If it had been your niece there likely would have been a different reaction too. For some reason dads can kiss their daughters but not their sons in the eyes of the public.

Absolutely, if it was around the guy probably would've gotten arrested or at least banned from the bar 🙄 Sorry this happened to you.

It takes time for people's minds to change. For so long, it's been the woman's role to be the care-giver in the family, that some people still find it a "novelty" to see a man doing this. I feel things are changing, though, and a lot of wonderful men are helping to push that change forward.

And thanks to that my kidnapping enterprise is boomi....I mean uh what?

This is the fault of that judge. When people know someone higher up they can get away w this. Same when a man makes way more money than the woman they will likely get custody bc they know people. This is third world problems in a first world capitalist country. People can be bought.

Men can be victims of domestic violence. We need to start believing facts, not genders #teamjohnny

I love being both. When I'm big spoon it feels like I'm saying I got you too babe, you're safe with me. We are safe 🤷🏻‍♀️🥰

Just say you don't like her hair. It's equivalent and women hear that every day as well as constant remarks about their bodies. No one should be making comments to other people at all wo being asked.

I think this situation speaks more to the lack of maturity of this guy's friends, rather than society as a whole. I just don't think this is a thing. I hear men call kids cute all the time, and think nothing of it.

This hurts both parties, as a dude sleeping with his female teacher will get high-fives/teacher is a MILF, and a girl sleeping with her male teacher will be called a s**t/teacher a predator. It's so weird, as both are equally disturbing and very inappropriate.

yep, I was abused repeatedly and finally left. I never retaliated, ever. I never laid charges because in Africa it is patriarchal and a man is expected to hit back, so the cops would never believe me.

They do force women to do this all the time. Last time I went to a football game the line was so long for the bathroom I would never have been able to hold it. I had to use the mens room. I had my husband go in and ask the men in there if I could use it. The few that were in there said yes. We can't stand up we have to have a toilet it takes up more room. I agree about the changing rooms in bathrooms for dads. None of these problems are us against you bc that's what it seems to be coming down to lately. Men are on SM gleefully telling women they can't wait to help put us in prison for miscarriages and Lifesaving D&Cs now bc apparently we have it too good. What little does cater to women in this world seems some men would love to burn it to the ground rather than share. Idk whats happening but I can feel it in my bones and it's not good. Is it revenge for the metoo movement? Only one guy went to jail all the others are totally fine.

That is disgusting and I hope you're okay.

in Germany the whole law about exhibitionism is only applicable to men. woman are allowed to be more naked. the reason is that "male sexuality is more aggressive by nature" 🤢 this is so outdated and horrible

That sucks.. I have the opposite. I love football and basketball. When I tell guys this they always ask me to explain the rules and act surprised when I do know them and can explain them perfectly. Same with Star wars movies 🤷🏻‍♀️

"studies indicate that dads simply do not ask for custody as often as mothers do, and courts generally do not award what is not asked for in that regard. A Massachusetts study examined 2,100 fathers who asked for custody and pushed aggressively to win it. Of those 2,100, 92 percent either received full or joint custody, with mothers receiving full custody only 7 percent of the time. Another study where 8 percent of fathers asked for custody showed that of that 8 percent, 79 percent received either sole or joint custody (in other words, approximately 6.3 percent of all fathers in the study). " https://www.dadsdivorcelaw.com/blog/fathers-and-mothers-child-custody-myths

This is misinformation. The American Bar Association has a Child Custody Myth. fact sheet: when abusive fathers seek sole custody they are granted custody the majority of the time. I live in a county where abusive dads routinely gaslight their victims & almost always get custody. Please check your facts. This is irresponsible & misinformation like this hurts kids all the time while their good moms are gaslit & shamed by losing their kids in biased, incentivized courts.

There's very few things in this world that women have a slight upper hand in and this is one of them. The richer the man is the less she has the slight upper hand. Women sacrifice their very bodies and lives to have children. We have this one small advantage. Courts feel a having a mother is a tad more important than having just the father. That's why joint custody is usually granted unless it's proven the father is unstable in some way. Women lose custody as well if it's proven she is unstable, like I said the more money he has the better his chances. That's the way of the world I'm in the US I don't know what it's like In first world countries that don't have the third world problems the US has. In the US the leading cause of death for pregnant women is intimate partner gun violence all of this is taken into consideration as well as other factors that plague more men than women

Tjis is because fathers overwhelmingly dont take on a care role during the relationship. Continuity of care, especially for young children Is essential to thier development and attachment. When fathers start participating equally in the care of thier children they will likely be granted equal custody.

Top tip dads.... if you are going to expect 50/50 care arrangements of your children on the breakdown of your relationship - you need to be participating 50/50 in their care arrangements DURING the marriage. Take paternity leave. Work some flex hours. Pick them up from school. Participate in their every day lives. Those are the things the court looks at. If the mother has done all the primary care giving and the children have formed a primary attachment to her, she will get primary custody. You want change? BE the change.

Amen! I managed to win custody in court but only because my ex was outed by her daughter from a previous relationship AND she was tested positive at a drug test with my son at the test with her. She have CFS take both kids and I still barely won. My lawyer said it was a miracle, she had never seen a father win in 20 years of family law.

I would like that parents could be addressed more into this. If you cannot take proper care of your child, but your ex partner can, let him or her take care of the kids. But, I have seen kind of vindictive acts with my parents, when were trying to take care of my oldest siblings they would be turned out or questioned by their mother because my dad married my mom and had us. So, she did not like the idea of my dad having his two children with him, but instead giving her money for them, and he has told me to this day that he doesn't know if that money was really spent for them at the end of the day.

Generally, the children will spend most of their time with the parent who already was spending most time caring for them!

I'm a person involved directly in a relationship with a male who lost primary custody of his three (wonderful) little girls to a narcissist (I'm a mental health counselor and I know she has a personality disorder). It's sad beyond words.

I'm a woman, and I also have a hard time reconciling other women (or people in general) wanting to work out (or do whatever) in barely any clothing and blow a fuse when it attracts general attention. Nobody deserves to be harrassed or get unwanted attention at all, but I just don't understand what it is that you expect if you start to work out in pants so tight I can very clearly see you're not wearing underwear, and a near see-through bralette, or a guy in loose gym shorts without briefs or boxers underneath (yes I've seen it happen). In Dutch we call that 'binding the bacon to the cat'.

There are two specific gays clubs (of many, it’s SF) that attracts bachelorette parties and groups of girls because they think they’re safer. It also attracts straight men who go out with their gay friends because there are lots of single ladies there. As a matter of fact, on gay tourists go there. Locals gays only go to bring their single straight male friends in the chance they’ll meet a girl. So, multitudes less gay than it’s perceived. It’s non-stop grab-åss by women, assuming all the guys are gay and somehow thinking that makes it ok. It’s as if they can sexually assaulted us cos they know we’re not attracted to them and won’t do it back. The jokes on them because, again, we’re there with our straight friends whose asses they’re also grabbing.

"Whuuuuuut, you can't pay my dinner for me? Trashcan man, booh!" I don't understand these women.

Who cares what someone else drinks? Honestly?

The bit most people seem to be ignoring is "crying." A man crying, especially in public, will cause people to avoid him at best, or call him crazy/otherwise victimize him at worst. A woman crying causes people to go out of their way to see what they can do to try and help, even if that help is otherwise unsolicited.

My best friend was arrested for taking her kids on vacation. Her husband decided to move his mistress in while she was gone to see her parents for a week. He said she took them wo his approval. When she got home the cops were waiting to arrest her. She had no idea she was being replaced. The house was in his name only. That was her fault she trusted him I suppose. In court she had to prove what really happened. She didn't see her kids for 6 mths. Until it was proven he did it on purpose. My dad did the same thing to my mom. Lied about her taking drugs. She had to get a court ordered drug test every time she saw me. She never failed once. He kept reporting her until she had to get a hair strand test. For a year and a half he terrorized her while I barely saw here. I was 9 I testified to how abusive he was to her too. He convinced the judge she coached me. This is an an abusive spouse problem a manipulator problem

The problem is not even that we arent allowed to talk about our feelings.. its the stigma with got put into our brains while raising up. "Man up", "oh come on youre a big boy" etc etc the list goes on. The women i met that i felt like i could openly talk to about my feelings and worries, were positively suprised and almost felt kinda "honored" a man opened up to them like that. Same with other guys, former best friend of mine (before i moved) started to open up to me too as soon as i started. he said it felt like a blockade beeing broken down when i told him my worries and such

No. Everybody likes cutes things, especially cute animals. If people surrounding you mock you for it, cut these people out of your life.

It's true a lot of the time sadly. But there are girls out there who don't care. My guy is shorter than me but he's a bigger man than most to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ he's never insecure about it, let's me wear heels. He doesn't care and I don't. None of our friends ever made a comment about it. They do make fun of his accent though 😜

This view gives women no agency whatsoever. If both parties were equally drunk and sex occurs, then the woman is considered unable to consent yet the man is apparently in full control of his critical faculties at all times.

America. Here in africa we would not comment or think it strange for a father to amuse his kids, or an older brother.

you live in america. Elsewhere we would totally not think this was weird.

Think we partially blame movies for this. Crazy number of rom-coms show crazy stalking as "romantic".

Trust me, we obese women get called some very ugly names.

Same happened to me. If I say that I was gaslit, then no, the guilty party is all like "No, you are gaslighting me, I never gaslit you." I give up.

Wtf, no. That's some weapon's grade stupid, sexist BS.