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6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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Societies have evolved, people have embraced new ways of life, but there are still plenty of issues we have to deal with collectively. One of the prominent ones is the treatment of women: from differences in wages to blocks in career paths to, worst of all, the harassment they face on a daily basis. Of course, not every woman suffers from such mistreatment, but since it’s a problem that’s been around for a long time, it’s well worth a discussion. That’s exactly what Twitter user bekah (@spvcecadets) did: she started a thread on how men can help women feel more secure in vulnerable situations, and it deservedly went viral. Best thing is that it goes both ways – think of it as general rules of putting people at ease during a stressful situation.

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Women are one of the main demographics that often face harassment

6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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This Twitter user started a discussion on how men can help women in vulnerable situations

6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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“If you hear a woman being bothered, walk over and support her,” said the post. It provided a natural way someone might interject into a conversation that was making a woman uncomfortable, with one of the methods being a claim to be a family member or a significant other. This would help take the pressure off, as well as provide security for the woman to easily leave the situation.

Cross the road at night, stand up for the woman who’s being harassed, or simply speak up about a situation

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6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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There are many ways a man (or anyone, really) can help women feel more secure. You can do a simple thing like cross the road if you walk behind a woman at night; that way, you don’t have to wonder why she’s constantly looking over her shoulder and the woman would also appreciate the gesture as she won’t have to count your footsteps behind her. Other advice includes speaking up about the issue, especially if you hear someone in your social circles use derogatory terms to speak about women—don’t be afraid to correct them!

These tips, such as not to engage in victim blaming, are helpful to both women and men

6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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While the list of advice can be considered aimed towards women, it’s actually very helpful to men too. It provides enough information for men that they can be preemptive, instead of reactionary, meaning they won’t have to apologize or console a woman if they don’t do anything to startle or intimidate her in the first place.

The pandemic is not time to be lax on making sure you are respectful to women

6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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6 Simple Tips On How Men Can Help Women Feel Safer In Public And Other Situations Shared By A Twitter User

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As a modern nod towards the current pandemic, the user advised men not to wear masks whenever possible—while you have to comply with the rules and regulations of safety (which we wholeheartedly support!) whenever possible, it’s a good idea to take the mask off as it’ll put women at ease. Keeping the face visible is extendable to post-pandemic society too, as it’ll make you seem less intimidating, especially in poorly lit areas.

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Stille20 3 years ago

As a woman who has lived in cities and traveled alone, I find this list excessive. It is the kind of overly cautions behavior that conservative men are afraid is expected of them. It's good to respect that when alone or at night a woman is on high alert and perceive you as a potential threat... but dictating that men need to announce their presence?

14points

Shmoopaloop 3 years ago

I agree, I am a man and I honestly feel awkward doing any of these and I feel bad that a woman might think I will try to do something awful. But if you are uncomfortable and nervous just be honest on both sides.

5points

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CrunChewy McSandybutt 3 years ago

As a woman who has lived in cities and traveled alone, and has also experienced when things go wrong, this list is spot-on accurate for many of us.

4points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

Come on. This barely post-pubescent glitzed-up female obviously knows exactly what she is talking about and men need to listen. I mean, it was even pilfered from reddit and reposted here by a legitimate "author". This gossip is gold.

0points

mac 3 years ago

Someone else's fears and paranoia are just that, someone else's! I am not going out of my way to prove to a complete stranger I am not a threat. All I CAN do is NOT assault women just like I have been doing my entire life.

8points

Monika Nagyova 3 years ago

Just keep in mind It's most likely that the women that are fearful and paranoid have been harassed or assaulted before. I know I definitely became paranoid after a guy followed me and flashed me and offered me to suck his díck in the middle of the night on my 2 minute lone walk home. Luckily a man from the other side of the street (I saw him unlock his front door to get in his house) saw the creep following me and decided to make sure I'm all right and scared the pervert away. That was almost at my front door, without him the creep would know where I lived. Shít is scary.

1point

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ZooMom 3 years ago

I agree with you, it’s ridiculous to ask you to do some of these things every time you encounter a stranger. The only thing I would ask (as a woman and fellow human) is that if you are asked to intervene by one of us or you see something is CLEARLY wrong that you don’t ignore it. To me the most valuable thing a stranger has ever done is walk me to my car I’m a sketchy situation or help me out of a date that’s clearly going into creepy territory when I ask. But I don’t need a guy going out of his way to make himself known to me or avoid me. If she’s already paranoid it sounds like a good way to get pepper sprayed.

1point

Hayley Rodgers 3 years ago

No, that's NOT all you can do. You can step up and stop others, you can stand up and speak out, you can realize that what you think is too much is the bare minimum for many. You can understand that being slightly inconvenienced is nothing compared to being assaulted, raped, knowing friends who have been killed

0points

Matt Tyson 3 years ago

Great post, but I have noticed that as a shorter, unattractive, chunky guy, that women are more likely to act creeped out if I look over there way once or twice instead of the tall good looking guy who has been staring/leering at them all night.

6points

prov dawg 3 years ago

@Aunt Messy and @Mewton's Third Paw - "then don't look". This is exactly why people like Matt here don't save some women who may need it. You're teaching him to keep to himself and one day it will cost someone's life because someone LIKE Matt will "just not look" and miss the signs of a girl in lots of trouble. He's actively trying to f*****g help by giving his experiences and you f*******s do that.

2points

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Stille20 3 years ago

Sometimes more attractive men are the worst because they think it's okay, but I hear what you are saying

1point

person (i think) 3 years ago (edited)

If the circumstance is as you present it, then that is “just” part of the instinctual hardwiring of every person’s brain (across all gender spectrums) to trust “good looking” people more. It could and should be reflected upon and unlearned, just like most of our predjudices should be. I guarantee you also partake in this type of predjude against those you consider less conventionally attractive, although your predjudice comes out in a different form. As I said, everyone falls victim to this, whether they think they do or not; I mean, pretty much all animals in existence have a perception of what is attractive to them and tend to gravitate towards the more attractive of their species and shy away from or avoid the less attractive. Unlike them though, we have the ability to change that behavior. Also, KT Pinto has a very good point! There are lots and lots of things going on at once in your statement and I am just addressing one. P.s. sorry if this is rambling, hopefully my point came across.

0points

Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Poor little MRAs! DO NOT STARE. This is not complicated.

-3points

Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

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Stille20 3 years ago

As a woman who has lived in cities and traveled alone, I find this list excessive. It is the kind of overly cautions behavior that conservative men are afraid is expected of them. It's good to respect that when alone or at night a woman is on high alert and perceive you as a potential threat... but dictating that men need to announce their presence?

14points

Shmoopaloop 3 years ago

I agree, I am a man and I honestly feel awkward doing any of these and I feel bad that a woman might think I will try to do something awful. But if you are uncomfortable and nervous just be honest on both sides.

5points

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CrunChewy McSandybutt 3 years ago

As a woman who has lived in cities and traveled alone, and has also experienced when things go wrong, this list is spot-on accurate for many of us.

4points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

Come on. This barely post-pubescent glitzed-up female obviously knows exactly what she is talking about and men need to listen. I mean, it was even pilfered from reddit and reposted here by a legitimate "author". This gossip is gold.

0points

mac 3 years ago

Someone else's fears and paranoia are just that, someone else's! I am not going out of my way to prove to a complete stranger I am not a threat. All I CAN do is NOT assault women just like I have been doing my entire life.

8points

Monika Nagyova 3 years ago

Just keep in mind It's most likely that the women that are fearful and paranoid have been harassed or assaulted before. I know I definitely became paranoid after a guy followed me and flashed me and offered me to suck his díck in the middle of the night on my 2 minute lone walk home. Luckily a man from the other side of the street (I saw him unlock his front door to get in his house) saw the creep following me and decided to make sure I'm all right and scared the pervert away. That was almost at my front door, without him the creep would know where I lived. Shít is scary.

1point

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ZooMom 3 years ago

I agree with you, it’s ridiculous to ask you to do some of these things every time you encounter a stranger. The only thing I would ask (as a woman and fellow human) is that if you are asked to intervene by one of us or you see something is CLEARLY wrong that you don’t ignore it. To me the most valuable thing a stranger has ever done is walk me to my car I’m a sketchy situation or help me out of a date that’s clearly going into creepy territory when I ask. But I don’t need a guy going out of his way to make himself known to me or avoid me. If she’s already paranoid it sounds like a good way to get pepper sprayed.

1point

Hayley Rodgers 3 years ago

No, that's NOT all you can do. You can step up and stop others, you can stand up and speak out, you can realize that what you think is too much is the bare minimum for many. You can understand that being slightly inconvenienced is nothing compared to being assaulted, raped, knowing friends who have been killed

0points

Matt Tyson 3 years ago

Great post, but I have noticed that as a shorter, unattractive, chunky guy, that women are more likely to act creeped out if I look over there way once or twice instead of the tall good looking guy who has been staring/leering at them all night.

6points

prov dawg 3 years ago

@Aunt Messy and @Mewton's Third Paw - "then don't look". This is exactly why people like Matt here don't save some women who may need it. You're teaching him to keep to himself and one day it will cost someone's life because someone LIKE Matt will "just not look" and miss the signs of a girl in lots of trouble. He's actively trying to f*****g help by giving his experiences and you f*******s do that.

2points

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Stille20 3 years ago

Sometimes more attractive men are the worst because they think it's okay, but I hear what you are saying

1point

person (i think) 3 years ago (edited)

If the circumstance is as you present it, then that is “just” part of the instinctual hardwiring of every person’s brain (across all gender spectrums) to trust “good looking” people more. It could and should be reflected upon and unlearned, just like most of our predjudices should be. I guarantee you also partake in this type of predjude against those you consider less conventionally attractive, although your predjudice comes out in a different form. As I said, everyone falls victim to this, whether they think they do or not; I mean, pretty much all animals in existence have a perception of what is attractive to them and tend to gravitate towards the more attractive of their species and shy away from or avoid the less attractive. Unlike them though, we have the ability to change that behavior. Also, KT Pinto has a very good point! There are lots and lots of things going on at once in your statement and I am just addressing one. P.s. sorry if this is rambling, hopefully my point came across.

0points

Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Poor little MRAs! DO NOT STARE. This is not complicated.

-3points

Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

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