Funny how people are all for children being in families, that care for them but don't you dare realize you are not fit to be a parent and give it to people that can. If you abort you are a killer, if you don't become pregnant you destroy society, if you give birth you better not have made a mistake because if you keep it or not: you will be judged.

Why the hell did they have the baby in the first place? They knew that they wouldn't be able to care for the kid appropriately, thank god for MIL...

A couple of selfish, narcissistic sociopaths have a baby. I'm glad that the kid didn't suffer at the hands of these indifferent egg and sperm donors and that they gave the baby up but sheesh. They should both submit to sterilization and then vow never to assume the role of parent ever again.

I agree that the birth parents are awful, but so glad they realized it and let her be with someone that loves her. I'm not sure why the transfer of custody wasn't done legally, but it should be ASAP. Hopefully that child has a good life and never reads or hears about any of this.

My parents never wanted kids and told us so often. They showed little to no interest in us as we were growing up. I so wish my parents had had the courage this couple showed and given us kids up for adoption. Kudos to this couple for putting their own feelings aside and doing what was best for the child. Not many parents can say they've done that.

Reading this, my thought was that the mother might be on the autistic spectrum, and possibly the husband as well. They certainly don't seem to have the expected emotional range or the ability to understand emotional reactions from their extended family. The whole "We want to get rid of our child, and you can have her, or we'll give her to someone else, but hey, see you on Thanksgiving, and let's get this all sorted by Christmas." Yes they're a******s, clearly, but the kid is almost certainly better off with MIL. They should both be evaluated by a psychiatrist, so they can better understand themselves, and hopefully give the MIL and SIL some understanding of why this happened, so they can tell the child "Your mummy has something called ASD, and because she didn't know about it, and we didn't know about it, noone understood that she didn't want to be a mummy until after you were born, not even her."

Two people who are great candidates for tubal ligation and vasectomy. I’m amazed they hadn’t had those procedures already. I mean, if they didn’t want the baby, then why have her in the first place?

Two robots making a baby ... sheesh. Hope the kid has a better life now and these two never breed again.

Get both yourselves sterilised NOW, so that it never happens again. Not everyone is parent material, but now you know you're not, you need to be proactive.

I work with troubled families and children affected by trauma or abuse. Every time I think, well that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard, another comes along. So these two never thought about how a baby would impact their lives? They never weighed the impact on their careers? Now they realize having a career is more important than their child? No one thought about any of this until the baby was born? I understand how people can realize they made a mistake and had a child. Yes, hopefully, the child is now with people who will love and support her. But that these two cannot understand why their family is angry and hurt tells me they really do not care about anyone but themselves. Their chosen ignorance, self-centeredness and lack of empathy is just amazing.

God forbid this child would impact their carreer in any way!!! Their carreer is way more important than their family or friends (they never talk about friends, I wonder why....)

It's fair to say that people shouldn't be shamed for giving up a child/baby for adoption if they just don't see themselves fit for being parents, but THIS situation ... This is an absolute mess! The baby is basically being handed over from one to another, with no legal ties attached, making this whole thing not just quite confusing, but also causes legal trouble.

There's probably not all the details but I think it's better to put your child up for adoption if you are not fit to be a parent. The child abandoning chatge is weird, especially since they legally transferred custody to the baby's grandma.

There is a clear difference between "After our child was born, we realized that we would not be fit parents for her. So we started looking for alternatives." That is NOT the same as "after our child was born, we realized that she inconveniences us. We're looking for a way to get rid of her while protecting our reputation". The baby should 100% be put up for adoption, but people should stop behaving as though the parents are trying to do what's best for the child. They are terrible people who evidently decided to have a kid as an accessory or something, and suddenly discovered that they actually have to spend time taking care of a baby. The sperm donor cares more about their reputation than about the life of the baby, and I cannot even fathom why the incubator wanted to have a child.

It's been more than 6 years. I want to know what happened? Did MIL & SIL legally adopt Elizabeth? Did OP & Wife end up paying support? (even if it were to a separate fund that Elizabeth could use later in life) Did CPS make any decisions? I am way too invested in this short story.