She's not sorry for terrorizing those poor people. It's a shame she didn't get jail time. That may have been the only way she actually realized the gravity of her actions. Hopefully she decides to get some counseling. Otherwise with as angry as she is for Laura pressing charges and sueing there's a chance she'll go after her again.

Oof, I remember this one. Thought at the time he's an idiot for staying. My opinion has not changed.

This guy didn't really leave anything out, did he? I think I'd have to divorce after something like this - I just don't think I could look at my wife the same way again, given the extent to which she went after this person. Royal ick.

Original post is 5 years old. I wonder what happened.

Yikes. I have to wonder at this husband and his complete lack of a backbone. Get out while you can!

It really shouldn’t be about the money. It’s not ‘his’, it’s theirs: they were building a life together. Aside from that, this woman really really needs a lot of help. Why won’t OP put his foot down in terms of therapy? If she doesn’t want it: fine, get ready to go it alone. It feels like OP wants the sympathy but without seeing the reality of the situation.

They're both crazy. Her for being a psychopath, and him for thinking that she's worth redemption.

Your wife is a psychopath. Just run. Get rid of her as fast as you can. First, block all your social media accounts, emails, important documents, because she'll do it again. Whatever amount she paid, it should have been much more. She should have ended up in jail for several years, because she is a seriously dangerous POS. There's nothing worth saving in that marriage.

Why did OP spend all his money defending her? She could've caused her old friend's child to pass away from the stress. He's kept a psycopath out of jail for the rest of us to deal with.

My dude...save yourself before it's too late!!

I'm surprised the court didn't mandate therapy and a psych eval, or that her attorney didn't offer it as a way to mitigate the finding/sentence.

This is giving me "Death Becomes Her" vibes to be honest except only one side is trying very hard to ruin someone else's life including their own. I am beyond ecstatic these people do NOT have any children because they're both complete idiots. The psychopath for what she did to her ex-bff almost a decade later of no longer being friends & the husband for not divorcing this maniac out of pure desperation to avoid being alone. OP's wife is the type of person you have to sleep with one eye open at all times if/when around her. She took being jealous & obsessed to a whole new level that not even her own husband never knew anyone could reach. This story is indeed terrifying but could've escalated to something much worse. Her working part time is not helping either since she had plenty of time for all this. That amount of effort should've went towards looking for a new full time job instead. Something of this magnitude she need to be in a psych ward instead of therapy.

Damn. What do you do when you find out your partner is a criminal? An abusive one at that. Sometimes you're ride-or-die with your partner, but this is some sketchy unrepentant s**t. Refusing therapy is a giant red flag on top of a red flag. Poor guy's learning his world might end up falling apart. I feel bad for him

They both have issues. Hers are clear. His is for thinking their marriage is in trouble because of money. "Don't call her a psychopath" *goes on to explain her psychopathic behavior* One more thing... and this isn't victim blaming and doubtful it would have made a difference... Don't Feed the Troll (or vengeful psychopath stalker, in this case). Police and stalking counselors both recommend with behavior like this is to stop responding. Just save whatever comes for evidence. Doing otherwise can potentially make matters worse, and if you sue or press charges it could be seen as egging the person on (laws and jury decisions all vary, of course).

Honestly the best advice OP could be given is to get a divorce, and get the hell away from this psycho of a woman. She had no remorse for trying to ruin someones life and terrorizing them. She deserves jail time imo. Then again, with someone who can be so bitter and psycho, I'd fear that OP leaving her would spiral into her trying to ruin his life...

She thinks she's right because the husband still stands besides her, the day she's alone she will truly understand her actions, and maybe feel remorse...

Wife has narcissistic personality disorder. Is threatened by any sign that someone else that she dislikes is doing better than her in any way. Goes to insane lengths to hurt said person. Isn't remorseful that she did it, only sad that she got caught. "She's never done anything like this before" -- that you KNOW of. The mask has slipped: this is who she really is. My narcissistic mother also did not want to go to therapy because she felt she would be "attacked" the entire time: this is because narcissists cannot stand ANY criticism whatsoever, and also because they know deep down that they were wrong and that they WILL be criticized, and they can't handle looking at their own shame. OP needs to know that this behavior was not a fluke, and that narcissists are very, very unlikely to change their ways (and even then, they have to really want to, and they have to do a lot of therapy).

Your wife is the textbook definition of psychotic. She did things she knew could destroy someone's career, marriage and reputation, and this was someone she was friends with at one time. She started it with "Matt" and telling her she failed the "loyalty test." Then, she goes mental trying to destroy this woman. Deliberately saying things to damage her career, marriage and reputation. She should have been thrown under the jail for these things. She's also very lucky that nothing was wrong with the baby due to the undue stress she caused. Please, please I'm begging you just divorce her and move on with your life. You or anyone you care about could be her next victim. If you divorce her and she can't pay what she owes and goes to jail, that's the best place for her.

I know OP didn't just want people to slam his wife, but sorry dude, only advice I've got for you is that she's a f*****g psycho, and if you stay with her, you're an idiot.

Dude is a weak man whose only thought seems to be about the money, not the absolutely monstrous things his wife did. Yes, she is a monster. Who knows what else she's done 'for fun'. She is terrifying, and I don't think he's any better. He resents her FOR THE MONEY THEY LOST??? Not for trying to ruin someone's life? They deserve each other.

She doesn't need therapy (yet) she needs psycho analysis!! This is one Insane story where she tried to destroy a friends life, marriage, motherhood, friends, work/career and she's not had to acknowledge a scrap of her actions. He needs to divorce her And get restraining ready to go in place. I have never read anything quite so psychotic presented as a bit of a hiccup 😮

Therapy has a lot of stigma surrounding it, but the truth is, if your therapist is the right fit, it can be life saving. I personally believe that the world would be a better place if 90% of the population got therapy. Also people need to remember that therapists are different than psychiatrists. Therapists helps talk you through your problems, but do not perscribe anything. Psyciatrists do.

This one is ripe for a gender reversal

From a personal standpoint, I think this resentment will eat away at your soul all the time you have contact with the source. You are between a rock ( your wife’s actions) and a hard place (guilt that you are not supporting her) . For your own salvation, you need to leave the situation,, you need to feel that you can support at a distance , with minimal emotional attachment.

You are completely delusional, OP. Your wife is ABSOLUTELY a psychopath. She needs intensive mental health treatment. I'm not sure I would stay with my husband if he pulled something so BATSHIT F*CKING CRAZY. Dude, she is beyond sick. Get the f*cking memo.

I think she needs to be committed. Unless he wants to keep her and be her guard for the rest of their lives. This went on over a huge amount of time and never once did she seem to see what she was doing and attempt to stop.

Get out now!

YEs, it certainly is justified. I really do not think there is any hope of her changing for the better. I think she will get worse and will end up in jail someday.

He may not think she is a psychopath, but I do!

He said he believes she genuinely thought she was exposing a bad person? No. All the stuff she made up because she was jealous is NOT that. She needs therapy and she doesn't want to go because she doesn't want to fully admit how wrong she was, and he is just as bad, trying to excuse her actions. He needs therapy so he can open his eyes to the lies he's telling himself. Once he does, I think the realization would help him get things straight in his life. And he should leave her!

It shouldn't be entirely left up to OP'S wife to decide whether or not to get therapy. OP should make it a condition of staying together, and not an option. Otherwise, she'll NEVER get therapy. She will keep recycling those same old excuses, while not showing a speck of remorse for her behavior. She may even try to "even the score" with Laura and escalate the situation by trying to run her down in a crosswalk, kidnapping her child, or torching her home. All the while, it could be OP'S neck on the chopping block. His wife needs to be living elsewhere, at least until her community service ends. In a blink of an eye, she could easily change from psychotic to psychopathic.

Since the original post was from more than 5 years ago, any help getting an update?

Yes, run far and fast. But to answer his question: "help me convince her to get therapy" Easy. "Get, and stay in, therapy or we are done.... I will not be married to or even associated with someone who can act like that so you need to work out whatever took you down that path and grow into the person I believe you to be." Honestly though, it's all but certain that he started seeing her true self reflected in her current and past actions, things he probably glossed over, or saw with a different lens before. Especially if she kept refusing therapy and any willingness to admit she is wrong and has remorse. Instead of a bang (immediate divorce), I get the feeling he slowly accepted it over time (it can be hard accept that a person is not at all who we thought they were, we fight it). And he drifted further away, leaving the relationship in a fizzle a few years later. ... And then she stalked and k*lled him. Wish there was an update; I'll keep my eye on the true crime shows.

How the hell can he still say he loves someone who is so sick and twisted?

As a person born of the millennial age I can somewhat understand the creeping of the socials, but Jesus Christ, this woman went well beyond that. Her behaviour is very unhinged and refusing therapy because “they will gang up” on her testifies to that and also shows that she KNOWS she is in the wrong. She needs help. Jealousy is an evil thing, much like an addiction, and it consumed her.

You bloody f*****g a******s!!! You censor D***S in order to not disturb your advertisers. And then I See ads from the AfD!!!!! Have you lost your f*****g mindestens, BP! That is a Nazi-Party in Germany!!!! And you have their ads, which say "deport, deport, deport" and other racist c**p, on this site?!?! Wtf is wrong with you????

I pity the OP, can a person sleep with one eye open?