"She told me her side side, I told her my side"...What side?? How could he possibly defend himself in this situation? What a douchebag.

Did he just call the house, that he lives in with his wife, HIS place? This dude is a walking red flag. Guaranteed she's going to be taking care of that baby on her own. F**k that guy.

This is what happens when you don't get education from your parents. You got to ask to a bunch of strangers on the internet PLUS your coworkers if you're an as*hole, because you're too stupid and uneducated to know you are...

He must have gone out of the way to find the 3 people who took his side lol.

I can't wait for the next episode of AITA where he can't get enough sleep because a newborn is so needy.

"She's havin' my baby, ew, yuck how disgusting" is *not* the way that old song went. He's the AH, and she needs to get out and make sure he stays away from the child. What will he think about diapers?!

First of all, what an a**hat. Second, a very simple thing would be what I did for my wife, and we didn't even have stairs to contend with. I got my wife a portable toilet to keep on our room in case she felt like she couldn't make it to the bathroom even though it was 2 doors from our room. I even said I would clean it out for her. Unfortunately she ended up with pre-eclampsia so our son came early (29 weeks), so it didn't get any use, but we had it. Third, you're still an a**hat.

I had something similar happen to me when I was first pregnant and the unexpectedness of it made me so upset, I was frozen to the spot. All I remember is crying and my husband putting me to bed. Somewhere between the crying and being put to bed, he must have cleaned me and changed my pajamas, but he never once mentioned it. I did apologize the next day, but all he said was that if that was the worst that could happen during my pregnancy, he would be a happy man. Turned out that it wasn't the worst, but even then, he held it, and us, together through what turned into a very scary few weeks. And THAT is what makes a true partner and an even better dad, even to this day.

I feel bad for this guy's wife, unborn kid, and cat

What a f*****g c**k womble.

YOUR place!!??

Yes...you are an a*s. At this point you should be on your knees begging her to take your dumb a*s back. What an absolute piece of c**p you are.

If you can't handle her pissing herself in the third trimester then you are in for some harsh reality checks when she's in labor and recovery. Clearly not mature enough to be a father.

The sheer amount of bodily functions, issues, grossness, sickness, growths, pus, etc that you experience from your SO if you are in a loving, open, honest, happy marriage is astounding. It is both gross and beautiful. But there's one thing for sure...if my SO had for ONE SINGLE SOLITARY MILLISECOND expressed ick at what was happening to me during pregnancy, his a*s would have been demolished. Labor, delivery, and post partum was HELL and eye-opening. Get your s**t together OP. Because healing wounds from your c-section or ripped vagina are not fun, especially while cleaning exploding diapers from your kid and dealing with cracked and bleeding nipples. I'm full of rage now.

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She’s Op’s wife, yet in the last sentence you say “my place”. I think that gives some indication of how self interested this person is.

It’s only going to get worse. After I give birth to my first I bled so much it was like a murder scene. I remember my husband helping me in and out of the tub at the hospital and there was blood everywhere and every part of my body was saggy and leaking and it’s was humiliating and this brilliant man was beaming with pride at all I’d done to bring our daughter into this world. Dude it’s pee-get over yourself! Also your house? It’s your families home! You guys need therapy if you’re to make this work!

Update is worse than the original question

His last sentence says a lot. "at my place," not "at our place." How damning that is. She had NOTHING to apologize for, and if she felt compelled to do so after hearing his side, she is being manipulated, gaslighted. There is no "his side" worth defending. TBH, it's close to emotional abuse. The longer I think about this, the madder I get.

OP you are completely unprepared for adulting. Pregnant women need a hand, recently pregnant women need a hand too. Babies are going to need help and wait until you see the accidents they have. So do pets. Just wait until you and your wife are elderly! Accidents will happen and you will likely be reliant on each other clean up from time to time. You will also be reliant on strangers to clean you up when you have an accident. Time to grow up and learn to get over your discomfort. And is it YOUR place when the two are married. No, it belongs to the both of you. If you don't want to share in the good times AND the bad you don't need to be with this woman or any other. This is what life looks like. You aren't a teenager anymore.

Where did the AH see ANYONE siding with him? They're married but he calls it "his" place? Honey wake up, divorce him & take him for every penny of child support you can get for the next 18 years

This is a man who will never change a diaper, never burp the baby for fear of spit-up, never get up in the middle of the night when the baby is sick. Dani should stay with her mom until after the divorce.

Those ladt 3 words speak VOLUMES. "at MY place" not OUR place or HOME, "MY place". That relationship isn't going to last, not unless he does some DRASTIC growing up, because he very much still has a self centered mindset. Aside from obviously having zero clue about what its like for her, and just as obviously having no intention of gaining that perspective, if he is "uncomfortable" over bodily fluids and so fixated on his/hers in SO many aspects, he's not in a partnership, nit really.

I CAN'T EVEN BELIEVE THIS GUY HAD TO EVEN ASK IF HE IS THE A$$HOLE. ON. SO. MANY. LEVELS. And yes I said that all in capitals on purpose. 🤬

When she's got a bag of frozen peas in her pants to help w pain and sitting on the couch and coughs too hard you might have to clean that up. When she's delivering the baby and is wrecked afterwards and looks like s**t would you help tidy her for guests? She's a machine baking a human and can't move as well now and hormones all over the place. Did you guys go party before marrying? Did you come home drunk and puke an miraculously it was gone in the morning? Did she clean the toilet after you before baby making? Come on. It's a little pee or poo. Get over it. She's freaking insane embarrassed it happened to her an you make it worse. Just help her out. Yeah you lose some sleep one night. That's what coffee is for kiddo.

She'll sleep much better when the divorce is final. And I see child services in your future

He will never help with that baby.

Bet her mom will slowly be picking up more and more stuff until she's recovered enough to handle a divorce.

Why is she procreating with this man? That's the big question I need answered.

This guy is going to end up divorced for sure.

I can't believe we're still making guys like this in 2023. I can picture my dad being like this...60 years ago!

Get an abortion and divorce. You never should have gotten married.

Simple rule: if someone asks you for help, you help them! If they don't ask, then it's on them.