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“AITA For Refusing To Let My Family See My Son Until They Make A Formal Apology To My Wife And Announce It Online?”
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“AITA For Refusing To Let My Family See My Son Until They Make A Formal Apology To My Wife And Announce It Online?”

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Conflicts are inevitable, and that’s a fact. They will happen at your workplace, with your closest friends and even with your next-door neighbor. Just think about it – we live on a flying orb where every single one of us has contrasting views on things, so, in reality, it would’ve been quite odd for every person to get along.

Some folks are more restrained, and they’ll always find a way to overcome any unnecessary dispute – others like to get their point across, even if they’re wrong. It’s an unpleasant and highly distressing process that can seriously mess with one’s well-being, and it’s crucial to look for a more peaceful way out whenever possible.

Family dramas – on the other hand – are way different to your typical altercations due to the emotional connection that they hold; and even if you had the most supportive bond throughout your whole life, you never know if there’ll be a fight that will get you disowned by your own parent.

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    “AITA for refusing to let my family see my son until they make a formal apology to my wife and announce it online?” – this online user took it to everyone’s favorite online forum to reveal a story regarding one of the fights he had with his family and, perhaps, seek help from fellow users to find out whether he might’ve overreacted. The post has managed to receive nearly 9K upvotes and 1.8K worth of comments in just a couple of days.

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    Online user requested a public apology from his family as they’ve made his life a living hell after they found out about his relationship with his late brother’s fiancée

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    The author began his post by revealing that the story took place a couple of years after his brother’s death. The man was living in a different state and 3 years later, he decided to move back home, where everyone knows everyone. Later on, he met his late brother’s fiancée at a friend’s birthday party and they became friends.


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    Time went by and they fell in love – however, the couple decided not to tell anyone. Once the relationship got serious, they finally announced that they were together and, naturally, the family wasn’t so pumped about it. It even got to the point where the OP’s mother didn’t talk to either of them for a while. A few months later, the man’s partner got pregnant and everyone went absolutely ballistic; his sister started spreading unnecessary rumors about their “affair”, saying that they’d been together before his brother passed away, which, of course, wasn’t true.


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    The situation totally went out of control and even split the family into two camps. The author’s mother practically disowned him, saying that she didn’t have a son anymore because he had disrespected his late brother’s memory. The couple then realized that it was too much to handle, so they moved away and blocked everyone for the sake of having a fresh start. They’re now married, have a 3-year-old and are pregnant with their second baby.

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    Later on, the man’s family decided to turn up, completely out of the blue, requesting to make “amends” so that they could be a part of their lives. They’ve apologized a thousand times, blaming everything on the grief – however, the spouses talked it over and agreed that they would only consider it if the family would publicly apologize and admit to all the rumors they spread about their relationship.



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    As expected, the author’s family refused to do so, as they’re extremely ashamed and embarrassed of what they did, plus, it would be tough for them since everybody who would see that apology live around them. The mother then went on to explain that she completely understands that she hurt the couple, yet she begged them not to make it any harder. Moreover, the OP’s dad believes that the man’s behavior is quite petty, since he thinks that his mother and everyone involved have already learned their lessons.

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    The dad also questioned the author demanding an explanation as to why he is trying to put his own mother through such distress after she’s been through enough with the loss of her son, while also backing her up by saying that she only wants her family back.

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    Darja Zinina

    Darja Zinina

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    Darja is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She studied at the University of Westminster, where she got her Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Media Practice. She loves photography, foreign music and re-watching Forrest Gump.

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    Darja is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She studied at the University of Westminster, where she got her Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Media Practice. She loves photography, foreign music and re-watching Forrest Gump.

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    Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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    Saulė Tolstych

    Saulė Tolstych

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    Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. If the family truly cared, they would fall over themselves to make it right again. Instead, they want a pass for their horrible actions and statements. A real apology includes atonement.

    Tina Newman
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, if they really cared, they would never have started that garbage in the 1st place.

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    Kiryn Silverwing
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They publicly shamed you to the point where you felt your only option was to move away and break ties with all of them, and now they're asking why *you* are being so hard on *them*? They're lucky you're even entertaining this.

    Shine Caramia
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They MOVED! The family situation was so bad they uprooted their lives! Exactly what you are saying except it needs more exclamation points!

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    No you can't have my name
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in a small town myself. You absolutely need a public apology after something like this. Just privately apologizing won't clean up the mess, their reputation is still going to be in the toilet.

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    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. If the family truly cared, they would fall over themselves to make it right again. Instead, they want a pass for their horrible actions and statements. A real apology includes atonement.

    Tina Newman
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, if they really cared, they would never have started that garbage in the 1st place.

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    Kiryn Silverwing
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They publicly shamed you to the point where you felt your only option was to move away and break ties with all of them, and now they're asking why *you* are being so hard on *them*? They're lucky you're even entertaining this.

    Shine Caramia
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They MOVED! The family situation was so bad they uprooted their lives! Exactly what you are saying except it needs more exclamation points!

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    No you can't have my name
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in a small town myself. You absolutely need a public apology after something like this. Just privately apologizing won't clean up the mess, their reputation is still going to be in the toilet.

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