OMG the poor kids. I barely see my 3yo during the week, he goes to preschool at 8:30 and I pick him up at 17:30. Our weekends are family moments where we do cool things together. She's delusional and selfish and he's expected to be the pushover.

If the grandparents are pushing the "for family" line...it's tine they toe it.

The grandparents are weighing in... why don't they share the burden?

Weirder still is that they only have one person who can help? Why would you wear out the welcome? if you're going to be entitled parents, at least have the kids split their time between places. There was about eight months where my siblings and I needed to be looked after on weekends (one parent providing home health care for relative 6 hours away and the other working weekends, and it took a while new job/new carer situation to change) but we certainly didn't go to the same place in a month, my sibling was special needs and we still split time at about six places so no one would be overwhelmed. My current friend group has all been babysitting one child, but when your turn comes up once every two months, you don't mind. Neither sister nor spouse has any friends left williny to help them? OP isn't getting the full story.

One or two weekends a month, a few hundred dollars worth of childcare each month is not good enough? I'm actually*selfish* after providing thousands of dollars worth of childcare? Well, zero hours it is then. Sorry, can't take the risk of what I'll be called when I rack up $10k and more worth of childcare.

Don't have kids if you want to run around and have fun. It's that simple.

Why don't they simply hire a babysitter? Or better yet - why did they not simply have no kids if they do not want to spend time with them??

I'm guessing his sister and her husband didn't spend their single years babysitting someone else's kids every weekend for free. "I should just help out for the sake of family." He has helped out for the sake of family! As if he would babysit anyone else's kids every weekend for free for God knows how long. Op has a right to enjoy their single years too and it isn't their fault that marriage and parenting was harder than sis thought it would be. Twice a month is extremely generous, once a month is extremely generous. They either need to get marriage counseling or hire a babysitter or both because I highly doubt if op gets married and has kids they are going to be as generous with their time.

Ring up a marriage counsellor and give them you sisters adress tell them she needs help Do not baby sit get a life.

How the f**k is this even a question. And this "for the sake of family" sh*t.. okay grandma and grandpa YOU give up your life for someone elses BS. Otherwise shove that garbage about for famly so far up your a*s you can taste it.

Say no to them next time and their kid need to join their parents and your family that is asking you to help then they need to help them too if they are asking you to help them or maybe the parents need to pay you for babysitting them

When I first read the title, I was thinking that the mom was forcing her brother to watch the kids for a single evening for a date night every weekend, and I thought even that was too much. Watching the kids all day Saturday and Sunday, that is just unacceptable and poor parenting honestly. Also wondering if Jake is the father or step-father, not that it really matters, except that it's even worse for the kids if both of their biological parents are like this.

No one is responsible for someone else's marital problems! And if the kids are that big of a deal breaker they needed to figure it out 5 & 3 year's ago. I babysat for my friend and her husband every Saturday and Sunday for 2 year's. They never even offered gas money as they lived nearly an hour from me. Then my relationship ended. Found out from one of their friends that she was telling people I was a whore, even though my relationship was year's long. I went Full No Contact. You find out who your friends are when the tables turn and youŕ expecting support.

Wow, this whole family needs a reality check. Play the what if game. What if I didn't live in town, what would you do. What if mom and dad also didn't live nearby? The person in comments that said it's the grandparents job to babysit...excuse me? Where do you get that from? No it is the parents job to take care of their children and to ask , not tell someone to take care of their kids for a few hours not a full weekend. Grandparents have raised their kids, they don't want to start over

For once i agree with the yta to yourself comments. Shame they got downvoted by ppl who do not read xd Dude needs assertiveness training. Even the other redditor who could not confront her cousin.

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First YTA I agree with !!! An adult can say no ffs.