Him and his whole bloody family rubbed their money in her face without considering that she simply doesn't have the money to spend like that. I would be so ashamed of my family if I was him (and of myself). Either you plan for the lower budget or you pay the gap when you insist on luxurious trips.

Run girl, run is all I can say

Just want to point out that the OP isn't the only asshole here - his family sucks too. My parents would never allow split checks at a meal, especially an expensive one! If I want to pay I have to fight them for it, and nobody would ever dream of expecting my girlfriend to pay when we are all out together, even just for her own food. (When it's just the two of us we take turns). The same is true for her family. They would never allow me to pay for dinner in their company.

could have been innocent ignorance by affluence... but the fact that he knew that she was working extra to cover the cost? what an ahole..

She needs to DTMFA. What kind of sick SOB lets his girlfriend - who he's supposed to "love" go hungry? He comes by it honestly - his parents are assholes, too, if they saw someone going hungry and chose to do nothing about it. ...///... He's WAY beyond being an asshole. He's an abusive little bat's turd and she needs to RUN away from him.

Finally someone who is actually the Asshole. I feel so bad for the girlfriend tbh, she made a huge sacrifice to be with him on this trip and was embarrased by the boyfriend and his family, he has the money to treat her to food, he also had the option to be with his girl instead of leaving her alone. The whole family are so tone deaf too, they could perfectly go to somewhere cheaper so that the girlfriend can also enjoy herself and not be embarrased because she can't afford it

A rich dude lacking empathy. Surprised pikachu.

I turned down a dream trip to Italy, rather than find myself in that situation. I mean, I make decent money, and a friend invited me to go on an "eating tour" of Italy... but they're rich and I really can't afford to travel in that style or split checks with that crowd.

I'm all for independence, but long term would he just be sitting on all his cash while his partner is financially stretched and struggling? Surely one of the nice things about doing well is being able to treat those that you love. Poor girl, she must've been so stressed when she got there and realised how much meals were costing. The guy is a douche for not picking up on the situation from the point that she needed to take a second job so that she could join the holiday.

Who came up with this 50-50 deal? You?? If you didn't know initially that she made just enough to live modestly, you should have stepped up when you figured it out and started paying for everything. Decent men would have. Spoiled boys, not so much. Could you not find a nice, loving, giving girl in your own wealthy class?? Probably not... people who are teachers who make modest wages, love helping others. Those who teach young children are in a class by themselves. I hoped she dumped your stupid ass and found a man who was worthy of her. When I was young and fetching, I did not like dating rich men. They tried to buy you. Believe me, those who marry for money will earn every penny of it.

I don't even have to read this to say YTA. When you invite someone to go on a trip with you, especially when you know they make half of what you do, you need to understand there are some expenses you will be covering like, if anything else, the tickets and the hotel. That way, your guest (which is what she was) can enjoy herself too. This kind of thing is a play on control and superiority by making the other person feel insignificant. Not sure what he was trying to accomplish unless it was to show his girlfriend that she'd be better off with someone else. Money doesn't make you a decent person. Run for the hills GF. He and his family are not worth it. And for him, I wish nothing but an expensive divorce in his future where his SO takes him for half of everything plus child support. It's the least he deserves.

Wow...when I was 21 I had a college roommate who's parents were wealthy and they knew I wasn't and that I worked to out myself through school....they invited me out to dinners, movies, day trips to Chicago, etc. And her parents ALWAYS covered my meals when we ate out as a group or admission to events they invited me to...I was always ready to pay but they just did it without hesitation...and I barely knew them. This guy has dated her for 2 years and can't even pick up the check once in awhile 🙄

This sounds like a conditional relationship where even if he was cognizant of her financial needs and picked up what she couldn't afford, he'd expect some payback in return. I suspect he deleted the post not only from humiliation, but also from the fact that the mirror was put up to his face. His ignorance was toxic and emotionally abusive. I really hope she leaves him because it is very clear it is not a match.

YTA. When my partner (now husband) and I agreed to move together and start "mixing finances", the best piece of advice we got was that everything you buy/do/eat/pay together should be based on what percent you are contributing to the household. In the beginning I was making about 60k and he was making about 20k, combined we were making around 80k. Since I was making 60k I paid 3/4 cost of rent, bills, food, etc. He was paying 1/4 of everything. Now some 18 years later, he makes 3 times my salary and I pay about 25% of everything and he covers the other 75%. Every tax season when we would file taxes we would reassess what percentage we each we contributing based on our salaries. It was fair that way. Assuming she would pay the same as you, 50/50, yeah you the ass.

Even asking AITA reeks of seeking allies. YTA 10 times over. There should be an award for such a$$holery.

Anytime I've been in a relationship with someone who has exceptionally different pay than I do, an Excel spreadsheet gets made to help with the math. On expenses that have a fixed cost (cellphone, cable TV, etc) we split 50/50, but only if we both agree that we want that service (eg. I don't watch Hulu, partner does, that becomes their expense). On expenses that go up with affluence (rent) we split according to our means (80/20, 60/40, whatever), and on non-shared expenses (individual subscriptions, self care, etc) we take care of our own stuff. On top of that, the higher paid person often just does nice things for the other person just because it's nice (dinner out, spa days, etc). Haven't been in a position to do vacations yet but this year I finally am, and after discussing it I'm going to eat those costs because it doesn't affect me hardly at all, but it would bankrupt my partner. So the person who makes less isn't overburdened and can still build savings, have mad money, etc.

The keyword is "inviting" ... period ... DTA ...

the utter cluelessness is strong with this one

Ugh. Reminds me of my ex. He made over twice what I did and would complain when I couldn't afford to do the things he wanted to do. Of course he always paid exactly half, unless it was my birthday or something. Ass.

What an absolutele c***womble!!! That poor girl must have been so miserable and uncomfortable on the trip... just want to give her a hug.

Please please please, I am begging you dump this guy’s ass. He doesn’t deserve you, please dump him and hopefully find someone better.

Rich people are some of the dumbest people.

Christ, what I wouldn't give to make $45,000 a year. Her boyfriend makes per year what I make in 5 or 6.

He left her being hungry and asked her if she had an eating disorder? How clueless is this guy. She worked so hard to go on this trip that HE invited her on!

I hope he will learn from this experience and be better.