How is it possible that the woman is 31 and never learned to clean the damn toilet. And also weird from my German perspective: having separate bathrooms in a house

This is very weird. Like, I get seperate bathrooms, and the wanting to use his so she doesn't have to clean hers. It's lazy, but whatevs. It's the panic that is the weird thing. I feel like most people wouldn't panic over cleaning a toilet. Get annoyed, sure. Find it disgusting? yes. But panic over it? no. I wonder if there is more to it somehow. In any case OP needs to talk to her about it and maybe encourage her to see someone professionally. Because if she can't cope with cleaning her own toilet, imagine what is going to happen if they decide to have kids. Kids can be Poop Monsters and OP is going to find himself on permanent poop duty.

Wife needs to either literally immediately clean up after herself after she poos in the loo, or she's forbidden from using that toilet. Honestly, it's weird to me that they have "separate bathrooms"/their own bathrooms, but if it works for them, that's fine. I share a bathroom with my boyfriend, and if EITHER of us leaves a mess in there, we clean it up. There are toilet bowl cleaners, wands, scrubs, TONS of tools and items to help one clean a toilet (and some of the modern wands you don't even have to touch, they have one-click-to-remove disposable pads on the ends.) I LOATHE cleaning toilets, but I still do it because I am a rational human being. Actually, scratch that - even my two cats leave less of a mess in their litterboxes, and my disabled dog takes cleaner/neater poops than OP's wife...

This is SO WEIRD!!! I have been with my husband 16 years as of today actually and still never want to poop around him (or anyone honestly) or leave any evidence that I do!! So gross!! Why would she do this to him it's so effing rude I can't believe it. That would make me SO MAD and she is taking a metaphorical s**t right on his head by doing this.

What a weird woman

Buy her a lavatory brush, with a pink bow tied on so she knows it's hers.....

Rich people problems. My entire goal in life has been to live somewhere that has more than one bathroom. I'm in my 50's now and still no dice. I wish I could argue with my husband about him using my bathroom as opposed to his.

Before we moved, my husband and I had two bathrooms. One was for s******g and the other was for everything else like showering & makeup, hair stuff, whatever. We took turns cleaning the poop bathroom 😂

I agree with some of the posted comments that he should go poo in her toilet, but not just any poo...I mean a pickled egg, green apple, and blue raspberry drink mix poo with 15 bean soup and sugar free gummy bears for dessert. Make such an atrocious, odiferouis deuce of dastardly, sulfuric stench that the house looses resale value. Drop that H2S bomb with the understanding that it will continue until there aren't skid marks left either bowl... BWAAAHAAAAHAAAAAAhaaaahaaaaaaaa....Yeah, that might be a bit much....maybe....

My question is this: why didn't they live together BEFORE getting married and buying a house? I feel like that should be something to do at least a little while before making such big commitments, so you can see what living with the other person is like and have a good hard think about whether or not that their habits are something you can live with.

Or take a picture of how she leaves the bathroom and threaten to show her friends.

This issue is so strange. Really need to have a sit-down face to face & find out the "real" problem she has. She panicked, somethings wrong here.

I thing this is very funny, 'cause I have serious bowel issues and we have just one toilet. I call it 'the garden hose-effect'. Although we never ever have any conflicts about it. I'm a descent lady, I will clean the toilet after me. But I also have learned because my bowel issues to be honest about why I have to toilet so long, even when we sleep over by friends. No, it's not my favorite subject but I can't help my disease.

Nothing a toilett brush couldnt fix. Standard in nearly every european household. Even some public restrooms have them.

Very sad dilemma. This marriage is on shaky ground over a very stupid problem. Please do NOT have kids until she grows up . She is really unreasonable.

Well, this is doomed. She is so entitled that she thinks nothing of s******g in his bathroom and not cleaning up after herself. Nothing good comes from being married to someone who takes the best for themselves and leaves you with c**p (literally in this case).

I would totally start sh*tting in her toilet and not even bothering to flush. "Oh, that's gross? That bothers you? Tough sh*t (literally). You leave sh*t smears all over MY toilet to clean up - so what exactly is the problem?"

This is some crazy s**t, man.

This is definitely weird. Girl, you have your own bathroom. S**t in it!

Is there an actual difference between the two toilets? Height? Seat? OP's might be more comfortable. Personally, I would want to use the shower.

Does anybody really care whether you lock your bathroom or your wife.

This sound like some kind of phobia. What did she do before she met you. At some point she shared a bathroom, in her parents hone. University residency maybe as a roommate etc. Or even having her own apartment Unless there was someone who always cleaned after her toilet visits. Hell even Rich people flush their own c**p. Doesn't sound like you have kids cause your hands will be deep into c**p more than you can ccount.dude I suggest you get her to a Dr cause that reaction to her own poop is not the norm. There's more at play here and she's gonna have to check it out. It may be something beyond her control and she may need help.

Don't you have toilet brushes in your damn country?

A lot of these stories are extremely one sided and we shouldn't always jump to, 'she's clearly a monster', or, 'Red Flag! Leave her immediately!' until we get the other side of the story. This sounds to me like someone getting revenge on someone for something they've asked them to stop doing, but been ignored on. On the other hand... maybe she is just a monster and he should leave her.

This is insanely stupid. Bored Panda, how can you repost such moronic drivel?

start a pool on how long this 'marriage' lasts.

I think this woman has an Issue with a capital I that needs to be addressed. Panicking when you have to poop in your own bathroom is not normal. The couple really needs to talk about this.

There is missing info here I think. Maybe he has a bidet, maybe only his has a window or a vent fan, maybe she runs the shower.

This doesn't look like a good marriage to me.

This whole thing is bizarre no matter who is wrong or right!!

How do you leave a dirty toilet?

She should be cleaning the toilet after she poops. You should have asked her once to clean up after herself and it should have never been a problem again. She is gross to leave a mess.

Tell her to put a little tissue in the front where the poop usually lands. Do this before she poops. So when she does poop it will fall on the tissue, and when she flushes, it will all go right out. No streaks, no stuck poop no problem.

We have just one bathroom and a few times the toilet is not left as clean as it was found, but it's really a rare occurrence, if it's every time (and it's not a health issue) that just being disrespectful and disgusting. What else is she being disgusting about, licking cutlery instead of washing?

Honestly just show her the poo. If she's a reasonable person, she'll be embarrassed but check next time Most women don't have this problem it goes in the bowl- we do however, rarely lift the toilet seat, so if we are causing splash back etc, we are unaware. I think you should be able to share bathrooms. This post is a good reason to live together before marriage or buying a house.

Hahahahaha who doesn't know how to use a toilet brush? Clean up your s**t! This is weird. Good luck with your marriage, children.

If she leaves smears on your toilet simply go and s**t in her bath.