Not your wife, not your kids and you are not a slave. And learn to say "NO".

You are Plan A. If you simply did not exist, your sister would be forced to come up with a Plan B. That’s where this discussion needs to head.

I don't understand people who don't want to spend time with their kids. Yes, everyone needs a break once in a while, but sister and spouse should definitely split up if they can't stomach family time on the weekends.

Dude should have said No the very first time it became a weekend thing

Two little kids. Every weekend. No food or compensation. Send. Them. To. The. Grandparents. Once a month is enough. If it's only one day. Set boundaries or just say you're doing a project for work and can't have them while this is going on. Then go live your life like they want to live theirs. Very entitled. Also don't get guilt tripped. My nephew and his now wife were dropping their kids at his dad's place almost every weekend. And didn't do food or anything either. They finally say hey we aren't gonna be around. And weren't. Just young adults wanting to go drink a party like they did before the kids came. But they were there overnights too so that's lunch dinner snacks breakfast and prob a snack before leaving. Foot down. And just put dnd on your phone for them come weekends or forward them to the folks. lol

if they don't enjoy spending their weekends with their own children, (certainly we all need breaks but healthy familes should enjoy spending MOST weekends together) they need to divorce, it's clear they are using you & you need to stand up to them for crossing clear boundaries, that's disturbing behavior to normalize not wanting to spend time with their kids. I feel bad for you & for those two kids that didn't ask to be there & then be cast away

My favorite, always works. Seven words: What have you done for me lately?

This concept some parents have of childfree people wows me. It's because we know how much of a stress and responsibility it is to HAVE kids that we chose NOT to. 10 minutes of listening to anyone complaining about how hard and expensive it is to manage kids reinforces the perceived difficulty. And if they're gonna throw "you don't know what it's like, you don't have kids" bull c**p around, they why are they asking child free relatives to help? Shouldn't they want people "with experience"? They just don't want the expense, but it's fine to push that off.on someone else while insulting them at the same time.

If he wanted to go a bit sinister with this, he could subtly get the kids to start calling him "Daddy". "Mommy, are we going to Daddy's house again this weekend?"

How the f**k is this even a question. And this "for the sake of family" sh*t.. okay grandma and grandpa YOU give up your life for someone elses BS. Otherwise shove that garbage about for famly so far up your a*s you can taste it.

Say no to them next time and their kid need to join their parents and your family that is asking you to help then they need to help them too if they are asking you to help them or maybe the parents need to pay you for babysitting them

When I first read the title, I was thinking that the mom was forcing her brother to watch the kids for a single evening for a date night every weekend, and I thought even that was too much. Watching the kids all day Saturday and Sunday, that is just unacceptable and poor parenting honestly. Also wondering if Jake is the father or step-father, not that it really matters, except that it's even worse for the kids if both of their biological parents are like this.

No one is responsible for someone else's marital problems! And if the kids are that big of a deal breaker they needed to figure it out 5 & 3 year's ago. I babysat for my friend and her husband every Saturday and Sunday for 2 year's. They never even offered gas money as they lived nearly an hour from me. Then my relationship ended. Found out from one of their friends that she was telling people I was a whore, even though my relationship was year's long. I went Full No Contact. You find out who your friends are when the tables turn and youŕ expecting support.

Wow, this whole family needs a reality check. Play the what if game. What if I didn't live in town, what would you do. What if mom and dad also didn't live nearby? The person in comments that said it's the grandparents job to babysit...excuse me? Where do you get that from? No it is the parents job to take care of their children and to ask , not tell someone to take care of their kids for a few hours not a full weekend. Grandparents have raised their kids, they don't want to start over

For once i agree with the yta to yourself comments. Shame they got downvoted by ppl who do not read xd Dude needs assertiveness training. Even the other redditor who could not confront her cousin.

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First YTA I agree with !!! An adult can say no ffs.