As annoyed as I would be at my partner if they had let their passport expire I would be unable to leave them at the airport and just go and enjoy a vacation.

I think he's an a*****e - not for going on the holidays, but because he is still in a relationship with somebody he so clearly thinks very little of. I agree with one of the commenters that it probably makes him feel better about himself. He reminds me of Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones' Diary, who infuriates me to no end even though I love Colin Firth.

If women had left men behind every time they acted unable, entitled, lazy, etc., the human race would've already become extinct.

Oof dude should've ran for the hills earlier. Some men dig girls that are totally dependent on them, but that usually turn into a really toxic relationship. You cannot share your life with another person if you can't even get your life in order.

He should move on. She was annoyed, I get it, but when you're annoyed and get time to cool off you shouldn't STILL be looking to shift the blame. Move on, maybe it will encourage her to grow up..

NTA for the vacation thing, but you really can’t change people. If OP isn’t willing to accept her for who she is, then he should find someone more compatible and stop wasting her time. He seems to look down on her, which is obviously not something found in a healthy relationship. OP is the a-hole for expecting her to change who she is, and for acting like he’s babysitting her because she doesn’t meet his expectations. Also, she may have adhd or something that makes seemingly simple things very difficult for her. Either way, they’re not compatible.

So why hook up with someone this helpless in the first place if self-reliance is so important to you? I'm gonna have to vote against "the internet" on this one.

So, because something happened to this guy's mom, he's decided he knows the ONE WAY to handle life and other people. He isn't all wrong or all right. Definitely some AH in there, even if she needs it.

Honestly, people change when they want to and are ready (sadly). You can't make them change by punish them, how much you would like to or try. I understand him going but it doesn't justify getting annoyed with her and for that (not the trip alone) he sort of was the AH. His mom changed because she wanted to, not because of his dads punishment. I hope he ended the relationship when he got home. If he was so frustrated with her it's just toxic for both of them. They seem to have been living separately and had no kids so a break up would have been a simple solution. I understand wanting to fight for the relationship if you have obligations but in this case they didn't. Talk and communicate instead of punishing and if that doesn't work just let them be and figure it out.

Someone commented that they don't think that "passport thing is a basic life skill". What?? If not knowing whether or not you have a valid ID for traveling is not a basic life skill, what is? The context being that you are going to travel within the near future.

This guy sounds like he hates her and at the same time likes that she's helpless in a few areas so he can be condescending and mean to prove a point Like he's waiting for her to mess up while teaching her a lesson his mom learned the hard way. She sounds like everything is all new to her and she's learning through experience plus she came from a sheltering family. My guess is he's a lot older than her. He needs to date someone his own age if he truly is looking for compatibility but Idk that he is.

Major a-hole. First of all, you're supposed to like your girlfriend. Second of all, it's not entirely her fault she is like that, it's clear that her parents had a significant contribution. And third of all, maybe show her how to do some things instead of being an absolute c*nt about it. Teach a man to fish and all that.

My Boyfriend at the time (now husband) and I hiked a good deal at Zion and then went to the Grand Canyon. He could barely walk across the parking lot due to nasty shin splints. I looked at him and noted I was still going to hike the rim to rim over night hike the next day, even without him. He looked at me and noted we needed to go to the back country office to change the permit into my name and put all the weight in my pack to try out. The next day he dropped me off at the north rim and picked me up at the south rim the following day. Like I said he’s my husband now. The GF should take responsibility, The only person she should be pissed at is herself. Hope you had an epic time on your trip as an adult.

So not the AH that there shouldn't even be a question about it. After being asked if the expiry was a year out she lied rather than open it to look. It was a specific enough question even for someone with zero common sense or life skills to answer. I'll bet he had a much better vacation without having to wait on a horrible gf hand and foot.

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As someone who grew up with parents who "did, rather than teach", you are not the AH here. I moved out in my early 20s because I could see that I was stalling on my efforts to grow up, but it wasn't till I moved out that I realized how truly stupid I really was. I had no idea how to do a damn thing. My boyfriend (now hubby), had known this for years though and was patient with me, he recognized when I needed to be guided and when I needed to do things on my own. You could have been a bit more explanatory when asking for a passport date, but honestly, I to would have assumed she knew something so basic.

I'd dump her. Just like I dumped a guy (who was the same age as this gf) who couldn't make his own plane reservation. Mommy had to do it for him and then I had to make his return flight because he didn't know how. And that was after I dumped him the day he arrived for the visit. I warned every guy I ever dated that I could be a b****h. He learned the hard way that I wasn't kidding. You stand on your own two feet or buh bye!

I don't see this relationship working out long term. They have opposite core beliefs and that's something that breeds resentment over time.

The fact that he thought he could enjoy the vacation still, even knowing what he did and how she might have felt, tells me he's probably ta. He literally put a price on their relationship, < 3000 pounds. He probably spent all vacation thinking about how she deserved it and how to counter any arguments she'll have. People learn different life skills at different points in our lives but this guy sounds like he's probably talked down to her their entire relationship because he had some life skills that she had not yet acquired. She totally should have left him before he returned.

I would absolute ditch them at the airport. He literally asked her if her passport still had a year of validity on it. She said yes, meaning she lied to him. Y'all are unbelievable to think he's wrong. Like this was her problem. These are all her problems. He's not her father. All of you people defending her, siding with her, need to take a long look in the mirror to see that you're the problem because you would not be saying this stuff if it were reversed. If it were a man-child, you'd be telling her she can do better.

He knew about her tendency toward dependence, and he suspected there might be a problem with her passport if he didn't know. If he really wanted her to go on the trip with him, he would have ensured that her passport was current. This guy set a trap for his girlfriend because he had previously decided to leave her at the airport if this situation occurred as it did. If this is one of the fifty ways to leave a lover, this one is super lousy.

Original poster has a real gaslighting feel to his story. People don’t magically learn new logic overnight after being sheltered, it takes years of trial, error, and a build of confidence. I’ve had plenty of relationships with dudes who are clueless about subjects that are simple to me - things you could argue are life necessities like finance, taking care of things, yard work, getting a better job, and so on. But they know things I don’t know. And further, I’d never make them feel like a useless idiot for not knowing. At best they sound incompatible and at worse he sounds like a serious a*****e

Poor Oedipus didn't understand that his girlfriend lacked basic life skills for two whole years?

Well, i think this guy is not right 100% here. The partner seens like very clueless, and he clearly points it out, even showing frustration with his choice of words, but, hes been with her for 2 years, he knows her and should now better by now. I dont know, this kind of posts... What are you trying here? To show the internet your Gf flaws? You dont have to be with her if you dont like.

I don't think it's her fault that she lacks experience, but she does need to take responsibility for learning things. I don't see her doing that at all. He showed her how to take care of her car, and she ignored him. He asked her to check her passport, and she ignored that as well. I don't blame him for going on the trip alone. But he does need to ask himself why he is still with her if she is unwilling to change, because it isn't going to get any better.

I hope he broke up with her, as she wants to remain helpless and have Daddy or her boyfriend/husband take care of her. She's nothing more than a spoiled child.

FFS, why does BP always choose these clear-as-f*ck cases of AITA? There's absolutely no controversy here, it's friggin' boring to read.

Yep, left my pregnant gf at the airport because of her out of date passport and took my 1-year-old son on his first beach holiday just the two of us. Like a honey pot to women!

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There's a glaring error here: When you book an international flight you need to check-in online at least a day or two prior to the flight. During that process you need to enter your passport number and expiration date. Therefore, you wouldn't even be abtto check-in with an expired passport - nevermind getting to the airport.