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Man Breaks Up With GF On The Spot: “I Was Stupid To Think She Was A Decent Human”
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Man Breaks Up With GF On The Spot: “I Was Stupid To Think She Was A Decent Human”

Man Breaks Up With GF On The Spot: “I Was Stupid To Think She Was A Decent Human”“She Literally Told Me She Would Cheat”: Man Chooses To Be Single And Rich, GF Loses ItWoman Left Pounding Sand After Threatening To Cheat On BF If He Takes $600k Job OverseasMan Completely Understands GF Who Will Miss Their Intimacy While He Works Overseas, Dumps HerMan Gets An Offer To Earn $640K A Year Overseas, GF Demands He Refuse As She’ll Miss IntimacyWoman Won't Let BF Take Job Opportunity Overseas, Says She'll Cheat If He Does, Loses EverythingMan Faces Tough Choice As GF Says She'll Cheat On Him While He's Away At New Job Overseas“Lonely” Woman Threatens Man With Infidelity If He Takes A Job Abroad, He Chooses To Get RichWoman Threatens To Cheat If BF Accepts Overseas Job Opportunity And Leaves Her Alone For 4 Months
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Getting a new job is a major win, especially when your yearly salary would be over 500k. But, sometimes, a new job might mean unwanted changes to your personal life. A higher-paying job usually means less time for yourself and your loved ones, and not all partners might be willing to make these adjustments.

When this guy told his girlfriend he would need to be away for long periods for his job, she protested by saying she needs ‘human contact.’ Taking this as a direct confession she would cheat on him, he broke up with her. But, later, he decided to ask people whether he was right or just too quick to assume things.

This couple faced a dilemma over the boyfriend getting a new, exceptionally well-paid job

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As he would need to be away for long periods of time, his GF said she would have a hard time staying faithful

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A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean there will be no physical intimacy

Work trips don’t necessarily mean a relationship has to be over. Couples can keep contact and maintain intimacy even when one partner travels extensively for work. The situation worsens when there are kids and parenting involved. But a couple can get through it if they put in some work.

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Since one partner will be spending weeks or even months away, technically, this becomes a long-distance relationship. And, while it comes with its challenges and disadvantages, two people can make it work if they really set their mind to it.

Physical intimacy was at the center of this couple’s argument. But is it really true that long-distance couples don’t have as intense and satisfying intimacy as their regular relationship counterparts?

Debra Macleod, a Calgary mediator and relationship coach, explained to Today’s Parent that it can be quite the opposite. “If a couple can do it right, they can keep that simmering attraction a lot stronger than the couple that’s crawling into bed with each other every single night.”

In fact, long-distance couples might even have stronger intimacy bonds than their counterparts who are geographically close. A 2013 study found that people in long-distance relationships reported feeling more intimate with each other.

One of the authors, Professor Crystal Jiang, said in a press release that people shouldn’t be afraid of long-distance relationships. “Indeed, our culture, emphasizes being together physically and frequent face-to-face contact for close relationships, but long-distance relationships clearly stand against all these values.”

“The long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back,” the researcher stated.

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Maintaining intimacy in a long-distance relationship requires active effort

Keeping that spark alive can indeed be difficult. But, as research shows and experts claim, open communication is key. When it comes to physical intimacy, couples should take advantage of the benefits of technology.

“You could explore sexting, phone sex, or sending each other sex toys,” sexologist and intimacy coach Lucy Rowett explained to GQ. She especially recommends ones that can be controlled by an app. That way, one partner can control the other’s toy, even if they’re far away.

However, Rowett also notes that it’s not all about sexual intimacy. Surprises like little gifts in the mail or a delivery of flowers go a long way, too. Another fun idea can be sending or creating erotica to each other. Intimacy expert Magda Kay says it’s a great way to keep the spark alive and build anticipation for future meet-ups or calls.

It’s not that grim in the long-distance relationship department. Research even shows that 60% of couples manage to make long-distance work. The trick is to dedicate time to each other and keep the surprises coming, just like in any normal relationship.

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Many people nowadays would choose their career over love if presented with an ultimatum

Perhaps once, people were romantics. Nowadays, it seems that’s not so much the case. For the majority of Americans, a job takes precedence over a romantic relationship, research shows. Zety surveyed 1,075 people and found that a whopping 75% would choose their career over a romantic relationship or even a marriage.

Perhaps romance truly is dead, once and for all. In this day and age, people actualize themselves through their jobs and prefer a comfortable and steady income compared to making sacrifices for their romantic partners.

However, why can’t we have both? A successful, fulfilling career and a happy family to come back to at the end of the day? That takes much more hard work on both partners’ end, of course. But what else is new? If we can train ourselves to be good at our jobs, why might we not do the same with our relationships?

The boyfriend provided more context about the breakup in the comments

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Many people defended the boyfriend and said he was right to break up with his girlfriend

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Others thought everyone here could’ve done better: the communication between the couple was pretty bad

And some, although a minority, defended the girlfriend

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Rosgrana
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither of them are in the wrong. She (IMO) was saying she would be unhappy in a long-distance relationship, and wants a partner who is physically present. He wants to prioritise his finances and set up his life for a future where he would (probably? possibly?) be physically present. No one is being unreasonable, except perhaps over the miscommunication or whatever it was about cheating, they are just fundamentally incompatible right now. They want different things from life and the relationship.

Max Fox
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but there was no "miscommunication" there. She was pretty clear about what she said would happen if he took the job. She told him that if he was away, she would need company, and then she clarified that by "company" she meant "sex". I fail to see that there was any miscommunication. A miscommunication would be if she had said "I can't go that long without sex". That is NOT what she said.

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Jeremy James
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm hearing a lot of negative talk about the girlfriend but I'm pretty impressed. She was able to be honest and upfront about her needs. That shows a level of maturity. Others in the same situation might have tried to deny those needs and then cheat. At the same time, guuurl, it's $600K. How bad is your "Vitamin D" deficiency? You can't go 4 months just taking care of yourself for half a million dollars?

Caro Caro
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and also... It's not indefinately and you can really build a good future for the 2 of you with student loans gone !! Buy a house, put money away for a nice retirement. I mean, I understand her honesty and I understand his reaction but goodness ... think what BOTH of you could have after 2 years. EDIT: Invest in the future !

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sturmwesen
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They value different things. They may have been able to talk about it, but if he is not willing to consider she values time over money a breakup may be better. I think he was harsh though.

Max Fox
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Harsh" because he broke up with her when she said that if he took the job she would cheat on him? Sorry, but no. He would be harsh if he was angry because she told him that she would break up with him if he took the job.

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Rosgrana
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither of them are in the wrong. She (IMO) was saying she would be unhappy in a long-distance relationship, and wants a partner who is physically present. He wants to prioritise his finances and set up his life for a future where he would (probably? possibly?) be physically present. No one is being unreasonable, except perhaps over the miscommunication or whatever it was about cheating, they are just fundamentally incompatible right now. They want different things from life and the relationship.

Max Fox
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but there was no "miscommunication" there. She was pretty clear about what she said would happen if he took the job. She told him that if he was away, she would need company, and then she clarified that by "company" she meant "sex". I fail to see that there was any miscommunication. A miscommunication would be if she had said "I can't go that long without sex". That is NOT what she said.

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Jeremy James
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm hearing a lot of negative talk about the girlfriend but I'm pretty impressed. She was able to be honest and upfront about her needs. That shows a level of maturity. Others in the same situation might have tried to deny those needs and then cheat. At the same time, guuurl, it's $600K. How bad is your "Vitamin D" deficiency? You can't go 4 months just taking care of yourself for half a million dollars?

Caro Caro
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and also... It's not indefinately and you can really build a good future for the 2 of you with student loans gone !! Buy a house, put money away for a nice retirement. I mean, I understand her honesty and I understand his reaction but goodness ... think what BOTH of you could have after 2 years. EDIT: Invest in the future !

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sturmwesen
Community Member
4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They value different things. They may have been able to talk about it, but if he is not willing to consider she values time over money a breakup may be better. I think he was harsh though.

Max Fox
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Harsh" because he broke up with her when she said that if he took the job she would cheat on him? Sorry, but no. He would be harsh if he was angry because she told him that she would break up with him if he took the job.

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