I'm 41 and I have two entire display shelves next to my computer with cute figurines. My desk pen-holders are shaped like cats. I have a stuffed animal that I made sitting on my monitor. I have a vivarium of isopods on my desk. I have anime wall scrolls, cute kitten and fox artwork from an artist I like, and Star Trek posters on my walls. I have pillows on the couch shaped like dog and cat faces. I have pillows on the couch shaped like fruit and doughnuts. My mousepad is a Stormtrooper riding a horse, a la "Napoleon Crossing the Alps". I would spritz somebody with my Cat-Threatening Water Sprayer Bottle™ if they called my décor "childish" or "juvenile".

My hosue is awash in stuffed animals. All were gifts but one. They are "juvenile" to some, but ot me, treasured symbols of love. So.... she needs to dump this guy. Watch the internet if a woman calls a guy juvenile for having sports team stuff as a decorating theme.

This guy would flip out if he saw my house. I'm in my 40s with 3 grown kids. My house absolutely reflects my personality. We have a massive shelf that has D&D stuff, fairies, Harry Potter, Marvel, Peanuts, X-Files, etc. I have small plushies of the entire cast of Adventure Time sort of hidden around the house. Lady Rainicorn is nestled next to the DVD player in the living room. Gunther is nestled by some baskets on the ledge by the stairs. One bathroom is decked out in rubber ducks--the Breaking Bath duck being the focal point. The other bathroom is skeletons. I could go on. I decorate for myself, but I've gotten so many compliments when people are over. Everyone uses the same words, fun and cozy.

I think it's weird that he is seems to basically think it is "childish" to use the same decor as things he sees as "adult", but less popular specifics. For example "ocean theme" being ok, but it not being in that she went with deep ocean instead of the beach. Also that decorating with displays of butterflies and moths would be ok, but tarantulas, beetles, and stick bugs are "childish". I get that done people are creeped out by spiders and angler fish, but unless you have an actual phobia, getting scared from someone's apartment just because they have beetles and spiders properly displayed, sounds sort of childish to me, and that coworker whom talked with him later about it needs to take some self inventory. It kinda sounds like an "it's ok if it's popular." type of mentality, which screams middle school and high school to me.

that autism comment was the cherry on top tbh

on a positive note: now i know what my room has been missing

Instead of skipping his turn to host colleagues, he should have hosted them at a restaurant/bar. They should just break up. Having their own place together down the road will not work out well.

I'm 38 and have a full suit of armor in my living room next to my stuffed piranha beside my skull paintings. My family and friends really enjoy my eccentric decor tastes. Do what makes you happy!

I love her! Even though she is childish and doesn't behave like an adult... that's not love. If you loved her, you wouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed by her likes. You suck more than a vampire (squid)...

My mom is obsessed with all things nautical. Granted we live on an island but the last time she set foot on a boat was in 1994. Still, when my parents were having the siding replaced on their house, mom wanted navy blue shutters with white anchor details. My dad, the most amazing man who has ever existed, LITERALLY MADE THEM FOR HER. Carved them with his own hands and power tools. They look friggin PHENOMENAL and are still on the house to this day. Support your partner's interests and indulge their sense of whimsy. Life is so much more fun when you do.

what a POS. i hope she kicks him to the curb hard. im sick of other people saying something is childish. i bet theres at least one thing he does that someone else thinks is childish. you wanna collect figurines and insects, DO IT. screw everyone else

Does OP intend on never moving the relationship forward? Does he think once they move in to together he can just get her to love beige? He has so much more to worry about and he doesn't even realise it. I hope she finds the post, dumps his a**e and finds a guy who appreciates her

Bill Cipher?

Lady, ditch this dud, you are too cool for his lamness -find someone less uptight and controling.

Why do people date someone they don’t even seem to like?

What a jersey! I'm 36 and have my entire bedroom as a massive Harry Potter collage and the bathroom is Harry Potter too. My file cabinet is a collage of Harry Potter coloring pages. Her apartment sounds really cool! She needs to break up with him! He sounds REALLY BORING AND PEOPLE PLEASING OBSESSED and is going to end up diminishing her beautiful quirky light.

This woman needs to get rid of that man. I see nothing wrong with her decor. Tarantulas freak me out but it's her apartment and she can decorate it however she pleases.

40 years old and my flat is basically a celebration of rainbows. I'm not allowed to paint the walls (rental) but I am allowed to hang things on hooks. So everything is rainbows and a display cabinet of First Generation My Little Ponies. I also have a couple of childhood toys that I've kept. Literally everyone who has ever visited has commented on how colourful and homely it is.

Seems weird to me to be bringing coworkers home as a formal thing. I've been in the homes of two coworkers, after I had considered them both friends over coworkers. The idea of "every month someone hosts the team at their personal home" seems like a weird boundary violation, to me.

I'm not even into sea stuff, but I googled anglerfish nightlight and it's the coolest thing ever!

He's really unintentionally implying that finance workers are dead inside.

This guy sounds like an a55hole. It is so amazing that a woman who knows so much about insects and deep sea creatures, etc. has chosen to be with him for so long. And she has been letting him stay at her place, too? What does she see in such a closed minded judgmental person?