Couple Put Their 3-Month-Old Daughter Up For Adoption Because She’s “Not A Good Fit”, Face Backlash

Just went to reddit to read OP replies... it is.... enlightening. Commenter: Giving the baby up would ultimately be in her best interest but the way you talk about her like a piece of furniture that isn't your style is... unsettling. OP: ...at the risk of sounding callous, not an inaccurate comparison. I love my daughter not unlike I love a favored item. I would be disappointed if that item were to be suddenly gone, just as I am disappointed my daughter is gone, but it is a loss from which I can recover.

I agree with you. The way this was written was...odd in a way I can't describe. I'm certain there's information we're missing. Edit: I read your update, Lenka, about the father comparing the loss of the daughter to losing a favorite object. I understand more now, but feel even worse for the child.

They may be neurodiverse but that doesn't mean they are incapable of attachment. Having relatives raise your child is unusual but not unprecedented. I can't empathize with their situation but I don't think they are horrible human beings. I do believe it's possible that they have an emotional or mental disconnect in that they don't seem to care emotionally for their infant.

This! And then to consider having her charged with kidnapping. And wondering why the family is not happy with them. Relatives will take children in when their parents die. In this case, the parents didn't die, they just couldn't be bothered. So the relatives stepped up. But you can't expect them to be happy about it. Very selfish, selfish couple. Not to be praised at all.

Yeah the responses here are crazy. I’m always saddened and frustrated by the number of people who rehome their pets and here are two seemingly capable adults who just decided to rehome their baby and many on the internet think it’s completely fine. Or even that they should be lauded for it. Ugh.

I would so damn happy if people with designer pets they don't want actually rehomed them instead of abandoning or neglecting (or even killing) them. This was best for the child, the parents didn't want it.

Absolutely and well said.

Totally agree!! This story is unbearable.

Both "pet people" and "children people" would be wrong to flip out about adopting out. When someone doesn't want a pet or a child, it's BETTER for the little one to find a home where they'd be loved, not to stay with people that don't want it.

Yeah, me too. Agree with Roddy too.

This!! Yes!

Exactly, OP is talking like the child is trying to manipulate them or play mind games or something while a kid is absolutely incapable of doing anything like that at 2 months old.

I'm Glad someone else thinks like this. I don't like the way the MIL and SIL are treating them, though. I feel like they're being treated horribly even though they did what they thought was best. I think that both of the parents are neurodivergent and don't realize it. I think all of this made them realize they couldn't be what they believe parents should be. I've seen so many people get angry about abortion, but then treat people who give their child up for adoption like c**p. Doesn't make sense. Not everyone is made to be a parent and not everyone realizes that until they are one. Doesn't make them bad people. Just makes them honest. To me that's the greatest love they could ever give their kids, to make sure they grow up with wonderful loving parents.

I hope the childs reads it (at an appropriate age) and understands the rational decision behind, rather than family members or strangers putting in her mind that she was heartlessly abandonned by horrible horrible people.

What makes them awful? I disagree. There's many "parents" that have children and raise them and don't really bond with them but still raise them anyway and treat them like garbage and screw them up. I commend them for being honest with themselves and doing the right thing by their child. That is the greatest love any parent can give. I do wish they had adopted her out to people they didn't know, though. So many people are against abortion, but then when someone has a child and realizes they're not the right fit to be a parent and then give the child up there STILL considered awful. That opinion breeds situations that are horrible for children to grow up in. Would you rather they realized it earlier and aborted the pregnancy? And, realistically how would they have known they had an issue being a parent before becoming one? They did the best they could. I believe they're both neurodivergent and probably don't realize that. And Mil and sil are horrible ppl for treating them the way they are.