29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting ‘Creepy’ Towards Women

People change. However, before someone can alter their behavior for good, they need to want to do it. It sounds simple, but think about it for a second. It's basically admitting to yourself that your worldview is flawed. That you are flawed. Which takes guts.

Recently, Reddit user rocketbot99 made a post on r/AskReddit, saying "For men who used to be 'creepy' towards women and have since stopped, what was it that made you realize you were creepy that prompted you to change?" And their call was answered: as of this article, the thread has over 8,000 comments, many of which are insightful, honest replies to rocketbot99's question.

Of course, these comments don't mean that society is cured of sexism We still have a long way to go in regards to respecting women. But these are steps in the right direction and we should celebrate them.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women It took me recognizing that I was addicted to alcohol, tobacco, and sex. I had been aggressive toward women and objectifying them since I was a child. I think this happened because I was exposed to sex at such a young age. I thought all relationships were supposed to be how the movies and shows were, so I just emulated what I saw.
Once I got sober, I realized how much of a monster I was and took the necessary steps to really implement change in my life. Lots of therapy. Lots of crying. Self-reflection as to why I was emulating that specific behavior, and quitting my addictions. It’s been a journey, but I’m happy to say that I’ve been in a loving, committed relationship with proper boundaries for a year now.

Ghetto_Pinocchio , Candid_Shots Report

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Sam rice 3 years ago

Good on this person!

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Turns out, being sexist also sucks for men themselves. That was the conclusion of a meta-analysis published in the Journal of Counseling Psychology that aggregated the results of nearly 80 separate studies on masculine norms and mental health over 11 years.

After looking into almost 20,000 men in total, the paper titled Meta-Analyses of the Relationship Between Conformity to Masculine Norms and Mental Health-Related Outcomes found that men who adhered to such norms not only harmed the women around them but they also exhibited significantly worse social functioning and psychological health.

29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I wasn't being actively creepy, but:

I used to think cat-calling was just flirtatious compliments, and who doesn't like those, right? >.> I never cat-called anybody, largely because that's not my personality type.

But now I live by the motto: "Never say something to a stranger that you wouldn't want a big guy saying to you in prison."

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

Never say something to a woman you don't know that you wouldn't say to a man you don't know - same theory really

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"Sexism isn't just a social injustice," Y. Joel Wong, a psychologist at Indiana University Bloomington and the study’s lead author, said. "It may even be potentially problematic for [men's] mental health."

The term "masculine norms" can refer to a whole range of characteristics but the researchers focused on 11 separate aspects of American masculinity in particular. They found that three specific traits associated with toxic masculinity were particularly harmful to men’s psyches: being self-reliant, being dominant over women, and being a "playboy." Interestingly, some norms, such as putting work and career first, did not seem to have any negative mental health effects.

29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women One of the most eye-opening adages that helped me immensely was, 'Men are afraid women will reject them; women are afraid men will kill them.' That helped me to change my interactions in a way that was less likely to set off alarm bells in a woman’s mind.

CrushHazard , DtheDelinquent Report

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

I believe the original was 'men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them'

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Jared Yates Sexton, the author of The Man They Wanted Me to Be, told Bored Panda there's a whole array of reasons why toxic masculinity is so deeply rooted in our everyday life. "The problematic elements of masculinity are intertwined with the economic, political, and personal elements of society," Sexton said. "It's passed down from one generation to another in socialization, or physical, mental, emotional abuse and intentional and unintentional feedback."

"It's as simple as telling a young boy he can't be emotional and as complicated as the signals and messages from culture, popular culture, and how products are marketed to men and women. It's knotted into society, unfortunately, and so it makes it incredibly hard to root out."

29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Hearing women complain about something and thinking, Oh s**t, I've done that. It seriously has helped me improve on a lot of things.

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Samantha PandaNotBored 3 years ago

Good for you. Sometimes it is okay to put ones self into time out .

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In The Man They Wanted Me To Be, Sexton describes it as a chronic condition. "A lot of people ask 'how did you get out?' but there's no getting out, really. If you've been raised in this, if you've experienced the socialization, abuse, etc, it's something you have to keep an eye on."

According to him, men, even men who understand the pitfalls of masculinity, who study it, write about it, work against its problematic aspects, can still fall into its traps when things get hard or if they're not paying attention. "It's a daily struggle, honestly," Sexton said.

29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I realized they weren't laughing because I was funny, they were laughing because they were scared

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Sam rice 3 years ago

Nervous laughing

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However, Jared thinks there's hope to be had in that we're talking about gender as a construct and the surrounding issues. "That's different, even as people try and weaponize it for political and economic purposes. I'm seeing so much advancement in culture, with this generation and the next, that I'm hopeful, but the work is far from over."

When you think about it, the root of this problem probably developed thousands of years ago, when early homo sapiens used strength to exert dominance or take charge. And it wasn't even a problem then. But contemporary society has led to such a shift in attitude toward these male behaviors, a "real man" today is something we must define ourselves. The good thing is more and more of us are trying to.

29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women When I broke up with my first serious girlfriend, I was totally heartbroken. I called her all the time and cried on the phone. I even threatened to kill myself and told her so. This went on for some time. Eventually I threatened again to kill myself and went to bed drunk. I woke up to a voicemail from her, crying her eyes out and begging me not to do it.
I was so ashamed about my behavior. I realized in that message what I had become. It was absolutely her right, as it was mine, to end a relationship at any time for any reason, without being hounded and traumatized by the ex. I was evil and toxic

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Jonathan 3 years ago

I wouldn't really say you're evil. Distraught, emotional and vulnerable (yes, us guys can feel vulnerable too) maybe but not really evil. Lets save that word for actual evil things.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I had to explain to my 50 year old husband that young women do NOT find his interest a compliment

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Daria B 3 years ago (edited)

So many men over their 30s don't understand that and it's so weird. I understand a teenage girl may have a crush on a good looking 30 ~ 40-year-old (in which case, he should know better anyway, and many men handle the situation with respect), but hearing "30-something years old teenagers" (this is how I call these types of people) go all like "hihiho hohoho girls, girls" sounds very inappropriate.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I was 18 working at Six Flags. We got a new coworker at the ride I was mainly at and I took a liking to her instantly. I tried talking with her constantly and "cutely" blocked her path multiple times. This was all on her first day. The next she didn't show back up.

Thats when I realized I had harassed her, all she wanted to do is just work and get some extra cash and I added stupid stress to that.

I don't interact with coworkers like that anymore. Even if I think I could have a chance, I leave them alone on that level.

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

At the end of the day, while you're all leaving, then ask if they'd like to go for a drink with you sometime. Does their face light up, do they hold eye contact, do they smile broadly? Those are your clues, not whether or not they reply 'maybe' because, as we've established, women have to tread carefully for their own safety. But well done to you for realising.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women My brother used to catcall women ALL THE TIME until once when I was with him. He was driving, I was the passenger, and he yelled out to a woman in another car about how hot she looked. I turned to him and said very casually yet matter-of-factly, “You know, women hate it when men talk to us like that. It’s not flattering, it’s objectifying and disrespectful.” He got quiet, his eyes glazed over, and I saw him taking in what I’d just said. It had simply never occurred to him that what he was doing could be seen as anything other than flattering. He never, ever did it again, and I saw him grow into an extremely respectful person over the next couple of years.

Sometimes all it takes is someone to make them aware. This is why women call on men to call out their guy friends for this type of behavior. Some men look at women as objects, and they don’t take us seriously. But, the same thing coming from your sister or one of their guy friends? Completely different reaction.

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Carol Emory 3 years ago

It took my sister saying "You and your husband are two of the most selfish people I know" for me to realize that my husband and I were constantly putting our needs ahead of our son's. We changed our attitude and, a year later, my son was diagnosed with Autism. It was very important for us to put our son's needs first.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I realized that I wasn't a knight in shining armor, and they weren't princesses to be adored and saved. Instead of trying to ingratiate myself with them, I stopped giving a f**k and just started casual conversations. If they gave curt responses and standoffish body language, I politely exited the conversation and moved on.

DancinginAshes , pasja1000 Report

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Samantha PandaNotBored 3 years ago

So you should

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I used to do that smirk thing when talking to women. I thought it projected confidence, but then someone I worked with told me I should watch the creeper vibe, so I had to take a hard look at my mannerisms. Man, that must have been scary and off-putting. I’m sorry I did that, everyone

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

That is so off putting and smarmy! I’m glad he stopped. He was insecure and trying to distract or overcompensate

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Saw this answer some time ago It was this dude that tried to confess to the girl he liked by going to her apartment and make her dinner with candles,flowers and all that s**t But then the girl came home and the first thing she said was " are you going to kill me"

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Candace Fitzpatrick 3 years ago

What was he thinking? It’s very wrong for any person to let themselves into someone else’s home without permission, regardless of their gender. That’s B&E and it’s a crime!

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Learning that pickup artistry is a massive grift meant to gamify social interactions with women for men who are socially isolated. Every pickup-artist tactic is just weird, toxic emotional abuse. Not only does it not work, but if it DID work, it would be morally abhorrent to do it

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Kendra Miller 3 years ago

This will go to the bottom so no one will read this, but this post reminds me of another. Where a girl wanted to talk to a cute guy so badly, but she brain farted and her pickup line was "So do you like bread?" They married and for their anniversary he turned her line into a work of art which he hung on the wall. It was super cute and one of the only times that a line actually worked.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I went out drinking with a bunch of my fellow Marines. We were all in our early to mid twenties and some of us were Very good looking (not me). At the end of the night only one of us had gotten any numbers and that one guy had gotten several. He was like 5'6" (167cm) and more or less looked like a 12 year old. Took me a while to figure out why this was the case.

When I realized that he was the only one of us that didn't look dangerous A Lot of things started making sense.

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

Military boys can be the worst. They can be very up themselves and forceful. It isn't just unattractive but, as this man worked out, a huge red flag to keep well away as tactfully as possible.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I figured out that my being gay doesn’t change things. I never made a point to be careful about not making women uncomfortable because I always knew that I had no sexual intentions toward them and that they didn’t need to worry about any advances or anything.
Of course, that didn’t mean they knew that; or if they did, it didn’t change the fact that I’m a man and there are appropriate ways to behave around people.

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Scagsy 3 years ago

And it all boils down to those eight words; 'there are appropriate ways to behave around people'

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I'm not the creeper. My friend was. We were out at a bar and he walked up to a girl and brushed her hair with his hand. How he explains it, he started to say, 'You have beautiful hair,' then got punched in the face by the girl and kicked out of the bar.
We met him at the car after about 10 minutes of realizing he was gone — blood all over his face and just ashamed. I was with my wife and we were both confused as to why he would touch a stranger. He is now married and not a creeper. That was the night that opened his eyes to realizing that women are equals and not toys

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Marcellus the Third 3 years ago

And the lesson is, violence clarifies things. Or, err... hm.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Reading many posts about how pervasive a problem it is for women to have men leer or subject them to microaggressions. Hearing it all named, and hearing how unsettling it is for people, made me reexamine some of my behavior toward women. Please do keep taking about it — it works!

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Samantha Power 3 years ago

It is really good you are aware of this. For myself being on dating sites can be very unsettling indeed, it is astounding how aggressive some men can be on them.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I had what I can only call a grand moment of realization. There was a girl who I was acquainted with, and she was obviously, obsessively, and weirdly into me. Being at the state of peak neckbeard that I was, I was desperate for a girlfriend. But for whatever reason I was not into the idea. I knew her too well, and although she was interested in me, I was NOT interested in her.

I spent a long time thinking about wether I should start seeing this girl I wasn’t attracted to... then it clicked for me: Sometimes people just aren’t into you. That’s okay, and it’s actually a good thing not to have to say yes to a relationship just because someone thinks they’re qualified to date you.

That moment back in 2009 changed my perspective so much, and I was able to realize that other people have and deserve their own autonomy.

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Daria B 3 years ago

It takes to understand your own feelings to come to this realisation. Sadly, many men are victims of an upbringing that discouraged psychological self-observation.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women A girl told me she wasn’t interested because I did something creepy and she felt uncomfortable about it. I had no idea it was a creep move at the time. I’d never had that feedback, and I’m very happy she provided it, when she could have just ghosted and moved on. For those wondering, it was Facebook stalking. My young, ignorant self thought it would be cool to surprise her with my knowledge, because that showed I cared enough to learn about her. The real boundary crossing was me asking about other guys she’s friends with who made flirty comments on her pics

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

Oooof. That would have come across as very possessive and a huge alarm would have gone off in her head. Thank goodness she felt secure enough to tell you.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I used to have this older man always flirt & be unprofessional towards me at work when I first started, I was around 24 years old. After i had enough of his weird comments & flirting, I told him that he has a daughter the same age as me (which was true because he'd talk about his family at times) and that how would he like it if some older man was talking to his daughter like that and making sexual comments to her. He became less weird and flirtatious and more "regular" holding normal conversations. He moved shifts so I don't even see him anymore

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Marcellus the Third 3 years ago

Not sure he took the lesson, or is now creeping on another shift?

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Being called out. Directly and specifically.

I had absolutely no idea that there was anything off about my behavior. I thought nobody was picking up on how horny I was. I thought nobody knew. I thought I was smooth AF.

But some specific things I did were called out (touches on the arm, inappropriate topics of conversation, things like that) and I realized holy [cow], I have been a total disrespectful creep.

And everyone knows it.

I don't miss my teen years. Don't miss 'em at all.

On the plus side, it encouraged me to strive for a life where I'm 100% genuine and don't want anything from anyone.

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Oskar vanZandt 3 years ago

This bit is a little concerning "a life where I'm 100% genuine and don't want anything from anyone." There is nothing wrong with wanting something from someone, the problem lies in expecting something in return. If you are open and honest in your intent, and respect people's boundaries, everything should be fine.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I have five sisters, and hearing them talk about something creepy a guy did really made me check my own actions.

Also, I think a lot of us were just hormonal teenagers with a typical, insane libido. Getting called out normally works

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago (edited)

No, female teenagers have insane libidos too and yet we managed to just have sex or masturbate without creeping out the people we’re interested in. Don’t blame your hormones for your assholery.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women This sounds weird to me now, but I actually grew up in a household that valued back, neck, and shoulder rubs. I did this for a long, long time to people I was friends with (men and women). In my head, it was just a way of saying I cared. In retrospect, it undoubtedly gave off a super-creepy vibe.

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

You earnt the right to do this with your family growing up, but hadn't yet earnt that right with other people.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Talking to women, becoming friends with women, changing my circle of friends, growing up, learning empathy, and the final nail in the coffin was sobriety

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Oskar vanZandt 3 years ago

"...and the final nail in the coffin was sobriety" odd turn of phrase to use here?

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women I had ruined 2 friendships in a week cause I was getting blackout drunk and trying to sleep with them. That’s also what made me realize alcohol is terrible.

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Suzanne Clark 3 years ago

Good that you recognized that early on. Blackout drunk just gets worse with age...I've seen it up close.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Growing self-awareness that I wasn't the center of the goddamn universe. I went through a chasing-potential-girlfriends-too-hard phase in my young adult years — including mistaking simple offers of friendship and work colleague status for actual interest.
It wasn't 'stalking' level and it never reached the point of discipline (or even commenting), but it was probably to the point of being a little unprofessional and uncomfortable for the girl involved.

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Peggy Perry 3 years ago

I often wish part of sex ed (in the schools that bother to have it) would include sessions on "A girl's smile is not an offer to stroke your body. Her interest in your conversation subject is not a sign she is interested in your body. Agreeing to a meal with you is not a sign she has agreed to trade that meal for sex. A prostitute will tell you upfront what her services cost. If cost is not mentioned, do not expect sex as part of the evening. Hope, even ask, but do not expect, and if you insist, do not complain when nasty consequences result."

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women Looking back I was like most other males born in the 70’s and did not know better. I then became friends with women and learn what women want in a person. The coup de grace was when I was hanging out with some gay men who flipped the creepy vibe on me. The result was a bumble date voted me the most charming man she dated.

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BusLady 3 years ago

I remember the 70's. Almost every job I ever had, there were men who felt that they had the right to touch me, make obscene remarks, ask me out, etc. That was the social attitude then. If you complained about it, you were blamed for it. There were no sexual harassment laws then, so men knew that they had nothing to lose.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women In middle school, I was a mid-puberty, horniness-stricken little perv. I didn’t do a good job concealing it, either. I would always get really close to my one friend because I liked her at the time, and looking back, it was so wrong to do

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Ulrike Sponagel 3 years ago

Growing up is hard. All of us made mistakes because we wanted to look cool and act aloof. I assume it is very tough for men, more often than not, girls will mercilessly poke fun at them for trying to get to know somebody. It can't be easy, trying to find a girlfriend and finding out the hard way how not to do it. A little understanding and quite a heap of courage to show one's true self might help on either side.

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29 Men Share How They Realized It Was Actually Them Who Were Acting 'Creepy' Towards Women My creepiness came from not knowing how to talk to girls, not anything predatory. I think a lot of guys are like that. I wasn’t particularly creepy but I look back on some stuff I did or said that I thought was smooth or flirty but looking back at it now I’m like wow I was actually being creepy lmao.

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Roxy Eastland 3 years ago

The secret is to talk to women as if they are humans primarily. About normal human stuff. And from the way they respond to you you can start to feel as if they might be interested in you too. Also, and it's weird to have to tell guys this, but you can also work out if you actually still fancy them now you're chatting. Yes, you might be physically attracted but are they a bit racist? Are they hundred percent into a life style that isn't for you?

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What do you think ?

This was a good article. I am a female and have been stalked more times than I can remember. What I would like to point out is so many men can not take no for an answer, if I politely decline a man who is interested in me and I am not interested in them, they can get angry, verbally abusive and bombard me with messages and whining emails asking why I don't like them (of course I block them) but they can reappear under a different name. Because you are attracted to a person, it does not guarantee that they are attracted to you.

Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago (edited)

Agreed. It's about accepting that the other person doesn't need to like you back. I've also made the experience, that men would ignore my NOs and later they'd still say i had been flirting with them or sending explicit signals, while i'd always said no. Some even said i had tricked them, but i said NO from the start. Once i told a male friend about my "problem" and they'd be like "Why won't you take it as a compiment. Many men are into you." Ehh no. It's not a compliment if a person ignores your feelings.

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Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago

thank you guys for your nice words. sometimes people don‘t want to read the truth. wishing all of you the very best :)

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I‘m always happy for anyone, regardless of their gender, who realizes something and moves on to become a better person. Heads up for the guys for their self reflection. I also like the fact, that some realized their behaviour was also hurting themselves. I know people usually don‘t mean any harm (most of the time they want to be extra helpful or friendly). But if your plan involves invading a person’s privacy, most of the time it‘s not a great idea. A guy i barely knew sent me invitations to an event per mail - without further notice. I never gave him my address, he found out by stalking me online. He thought, i’d be happy about his effort, but he just creeped me of. Maybe it‘s because i had a bad experience before in the past (i was stalked, which was way worse), but i just don‘t like to be oberwhelmed.

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Doggo Froggo 3 years ago

I agree entirely

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Random Anon 3 years ago

Growing up looking like a girl gave me a perspective my guy friends did not have. Like, that movement tracking stare is no good. They never listened to me and I get it. Not much weight coming from another dude. It's until they themselves got girlfriends they began recognizing the body language that is threatening to a woman by sensing the discomfort in their partners. I guess it's better late than never.

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My father looked like an attractive girl from his teens to 30s so he got to see how women can be treated by strangers with catcalling etc and, of course, always keeps his actions in check. That experience probably helped a lot (but I think he would be the same if he hadn't had that experience, tbh)

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