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Man Buys Lower-Grade Steaks For His In-Laws And Wagyu For His Parents, Wonders If That’s Fair
According to Insider, Grade A certified Wagyu raised in Japan can cost upwards of $200 per pound. Meanwhile, the American Wagyu meat is a less pricey alternative, made from a cross-breed between wagyu and more common beef cattle breeds. Both are considered one of the most luxurious meats, prized for flavor and rareness.
This man who goes as Late-Enthusiasm3751 on Reddit has a taste for Wagyu, just like his parents. In an Ask Reddit post, he explained that he occasionally treats his parents to Wagyu, but buys “select-grade meat” when his in-laws visit.
This doesn’t sit well with his wife, who thinks that both families should get equal treatment.
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Man wonders if he’s wrong to buy Wagyu for his parents and lower grade meat for his in-laws when they visit
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Wagyu beef is known not just for its rich, buttery taste often referred to as “umami,” but also its hefty price tag that fascinates (or repels) diners around the world. Yet, the meat has earned a reputation of one of the world’s most treasured delicacies.
Joe Heitzeberg, the co-founder and CEO of Crowd Cow, argues that “it’s an extremely fascinating but confusing world.” The luxurious Wagyu refers to a specific breed of Japanese cattle that have special genetic qualities.
“There are four breeds native to Japan. Of those four breeds, one of the breeds is genetically unique,” Heitzeberg explains.
“It has a genetic predisposition to create this crazy marbling of fat inside of muscle tissue. No other livestock does that.” In Wagyu, the cow metabolizes its fat internally, so it’s already inside the muscle.
Meanwhile, the biggest difference between American Wagyu and Japanese Wagyu is that Japanese Wagyu is purebred while the American one is crossbred. Henderson explains that “[American Wagyu] is still going to be crazy marbled with intense flavor, but it’s most likely Wagyu bred with angus.”
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ZombieGirl 2 years ago
I kinda can't stand when people judge others for how they like their steak. I used to like mine well done and burned. I loved the taste. Why should it really matter to you how I like it? My tastes have since changed and I like it medium now...but still...it shouldn't matter to you. I want the good cut of meat no matter how I like it cooked
Aline 2 years ago
Why doesn't your wife buy food for her family? My house the person whose family it is takes lead, other one just supports, gets a list and does it/buys it. If it matters to her, she should do the shopping and maybe the cooking if it's an issue for you.
Shane Henry 2 years ago
I like how you treat them as not together, ino matter who goes tot he store they are both buying it as they are couple so share their lives, bills and finances all money is their money not his and hers. That's a friendship not a relationship and he is her husband.
Load More Replies... Honu 2 years ago
NAH. I can see both their points. His wife is seeing the unequal budget for the meal as indicating less care. I don't think OP sees it that way. He is putting a lot of thought and effort into both, which has tremendous value and shows his love. The expenditure may be less emotionally relevant to him. He doesn't want to waste wagyu where it won't give the experience it should. Money may be part of that, but it would mostly just hurt my heart doing that. I wouldn't cook them steak at all. I'd cook them something I thought was great, that I'd be happy to make and serve, and that they would enjoy. You want well done beef? How about a melt-in-the-mouth brisket? I would then splash out somewhere else in an area where they might get more enjoyment. Maybe it's elsewhere in the meal, desserts, drinks, or maybe take them to a fun event when they're visiting. That way, my spouse wouldn't feel her parents were being treated as less-than.
deanna woods 2 years ago
My father likes his steaks well done, which is weird because he doesn't have a lot of teeth left. I like my steaks medium well. It doesn't make any sense to spend a lot of money on a piece of meat that they won't be able to taste let alone chew. I think that the OP is making the right decision for his wallet and the in laws food preferences.
Casey McAlister 2 years ago
NTA. It's not like he's feeding them expired/rotten meat. Select-grade is still normal meat, and if his in-laws prefer well-done, they are probably not that sensitive about meat texture/juiciness. The only thing I don't understand is why they are so hung-up on steaks. You can make any other meal if they don't really appreciate steaks.
Matt R 2 years ago
If the in laws aren't foodies and you've tried to give them higher quality meals only to basically destroy it, I'm inclined to say NTA. I wouldn't go low quality with them, that's ruder than deciding what you've cooked isn't good enough (which is what the father did). But I wouldn't overspend for something that isn't going to be tasted. If you need a compromise, then go with something that's mid quality with your parents and just do more with the marinade/seasoning.
LuckyTanuki 2 years ago (edited)
Don't think the dude is an ahole for not serving them tbe expensive steak. But I do think he's an ahole for trying to dictate how they enjoy their food. Never liked people like that. People have different taste buds, I could probably name something this dude doesn't like that everyone else does and he would probably get butthurt that he's being harassed over it. Plus why the hell do you need to buy a $700 steak. Maybe it's because I dont buy lavish stuff like that but it seems like such a waste of money for something that's gonna end up in the toilet mixed with all the other stuff I ate later on anyway. Lastly I'll say it since I always see a bunch of comments saying their so and so liked well done steak until I made them try medium rare etc. I've tried both, and I still fkn prefer well done. Yea I said it Sue me mfers
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
I think he chose the expensive steak cause he and his family have a more in-depth relationship with food (that wording really sucked but I hope you get what I mean) and would be able to tell the luxury steak apart from normal steak and enjoy it more. Seems like you're kinda trying to dictate how people enjoy their food too- no offense, but it does seem pretty hypocritical
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Sonya Sims 2 years ago
Food snobs always irritate me....who are w e to judge another's taste buds? Just because someone likes a well done steak, doesn't mean they don't get as much pleasure from the cut, and the taste as someone who likes it rare. For someone to actually believe they and they only have the right to decide how someone else should enjoy their food is the most assigned, self serving, selfish pieces of c**p, l have ever heard of. Just because you like it raw doesn't mean everyone on the planet should. Well done doesn't mean they appreciate the steak any less than the person choosing rare. The absurdity of anyone believing that they are superior because they like the blood dripping from their meat, is unreal. It's 200% an a*****e move to treat people differently, especially family because they don't want their meat cooked the same as yours....shame on all of you for thinking your taste buds give you the right to judge someone else's
ZombieGirl 2 years ago
I kinda can't stand when people judge others for how they like their steak. I used to like mine well done and burned. I loved the taste. Why should it really matter to you how I like it? My tastes have since changed and I like it medium now...but still...it shouldn't matter to you. I want the good cut of meat no matter how I like it cooked
Aline 2 years ago
Why doesn't your wife buy food for her family? My house the person whose family it is takes lead, other one just supports, gets a list and does it/buys it. If it matters to her, she should do the shopping and maybe the cooking if it's an issue for you.
Shane Henry 2 years ago
I like how you treat them as not together, ino matter who goes tot he store they are both buying it as they are couple so share their lives, bills and finances all money is their money not his and hers. That's a friendship not a relationship and he is her husband.
Load More Replies... Honu 2 years ago
NAH. I can see both their points. His wife is seeing the unequal budget for the meal as indicating less care. I don't think OP sees it that way. He is putting a lot of thought and effort into both, which has tremendous value and shows his love. The expenditure may be less emotionally relevant to him. He doesn't want to waste wagyu where it won't give the experience it should. Money may be part of that, but it would mostly just hurt my heart doing that. I wouldn't cook them steak at all. I'd cook them something I thought was great, that I'd be happy to make and serve, and that they would enjoy. You want well done beef? How about a melt-in-the-mouth brisket? I would then splash out somewhere else in an area where they might get more enjoyment. Maybe it's elsewhere in the meal, desserts, drinks, or maybe take them to a fun event when they're visiting. That way, my spouse wouldn't feel her parents were being treated as less-than.
deanna woods 2 years ago
My father likes his steaks well done, which is weird because he doesn't have a lot of teeth left. I like my steaks medium well. It doesn't make any sense to spend a lot of money on a piece of meat that they won't be able to taste let alone chew. I think that the OP is making the right decision for his wallet and the in laws food preferences.
Casey McAlister 2 years ago
NTA. It's not like he's feeding them expired/rotten meat. Select-grade is still normal meat, and if his in-laws prefer well-done, they are probably not that sensitive about meat texture/juiciness. The only thing I don't understand is why they are so hung-up on steaks. You can make any other meal if they don't really appreciate steaks.
Matt R 2 years ago
If the in laws aren't foodies and you've tried to give them higher quality meals only to basically destroy it, I'm inclined to say NTA. I wouldn't go low quality with them, that's ruder than deciding what you've cooked isn't good enough (which is what the father did). But I wouldn't overspend for something that isn't going to be tasted. If you need a compromise, then go with something that's mid quality with your parents and just do more with the marinade/seasoning.
LuckyTanuki 2 years ago (edited)
Don't think the dude is an ahole for not serving them tbe expensive steak. But I do think he's an ahole for trying to dictate how they enjoy their food. Never liked people like that. People have different taste buds, I could probably name something this dude doesn't like that everyone else does and he would probably get butthurt that he's being harassed over it. Plus why the hell do you need to buy a $700 steak. Maybe it's because I dont buy lavish stuff like that but it seems like such a waste of money for something that's gonna end up in the toilet mixed with all the other stuff I ate later on anyway. Lastly I'll say it since I always see a bunch of comments saying their so and so liked well done steak until I made them try medium rare etc. I've tried both, and I still fkn prefer well done. Yea I said it Sue me mfers
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
I think he chose the expensive steak cause he and his family have a more in-depth relationship with food (that wording really sucked but I hope you get what I mean) and would be able to tell the luxury steak apart from normal steak and enjoy it more. Seems like you're kinda trying to dictate how people enjoy their food too- no offense, but it does seem pretty hypocritical
Load More Replies... Sonya Sims 2 years ago
Food snobs always irritate me....who are w e to judge another's taste buds? Just because someone likes a well done steak, doesn't mean they don't get as much pleasure from the cut, and the taste as someone who likes it rare. For someone to actually believe they and they only have the right to decide how someone else should enjoy their food is the most assigned, self serving, selfish pieces of c**p, l have ever heard of. Just because you like it raw doesn't mean everyone on the planet should. Well done doesn't mean they appreciate the steak any less than the person choosing rare. The absurdity of anyone believing that they are superior because they like the blood dripping from their meat, is unreal. It's 200% an a*****e move to treat people differently, especially family because they don't want their meat cooked the same as yours....shame on all of you for thinking your taste buds give you the right to judge someone else's
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