort and upending your life just to be told you're a good person, you're just not sexy enough.

I think the reason a lot (not all) of older single women end up bitter and angry is because they are now experiencing what it's like to be a man in dating. Especially concerning older men still being attracted to younger women.

Again, not disparaging women, they might be able to get a lot of dates, but a relationship is another story. A lot of women struggle to actually find a guy that's not just trying to pump and dump. I'm just saying that imo I would prefer to be in the position that women are in vs what guys have to go through. I'm fairly successful when I put in the effort, but that s**t can be exhausting at times.

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Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

Hahaha seriously? For decades women have been conditioned to look after their appearance. Clothes, makeup, hairstyle, having a nice body. Women have been told for centuries to make themselves desirable for men. And they did.. And they believed that they could only be happy in a relationship, that was expected of women. Now more and more women realize they don't have to be in a relationship to have a fulfilling life. So a relationship is a bonus, and that gives the circumstances to set some expectations.

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You always have to perform. The times when your confidence is low, you won’t be able to date. You can’t doubt yourself openly, or be open about any insecurities or vulnerabilities. Even though a lot of these things are organic human experiences, women don’t want a partner who displays them.

Also, if you don’t put in initiative, and “put yourself out there”, your chances are pretty low unless you’re a hotshot.

Lastly, you’re expected to be sure about somebody even in the earliest stages (or at least act that way), when a girl can be “unsure about you” and act that way.

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

Again, this sounds so strongly like a case of having pursued the wrong women. There are so many more women out there who are interested in human men. But maybe they aren't pretty enough, or skinny enough for him to give them a chance?

20points

#32

After agreeing to a date, it's up to the man to do 100% of the planning.

Even after multiple dates with the same woman, the man is generally expected to be the social planner. It's exhausting and expensive since most women still don't think they should pay for anything.

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

You need a different dating pool. Women who expect men to initiate all the dates and all the paying are NOT people you want to be with. Or if that's what you want, this is the result you get.

20points

#33

The hardest part as a young man was that following the advice and literal statements from women on what they want in a dating partner turns you into a "Nice Guy".

You have to just know that there is a mile long list of other requirements unstated by her that she may not even be consciously aware of, like you need to seriously hit the gym for those impressive gains, and always be hustling for more green.

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago

I married my husband when he was a truck driver and I had a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. My spouse didn't have to work out at the gym and I certainly made more money than he did, and eventually he became the house spouse while I worked. There are more of us out here like this than some people can imagine. Sometimes men seem to feel that they have to have more money or better financial prospects than a woman to get one, and that's BS for the good ones.

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35 Reasons Why Modern Dating Is Tough On Men, According To These Candid Internet Users Women have it very easy. I make over over 500k as a physician. Before I met my wife, I dated countless women who thought my income was THE standard. These are women who worked at Walgreens, waitresses, school teachers, and other below average jobs.

Like s**t 500k a year is 0.1% income. Barely 10% of men even make 100k a year. Unrealistic expectations, and then I was called shallow for only dating skinny women without children (10% of the female population ages 18-29).

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Gracie Jay 8 months ago

Yea, I’m not finishing this article. All these men are single still for a reason and these posts give a pretty good idea what those reasons are.

43points

#35

Lol her saying “never find a good guy” implies she’s meeting men but they don’t meet HER standards.

Have her create a tinder account and use pictures of an average guy. Then challenge her to get 1 date. She will realize how easy she has it within a week.

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Jinx (she/her) 8 months ago

im confused,,, she should attract straight men with a picture of a man? ...also, yea, women have standards, omg! why does it sound like you think women need to accept any man even if she doesn't like him?

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Helena 8 months ago

A few genuine issues, and then a bunch of incel whining. Keep going for models between 18-25, I'm sure that'll be a super-winning strategy. Women risk rape and death by dating. Your feelings were hurt? I'm so sorry. Every single time a woman is approached by a man or on a date she is risking rape and death, and you're risking?.........

63points

Multa Nocte 8 months ago (edited)

I think I love you, Helena, for telling it like it is. :-) "Rejection" versus "rape and/or dismemberment." Women have more to lose.

30points

Zedrapazia 8 months ago

Dating apps genuinely bring out the worst in people, indeed. Before I met my lovely fiance (who I've btw gotten from a gaming Discord group), I've had two dates from apps. One guy wanted me to teach him German and was scared of his own mother (she wasn't there, but she's Chinese, which is apparently scary to him), the other one got a sudden meltdown and cut off a piece of his left ring finger with a steak knife.

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Lady Miss Pie Premium 8 months ago (edited)

Yeah, I had to stop reading.

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Chris M 8 months ago

I particularly enjoyed the unintentional irony of comments along the lines of, "All women generalize about men!"

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Tyranamar 8 months ago

Thank you Helena! I insist on a video meeting before I'll go meet a guy in person for all sorts of reasons. I want to make sure there's an attraction there, I'm not leaving my son to go out and date a bunch of randos when I could get to know you better from the safety of my own home, it gives us more time to get to know one another, and men's reactions to this request tells me a lot about them. I've actually had men get angry with me about this. One guy said "Why should things be different for men and women?" When I explained that of course things were different, women have safety issues to consider, he said, "What a bunch of poppycock!" I was absolutely astounded. Men can be so clueless. Helped me dodge a bullet there. Someone who won't consider my comfort level on a date is a loser.

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HARRY KOPPERS 8 months ago

happens far less than some would believe.

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Glasofruix 8 months ago

And this is one of the reasons men find it difficult to approach women, you're either a creep or handsome enough to warrant a conversation, there is rarely an inbetween.

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Gracie Jay 8 months ago

I think I made it to like number seven on this list? If I believed these posts were truly the beliefs of the average guy, my opinion of men would absolutely plummet.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

For me, they were fairly reasonable. If you go to forums where people discuss their personal frustrations it's wayyyyy more extreme, believe me.

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

Reading through these made me feel both sad and frustrated. I am a 60 year old woman. But I wonder, are yonger women really so much different than myself and those from my generation? I just keep thinking that these men are picking the wrong "matches". They are using the wrong criteria for choosing who to try for. Yes, just like in my day, there are a certain percentage of both women and men who are superficial, and who judge others based on superficial values. Hopefully they will pair up with others who share their values. But if you don't want to be judged by your appearance then don't pick your potential dates by appearance either. Lots of us are average looking and just don't photograph well. But we are great listeners, with strong feelings of loyalty, senses of humor, intelligence, etc. It seems to me that there are tons of places to meet people besides bars and dating apps....community theater groups, continuing ed classes, local volunteer opportunities. Try it out.

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Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

I'm 43 and single, so sometimes dating or going out. I think I agreed with every comment of yours in this post. I think also a major factor is that women aren't as desperate anymore as they were 15 years ago to be in a relationship. Many a young woman is ok with being single. Now it's the men who get more desperate. And it's the non desperate ones I would be interested in. So we both can be the bonus in eachothers life, and not the "missing ingredient for happiness".

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

I love this statement.thx

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similarly 8 months ago

I completely agree with you. I hope people will read your advice.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

On dating apps, people have unreasonably high standards and both genders usually try to get the visually based "best" guy available, and vice versa the same. It's no surprise that in such a shallow environment, not many love flowers can bloom

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François Bouzigues 8 months ago

Thanks Lyone. Your post is full of common sence. Indeed, real life, hobbies, etc... is a much healthier and easier way to meet people. I think the whole post is quite accurate for the 18-29 bracket. Younger dudes have little to none positive courting experience to build on. So they awkwardly try. And fail. And try again. Some get lost in the process. Some get better at it. Sometime, the issue is not even who they court or how, but just the timing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So is creepiness. Don´t overthink it. But if a guy is not sweating and clumsy in a first date, he probably had dozens.

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Anna Ekberg 8 months ago

How many of these posts stated "women have it really easy"? No, we do NOT in fact have it really easy ffs!

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Yettichild 8 months ago

Completely ignoring the fact that there are women out there who can't get a date either, there are just as many double standards and confusing expectations for women as there are for men. Ask a guy out? You're an independent women or you're a wh*re. You flirt with a guy? Too little, and you're cold or frigid. Too much and you're a wh*re. Reject a guy in the nicest way possible? More often than not you get called a b*tch. Set up an online dating profile? If you're at all decent looking you get creepy/threatening messages and unsolicited d*ck pics. Let a guy pay for your meal? Half the time he will expect s*x. It's not easy at all. And that is also completely ignoring the danger. I agree with the desert/swamp analogy. Men have a harder time finding options, but women are fishing around in putrid waters.

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Any 8 months ago

I never had a relationship (woman here), because I am too ugly and therefore invisible to men. I came to terms with it a long time ago and living my best single life. :D Time to get a bunch of cats! <3

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similarly 8 months ago

Never think you're ugly. "Ugliness" to me is a person who treats others badly. The end. Beauty is kindness, compassion, and a light inside a person that shines outward. It doesn't matter how you might think you look on the outside. If you let that light shine, the right person will only see that light and will see the most beautiful person in the world.

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PFD 8 months ago

I totally get the frustration and loneliness of being "invisible", but when that's followed up by any kind of sentiment about women being choosy or shallow, being a nice guy, being accused of being creepy etc. then the alarms go off.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

I think part of why this has become such an issue is that remnants of dating culture that existed since pre liberation of women are still somewhat floating around. For example the stereotype that the guy has to do the first step and ask the gal out, which can easily conflict with the new standard that women are independent and can decide for themselves. Overall, I think we both should just accept that we both face issues when dating, and it's not a competition who's got it worse

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Surenu 8 months ago

I believe that is exactly the case - it sucks for everyone involved, but it sucks differently, which is why I think it's important to explore how and why things suck and then work together - not against each other! - to fix those things.

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Nadine Debard 8 months ago

I read a couple an threw up a little in my mouth.

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Barong 8 months ago

I’ve been asked out 3 times depending on how you define it and boldly hit on a few more times. It was nice. Usually the women I had seen started out as friends of friends or colleagues. Through hanging out, some relationships became flirtatious and romantic most didn’t. If romance was in the cards it found a way usually, if not, it was great to just have a good time. I didn’t let myself get infatuated with someone who didn’t explicitly express interest or reaction positively to mine. I think this was a good way for me because I was shy, there’s little to lose, and there was a foundation of trust, care, and knowledge about each other. If we later started to want more than a platonic relationship with each other. I was rarely lonely and rarely worried she’d say no since I rarely asked anyone out on a “first date”.That being said, I met my wife of 20 years, after her roommate set us up. The relationship started off romantically right away and so did the friendship. She is my best friend.

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Sonja 8 months ago

It was the same for me, being set up with my now husband, hitting it off right away, and he's my best friend. But, I say, that's because we have very similar interests. We both like computer games, animals, movies (same genres too, mostly science fiction), have similar life goals and can talk for hours about our preferred topics. There's attraction and there's love. To be able to love someone, you need to be able to be friends with them too.

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similarly 8 months ago

I'm an old man who's been married over 30 years. I think dating apps are the wrong way to go, and honestly, 30 years ago, when people were going to bars and clubs, I thought that was the wrong way to go. Here's my advice: (1) Only approach people who have a wide avenue of escape. No neighbors, no coworkers. Never approach at THEIR workplace. If it doesn't work out, you need to be able to not see each other. (2) Think about things you like to do, and go places where you can meet people who like to do those things. (3) Make friends, not with the intention of finding "the one", just make friends. (4) Give it time. Go slow. You'll know if they feel the same, or if they don't, and if you take it slow and it's obvious they don't have romantic inclinations, you can still be good friends. (5) Maybe don't focus on the kind of people you're usually attracted to. Focus on people you like to be around, people you get along with. Trust, friendship, communication are key.

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Tyke 8 months ago

I'm genuinely confused - you say bars and clubs were the wrong way to go. Don't date workers or neighbours. But also don't use dating apps... so where do we all find these so called friends?

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Sonja 8 months ago

At your hobbies, at conventions, at sports events, at beaches everywhere you go for leisure and to spend time with people with similar interests. But you completely ignored the most important part: by looking for a female friend with the full intention to make a friend and only being open for maybe more if it so happens, but without the expectation that every contact is a possibility to flirt and date.

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Chris M 8 months ago

When I saw this article I expected lots of incel whining (as Helena put it) and was not disappointed.

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A S Mora 8 months ago

Men seeking women clearly need some etiquette training and to pursue genuine friendship with women sans the hope that said friendship can turn sexual. Not to mention, men on dating apps, especially tinder, aren't looking for long-term relationships, but convenient situationships. I've had more men from tinder chat me up long enough to just invite me over to their houses than actually ask me on a date. Men aren't frustrated with meeting our standards, they're bitter that our standards have evolved beyond being literally given away by our father's, and that we have the means to walk away when their masks slip.

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

Just don't date someone to support your needs, date someone to discover her/ his personality. I'm 50 ,like being alone,but still dating man to getting them known and let happen whatever comes the way. women sense out if a guy search someone to get laid,to stop being lonely- cause there is always a lot of advertising and way less" tell me about you" I often finish such dates knowing the name of the first dog, best friend,hobbies, he barely remember what I've eaten or the amount of kids I have ( " you are so mysterious"- hell no I'm open to answer all questions asked) plus: I've got great female friends ..clever humorous,loyal,50+,single, some of them overweighted. and my sameage average male friend( recently rejected by very pretty 25 yo):" There are no single woman who wants a real good man" I throw a tantrum,asked him why he search way out of his league and told him to settle for adoption, cause he don't sound like a man but like a whining baby. And he is not the only one..

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

Some guy even told me,he is going to find a thai woman, cause they are truely loving and caring for their men, gentle handsome and loyal and not such demanding and annoying b.tches like the german ones. I left speechless..found the king of redflagistan

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Dragon mama 8 months ago

Being single forever sounds better and better every day. It's just me and my pets out here, doing whatever I please and always getting the last slice of cake.

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censorshipsucks 8 months ago

As someone who's gone through my fair share I keep thinking it's better to be single.

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TRQ 8 months ago

Yawn. Don't post this garbage anymore. It's insulting to read a bunch of males whining about getting embarrassed trying to date women while women are getting systematically killed for rejecting males.

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Rick 8 months ago (edited)

I think that if you look at dating as a pursuit or a competition you are starting out on the wrong foot. Most people want a partner but, will fill empty space with short term affairs. Just live your life and keep yours eyes open for opportunities to present themselves. However, this may take some time and you may just have to get used to being lonely for awhile.

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

great advise, opportunities not purposes

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Heather Lambie 8 months ago

I'm speaking from a woman's perspective somewhat... about my ( now) boyfriend. The very first time he asked me out was to a "Rib Fest"... I am a vegan. He smokes, I don't, he's never been married, I was married for 18 years, he has no kids I have 4 amazing kids, those are just some of the opposites, but he always made me laugh and now, 7 months later I can't imagine him NOT being in my life, he is kind and thoughtful and his crinkly eyes melt me. My point is... ON PAPER we should not be a couple and I would've vetoed him on any of those "opposites", but I'm so glad I didn't. I'm so happy he asked me out, because clearly for us anyhow " opposites " really do attract.❤️

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Flora Porter 8 months ago

In the US, dating, like many other aspects of life, has become a reflection of the brutal capitalist society it operates in. Most of these posts seem to see themselves and potential mates as commodities to be bought or sold, where what and how many you can get reflects your own intrinsic value to the world. It's better if you take time to get to know people and allow things to unfold.

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Katarzyna Drozd 8 months ago

Aw, look at all this poor man, who just realised they are victims of the system that they created themselves

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François Bouzigues 8 months ago

They have not created anything. They are people, just like you.

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Sonja 8 months ago

In my experience, men and women have fundamentally different criteria. Men want ANY woman, women want THE ONE. Men want any woman to commit and become their partner, she's then expected to fit the boxes and then stay that way forever, while women want a man they think has the potential to become a good partners for each other. And that's where it clashes. Men should change their approach to dating and focus more on their own life and personality, to the point of being satisfied with their life even without a woman. And then going out to look for an equal partner to share that life and to lessen the burden for both, not for any women to complete and enrich it. So instead of messaging each and every woman on their dating apps, they should invest more time into vetting possible partners and write relatable messages to those who have similar interests with themselves. They'll get less chances, but also less rejections. And yes, maybe they won't find the right one. Accept that.

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François Bouzigues 8 months ago (edited)

Indeed. Be interesting and people will be interested. Be a good friend to yourself. But the rejection bit will still be there. And it is so obvious that there is not even any reason to be mad or sad about it. Focus on the success, ignore the rejections.

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Nick 8 months ago (edited)

I love how all the comments in here are by women

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Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

You are free to post your replies as well! Genuine question, what is your experience with dating? Similar as the above, or just a mix of good, bad, horrible, unbelievable, disappointing and mostly just "meh" like probably most people (man or woman) experience?

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Mark Fergel 8 months ago

I was kind of disappointed by a lot of the comments. Ladies, men were literally asked what they don't like about online dating and many of you belittled those responses? Haven't women, for years, been saying "Men don't listen to us." Here you have men actually telling you how they feel and you belittled them for their responses. Aren't we supposed to be actually listening to both sides? Shouldn't we be asking more questions about WHY they feel this way? You've gone ahead and accused some of the posters as being the quintessential "nice guy" or incel's, etc. without actually knowing anything about them and in many cases, turned it around and played the victim to the original post. It's sad and even shows further the divide that exists with online dating and each side blaming the other instead of actually listening to each other and trying to fix it. Part of why I've gotten totally disgusted with online dating (I'm 57 by the way).

2points

Ms Dodo 8 months ago

This post is so cringe, I would never date a man that thinks like that, and then have the audacity of crying about it

2points

Steve Hall 8 months ago

It's never been easy and the modern world of internet dating has made it much harder.

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Apatheist Account2 8 months ago

I was always the safe friend that girls turned to when their relationships were in trouble - but it was for advice or a shoulder to cry on, never even as a rebound. I met one gf through work, one on holiday, one at a sports club, and finally my wife on a dating site (25 years ago). I've never successfully "chatted up" a girl in a social situation - some of us aren't very good at that, so they had to find out who I was in other ways.

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Shawna Burt 8 months ago

Oh, yeah, men have it soooo haaaaaard out there, worried a woman might not like them. GHAWD.

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Parmeisan 8 months ago

I'm going to risk the irony of doing what I'm criticizing, but geez I don't think women should be commenting on these. Y'all are just invalidating the men's experiences with assumptions like "stop going for looks and you wouldn't be rejected" when they gave no indication that they are only going for looks. Maybe just.. give them some space to talk about how it is for them without jumping all over them?

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TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago

Good thing I don't have to care about all those problems since I have absolutely no interest in forming any kind of relationships with another person - The only winning move is not to play?

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Raven Hayden Rudnik 5 months ago

I think this whole list is just guys thinking dating is a competition. It is not a win or loose situation. I feel like they just want to date anyone for the sake of dating. I hate the whole dating culture. I want to meet people or invite them because I like their vibe, not because I want to date them. If we get along, well sure, but I dont act like ooooo nice body, I want to date them xx

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sofacushionfort 8 months ago

Don’t value yourself as just a commodity, and don’t treat anyone else as just a commodity; and avoid those who do. Allow yourself to be disappointed, because it’s going to happen sometimes anyway. Accept that you can be disappointed in yourself and in the eyes of others. Every era in history has its unique challenges, and yours is its placing of resentment at a premium. Your challenge is to find happiness in resisting it, not in nursing it.

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Sergio Bicerra 8 months ago

Thee hardest struggle is: you're not trying hard enough. And breaks me, been single since 205

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Cowws 8 months ago

man, 1819 years of singleness does sound tough

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Rtblast66 8 months ago

After my divorce, always found it hard to talk to women, these were the days before dating apps. I'd go out with mates, found it awkward to speak to women. More often than not, they'd ask, " You got a car?" . "No, but I own my own house , have a job, support 2 kids." They always (sorry ladies) seemed like gold diggers. Now happily married for 2nd time.

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Helena 8 months ago

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Multa Nocte 8 months ago (edited)

I think I love you, Helena, for telling it like it is. :-) "Rejection" versus "rape and/or dismemberment." Women have more to lose.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

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Lady Miss Pie Premium 8 months ago (edited)

Yeah, I had to stop reading.

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Chris M 8 months ago

I particularly enjoyed the unintentional irony of comments along the lines of, "All women generalize about men!"

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HARRY KOPPERS 8 months ago

happens far less than some would believe.

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Glasofruix 8 months ago

And this is one of the reasons men find it difficult to approach women, you're either a creep or handsome enough to warrant a conversation, there is rarely an inbetween.

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Gracie Jay 8 months ago

I think I made it to like number seven on this list? If I believed these posts were truly the beliefs of the average guy, my opinion of men would absolutely plummet.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

For me, they were fairly reasonable. If you go to forums where people discuss their personal frustrations it's wayyyyy more extreme, believe me.

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Lyone Fein 8 months ago

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Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

I love this statement.thx

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similarly 8 months ago

I completely agree with you. I hope people will read your advice.

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Zedrapazia 8 months ago

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François Bouzigues 8 months ago

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Anna Ekberg 8 months ago

How many of these posts stated "women have it really easy"? No, we do NOT in fact have it really easy ffs!

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Yettichild 8 months ago

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Surenu 8 months ago

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Nadine Debard 8 months ago

I read a couple an threw up a little in my mouth.

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Barong 8 months ago

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Sonja 8 months ago

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Tyke 8 months ago

I'm genuinely confused - you say bars and clubs were the wrong way to go. Don't date workers or neighbours. But also don't use dating apps... so where do we all find these so called friends?

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Sonja 8 months ago

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Chris M 8 months ago

When I saw this article I expected lots of incel whining (as Helena put it) and was not disappointed.

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A S Mora 8 months ago

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

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Dragon mama 8 months ago

Being single forever sounds better and better every day. It's just me and my pets out here, doing whatever I please and always getting the last slice of cake.

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censorshipsucks 8 months ago

As someone who's gone through my fair share I keep thinking it's better to be single.

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TRQ 8 months ago

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Rick 8 months ago (edited)

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Alexandra Nara 8 months ago

great advise, opportunities not purposes

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Heather Lambie 8 months ago

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Flora Porter 8 months ago

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Katarzyna Drozd 8 months ago

Aw, look at all this poor man, who just realised they are victims of the system that they created themselves

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François Bouzigues 8 months ago

They have not created anything. They are people, just like you.

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Sonja 8 months ago

3points

François Bouzigues 8 months ago (edited)

2points

Nick 8 months ago (edited)

I love how all the comments in here are by women

3points

Debbie 8 months ago (edited)

4points

Mark Fergel 8 months ago

2points

Ms Dodo 8 months ago

This post is so cringe, I would never date a man that thinks like that, and then have the audacity of crying about it

2points

Steve Hall 8 months ago

It's never been easy and the modern world of internet dating has made it much harder.

2points

Apatheist Account2 8 months ago

2points

Shawna Burt 8 months ago

Oh, yeah, men have it soooo haaaaaard out there, worried a woman might not like them. GHAWD.

2points

Parmeisan 8 months ago

1point

TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago

Good thing I don't have to care about all those problems since I have absolutely no interest in forming any kind of relationships with another person - The only winning move is not to play?

1point

Raven Hayden Rudnik 5 months ago

0points

sofacushionfort 8 months ago

0points

Sergio Bicerra 8 months ago

Thee hardest struggle is: you're not trying hard enough. And breaks me, been single since 205

0points

Cowws 8 months ago

man, 1819 years of singleness does sound tough

12points

Rtblast66 8 months ago

-1point

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