This guy is a pretentious ass. She wasn't exactly polite about how she handled herself either but, I wonder how accurate a description is being told here. Sounds like this guy is high-and-mighty enough that her reaction has been greatly exaggerated.

YTA. I don't care about the following drama but just like any other "religion", OP tried to impose his own view / liking (medium rare) to others. I personally also only eat well done meat. I also am disgusted to see people eating pink or read meat. But I just let them do. And I except them to do the same with me.

I took my 8 month pregnant friend to a Michelin star restaurant for her birthday. She ordered steal well done, because when you are expecting you can't eat anything for safety reasons that is not cooked all the way. The chef refused to cook her steak the way she wanted, he even to came out of the kitchen to look at that "crazy person". After he saw her belly- he said " come back in couple of months for a steak, as for now- get some salad". There are people out there with F *d up "steak religion".

Sorry but it's childish as hell no matter how long you butter age or dry age your steaks. Maybe you should get her one, you don't feel such deep feelings for and make her that one well done. YTA and my bf loves and makes steaks and he's former chef and he loves cook for people he cares about, not that they want steak well done.

Though it's horrible to cook a steak as prized as that one at anything but medium rare, you should really just cook it longer. It was her steak and even though making it well done is ruining it, you weren't going to eat that piece anyway. Slapping the steak out of her hand when she tried to nuke it was crossing a line. ETA

You are an arsehole. It doesn't appear that you had any respect for "the new girl" even before she didn't want a rare steak. You behaved appallingly. You physically restrained a grown women from using a microwave and would rather your dogs eat steak than your good friends girlfriend (regardless of how she wanted it cooked). He is better off without you.

Just cook the damn meat some more and thank your lucky stars you didn't have to deal with a vegan

YTA if she wanted it dipped in ranch dressing and set on fire it her choice. The cut and price, which you said you got for a steal, doesn't matter.

YTA and i say it because i hear it all the time! I don't care that you think pink is good... I can't eat that i need it to be very well done. And i don't care that you think it's ruining the meat. I like it.

The OP is a steak nazi. I'm a 20 year cook and I've served beef every which way. But some see it as one would see medium rare chicken. Forcing your will onto a "guest" shows him to be a bad person.

They both suck. Geez is this what people really have to be worried about? This is drama for the sake of drama. Get it together both of them.

Uhh he put his hands on her. Regardless of the rest he is the AH for that.

OP, who is a Complete @$$ needs to get a life. At the very least they could have suggested the well done guest try a tiny bite of steak cooked to medium. If no, then conceded to cook her piece that DIDN'T COST AN ARM AND A LEG because they got a great deal from a friend who had been given the steak.

YTA times 3 1. For asking AITA so you could brag about what a pretentious foodie you are & that you feel religious about dead cows. 2. For expecting everyone to conform to your taste because you think you know better. 3. For being rude to both your guest and you long term friend on a holiday. You're a terrible host. Reverse the situation. She invites you to her house & forces you to eat steak well done all the way thru because that's how she likes it. Telling people what they have to eat is bulls**t.

Sorry your steak is a religion and quite frankly you overpayed (letterkenny-steak). You stated yourself if you want steak cooked differently ask ahead but you don’t even as a host have the right to dictate how someone eats something .yes it ruins a good steak but that what happens when you think everyone should like steak like you. Should of just cooked it up and not be such a food critic about it. If it truly upset you that bad then when steak is on the menu don’t invite them. Or better yet when inviting people don’t be a smug elitist about it or inform them ahead of how you prepare it well done will not be accepted choose other options please! End

If you like well done steak, then the cut doesn't matter. Whether it's sirloin or Wagyu, it'll taste the same well done. I don't blame the guy for refusing to utterly destroy a steak of the best beef money can buy, especially when he also offered three meat alternatives. It would be like offering someone sushi-grade ahi tuna, and them demanding a tuna salad sandwich. No. However, both of them handled it poorly.

As a foodie, when reading this, I initially thought NTA, but after reading the comments I started to change my mind. He should've just let her microwave her piece that she was to eat. To me, its the same as someone putting ketchup on their steak, but to each their own.

As a person that does not eat beef all the steak rare medium done discourse and worshipping is such a petty bs, it's food and people can eat what they like how they like it, what really is sad how he was willing to throw away a friendship over a stupid plate of food

It's actually pretty straight forward. Which was worth more to him, the steak or the friendship? Sometimes you just have to look at these things objectively. My mom and I were sitting on the stoop and this guy walked by looking at us. She grumbled that she loaned him $20 and never paid it back. I told her that was a good thing. You found out that he doesn't keep his word and he will never borrow from you again. Totally worth the $20, to never have to deal with him again.

I'm fortunate, I can eat beef from raw to extremely well done. I also love eating my steak with lots of vinegar (childhood, working class background, cheap cuts of meat needed a lot of seasoning) everyone is entitled to eat a steak anyway they want.

Guy sounds like a controlling d**k and cooking a meal and hosting dinner wasnt about generousity but his ego instead. Pretentious prick.

Personally I can’t believe how rude the woman was. You eat what the host cooks. It’s their home, their rules.

NTA. You are supposed to be courteous to guests, but guests have to behave. Did she ask for permission to use your microwave oven? You don't just go into someone's house, someone you have never met before, and start using their kitchen appliances. Good riddance to her. If your friend thinks you overreacted and would cut you off over such nonesense, he wasn't a friend, he was just a guy you knew.

If my guest requested meat well done I would make it the way they like it. If I went to their place I would expect them to make it the way I like it.That's how friendships and relationships work.He sounds like an aggressive know-it- all and I wouldn 't have him as a friend anymore either!

He talks like he knows it all, but he’s an idiot. Well done on a5 wagyu is perfectly okay as the fat in it keeps it tender and tasty. In fact thats how they often eat it in Japan. So the girl was an idiot for her reasoning about safety but the host was a double idiot, for his reasoning and for telling his guest how she should eat. I even doubt the story is true.

ESH. Like, I get it, if it was a normal steak then whatever, but you don't overcook wagyu if you have any sense at all, and he was just a complete douchbag about it.

Given that his entire personality is built around his 'meat fetishist' role, it was a direct attack on his character and he reacted as such.

If this girl is an adult and thinks that pink steak will make her sick..... pretentiously feeling her it won't is not going to suddenly change her mind. Well done steak is an atrocity, but this sounds like he was pretty condescending.