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“I Hate To Do It”: Man’s Letter To Wife On How He Can’t Be A Husband Sends Internet Into A Frenzy
A man’s hilariously honest letter to his wife about why he can’t be a husband is going viral for its unexpected ending.
On October 22, a perfume and beauty influencer named Joy shared a post on X with the caption, “Ladies… choose yourself. I woke up to this nonsense after almost 11 years of marriage.”
The letter, which has been viewed over 20 million times, was written by her husband, Fred. And despite the solemn tone, users were relieved to find out the message was merely a cheeky joke.
Highlights
- A man's letter joking that he couldn't be a husband for a day goes viral.
- The letter humorously replaced husband duties with watching a game.
- Many thought the letter hinted at a divorce initially.
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A man’s viral, honest letter to his wife on why he couldn’t be a husband is sending the internet into a frenzy
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Fred opened the letter by saying, “You mean the world to me. However I owe it to myself as well as you to be completely honest with you. I have to come forward with my truth. I hate to do it this way but it’s now or never because what I’m about to say has to be said.”
He continued, “Tonight on October 22nd 2024 marks opening night for the New York Knicks 24-25 season.”
The man later stated he would be watching the game, which meant he would “not be a husband or a father” for the duration of the show.
“No I will not watch our shows with you. No I will not get you something sweet,” Fred said. “I will not take the dog out. I will not get the kid in bed either. I will sit on my couch, drink in hand and I will watch the game. That’s it.”
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According to the letter, his actions didn’t mean he loved his wife or child any less, but rather, “Tonight isn’t about y’all.”
“Just call me if you need me. I look forward to seeing and talking to you later. AFTER the game that is,” he added.
After reading her husband’s letter, Joy texted him, “I gave you almost 12 years of my life just for you to leave me a letter like that ???” to which Fred replied, “I had to be true to myself. Even if it hurt.”
Many of the comments initially thought the letter would have a very different ending
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The replies under the initial X post admitted they first thought Fred was asking for a divorce.
“Not gonna lie I was NOT expecting it had me going the first half,” wrote someone. “Kudos to you both for having a fun marriage and messing with each other. You need to get him back tho and get us a Part 2!”
Another added, “You could have given me a million guesses on how that letter would end, and I still wouldn’t have seen this coming.”
“You can tell this family is filled with love and jokes man,” read a comment. “I’m crying.”
Image credits: JoyyUnSpeakable
Joy agreed with many of the comments, writing, “I won’t even lie… he had me nervous at first, then I laughed so hard… this made my morning.”
She revealed to Bored Panda, “I initially thought it was a date night or trip envelope. Maybe even a spa gift certificate. As I opened it my heart dropped because I thought I possibly did something wrong that he didn’t want to say in person.
“As I continued to read I instantly started laughing,” she continued. “His letter made my day. I smiled the biggest smile.”
While this couple had the opportunity to share a laugh over the letter, many women have expressed concern over a spouse’s decision to prioritize sports games
Image credits: JoyyUnSpeakable
According to various sites such as Daily Press or OnMilwaukee, it’s not uncommon for a man to deem a sports game more important than family activities or other prior commitments.
One anonymous user shared her dilemma, saying that while her husband has always been “passionate” about sports, his recent behavior has become a cause for concern.
“Now that we are married with children, this passion has become increasingly frustrating to me,” she said. “To watch the games, he will miss activities with our children and me. He’s missed school events, our kids’ sporting events, my birthday and even one of our anniversaries.”
She added that if the team her husband was cheering for lost, he’d remain in a “bad mood for a few days and be short with all of us,” and while he was never physically violent, he would be verbally abusive.
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— The Stay @ Home Fragrance Mama (@JoyyUnSpeakable) October 23, 2024
A stay-at-home mother named Terry shared her frustrations over the same issue.
“What really bugs me is that I was never asked if I minded watching the kids so he can sit on his butt in front of the TV for hours, it is just assumed that he gets to watch the games,” she said.
“And since my kiddos are so young and they are not gonna quietly sit for those four hours or more, I need to plan an activity.”
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After receiving a few replies touching on these issues, Joy made it clear that her husband was different.
“I hate that yall took something beautiful and made it ugly but I know that misery loves company so this is the last time I’ll say this. My husband works. Cooks cleans, helps with our kid and dog,” she wrote.
“Idk what yall are used to but he is not THEM. I am blessed to be a stay at home mom.”
Joy described her relationship with her husband as equal to best friends, saying they are an “unfiltered couple” who “laugh and joke a lot.”
“He’s not like the men they’re describing,” she told Bored Panda. “He literally keeps me going.”
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Kerry Fletcher 2 months ago
Be a grown-up. You can watch the game, you can take the dog out during the 490 commercials and the last 2 minutes takes an hour. Eat earlier and have some time. You can't just neglect your family for a bball game. If it was like an hour sure but a whole game no sir.
Fellfromthemoon 1 month ago (edited)
If the _________ comes only occasionally, and doesn't mess with every single day (weekensd + PTO), it should be respected. Let's pretend that the person who watches the game has a night out.
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LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 months ago
Absolutely LOVE that my husband does not watch any sports. Except fishing shows, which do not qualify as "sports" in my mind. Boring as hell? Yes. Sports? No. And I am so grateful!!
Nikole 2 months ago
My dad never watched sports when I was growing up, but almost always had PBS on and was watching a WWII documentary or something. At the luncheon after my aunt’s funeral this summer we sat at a table with relatives who didn’t seem overly sporty… at first. It was really weird and I’m glad my dad is the way he is.
Load More Replies... Kerry Fletcher 2 months ago
Be a grown-up. You can watch the game, you can take the dog out during the 490 commercials and the last 2 minutes takes an hour. Eat earlier and have some time. You can't just neglect your family for a bball game. If it was like an hour sure but a whole game no sir.
Fellfromthemoon 1 month ago (edited)
If the _________ comes only occasionally, and doesn't mess with every single day (weekensd + PTO), it should be respected. Let's pretend that the person who watches the game has a night out.
Load More Replies... LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 months ago
Absolutely LOVE that my husband does not watch any sports. Except fishing shows, which do not qualify as "sports" in my mind. Boring as hell? Yes. Sports? No. And I am so grateful!!
Nikole 2 months ago
My dad never watched sports when I was growing up, but almost always had PBS on and was watching a WWII documentary or something. At the luncheon after my aunt’s funeral this summer we sat at a table with relatives who didn’t seem overly sporty… at first. It was really weird and I’m glad my dad is the way he is.
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