“My Aunt Sees The Can And Starts Screaming”: Man Sick And Tired Of Always Having To Babysit Relatives At Family Events, Solves The Problem
Nobody really enjoys being forced to do something they don’t want to. Especially if they’re surprised by it! It’s a nasty feeling having your expectations dashed by someone else’s selfishness.
Though there are plenty of folks out there who are great with kids and love babysitting, you can’t lump everyone into the same category. For some people, it’s a chore and they’d rather not do it all the time. Sometimes is fine. Always is not.
Redditor u/lookoka went viral on r/pettyrevenge after sharing how he got out of babysitting his aunt’s children. He’s the de facto babysitter in the family, but this time, his mom promised him that he wouldn’t have to do it. Wanting to carve out a bit of freedom for himself, he got out of his duty the only way that he could think of at the drop of a hat—by drinking a beer. Scroll down for the full story in the OP’s own words, as well as how the internet reacted.
It turns out that this ‘excuse’ is far more popular than you’d think. When you’ve finished the story and shared your opinions on it, you might want to check out Bored Panda’searlier post about a guy who also got out of babysitting kids in a similar way.
It’s essential to have clear boundaries with everyone, including your relatives, in order to have a healthy relationship with them
Image credits: Erik Mclean (not the actual photo)
A guy shared how he got out of babysitting his relative’s children when they suddenly sprung this duty on him at a family gathering
Image credits: Diva Plavalaguna (not the actual photo)
Image credits: lookoka
Babysitting shouldn’t be something that gets dumped on one member of the family all the time. Well, unless they’re actually completely fine with that. The point is, you should never take babysitters for granted. Even if they are related to you by blood.
Clearly, the OP thought that he was backed into a corner, that’s why he decided to drink a beer. Being the lightweight that he is, he couldn’t babysit anyone, meaning his dad took over. Does drinking solve all problems? Obviously, not.
The family needs to have an open and honest discussion about who fairly distributing the babysitting duties from now on. That way, they’ll be able to avoid further arguments and awkward situations down the line.
A parenting blogger we spoke to a while back explained that there are very clear limits when asking for help. She told Bored Panda that boundaries within families are essential. Some relatives might take on extra duties just to avoid having awkward conversations.
“I think when establishing boundaries with family members, being clear and using good communication are the best routes. You wouldn’t want a family member to misinterpret your actions for rudeness or lack of appreciation for their help with childcare. I would hope that close family members can communicate freely about expectations for child care, but I know that personalities differ and some would rather take on an extra burden and avoid conflict,” the founder of the Walking Outside in Slippers blog, Samantha Scroggin, explained to us during an earlier interview.
“Some families are very close, and the aunts and uncles and grandparents are practically other parents to the kids. Others are more distant. Once again, I think good communication is important to set the ground rules and ensure everyone is comfortable with the babysitting expectations,” she said, adding that it’s a relief to get a helping hand from time to time. But it’s vital to not overuse this privilege.
Here’s what some people thought about the family drama after it went viral online
Force me to babysit? All good but your kid is going to swear like a drunk sailor by the time you get back 😂
My brother once offered to take my son camping with him and his buddies. I said "No thanks. I know how you guys behave when you go camping and the last thing I need is his teachers sending notes home saying my son won't stop burping and making farting sounds with his arm."
Load More Replies...It blows my mind that some people assume a child free person will always be willing to babysit their kids, especially if they're family. Seriously. Those kids are YOUR responsibility, no one owes you free babysitting, ffs. And I'm a mom! Also, this guy needs to just come out and say that he won't be her designated babysitter - some people need to be hit over the head with bluntness. And I don't mean a bat. Necessarily. 😂
When I was growing up, I was the youngest of my generation. At family gatherings, I was the de facto babysitter once I was old enough to do it (my brothers did it before me). I loved it…because my younger cousins were so much fun. BUT their parents not only asked me if I wanted to, they paid me! I was kinda bummed once I was one of the adults and the torch got passed to the oldest of the next generation.
Load More Replies...I love the petty revenges in the comments following this post, especially the sticky, chocolate-covered hands comment. As a parent, I would never expect or assume someone else will watch my kids.
Sticky fingers are immediate impact, but I wish we had more info on the teaching kids the wrong colours one. You'd need to get stuck babysitting them from a young enough age that they wouldn't know, but then what...did the parents find out when the kid declared the sky is green and grass is pink?
Load More Replies...When I was 12, I was being physically abused at home and had to work in the fields when not in school. I would spend the weekends at my adult sister's house to get a break. My "break" was watching her kids, while she would shop all day, and cleaning her house. My sister and her husband would sleep in on the weekends while I had to take care of her kids. She took advantage of me and I didn't realize it until now.
Reading this makes me want to cry for you. People are so self centred and hardly anyone these days see the pain of others. My heart goes out to you.
Load More Replies...As a woman who has never wanted kids, I feel my response would be to simply open another beer and double-gun both of them at the same time. I'm not here to take care of your spawn. That was your choice. You get to live with it.
I always have to babysit my cousins (they’re younger than me) at family events not because I’m told to by their parents, but because they want me to. Ace, look at this! Ace, play with me! Ace, pick me up! 10, 8, 6, and 4. I love them, but dear god 6 hours of them is a lot.
my son's ex would drop by when "in the area" ask if my grandson could stay overnight. Sure but I often had plans, I volunteer and work full time. Last time she dropped him off on Friday night and didn't pick him up till Monday morning. No change of clothes, had to wash them at night while he slept in my tshirt. NEVER again. She now says I ignore my grandson, no I don't. I just insist on dropping him off now so she can't extend the stay indefinitely.
I know this too well (as the only one without kids in the closer family) - well, after teaching the kids all the funny swear words I don't have to anymore. I don't want to raise own kids, what makes people think I'm suited to watch over others?
A family member dumped my twin cousin on me asking to babysit for 1 hour; which turn into a week at a family reunion! The mom came in ( fresh out jail. Child custody battle.) She had the nerves to complained about how her kids was cared for; my other cousin let her have it! The next time around another family reunion my cousin came to me I told them " I don't have kids ; dont want kids don't like kids!" Don't ask me to watch YOUR KIDS! Never was asked again.
Force me to babysit? All good but your kid is going to swear like a drunk sailor by the time you get back 😂
My brother once offered to take my son camping with him and his buddies. I said "No thanks. I know how you guys behave when you go camping and the last thing I need is his teachers sending notes home saying my son won't stop burping and making farting sounds with his arm."
Load More Replies...It blows my mind that some people assume a child free person will always be willing to babysit their kids, especially if they're family. Seriously. Those kids are YOUR responsibility, no one owes you free babysitting, ffs. And I'm a mom! Also, this guy needs to just come out and say that he won't be her designated babysitter - some people need to be hit over the head with bluntness. And I don't mean a bat. Necessarily. 😂
When I was growing up, I was the youngest of my generation. At family gatherings, I was the de facto babysitter once I was old enough to do it (my brothers did it before me). I loved it…because my younger cousins were so much fun. BUT their parents not only asked me if I wanted to, they paid me! I was kinda bummed once I was one of the adults and the torch got passed to the oldest of the next generation.
Load More Replies...I love the petty revenges in the comments following this post, especially the sticky, chocolate-covered hands comment. As a parent, I would never expect or assume someone else will watch my kids.
Sticky fingers are immediate impact, but I wish we had more info on the teaching kids the wrong colours one. You'd need to get stuck babysitting them from a young enough age that they wouldn't know, but then what...did the parents find out when the kid declared the sky is green and grass is pink?
Load More Replies...When I was 12, I was being physically abused at home and had to work in the fields when not in school. I would spend the weekends at my adult sister's house to get a break. My "break" was watching her kids, while she would shop all day, and cleaning her house. My sister and her husband would sleep in on the weekends while I had to take care of her kids. She took advantage of me and I didn't realize it until now.
Reading this makes me want to cry for you. People are so self centred and hardly anyone these days see the pain of others. My heart goes out to you.
Load More Replies...As a woman who has never wanted kids, I feel my response would be to simply open another beer and double-gun both of them at the same time. I'm not here to take care of your spawn. That was your choice. You get to live with it.
I always have to babysit my cousins (they’re younger than me) at family events not because I’m told to by their parents, but because they want me to. Ace, look at this! Ace, play with me! Ace, pick me up! 10, 8, 6, and 4. I love them, but dear god 6 hours of them is a lot.
my son's ex would drop by when "in the area" ask if my grandson could stay overnight. Sure but I often had plans, I volunteer and work full time. Last time she dropped him off on Friday night and didn't pick him up till Monday morning. No change of clothes, had to wash them at night while he slept in my tshirt. NEVER again. She now says I ignore my grandson, no I don't. I just insist on dropping him off now so she can't extend the stay indefinitely.
I know this too well (as the only one without kids in the closer family) - well, after teaching the kids all the funny swear words I don't have to anymore. I don't want to raise own kids, what makes people think I'm suited to watch over others?
A family member dumped my twin cousin on me asking to babysit for 1 hour; which turn into a week at a family reunion! The mom came in ( fresh out jail. Child custody battle.) She had the nerves to complained about how her kids was cared for; my other cousin let her have it! The next time around another family reunion my cousin came to me I told them " I don't have kids ; dont want kids don't like kids!" Don't ask me to watch YOUR KIDS! Never was asked again.


























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