Guys are pretty damn delusional. You wanted sparks and sex with someone younger and hotter than your wife, only to find that the younger hotter women don't want to waste their time on a middle-aged married man who's let himself go. FAFO, a*****e.

Boohoo. So he would have been perfectly happy if he was getting the dates and his wife wasn't? What a pathetic manchild. I hope the wife meets a decent bloke and kicks this loser to the curb.

Your brother said you are a moron, I guess he got the brains in your family.

'Ha-Ha!!' (in a loud Nelson Muntz voice)

I know a very similar story of a man who kept pestering his wife into a situation where they were with another couple. She reluctantly accepted, but then ended up enjoying it, while he couldn’t get it up. And what’s even better was that she got a taste for it and joined a swingers club.

As someone in a non-monogamous relationship/ marriage, the amount of people who go into this without being in a stable situation to start with is baffling. It isn't just a I want to sleep with other people situation, ever. There has to be so much trust and conversation and understanding to start with. It truly is a lifestyle, not a hobby.

Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of your own actions. Karma working at its best.

Careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

I will never understand men who think they are not only attractive, but deserve romcom excitement at all times. If someone isn't attracted to you they aren't attracted to you. Stop teaching boys they are so all-powerfully important.

sooo ... not f*ck around and find out, but find out and don't f*ck around?

Good for her!!! You're lucky she decides to keep coming home to you! Should have done your homework. Dating sites stats show women on the sites have 10+ men for every woman. They have their pick of the Best personalities, best jobs, most handsome, most considerate, and when finding a jerk easily move onto the next one. Many sites even let women sign up for free. We, WOMEN, are the catch. Men, eh meh. You thought you'd be out there just banging young, gorgeous women and found out you're yesterday's used up newspaper. Oh, that sucks, seriously. To end, no one owns another human being. Vows, words, promises, nothing gives you absolute sovereignty over another. Your actions, behavior and words cause another to want to stay or not. This is on you. In our marriage, Pagan, we ask each other, on our anniversary, each year, if we want another year together. We never assume. We respect that one may have a change of heart. After 40yrs we are still together

AHAHAHAH

What a moron. It seems like guys like him will nag their wives about an open marriage, thinking they can get laid and want to close it back up after their wife ends up enjoying the open marriage. No dude, you don't get to put that genie back in the bottom. He can live with it/see about couple's therapy or get divorced. I wonder if the wife knows why he lost his job. It's really not surprising for a coworker to be creeped out by a married manager hitting her up for sex, even if he isn't her direct boss. I'm guessing the content of the messages or the frequency was creepy/harassing since HR fired him instead of writing him up. Some places, like my workplace have strict rules about coworkers dating each other. There is one married couple at my work, but they work in different departments. HR at my work would have a very negative opinion that is company policy about management trying to date non-management.

Lol, OP You stupid.

What an idiot! You thought you were gonna be the one pulling all the trim so you sexually harassed a coworker, and lost your job. Meanwhile your wife is handling more sausage than Jimmy Dean. Here's the thing, she's probably not that in to it, but when you asked her for an open marriage you hurt her and now she's gonna make you suffer for it.

I'm thinking there had to be more to the co-worker messages then I asked her out and got fired for it.... if ALL he did was ask her out then it's a warning at most

Here’s what’s going to happen - the wife will find someone better while she’s dating, fall in love and initiate divorce. After wallowing in his bitterness for a few years, OP will remarry to someone nowhere near as great as his first wife and that marriage will also end in divorce. He’ll rarely see his daughter.

LMFAO .. I guess the grass wasn't as green as you thought... lol moron

She went to hr and I got fired.... dude nobody gets fired for saying "hey Sarah, would you like to go on a date with me some time? " is what else you said that got you fired

Lmao, man this takes me back. Only my ex tossed me over for some lower at work, after they did the nasty, she booted him. He saw me having lost weight on the divorce diet (no food, exercise constantly) and was interested. I said eat your heart out and no touching

What a twat. You wanted sex with at least one other woman so you opened up your relationship. Your wife is now happily f*****g. You? You're just f****d. It serves you right. Only an idiot would have believed this would turn out any other way. Manager? Right, you were (and are) that idiot. Get ready for the divorce when your wife finds somebody she falls for, it will happen.

OP is dumber than a dung beetle. He just embarrassed himself on the internet for the whole world, lmao, wow. He deserves everything, and I mean everything he gets for being such an ignorant AH.

Never dip your quill in the company ink. It won't end well (and didn't for this guy).

Men....

Sounds to me, like everything worked out as it was intended. He wanted open, he got open. Can’t put the genie back in the bottle!

If he has any chance of saving the marriage, he should start wooing her again. Ask her out on a date. Do little things to make her happy. Buy her gifts. Lord knows the other guys are likely doing that for her, so now he'll need to compete. That's what happens when you tell your wife you want to f**k other women. He's an idiot.

Most of the time open marriages don't work, in my experience. I only know one, and they both have a voracious sexual appetite. They also rarely play alone, I guess more swingers that agree to occasionally do things by themselves

I'm going through this right now, I have been in a thirty year marriage .He thought that it would be easy. I am financially stuck right now and have a roommate thing happening with my husband I even encourage him to go out but well it is what it is.

I'm so glad I'm not in a situation where my s.o. would suggest something like this.

It's never not hilarious and satisfying when these situations inevitably end like this. The self-delusion of the people who want an open marriage only to be hit with the reality that, no, they're not a desirable as they think they are. "My partner let themselves go...but I definitely did not" is such a hilarious self-owning blindspot.

Littleorangemonkeys, there is a third option here — couples counseling. Dum-dum OP might actually learn something.

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