I am not a huge flowers kind of person. I don't expect them and it doesn't occur to me to buy them but I was walking past a florist recently and they had a beautiful rose bouquet out the front which I bought for my husband on impulse. He was SO happy to receive them that I wished I had been buying him flowers all the time forever. It will definitely be a more regular thing in the future :-)

This one is true. My hubby would never fit in my hoodies so I dont have to share. lol.

That's very sweet.

... and he shared ... classy! ;)

I'm not very photogenic though...more like a gremlin under a bridge lol

This is sad. Men deserve to be spooned too xox

I think that writing it in his native language was probably equally or more a show of love. Kudos to this person.

A sincere and unexpected compliment is the best!

She's a keeper.

Just once, I'd like to know what it is like to have someone have my back. Everytime my friends need me, I'm there. I support them. I check in on them when they are having troubles. I stand up with them when they take a stand. But me? When I stand and look around, everyone is ducking their heads and pretending not to notice. Just two days ago, I got some really bad news. It hit me so hard I was literally crying in my office. The week before, my friends all insisted they were there for me and support me. So I told them about the news. I got one person who essentially went 'that's not a big deal, I'd just do (this)'. A solution, by the way, that if they actually listened they'd know doesn't fix anything. But that was it. One person dismissing me and my problems as unimportant, and no one else spoke up. So much for supporting me.

My husband doesn't realize this, but when we travel I never take the top drawer of the dresser in the hotel. He is taller, and I just always leave it for him. He's still not caught on.

Or boys. Quite common, IME.

I don't think this is a man/women thing? I'm a woman. I feel the same.

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That's interesting because I often see the other way around, where a man gets praised for being such a good dad simply for doing things that people completely expect any mother to do.

Does your partner (or family or friends) know what you'd like? Some people are just lousy at choosing gifts. I know I have to be very specific if I don't want another knife (for some reason they're all almost identical).

What you do is often a sign of who you are

I think it's the guys who won't take "no" for an answer that have ruined things for other men. When a woman has been pressured or followed or stalked, their instinctive reply to unwanted attention becomes defensive. It's a way to protect themselves if there's a chance things could go sour. It's not the fault of someone who's socially awkward or even of the woman, just a reaction they sometimes learn from bad experiences. And please don't come for me on saying it isn't the woman's fault - if you've had a stalker there's no way in hell you'll risk having one again.

I'd worry about any woman big enough to pick me up.

Do men really want this? Genuine question. I mean women feel that we have to put up with this because its often unsafe. I dont want my husband to come and pick me up because its dark. I want to be safe walking home. It's just that, I'm not.

This is also sad. And a consequence of toxic masculinity that affects men. We have told our sons for generations that they cannot show emotion or weakness to women. Its time for change. We care... when you are sad, vulnerable, ashamed, lonely, whatever it is. Please share because we do care.

This is not a man/women thing. This is a toxic relationship thing.

For those confused by the statement, when you’re in a relationship that is at least somewhat committed, there’s this odd emotional phenomenon that happens. You will always have a solid foundation of love for your partner. Always. It’s unshakable. That means that, even though at this very minute you hate their guts (for whatever reason) and can’t stand to be in the same room with them, you STILL love them. Weird, I know, hating someone and loving them at the same time. But you see, that heightened emotion dissipates. You only think you hate them because you’re pissed off at something. It may even be something that has no connection to them, but it still made you irritable enough to lash out, and they just happened to be there at the time. You do calm down and come to your senses, and realize you shouldn’t have been so dramatic. If they actually did do something that made you angry, you still calm down enough to talk about it, to talk it through. That’s love. The willingness to talk about it calmly and rationally, work it out, and come to a mutually satisfactory and equitable agreement for the future. It may entail a new house rule, like if one cooks, the other washes the dishes and wipes the counters. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of perception, if it’s not a glaringly obvious faux pas on their part that anyone should know is wrong (like flirting with other people and leading them on, or worse), and the other person truly doesn’t realize they did anything you wouldn’t like. You know, context is important. Never expect people to “just know” your expectations. They’re not mind readers, ffs, so don’t go nuclear on them for not doing what you never told them you’d like them to do. Open your mouth and, reasonably, rationally, politely, and kindly express what you want or need from them. Most people are happy to do those things for you, as long as they’re reasonable.

Go for it, guys - but pleeeeze avoid the chat-up lines!

So... its not about the gift its about the amount of money? You dont want flowers or thoughtful gifts, you want expensive gifts? Imagine the outcry if a woman had made that same comment.... we would immediately be accused of being a golddigger. And I'm a little confused by your statement that the women just 'throw sex at you'? I mean, I throw myself at my husband when I feel valued, loved and appreciated. I'm not just throwing sex at him. I want sex with him because he turns me on. It sounds like you are implying that women generally are exchanging sex for expensive gifts? Because if that's the case you might need lay off the incel websites.

There is a difference between "loosing your temper" and "having a hard time". I appreciate the crux of what you are saying but it fails to consider the very real risk that when men "loose their temper", women die. UN did a very good study on it recently. I am unsure why there would be a problem with being “respectful” towards your partner whether s/he is having a hard time or not. That should be a fundamental starting point? If you cannot respect your partner you should not be in the relationship.