Wife Thinks Her Husband Loves Her Cooking, Is Confused When She Finds Out Why
Mistakes in the kitchen aren’t necessarily signs of someone’s incompetence. Too much salt? Maybe they were distracted. Undercooked meat? Perhaps there were problems with the oven. Bland sauce? They may have run out of spices. Because of that, we often stay quiet about people’s underwhelming cooking.
Additionally, the closer the chef is to us, the longer we might hide the truth, until suddenly, it feels too late to say anything. But as this story from the subreddit r/TIFU shows, sooner or later, the cat finds its way out of the bag.
This woman thought her husband enjoyed her cooking
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But little did she know, he had to induce his appetite to consume her meals
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Couples can strengthen their bond by preparing meals together
If we trust the author of the post and her husband to be telling the truth and all of this has, indeed, been caused by the woman’s cooking, the two of them could benefit from preparing their meals together.
According to Charlotte Hastings, an accredited psychotherapist and cooking teacher who offers ‘kitchen therapy’ to couples and individuals, that’s because it “cements our need for one another, and our connection to one another, at a very primal level.”
Cooking – or feeding – is the first way we, as babies, learn to attach to and connect with another human, and these experiences have an effect on the way we view intimacy throughout our lives
“Cooking with a partner connects both our goal-directed needs, so getting from A to B, with our connection-seeking needs,” Hastings said.
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She added that it’s also a great way to spend quality time together without so much pressure (because you’re focusing on an activity) and that it can really help with problem-solving in a relationship.
“How you cook actually says a lot about how you are,” she said.
“Being able to decide who does what task, especially if there’s a disagreement, can help couples to learn how to negotiate and work through problems without resorting to arguments.”
It doesn’t have to be every day, too. A few times a week or even a month can really contribute to making the relationship healthier. You work out who does the shopping trip, who does the chopping, who cooks, and who cleans up and chances are, it’ll also allow both partners to better understand each other’s tastes and preferences.
People who read the story had all sorts of reactions and suggestions
Ngl I think the sense of smell people have a point. Weed is so pungent, lingers/sticks to everything, and is so distinctive it's kind of amazing she didn't smell it beforehand.
My mom didn't know my brother was smoking - Some folks are very motivated about cleaning up after themselves to hide the smell. And he was surprised when his wife got home - So I would say that might be a factor...
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This story has to be fake. As someone else said, if you cook a lot--you know if you're a good cook or not. I can tell when I've made something that isn't worth eating, something that is so-so, and something that is great. She would know if her cooking was so bad her husband needs d***s to mask it. If he is seriously not impressed with anything she's made--he must have a child's palate. But then there is the fact that he does this often and she never knew? As a former weed smoker, and with a family member that still smokes--I call BS on this one. There is just no way you live with someone who smokes that regularly and are not aware of it. Also--while weed gives you the munchies and enhances the flavor of food--it isn't going to make you want to eat stuff you normally don't like. This is a ridiculous story with so many holes.
I have partial anosmia. I've had it my entire life and I'll be 47 years old soon. What I cook I like, but no one else does. As an example of my wacky taste buds - scent of skunk is the best thing in the world. The smell is the same as broccoli and teriyaki. They all smell and or taste the same to me - teriyaki. I looove the smell of skunk. Another example - I can't smell ammonia. Came in handy as I grew up - I was the one that shovelled out the barn and chicken coops. No problem whatsoever. Just a couple of examples. And for the record, I can't smell weed either.
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Ngl I think the sense of smell people have a point. Weed is so pungent, lingers/sticks to everything, and is so distinctive it's kind of amazing she didn't smell it beforehand.
My mom didn't know my brother was smoking - Some folks are very motivated about cleaning up after themselves to hide the smell. And he was surprised when his wife got home - So I would say that might be a factor...
Load More Replies... This story has to be fake. As someone else said, if you cook a lot--you know if you're a good cook or not. I can tell when I've made something that isn't worth eating, something that is so-so, and something that is great. She would know if her cooking was so bad her husband needs d***s to mask it. If he is seriously not impressed with anything she's made--he must have a child's palate. But then there is the fact that he does this often and she never knew? As a former weed smoker, and with a family member that still smokes--I call BS on this one. There is just no way you live with someone who smokes that regularly and are not aware of it. Also--while weed gives you the munchies and enhances the flavor of food--it isn't going to make you want to eat stuff you normally don't like. This is a ridiculous story with so many holes.
I have partial anosmia. I've had it my entire life and I'll be 47 years old soon. What I cook I like, but no one else does. As an example of my wacky taste buds - scent of skunk is the best thing in the world. The smell is the same as broccoli and teriyaki. They all smell and or taste the same to me - teriyaki. I looove the smell of skunk. Another example - I can't smell ammonia. Came in handy as I grew up - I was the one that shovelled out the barn and chicken coops. No problem whatsoever. Just a couple of examples. And for the record, I can't smell weed either.
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