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Men Are Sharing Their Vasectomy Experiences Online And Bringing Awareness To How Much Easier It Is For Them To Access Birth Control Than Women
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In light of the Supreme Court’s recent decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, limiting or restricting access to abortion in a number of US states, many couples have felt the need to find more foolproof methods of birth control. And while women are often expected to saddle the burden of birth control, some couples have decided it’s time for men to take initiative in preventing unwanted pregnancies.
One 23-year-old TikToker, Keith Laue, recently shared a video discussing his experience getting a vasectomy. His video has raised awareness for how shockingly easy it is for men to access birth control, especially compared to the complications many women encounter, and sparked a discussion online. Below, you’ll find Keith’s full explanation, as well as some of the comments his video has received, and even an interview between Bored Panda and Keith discussing the whole experience. Then if you’re interested in hearing more about the complications associated with female birth control pills, check out this story next.
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TikToker Keith Laue recently shared a video detailing his experience getting a vasectomy
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Image credits: keith_laue
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We got in touch with Keith via email to hear a little bit more about what inspired him to get this procedure done and share about it online. “We live in Texas where women’s healthcare has been threatened for the past year. My partner had been on birth control since she was 13, tried a bunch of different kinds, and had a range of pretty bad side effects with each one,” Keith explained. “After the Heartbeat Bill got passed in Texas and then the Supreme Court picked up Roe V Wade, she started talking to me about getting a vasectomy and I had to think about it for a couple of months. I don’t think any guy enjoys thinking about getting his balls cut, but it seemed to be the easiest long-term option for birth control.”
Keith went on to note that him and his partner already have one daughter and if they ever are in a place to have more kids they would happily foster. He also has insurance, while his partner does not, which made it easier for him to access birth control. “The Supreme Court has made women’s healthcare unsafe and unreliable, and it’s better for my partner not to be anxious about it,” Keith says.
We also asked Keith if he thinks this topic is still considered taboo. “I do think it’s a little taboo. Before I got the procedure I was nervous because I did not know what to expect, and one of the biggest things that brought me comfort was talking to other men who had vasectomies,” he shared. “So, I made the video to 1) talk about how men can step up to support their partners through birth control and 2) show that the process is not that scary and is pretty simple for men especially compared to some of the things women have to go through.”
You can hear Keith tell the story right here
@keith_laue This isnt a normal post but i thought it was relevant given the news today #vasectomy #roevwade ♬ Shapes (feat. Roshin) – Shaun Frank & Hunter Siegel
We also asked Keith why he thinks it is so much easier for men to get a vasectomy than it is for many females to access birth control or abortions. “There is no doubt that there is inequality in healthcare, and if you need proof you can look in my comment section,” he told Bored Panda. “There are thousands of women saying how they were refused local anesthesia for IUDs or they were denied tubal ligation for years because they were not married, and the doctor thought their future husband might want kids. It’s not fair, but all we can do is try to help where we can.”
Finally, we asked the big question: would he recommend it? “Absolutely,” Keith said. He then went on to address some of the most common questions he received about the whole procedure. “Mine was $600, and it was covered through my insurance, because it is preventative care, but all insurance is different.” He also noted that it is not intended to be reversible, but it is possible. “Another great option is freezing your sperm if you think you might want kids later,” he noted. In terms of what the doctors wanted to know about his personal life, Keith says they asked nothing more than if he was married, if he has kids, and if he wants any more kids.
And he’s not the only one participating in the vasectomy trend, here’s another man who did the same
@karahmatanic not the paper bag and limp 🤧 #roevwade #prochoice ♬ Vegas (From the Original Motion Picture Soundtrack ELVIS) – Doja Cat
When it comes to the medication he was given, Keith explained, “I got local anesthesia to numb the area and anxiety medication beforehand. Many women commented how unfair that is because many women do not get that for IUD placement when they have to puncture the cervix. This is another reason I got it instead of my partner getting an IUD.” He also noted that the procedure itself was not painful, but it was tender afterwards. “Nothing that Ibuprofen did not fix,” he added.
Another common question Keith has gotten is if anyone tried to talk him out of the procedure. “My parents tried to talk me out of it a little bit, but really they just wanted to make sure I was sure about what I was doing,” he said. Lastly, Keith addressed some of the common misconceptions he has heard about vasectomies. “I have heard of some doctors refusing a vasectomy based on age, but I got my doctor recommendation from Planned Parenthood and it wasn’t a problem.” He also noted that contrary to what some people might think, it does not lower testosterone nor does it greatly affect your sex life. “You still produce sperm and semen but they never meet,” he explained. “Everything about sex is pretty much the same, just less anxiety.”
It is great to hear men talking more openly about the options available for birth control, especially when the US government seems to take every opportunity it can to regulate women’s bodies. If you’d like to keep up with Keith, you can follow him on TikTok right here or Instagram right here. Then let us know what you think of all of this in the comments. Has he convinced you to get a vasectomy or to discuss the possibility with your partner?
The comments are full of support for Keith and frustration for how much simpler this process is for men than women
What do you think ?
Minath 2 years ago
I bet none of them were asked about current or future partners potentially wanting children and being told they can't have the procedure unless their partner agreed to it.
Rahul Pawa 2 years ago (edited)
My experience was somewhere in between this guy and what you describe. I was asked if I have kids, and the doctor talked to me about the possibility of wanting more kids in the future. I remember he even brought up the possibility of divorce, and getting remarried and my future second wife wanting kids. I was also asked if my wife was aware I was getting the procedure and how she felt about it. Though they didn't talk to her directly, and I don't think they required her to sign anything. Also, I didn't get Valium for the anxiety. The worst part of the experience was when they injected the local anesthetic.
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Kusotare 2 years ago
When Mrs. Kusotare and I decided we were done having kids, we weighed the options. Since a vasectomy is an outpatient procedure done with local anesthetic vs tubal ligation requiring a general anesthetic and overnight stay, it was an easy decision. My boys felt a little achy for a couple of days, but it didn't require any aftercare other an ice pack for a few hours and changing the dressing regularly. No regrets.
Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago
Overnight stay? I was sent home not long after I woke up after the operation - i was in a horrific state, pain was horrid, i was throwing up and still left to hobble to the waiting room clinging the wall to go meet my husband in the waiting room- the drive home was awful. It was one of the worst experiences of my life
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sturmwesen 2 years ago
I wonder by how much hysterectomy or vasectomy will increase in the USA since every contraceptive can fail, or you know a rape could leave you with even more trauma, stigma and burden if you got pregnant. You can get your face f****d up with a tattoo or nose job but don't you dare be a woman who wants to prevent hypothetical children AND abortions.
Momica98 1 year ago
A hysterectomy isn't really comparable to a vasectomy.
Load More Replies... Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago
I've been sterilised. Was ridiculously painful and took ages to recover from but was sent home about an hour after the operation barely able to stand, throwing up and wobbled my way to meet my husband in the waiting room. I'm glad I did it but I'm still a tad bitter that he refused the easier option of him getting it done instead- my body has been through 4 pregnancies, 4 births, I have a chronic health condition that makes recovering from any illness/injury/medical procedure very long and drawn out. I'm completely scunnered with always having to be the one who takes the physical toll for our familys best interest. I'm exhausted, my body needs a break
Jihana 2 years ago (edited)
Oh sweetie, that's horrible. But at least now you know you're done with the pregnancies. Did your husband feel bad at least, when he saw in how much pain you were? I know I would never let it him forget that. Every cold he has, every stubbed toe, I would say: remember how terrible I was feeling after I got my tubes tied? Don't complain! 😅
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Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
I was told to take a motrin before my IUD procedure. I now have a crippling phobia of the lady-doctor, because that was the most excruciating pain I've ever been in, and I've broken bones before.
Momica98 1 year ago
I was told to take Motrin before an endometrial biopsy. I wish I would have been knocked out.
Load More Replies... A.D 2 years ago
Hubby and I are going back to abstinence because I'm not a candidate for a hysterectomy and we can't afford his snippy snip
Stoopham McFernybabes 2 years ago
I don’t know if you know this, but there’re actually quite a few things you can do that don’t involve penetrative sex…..
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thegolfball 2 years ago
On the original day of, took the valium at home as instructed and off to Dr. Snip Snip. When I got there, there were two release forms I had not signed - normally taken care of in the pre-op. Since I had taken the valium, I was legally under the influence and was not allowed to sign the forms. Also couldn't go back to work. Got an extra day off!
Rae Tardif 2 years ago
The Valium they gave you on the day of your procedure wasn't for your anxiety. It was for your balls ... so they don't retreat into your body cavity
J F 2 years ago (edited)
My husband had it done too, after our son was born I was in ICU with Post Eclampsia and nearly died, Dr said another child could kill me, I tried the coil but got heavy periods so husband decided to have a vascectomy, said its safer than anything else and he hated seeing me suffer when he could do something about it. The Dr asked him questions like what if he wanted more children, he said not at the risk of my wife's health, 2 is plenty for anyone. DR said fair enough. But what if you divorce, He said Ill still have 2 kids and thats enough on this crowded planet. Due to my complications and family history of cancer I tried to get a historectomy, despite the fact I am high risk for cancer and any pregnancy could kill me the DR still refused because I was in my late 20's When will women be allowed to make decisions? Going to a different DR soon to push the issue
Lee 2 years ago
I have an aunt in her 50s who hasn't hit menopause yet, which is odd in itself, but this woman is STILL on BC because her pig of a husband will not get one. He has said plain as plain that he doesn't want a man that near his stuff and doesn't think a woman can "do it right". HE IS THE PROBLEM!
Grady'sRaider 2 years ago
Tips: If you previously experienced tissue swelling from a local anesthetic, i.e. getting stiches, it will be greater after a vasectomy. Get a ride home. Also, as you have to shave the site, do it a week in advance, with follow ups a couple days spaced. Y'all don't want a fresh case of itchy razor rash the same day as the procedure.
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
Yep yep yep yep... This is in my near future plans. Reading this made me feel not so anxious about it. My wife had an IUD put in and she said it was god awful painfull. No one told her how bad it would be. They're only good for so long and have to be replaced, but I don't want my wife to be in pain like that again so I'm planning on gettin snipped. If either of us had known how bad the IUD was going to be, I would have done it long ago.
Eric G 2 years ago (edited)
Got one about 5 years ago. It was easy peasy. Just needed to wear a jockstrap for 2 days with frozen peas and I've been good. It was no brainer since I didn't want kids. Since I didn't want kids, I figured it was my responsibility to get that done. And do you want to know what the best part was? I didn't have to ask a godd*mn f*cking person for permission to do it. I didn't have to ask the Christian Taliban, the state legislature or anyone else for permission because it was my body, my choice. It was the most Freedom thing I could have done in America. Anyone that can't do whatever the f*ck they want with their body is living in tyranny.
Bored Retsuko 2 years ago
I recently saw women on some other online forum bashing a girl who said she wished her partner would consider this option. Saying horrible things like, "no man likes to shoot with blanks". 😕 Reading the comments on here confirms that this is bs, and that there are in fact no downsides to this!
- 2 years ago
Does that woman think men pull out a microscope to do a count after ejaculating? "Oh no, this is even more disappointing than having to do five years of yoga so I can blow myself!"
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Notyomama 2 years ago (edited)
I live in the south eastern part th US. Had a baby at 17. It was a very traumatic experience as my doctor did not believe in c-sections. I was treated abysmally by the hospital staff due to being an unwed mother. Wound up having to use state provided insurance and food assistance for the first year of my babies life. When I was 21 I received a letter offering to sterilize me for free. Took it to my doctor and explained that I was allergic to Latex and polyurethane condoms, couldn't take birth control due to another health issue, and the IUD came out twice. The doctor did not want to give me a tubal, but said he didn't want me to go to a "chop shop" either. This is the same doctor that left a 17 year old in labor for 36 hours because he didn't believe in c-sections. He would only clamp my tubes and not cut them. So far it has worked. I'm just scared of ectopic pregnancy. It's illegal to abort those in my state now. Fortunately the women in my family have early onset menopause.
Iifa A. 2 years ago
Ectopic pregnancy termination is illegal?????? But but that's a death sentence, especially considering when it finally ruptures you might be too far from hospital care. Please tell me this isn't true?!!
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Safy 2 years ago (edited)
I was told at 24 that I had a precancer they usually only see on post menopausal woman (50+) and that they normally would recommend a hysterectomy but I was too young. I underwent treatment for the precancer and after about 6 months it was gone. However, it has come back 3x and I have had to undergo two D&C procedures in addition to the treatment plan that previously worked (hormones/bleeding nonstop for months). I am now 36 and they STILL refuse to let me get a hysterectomy, despite the fact that nothing has changed in those 12 years, they still are like "but you're of childbearing age". Also this whole time nothing has changed, still the same husband and still no plans on having children (mostly because my body decided that for me).
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My (now) husband & I met in October of 2007. We had "the talk" about birth control and used condoms. I was still at an age where I could get pregnant, but hadn't used birth control for years because my ex had been "fixed". We knew we were in it for the long haul, so he made an appointment with "Dr. Snip" - yeah, that was actually how he advertised his services. We lied & told him we'd been together for over a year. Him getting a vasotomy was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me.
KC Lancaster 2 years ago
This is so incredibly awesome! My hubby and I never wanted kids, but (as with others on this and many, many other posts - Drs wouldn't let me have my tubes tied. Birth control pills were causing blood clots, then I became allergic to latex condoms (mostly what was avail. in the 2000s). We discussed it, he had a vasectomy and things have been bliss ever since! I LOVE my man would do this:)!!!
George Gameston 2 years ago
It's not 15 minutes long, it's a lifetime. You don't make a sterilisation decision based on your partner, but based on the decision that you don't want any (more) kids ever again. If you do it for any other reason, it will a lifetime of regret, not just for you but for any future partner should your existing relationship end (including by premature death... it happens).
Momica98 1 year ago
I'm sterilized based on many conversations I had with my partner. I was already going under for surgery.
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Tarryn Louise 2 years ago
I see a lot of people asking if he was asked if he wanted to have kids in the future. I am sure he was asked about future children, but let's face it. Men get a choice, women get judged. We get judged harshly.
Alice Teasdale 2 years ago
I was amazingly fortunate! After two very rough emergency caesareans, third child was an elective. They asked if I wanted my tubes tied while they were in there. After my very instantaneous YES (having just received Autism diagnoses for both sons) I still had to sign a whole lot of very serious forms about sterilisation. I lay on the operating table holding my newborn and reminded them - so they showed me my tubes in a jar! Otherwise I have no doubt my husband would have done the job for us xx good man
Nona Wolf 2 years ago
I was 30 when I got my tubes tied... underwent multiple levels of counseling before doc agreed to do surgery. When I asked why men considering vasectomy seem to just breeze through it, my doc told me this: "If he changes his mind later down the road - I can reverse it pretty easily. With women, a reversal is very complicated, very risky, and has a high level of failure." I don't blame the doc for erroring on the side of caution - plenty of people do in fact change their minds.
- 2 years ago
Of course, it's not new, but my 99-year-old dad isn't as charming and persuasive as this young man.
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- 2 years ago (edited)
This is going to make for a very boring game of "Would you rather?" Vasectomy vs condoms for the rest of your life? Snip vs child support? Two days of sitting on an icepack vs partner complaining about IUD problems? Partner saying "Thank you" vs you begging "Pleeeeeease"? I exaggerate a bit, but "My vas deferens is intact" doesn't usually feature in Tinder profiles. On the plus side, you still have an... ahem... a shot... at being a star at the sperm donor clinic.
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Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago
I hope you enjoy your sad pitiful life as a troll. Your comment just shows how insecure in your masculinity you are and that’s pretty damn sad.
Load More Replies... Minath 2 years ago
I bet none of them were asked about current or future partners potentially wanting children and being told they can't have the procedure unless their partner agreed to it.
Rahul Pawa 2 years ago (edited)
My experience was somewhere in between this guy and what you describe. I was asked if I have kids, and the doctor talked to me about the possibility of wanting more kids in the future. I remember he even brought up the possibility of divorce, and getting remarried and my future second wife wanting kids. I was also asked if my wife was aware I was getting the procedure and how she felt about it. Though they didn't talk to her directly, and I don't think they required her to sign anything. Also, I didn't get Valium for the anxiety. The worst part of the experience was when they injected the local anesthetic.
Load More Replies... Kusotare 2 years ago
When Mrs. Kusotare and I decided we were done having kids, we weighed the options. Since a vasectomy is an outpatient procedure done with local anesthetic vs tubal ligation requiring a general anesthetic and overnight stay, it was an easy decision. My boys felt a little achy for a couple of days, but it didn't require any aftercare other an ice pack for a few hours and changing the dressing regularly. No regrets.
Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago
Overnight stay? I was sent home not long after I woke up after the operation - i was in a horrific state, pain was horrid, i was throwing up and still left to hobble to the waiting room clinging the wall to go meet my husband in the waiting room- the drive home was awful. It was one of the worst experiences of my life
Load More Replies... sturmwesen 2 years ago
I wonder by how much hysterectomy or vasectomy will increase in the USA since every contraceptive can fail, or you know a rape could leave you with even more trauma, stigma and burden if you got pregnant. You can get your face f****d up with a tattoo or nose job but don't you dare be a woman who wants to prevent hypothetical children AND abortions.
Momica98 1 year ago
A hysterectomy isn't really comparable to a vasectomy.
Load More Replies... Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago
I've been sterilised. Was ridiculously painful and took ages to recover from but was sent home about an hour after the operation barely able to stand, throwing up and wobbled my way to meet my husband in the waiting room. I'm glad I did it but I'm still a tad bitter that he refused the easier option of him getting it done instead- my body has been through 4 pregnancies, 4 births, I have a chronic health condition that makes recovering from any illness/injury/medical procedure very long and drawn out. I'm completely scunnered with always having to be the one who takes the physical toll for our familys best interest. I'm exhausted, my body needs a break
Jihana 2 years ago (edited)
Oh sweetie, that's horrible. But at least now you know you're done with the pregnancies. Did your husband feel bad at least, when he saw in how much pain you were? I know I would never let it him forget that. Every cold he has, every stubbed toe, I would say: remember how terrible I was feeling after I got my tubes tied? Don't complain! 😅
Load More Replies... Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
I was told to take a motrin before my IUD procedure. I now have a crippling phobia of the lady-doctor, because that was the most excruciating pain I've ever been in, and I've broken bones before.
Momica98 1 year ago
I was told to take Motrin before an endometrial biopsy. I wish I would have been knocked out.
Load More Replies... A.D 2 years ago
Hubby and I are going back to abstinence because I'm not a candidate for a hysterectomy and we can't afford his snippy snip
Stoopham McFernybabes 2 years ago
I don’t know if you know this, but there’re actually quite a few things you can do that don’t involve penetrative sex…..
Load More Replies... thegolfball 2 years ago
On the original day of, took the valium at home as instructed and off to Dr. Snip Snip. When I got there, there were two release forms I had not signed - normally taken care of in the pre-op. Since I had taken the valium, I was legally under the influence and was not allowed to sign the forms. Also couldn't go back to work. Got an extra day off!
Rae Tardif 2 years ago
The Valium they gave you on the day of your procedure wasn't for your anxiety. It was for your balls ... so they don't retreat into your body cavity
J F 2 years ago (edited)
My husband had it done too, after our son was born I was in ICU with Post Eclampsia and nearly died, Dr said another child could kill me, I tried the coil but got heavy periods so husband decided to have a vascectomy, said its safer than anything else and he hated seeing me suffer when he could do something about it. The Dr asked him questions like what if he wanted more children, he said not at the risk of my wife's health, 2 is plenty for anyone. DR said fair enough. But what if you divorce, He said Ill still have 2 kids and thats enough on this crowded planet. Due to my complications and family history of cancer I tried to get a historectomy, despite the fact I am high risk for cancer and any pregnancy could kill me the DR still refused because I was in my late 20's When will women be allowed to make decisions? Going to a different DR soon to push the issue
Lee 2 years ago
I have an aunt in her 50s who hasn't hit menopause yet, which is odd in itself, but this woman is STILL on BC because her pig of a husband will not get one. He has said plain as plain that he doesn't want a man that near his stuff and doesn't think a woman can "do it right". HE IS THE PROBLEM!
Grady'sRaider 2 years ago
Tips: If you previously experienced tissue swelling from a local anesthetic, i.e. getting stiches, it will be greater after a vasectomy. Get a ride home. Also, as you have to shave the site, do it a week in advance, with follow ups a couple days spaced. Y'all don't want a fresh case of itchy razor rash the same day as the procedure.
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
Yep yep yep yep... This is in my near future plans. Reading this made me feel not so anxious about it. My wife had an IUD put in and she said it was god awful painfull. No one told her how bad it would be. They're only good for so long and have to be replaced, but I don't want my wife to be in pain like that again so I'm planning on gettin snipped. If either of us had known how bad the IUD was going to be, I would have done it long ago.
Eric G 2 years ago (edited)
Got one about 5 years ago. It was easy peasy. Just needed to wear a jockstrap for 2 days with frozen peas and I've been good. It was no brainer since I didn't want kids. Since I didn't want kids, I figured it was my responsibility to get that done. And do you want to know what the best part was? I didn't have to ask a godd*mn f*cking person for permission to do it. I didn't have to ask the Christian Taliban, the state legislature or anyone else for permission because it was my body, my choice. It was the most Freedom thing I could have done in America. Anyone that can't do whatever the f*ck they want with their body is living in tyranny.
Bored Retsuko 2 years ago
I recently saw women on some other online forum bashing a girl who said she wished her partner would consider this option. Saying horrible things like, "no man likes to shoot with blanks". 😕 Reading the comments on here confirms that this is bs, and that there are in fact no downsides to this!
- 2 years ago
Does that woman think men pull out a microscope to do a count after ejaculating? "Oh no, this is even more disappointing than having to do five years of yoga so I can blow myself!"
Load More Replies... Notyomama 2 years ago (edited)
I live in the south eastern part th US. Had a baby at 17. It was a very traumatic experience as my doctor did not believe in c-sections. I was treated abysmally by the hospital staff due to being an unwed mother. Wound up having to use state provided insurance and food assistance for the first year of my babies life. When I was 21 I received a letter offering to sterilize me for free. Took it to my doctor and explained that I was allergic to Latex and polyurethane condoms, couldn't take birth control due to another health issue, and the IUD came out twice. The doctor did not want to give me a tubal, but said he didn't want me to go to a "chop shop" either. This is the same doctor that left a 17 year old in labor for 36 hours because he didn't believe in c-sections. He would only clamp my tubes and not cut them. So far it has worked. I'm just scared of ectopic pregnancy. It's illegal to abort those in my state now. Fortunately the women in my family have early onset menopause.
Iifa A. 2 years ago
Ectopic pregnancy termination is illegal?????? But but that's a death sentence, especially considering when it finally ruptures you might be too far from hospital care. Please tell me this isn't true?!!
Load More Replies... Safy 2 years ago (edited)
I was told at 24 that I had a precancer they usually only see on post menopausal woman (50+) and that they normally would recommend a hysterectomy but I was too young. I underwent treatment for the precancer and after about 6 months it was gone. However, it has come back 3x and I have had to undergo two D&C procedures in addition to the treatment plan that previously worked (hormones/bleeding nonstop for months). I am now 36 and they STILL refuse to let me get a hysterectomy, despite the fact that nothing has changed in those 12 years, they still are like "but you're of childbearing age". Also this whole time nothing has changed, still the same husband and still no plans on having children (mostly because my body decided that for me).
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My (now) husband & I met in October of 2007. We had "the talk" about birth control and used condoms. I was still at an age where I could get pregnant, but hadn't used birth control for years because my ex had been "fixed". We knew we were in it for the long haul, so he made an appointment with "Dr. Snip" - yeah, that was actually how he advertised his services. We lied & told him we'd been together for over a year. Him getting a vasotomy was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me.
KC Lancaster 2 years ago
This is so incredibly awesome! My hubby and I never wanted kids, but (as with others on this and many, many other posts - Drs wouldn't let me have my tubes tied. Birth control pills were causing blood clots, then I became allergic to latex condoms (mostly what was avail. in the 2000s). We discussed it, he had a vasectomy and things have been bliss ever since! I LOVE my man would do this:)!!!
George Gameston 2 years ago
It's not 15 minutes long, it's a lifetime. You don't make a sterilisation decision based on your partner, but based on the decision that you don't want any (more) kids ever again. If you do it for any other reason, it will a lifetime of regret, not just for you but for any future partner should your existing relationship end (including by premature death... it happens).
Momica98 1 year ago
I'm sterilized based on many conversations I had with my partner. I was already going under for surgery.
Load More Replies... Tarryn Louise 2 years ago
I see a lot of people asking if he was asked if he wanted to have kids in the future. I am sure he was asked about future children, but let's face it. Men get a choice, women get judged. We get judged harshly.
Alice Teasdale 2 years ago
I was amazingly fortunate! After two very rough emergency caesareans, third child was an elective. They asked if I wanted my tubes tied while they were in there. After my very instantaneous YES (having just received Autism diagnoses for both sons) I still had to sign a whole lot of very serious forms about sterilisation. I lay on the operating table holding my newborn and reminded them - so they showed me my tubes in a jar! Otherwise I have no doubt my husband would have done the job for us xx good man
Nona Wolf 2 years ago
I was 30 when I got my tubes tied... underwent multiple levels of counseling before doc agreed to do surgery. When I asked why men considering vasectomy seem to just breeze through it, my doc told me this: "If he changes his mind later down the road - I can reverse it pretty easily. With women, a reversal is very complicated, very risky, and has a high level of failure." I don't blame the doc for erroring on the side of caution - plenty of people do in fact change their minds.
- 2 years ago
Of course, it's not new, but my 99-year-old dad isn't as charming and persuasive as this young man.
Load More Replies... - 2 years ago (edited)
This is going to make for a very boring game of "Would you rather?" Vasectomy vs condoms for the rest of your life? Snip vs child support? Two days of sitting on an icepack vs partner complaining about IUD problems? Partner saying "Thank you" vs you begging "Pleeeeeease"? I exaggerate a bit, but "My vas deferens is intact" doesn't usually feature in Tinder profiles. On the plus side, you still have an... ahem... a shot... at being a star at the sperm donor clinic.
Load More Replies... Loki’s Lil Butter Knife 2 years ago
I hope you enjoy your sad pitiful life as a troll. Your comment just shows how insecure in your masculinity you are and that’s pretty damn sad.
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