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Guy Shocked At GF’s Reaction To Him Defending His Mom And House: “Doesn’t Believe In Violence”
The possibility of an intruder breaking into your home is a truly terrifying one. In 2024, there were around 2.5 million burglaries in the U.S. It’s natural to want to protect your material belongings and loved ones, but people often disagree on the ways to do that.
This couple got into an argument after the boyfriend refused to apologize for the way he defended his home and his ailing mother. The girlfriend believed that violence was never the answer, and the guy was more of a realist. Both refusing to budge, they reached an impasse: who was actually right?
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After one fateful night, a man and his GF found out they had differing views about protecting their home from intruders
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As their conflict continued, the guy sought opinions online on whether he handled the attempted home invasion badly
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It can be hard when couples disagree about political issues, yet they should still strive to find common values in their differing views
Couples have disagreements about lots of things: what to eat for dinner, whose parents to visit for Thanksgiving, and where to put that new artwork one of them just bought. However, some conflicts can be about their core beliefs, such as having children, the institution of marriage, or gun ownership.
A 2024 poll revealed that when dating, 27% of women think that owning a gun is a red flag. In contrast, only 13% of the respondents who were men thought the same. But would it be a deal-breaker? According to one survey, it might be, because it’s the fifth most popular interest that would be a deal-breaker for both men and women.
So, when partners disagree about ownership, it can become quite a strain on the relationship. Generally, experts recommend respecting each other’s views and opinions, however hard that might be. The partners don’t need to agree on the issue, they just need to respect one another’s opinion.
According to Gottman-certified therapist Dr. Kathy McMahon, it’s hard, maybe downright impossible, to change your partner’s political views. The same goes for such an issue as gun ownership. Yet you still should strive to understand your partner’s perspective.
“Couples can strive to find common values, such as a shared commitment to justice, compassion, or the well-being of their family, to bridge the gap between their differing beliefs,” Dr. McMahon writes.
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Men and women in the U.S. have very different views towards firearms
If we were to believe gender stereotypes, we would probably say that the conflict in the OP’s story is a classic one. Man believes he’s the protector of the house, hence, he gets a firearm and isn’t afraid to use it just like any other guy in an ’80s action movie. Interestingly, data shows that men are more likely than women to own guns; almost two times more likely!
According to a 2022 Gallup survey, there’s a pretty significant gender gap when it comes to gun ownership and attitudes towards its laws in the U.S. More men than women have been gun owners in the past 20 years, for example. In 2022, 43% of men said they own a gun, while only 22% of women admitted to being gun owners.
Men and women also have differing views when it comes to gun ownership laws. Women tend to have stricter opinions, thinking that the country needs to regulate gun ownership more. In fact, 62% of women respondents said that the sale of firearms should be made more strict. In contrast, 51% of men thought the same.
Interestingly, even if they’re gun owners, women would want to see stricter gun laws, as 40% of the women respondents said so. Men, on the other hand, seem to be more lax, as 32% of the respondents said they would like gun ownership to be more regulated.
Many people sided with the man: “I would take a very long look at my girlfriend”
Others blamed him for not taking gun safety seriously and possibly putting his mother and GF in even more danger
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similarly 10 months ago
What does GF seriously think these people are going to do if they get inside? Does she seriously think they'll all become friends and sit around and drink tea and talk about love and peace?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I think the GF is one of those people who do not accept/understand that bad things can happen to you even in the safety of your own home (the "it'll never happen to ME!" mindset.) GF probably doesn't think that she could be raped and killed in her own home if someone broke in. Asking them to leave won't work, and sometimes the police won't show up in time even if you call them as someone is breaking in (not saying that the cops won't come immediately, but saying that one can be raped and killed within minutes - before the police arrive.) We had an ex-employee break into our home in 2020 and assault my elderly mother - my dad's caregiver called the cops and luckily a police cruiser was literally one block away, but it still took him ~3-5 min to arrive. The ex-employee wasn't armed (fortunately) and I had run downstairs when I heard noises, and all 5'5" of me was roar-screaming at the dude (he was at least 6'5", lol) to eff off, but my rage stunned him long enough for the cop to arrive.
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Scott Rackley 10 months ago
What world do some of these YTAs live in? Those guys weren't there to give you a copy of the Watchtower or talk to you about your car's extended warranty. I have a Taurus Judge with home defense loads, makes a mess of the intruder and I don't kill any neighbors. However, shooting through doors is an absolute no no.
Papa 10 months ago
You mentioned not killing the neighbors. That's why when my daughter moved into an apartment by herself I bought her a shotgun instead of a pistol. Someone knocked on her door once in the wee hours, saying it was a pizza delivery. She didn't order a pizza, and told him so, but he said she should take it anyway, and wouldn't leave. She finally grabbed the shotgun and racked it. After hearing that distinctive sound he decided it was time to go.
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Lantana Howell 10 months ago
NTA unless you stay with her. You did the right thing and she is unlikely to change her mind. This is the epitome of an irreconcilable difference.
Ash 10 months ago
Sadly, you can't fix stupid. (referring to gf in this situ)
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ThisIsMe 10 months ago
I'll keep this short. Once upon a time, I was that GF. But then one day, still light outside and I'm home alone as my husband had just gone to run an errand. Someone starts trying to beat down the side door of my very suburban home. It continues while I yell at them, while on phone with police, stops shortly before police arrive. I didn't own a gun because I didn't believe in violence. I own a gun now, have a concealed carry permit (although I never carry the gun with me), have taken shooting lessons, and would not hesitate to shoot someone coming through a door into my home. PS. They found the guy a few houses away in a different subdivision, covered in blood from where he used a table leg to beat the doorknob - leg broken and cut him. Canine founds him easily. He was charged with aggravated vandalism and trespassing, served 90 days. Changed my life. Okay, I guess this wasn't short LOL
TribbleThinking 10 months ago
In this discussion, your existence is invaluable. Thank you for posting what you did. Is there anything you can think of (other than a real life situation) that could have changed your mind.
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Valerie Woods 10 months ago
Sir, I suggest you get yourself a girl from a country setting. She'll have more common sense, life skills, and most likely a gun of her own.
Jessica S 10 months ago
Dude used EOF. Escalation of force. Shout, (make the perps verbally aware you're armed.), show, (show your weapon), shove,(shove perp away), shoot to wound, shoot to kill. It a situation like this EOF is crucial. It's allowed to skip levels of the perps are not responding or continue the crime. True, laws are different all over the country but in that situation, id rather be ready than watch my loved ones suffer.
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
Do not have children with this woman. She'll hand the babies over to the first person across the threshold. You can do way better for your future progeny!
Sea Squirrel 10 months ago (edited)
I once used my huge MagLite and a lot of noise to chase away a guy who tried to get in. The rushing adrenaline and anger made me so strong and aggressive that I didn't only scare him. I also scared myself. Could have ki!!ed him. It's a good thing that I don't own a gun. (and I should have called the police, but that didn't even cross my mind)
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I took a firearms safety course years ago in order to at least familiarize myself with guns/how to shoot. I don't have any interest in owning a gun, but I didn't want to be scared of them. We did a "roleplay" session at the end of the course where they put up a big projector screen and gave you a laser-gun, and played a (random) filmed scenario that you had to participate in like a play/scene. The instructor could pause and choose different "endings", depending on how you acted/reacted. I got a scenario where I was an armed security guard and someone had climbed the fence. I apparently told him to freeze and said other things, but I was so full of adrenaline (and terrified, lol) that I didn't remember what I said 30 seconds afterwards. But apparently my voice dropped several octaves and was VERY intimidating (according to the instructor and the other students.) I now call that my Gun Voice XD But yeah, for most people, being aggressive and threatening is scary and can scare us too!
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Just stopping by 10 months ago
He needs to find someone else she's going to get him killed. Too naive.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 10 months ago
I am very, very anti-gun. I absolutely would have had no problem with OP in this situation. Was it the best choice? Who knows. Did it work? Yes, and that’s what’s important.
ElfVibratorGlitter 10 months ago
I'm a white lady. I own guns and other less than lethal weapons. If you come into my house, I will shoot you. I do find the shotgun (and racking it) to be a lot more effective in scaring off people than the 9mm snub nose I have. Black, white, purple, green...we all deserve to be safe in our own homes. Period.
Disgruntled Panda 10 months ago
"You're a p***y because you didn't shoot them". WHYYYYYY??? Because you didn't jump on the chance to shoot someone?
Nichole Harris 10 months ago
Dude is seriously nta ....I don't even think I'd have been that lenient..... Y'all gotta leave or I'm shooting 😂 one warning..... In my county and state I just gotta drag them inside🤣
TribbleThinking 10 months ago (edited)
Fantastic. Thank you for your service to the community 😄
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Dragons Exist 10 months ago
Is gf a main character in a 2010s animated kids superhero series? Seems like it, the way she somehow thinks that there's never ANY reason to threaten someone with a gun (would she rather have them break in and get shot without a threat? the police definitely wouldn't have gotten there fast enough)
WorkAholic1 10 months ago
Oh, definitely NOT the AH. I'm a white woman from a nice quiet town. I wholeheartedly agree with you! Someone trying to kick in the door to MY house at 3 a.m.?! Yes, sir, I'm calling the police and I'm grabbing a gun and doing exactly what you did. Your girlfriend is a sheltered soul. Bless her for believing that violence is not necessary or needed, but she needs a reality check. I wonder what her solution to what happened would be?
TheReader19 10 months ago
I'm a black woman in the uk, we aren't aloud to have guns here. But believe me; I've given my daughters and myself a knife under our beds
Schmebulock 10 months ago
GF is a stupid twat. It's never going to work long term, break up and move on.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 10 months ago
No blood spilled so NTA. He could have yelled at those guys without the gun and just lied and they would have ran. Thieves are cowards. They're looking for targets of opportunity. It doesn't take much to scare them off.
Robin Roper 10 months ago
But he told them he had a weapon and they didn't leave. They only left when they heard the weapon c**k.
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The Starsong Princess 10 months ago
You are far more likely to shoot a friend or family member than an intruder when you are waving a gun around. Also, as a black man, it’s unlikely to end well for you. You should defend your home but dial it way back.
CP 10 months ago
It isn't waving a gun around, it is having a gun in the home. But yes, you are more likely to harm someone that is of no threat to you.
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Sarah Léon 10 months ago
Last year, someone (a kid I think) manage to come into my house during the night to steal my wallet. I heard a noise and saw a light but I thought it was from a car and didn't move. When I got up, I found the backdoor opened and my wallet gone. Thankfully the police retrieved the wallet and everything inside (except 3€ because that's all the money I had...) so everything was fine. But what if I'd gone down that night ? What if I'd seen the guy and he'd seen me ? I had some nightmares for a few nights after that and now I check my doors twice before going to bed. I live in France and I can't have a gun and I think guns are scary so I won't have one if I could. But I have a BBgun that looks very real and I know I would show it if someone would try to come into my home. If they try to force themselves inside, it's not for milk and cookies so they deserve what they'll have.
Sami-Jo Ross 10 months ago
I'm non-confrontational as all hell and I wouldn't be screaming "DON'T SHOOT THEM" when someone is trying to break in. I agree with the comments that GF was in on it.
Je souhaite 10 months ago
Maybe she'll feel differently about things if she ever finds herself fighting for her own life
Anna Drever 10 months ago
I’d like to think I’m a pacifist but if someone is breaking into my home then I’m going to defend myself and my loved ones. Pacifism isn’t about rolling over and letting others harm you. In an ideal world we’d all love one another, but back on planet reality…
Kim Kermes 10 months ago
Old white suburban woman. WTAF was she not calling 911? The only thing I'd have done differently was to yell I'm shooting the first one through the door, and anyone that comes after them, then backing to the kitchen door. Only if she's otherwise fantastic is it worth trying to educate her with a vist to the local PDs homicide department for some graphic details, preferably with photos.
SheamusFanFrom1987 10 months ago (edited)
Only time I'll ever accept gun violence, under potential threat. I am not advocating violence but when push comes to shove, I'd rather be the one pulling the trigger than taking the bullet, blade etc. What was OP's delulu GF thinking??? Kicking at the door is not a threat? I would like to wish no harm unto others, but if the delulu GF and these YTA dumbskulls ever find themselves in this kind of situation, well, can't say they weren't told to prepare for it aka change that moronic mindset that violence isn't the answer. It isn't ALWAYS the answer instead. Good luck in talking down the perpetrators trying to barge in or waiting for the police who could be miles away while that door holding them back is just a splinter away from snapping. SMH!!!
FluffyDreg 10 months ago
NTA but responses could have been better. I don't like guns but I have respect for people who use them as they are designed for. Obviously panicking isn't good, but since he seems genuinely understanding that his actions could have been better? That's not an AH thats someone frightened and trying his best, while learning to be better. Sometimes you DO have to defend yourself. It's not ideal, and violence shouldn't be where you go FIRST. But if someone is threatening you? Your life first. Then you can worry about theirs.
Carol Bland 10 months ago
Girlfriend is a hypocrite. She didn't call the police to resolve it without violence. She didn't go and reassure your mother. She didn't put the teakettle on. She didn't light incense.
James King 10 months ago
Despite what the reality-denying among us like to believe, there are people out there that want to do unspeakable things to you, and focused violence is an effective deterrent.
BrownEyedPanda 10 months ago
My brother had an obnoxious friend who took a liking to my older sister. He could never speak at a normal decibel (HEY, PRECIOUS!) One fine morning, before 6am, he decides to beat on our front door, looking for my brother. "HEY, PRECIOUS! PRECIOUS!" Rather pìssed, my sister answered the door and snapped, "Will you keep it down?! My dad's asleep!" He immediately pushed past her, entered my father's room, and shouted, "HEY, HOW YOU DOING, M**********R?!"
BrownEyedPanda 10 months ago
My father said nothing, just slowly sipped his coffee, the quiet demeanor unusual for him. The reason? Underneath the covers, locked and loaded, was his .38 special. He was an ex-con, and the gun wasn't registered. He knew what the consequences were, should he decide to pull the trigger. But he had three daughters in the house, all under the age of 20. That was where his concern lay. There are no atheists in foxholes, but there ARE idiots in cemeteries.
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Surly Scot 10 months ago
OMG OP dump this limp-wristed little girl and find a real woman worth her salt!
BookFanatic 10 months ago
White chick from a sheltered background here. If somebody breaks into my house, far as I'm concerned they're fair game for however I can defend myself. That includes guns.
Kathy Dragonfly 10 months ago
Oh wow, has bp been taken over by the shoot-first-ask-questions-later gun lobby since yesterday? That was fast!
Dragons Exist 10 months ago
And then what? Tell the intruders and hope they run off, then sit and wait until they get there? Do you realize that they could've broken in and robbed / murdered / ràped / etc and gotten out before the police got there?
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Crystalwitch60 10 months ago
White woman here 60 yrs old I live out in the sticks in uk n im often alone when my kids are out at work they 23-20 n if anyone tried s**t here first they meet my dogs ! Then they meet me I know which one’s safer it ain’t the dogs !!! n the one is a rottie corso ! Other a staffie both lush soppy dogs wouldn’t recommend attacking any of us mind but if guns were legal in uk id have no problem having one for protection I am also housebound to and op def NTA your snowflake gf is ! She’s pathetic and I,ll bet she was in on it given her attitude sometimes just the threat of a gun is more than enough like hearing my bigger dog bark is no one said you would have used it just made it clear you would if needed you did what any sane person would do blessed be n I hope your mums ok x
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
There are a LOT of people who are afraid of guns (which is not a bad thing in and of itself) but do not realize/understand that bad things can happen to you even in the safety of your own home (the "It'll never happen to ME" mindset.) GF probably doesn't want to accept that she can be raped and killed in her own home if someone breaks in, and that asking them nicely to leave won't help, and sometimes the police won't show up in time even if you call them as someone is breaking in - not that the cops won't come immediately, but that you can be raped and killed within minutes. I honestly think the GF's comments are real - she is one of those people who blanketly thinks "all guns are evil" (they are inherently not evil, they are just things until someone uses them for crime.)
Load More Replies... similarly 10 months ago
What does GF seriously think these people are going to do if they get inside? Does she seriously think they'll all become friends and sit around and drink tea and talk about love and peace?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I think the GF is one of those people who do not accept/understand that bad things can happen to you even in the safety of your own home (the "it'll never happen to ME!" mindset.) GF probably doesn't think that she could be raped and killed in her own home if someone broke in. Asking them to leave won't work, and sometimes the police won't show up in time even if you call them as someone is breaking in (not saying that the cops won't come immediately, but saying that one can be raped and killed within minutes - before the police arrive.) We had an ex-employee break into our home in 2020 and assault my elderly mother - my dad's caregiver called the cops and luckily a police cruiser was literally one block away, but it still took him ~3-5 min to arrive. The ex-employee wasn't armed (fortunately) and I had run downstairs when I heard noises, and all 5'5" of me was roar-screaming at the dude (he was at least 6'5", lol) to eff off, but my rage stunned him long enough for the cop to arrive.
Load More Replies... Scott Rackley 10 months ago
What world do some of these YTAs live in? Those guys weren't there to give you a copy of the Watchtower or talk to you about your car's extended warranty. I have a Taurus Judge with home defense loads, makes a mess of the intruder and I don't kill any neighbors. However, shooting through doors is an absolute no no.
Papa 10 months ago
You mentioned not killing the neighbors. That's why when my daughter moved into an apartment by herself I bought her a shotgun instead of a pistol. Someone knocked on her door once in the wee hours, saying it was a pizza delivery. She didn't order a pizza, and told him so, but he said she should take it anyway, and wouldn't leave. She finally grabbed the shotgun and racked it. After hearing that distinctive sound he decided it was time to go.
Load More Replies... Lantana Howell 10 months ago
NTA unless you stay with her. You did the right thing and she is unlikely to change her mind. This is the epitome of an irreconcilable difference.
Ash 10 months ago
Sadly, you can't fix stupid. (referring to gf in this situ)
Load More Replies... ThisIsMe 10 months ago
I'll keep this short. Once upon a time, I was that GF. But then one day, still light outside and I'm home alone as my husband had just gone to run an errand. Someone starts trying to beat down the side door of my very suburban home. It continues while I yell at them, while on phone with police, stops shortly before police arrive. I didn't own a gun because I didn't believe in violence. I own a gun now, have a concealed carry permit (although I never carry the gun with me), have taken shooting lessons, and would not hesitate to shoot someone coming through a door into my home. PS. They found the guy a few houses away in a different subdivision, covered in blood from where he used a table leg to beat the doorknob - leg broken and cut him. Canine founds him easily. He was charged with aggravated vandalism and trespassing, served 90 days. Changed my life. Okay, I guess this wasn't short LOL
TribbleThinking 10 months ago
In this discussion, your existence is invaluable. Thank you for posting what you did. Is there anything you can think of (other than a real life situation) that could have changed your mind.
Load More Replies... Valerie Woods 10 months ago
Sir, I suggest you get yourself a girl from a country setting. She'll have more common sense, life skills, and most likely a gun of her own.
Jessica S 10 months ago
Dude used EOF. Escalation of force. Shout, (make the perps verbally aware you're armed.), show, (show your weapon), shove,(shove perp away), shoot to wound, shoot to kill. It a situation like this EOF is crucial. It's allowed to skip levels of the perps are not responding or continue the crime. True, laws are different all over the country but in that situation, id rather be ready than watch my loved ones suffer.
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
Do not have children with this woman. She'll hand the babies over to the first person across the threshold. You can do way better for your future progeny!
Sea Squirrel 10 months ago (edited)
I once used my huge MagLite and a lot of noise to chase away a guy who tried to get in. The rushing adrenaline and anger made me so strong and aggressive that I didn't only scare him. I also scared myself. Could have ki!!ed him. It's a good thing that I don't own a gun. (and I should have called the police, but that didn't even cross my mind)
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I took a firearms safety course years ago in order to at least familiarize myself with guns/how to shoot. I don't have any interest in owning a gun, but I didn't want to be scared of them. We did a "roleplay" session at the end of the course where they put up a big projector screen and gave you a laser-gun, and played a (random) filmed scenario that you had to participate in like a play/scene. The instructor could pause and choose different "endings", depending on how you acted/reacted. I got a scenario where I was an armed security guard and someone had climbed the fence. I apparently told him to freeze and said other things, but I was so full of adrenaline (and terrified, lol) that I didn't remember what I said 30 seconds afterwards. But apparently my voice dropped several octaves and was VERY intimidating (according to the instructor and the other students.) I now call that my Gun Voice XD But yeah, for most people, being aggressive and threatening is scary and can scare us too!
Load More Replies... Just stopping by 10 months ago
He needs to find someone else she's going to get him killed. Too naive.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 10 months ago
I am very, very anti-gun. I absolutely would have had no problem with OP in this situation. Was it the best choice? Who knows. Did it work? Yes, and that’s what’s important.
ElfVibratorGlitter 10 months ago
I'm a white lady. I own guns and other less than lethal weapons. If you come into my house, I will shoot you. I do find the shotgun (and racking it) to be a lot more effective in scaring off people than the 9mm snub nose I have. Black, white, purple, green...we all deserve to be safe in our own homes. Period.
Disgruntled Panda 10 months ago
"You're a p***y because you didn't shoot them". WHYYYYYY??? Because you didn't jump on the chance to shoot someone?
Nichole Harris 10 months ago
Dude is seriously nta ....I don't even think I'd have been that lenient..... Y'all gotta leave or I'm shooting 😂 one warning..... In my county and state I just gotta drag them inside🤣
TribbleThinking 10 months ago (edited)
Fantastic. Thank you for your service to the community 😄
Load More Replies... Dragons Exist 10 months ago
Is gf a main character in a 2010s animated kids superhero series? Seems like it, the way she somehow thinks that there's never ANY reason to threaten someone with a gun (would she rather have them break in and get shot without a threat? the police definitely wouldn't have gotten there fast enough)
WorkAholic1 10 months ago
Oh, definitely NOT the AH. I'm a white woman from a nice quiet town. I wholeheartedly agree with you! Someone trying to kick in the door to MY house at 3 a.m.?! Yes, sir, I'm calling the police and I'm grabbing a gun and doing exactly what you did. Your girlfriend is a sheltered soul. Bless her for believing that violence is not necessary or needed, but she needs a reality check. I wonder what her solution to what happened would be?
TheReader19 10 months ago
I'm a black woman in the uk, we aren't aloud to have guns here. But believe me; I've given my daughters and myself a knife under our beds
Schmebulock 10 months ago
GF is a stupid twat. It's never going to work long term, break up and move on.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 10 months ago
No blood spilled so NTA. He could have yelled at those guys without the gun and just lied and they would have ran. Thieves are cowards. They're looking for targets of opportunity. It doesn't take much to scare them off.
Robin Roper 10 months ago
But he told them he had a weapon and they didn't leave. They only left when they heard the weapon c**k.
Load More Replies... The Starsong Princess 10 months ago
You are far more likely to shoot a friend or family member than an intruder when you are waving a gun around. Also, as a black man, it’s unlikely to end well for you. You should defend your home but dial it way back.
CP 10 months ago
It isn't waving a gun around, it is having a gun in the home. But yes, you are more likely to harm someone that is of no threat to you.
Load More Replies... Sarah Léon 10 months ago
Last year, someone (a kid I think) manage to come into my house during the night to steal my wallet. I heard a noise and saw a light but I thought it was from a car and didn't move. When I got up, I found the backdoor opened and my wallet gone. Thankfully the police retrieved the wallet and everything inside (except 3€ because that's all the money I had...) so everything was fine. But what if I'd gone down that night ? What if I'd seen the guy and he'd seen me ? I had some nightmares for a few nights after that and now I check my doors twice before going to bed. I live in France and I can't have a gun and I think guns are scary so I won't have one if I could. But I have a BBgun that looks very real and I know I would show it if someone would try to come into my home. If they try to force themselves inside, it's not for milk and cookies so they deserve what they'll have.
Sami-Jo Ross 10 months ago
I'm non-confrontational as all hell and I wouldn't be screaming "DON'T SHOOT THEM" when someone is trying to break in. I agree with the comments that GF was in on it.
Je souhaite 10 months ago
Maybe she'll feel differently about things if she ever finds herself fighting for her own life
Anna Drever 10 months ago
I’d like to think I’m a pacifist but if someone is breaking into my home then I’m going to defend myself and my loved ones. Pacifism isn’t about rolling over and letting others harm you. In an ideal world we’d all love one another, but back on planet reality…
Kim Kermes 10 months ago
Old white suburban woman. WTAF was she not calling 911? The only thing I'd have done differently was to yell I'm shooting the first one through the door, and anyone that comes after them, then backing to the kitchen door. Only if she's otherwise fantastic is it worth trying to educate her with a vist to the local PDs homicide department for some graphic details, preferably with photos.
SheamusFanFrom1987 10 months ago (edited)
Only time I'll ever accept gun violence, under potential threat. I am not advocating violence but when push comes to shove, I'd rather be the one pulling the trigger than taking the bullet, blade etc. What was OP's delulu GF thinking??? Kicking at the door is not a threat? I would like to wish no harm unto others, but if the delulu GF and these YTA dumbskulls ever find themselves in this kind of situation, well, can't say they weren't told to prepare for it aka change that moronic mindset that violence isn't the answer. It isn't ALWAYS the answer instead. Good luck in talking down the perpetrators trying to barge in or waiting for the police who could be miles away while that door holding them back is just a splinter away from snapping. SMH!!!
FluffyDreg 10 months ago
NTA but responses could have been better. I don't like guns but I have respect for people who use them as they are designed for. Obviously panicking isn't good, but since he seems genuinely understanding that his actions could have been better? That's not an AH thats someone frightened and trying his best, while learning to be better. Sometimes you DO have to defend yourself. It's not ideal, and violence shouldn't be where you go FIRST. But if someone is threatening you? Your life first. Then you can worry about theirs.
Carol Bland 10 months ago
Girlfriend is a hypocrite. She didn't call the police to resolve it without violence. She didn't go and reassure your mother. She didn't put the teakettle on. She didn't light incense.
James King 10 months ago
Despite what the reality-denying among us like to believe, there are people out there that want to do unspeakable things to you, and focused violence is an effective deterrent.
BrownEyedPanda 10 months ago
My brother had an obnoxious friend who took a liking to my older sister. He could never speak at a normal decibel (HEY, PRECIOUS!) One fine morning, before 6am, he decides to beat on our front door, looking for my brother. "HEY, PRECIOUS! PRECIOUS!" Rather pìssed, my sister answered the door and snapped, "Will you keep it down?! My dad's asleep!" He immediately pushed past her, entered my father's room, and shouted, "HEY, HOW YOU DOING, M**********R?!"
BrownEyedPanda 10 months ago
My father said nothing, just slowly sipped his coffee, the quiet demeanor unusual for him. The reason? Underneath the covers, locked and loaded, was his .38 special. He was an ex-con, and the gun wasn't registered. He knew what the consequences were, should he decide to pull the trigger. But he had three daughters in the house, all under the age of 20. That was where his concern lay. There are no atheists in foxholes, but there ARE idiots in cemeteries.
Load More Replies... Surly Scot 10 months ago
OMG OP dump this limp-wristed little girl and find a real woman worth her salt!
BookFanatic 10 months ago
White chick from a sheltered background here. If somebody breaks into my house, far as I'm concerned they're fair game for however I can defend myself. That includes guns.
Kathy Dragonfly 10 months ago
Oh wow, has bp been taken over by the shoot-first-ask-questions-later gun lobby since yesterday? That was fast!
Dragons Exist 10 months ago
And then what? Tell the intruders and hope they run off, then sit and wait until they get there? Do you realize that they could've broken in and robbed / murdered / ràped / etc and gotten out before the police got there?
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 10 months ago
White woman here 60 yrs old I live out in the sticks in uk n im often alone when my kids are out at work they 23-20 n if anyone tried s**t here first they meet my dogs ! Then they meet me I know which one’s safer it ain’t the dogs !!! n the one is a rottie corso ! Other a staffie both lush soppy dogs wouldn’t recommend attacking any of us mind but if guns were legal in uk id have no problem having one for protection I am also housebound to and op def NTA your snowflake gf is ! She’s pathetic and I,ll bet she was in on it given her attitude sometimes just the threat of a gun is more than enough like hearing my bigger dog bark is no one said you would have used it just made it clear you would if needed you did what any sane person would do blessed be n I hope your mums ok x
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
There are a LOT of people who are afraid of guns (which is not a bad thing in and of itself) but do not realize/understand that bad things can happen to you even in the safety of your own home (the "It'll never happen to ME" mindset.) GF probably doesn't want to accept that she can be raped and killed in her own home if someone breaks in, and that asking them nicely to leave won't help, and sometimes the police won't show up in time even if you call them as someone is breaking in - not that the cops won't come immediately, but that you can be raped and killed within minutes. I honestly think the GF's comments are real - she is one of those people who blanketly thinks "all guns are evil" (they are inherently not evil, they are just things until someone uses them for crime.)
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