NTA. I'm assuming he's done this and hasn't gotten complaints from the in laws, just the wife because of the perceived slight because of money.

Why doesn't your wife buy food for her family? My house the person whose family it is takes lead, other one just supports, gets a list and does it/buys it. If it matters to her, she should do the shopping and maybe the cooking if it's an issue for you.

My father likes his steaks well done, which is weird because he doesn't have a lot of teeth left. I like my steaks medium well. It doesn't make any sense to spend a lot of money on a piece of meat that they won't be able to taste let alone chew. I think that the OP is making the right decision for his wallet and the in laws food preferences.

If the in laws aren't foodies and you've tried to give them higher quality meals only to basically destroy it, I'm inclined to say NTA. I wouldn't go low quality with them, that's ruder than deciding what you've cooked isn't good enough (which is what the father did). But I wouldn't overspend for something that isn't going to be tasted. If you need a compromise, then go with something that's mid quality with your parents and just do more with the marinade/seasoning.

Don't think the dude is an ahole for not serving them tbe expensive steak. But I do think he's an ahole for trying to dictate how they enjoy their food. Never liked people like that. People have different taste buds, I could probably name something this dude doesn't like that everyone else does and he would probably get butthurt that he's being harassed over it. Plus why the hell do you need to buy a $700 steak. Maybe it's because I dont buy lavish stuff like that but it seems like such a waste of money for something that's gonna end up in the toilet mixed with all the other stuff I ate later on anyway. Lastly I'll say it since I always see a bunch of comments saying their so and so liked well done steak until I made them try medium rare etc. I've tried both, and I still fkn prefer well done. Yea I said it Sue me mfers

This is missing the forest for the trees. How many times does the OP have them over? mutliply that by the cost, and how much is he out? Doesn't seem like it'll cost him that much to keep the peace. Sure you might not be able to stomach the "waste", but is that worth the argument?

Yta and a major on, food is best however someone likes it, it does not need to be prepared in any certain way and no way is "best", best is different to each person and if they like it well done with ketchup that's up to them not you nor are you allow to treat them as less simply because you don't like how they enjoy their food. Very few care about the pretensions other place on food, most eat it to survive and because it tastes good, and not everyone was abused into thinking only their families ways matter., so if you have guests let them enjoy their food any way they like it's not up to you.

I am this guys in laws lol. I like my steak medium well to well cooked. Now I'm not going out and buying wagyu, and I don't really even eat steak very often as I prefer a good burger or ribs.

I don’t even know what wagyu is (it seems to be expensive meat), but I’m not sure if it’s about the Battle of the Beef, you know; “why my way of earning steak is better than your way” - I don’t believe that’s what OP is talking about, not really. At least, that’s not what’s important in this situation, not to my mind - this is about symbolic actions. What’s relevant is what makes OPs in-laws feel welcome, and a little about not paying unnecessary money. Money matters too, of course it does, it can’t make us happy but we do need it to survive; that makes it important. What I would have done, is to take the money I too wouldn’t spend on something the receiver doesn’t actually want (and what they want has to be up to them), and put it into something they would specifically appreciate. Fυck the pieces of sliced animal, it’s just a type of food; this is all about ways of showing appreciation, and true appreciation has to be based on the person in question.

Steak snob.

I like wagyu but I don't like it pink enough to still moo. Mine is based on OCD though so I shouldn't be judged - I don't eat anything red. He says he loves his in-laws then criticises virtually every culinary choice they make. Somebody thinks he's married down when quite clearly he's a massive AH.

YTA- I agree with him totally but why the f**k can he not make something else? It's only around ten meals annually, and he could literally just make stew or something. He doesn't have a spiritual need to make them eat beef. Just avoid it and avoid the arguments

If you eat any steak over medium, you are killing it...so just eat a burger

I used to be a foodie, but I'm over it. Nowadays, I buy cheap meat and i cook it to hell. I ask for everything well done. Eggs. Chicken (burn it) pizza (burn it, please), salmon, tuna, and, yes, steak. Burn it all. It literally cannot be too cooked for me. i wasn't always like this. I used to eat rare steak runny eggs and raw salmon when I was younger. But, as i got older, it started grossing me out.

Just curious what happens when both families are eating at same time. How I loud my steak in MY. taste! Not for you to judge. My husband eats his still mooing and I want mine medium/well. My taste buds are not his. He buys excellent cuts of meat and cooks it the way I like it For me. Why should your in laws eat any less quality than your parents? You sound pretty spoiled to me. My daughter would never allow her husband to treat us CB less than. Shame on you.

Also, my dad had to have well done steaks after his stents in heart and donor kidney. What you going to do about that? Berate an ill man? Try telling my dad the way he has to have his steaks. Do it. I dare you. He previously liked his steak medium.

YTA. I will not eat steak medium rare or anything besides well done. I want my steak cooked and not still mooing and as long as you know how to cook then the steak wont lose its flavor or juice. Refusing to cook it well done just shows you dont know how to cook

Not every one's stomach is the same. And not everyone's food tradition is the same. I personally come from a family that cook's food not just heat them up. You won't find rare steak or just wok'ed vegetables. No, boiled potatoes, broccoli, rice, well done meatballs, minced meat, chicken breast, pork chops. Everything is done. Because in tradition it isn't safe food otherwise. Now this might be because two world wars with loads of bad meat. I personally can't eat steak that isn't 'done', I get a bloody toilet if I don't. Burgers can me 'medium', but most meats I have to be carefull. Sidenote: My love for Korean BBQ, is high. Brb toilet break..

Wagyu steak where I live is $39.99/lb +, and it's easily $100.00 or more for just 2 steaks. So, yea, I wouldn't be wasting my money or my effort for someone to be completely unappreciative. Though, instead of making steaks, I'd probably opt for a regular cookout-type meal of pulled pork and chicken or brisket with sides. That would put a stop to OP's "dying inside," and it would be a delicious meal that hopefully everyone could enjoy.

Don't waste prime cuts on people who won't appreciate it

Absolutely NTA and honestly NAH. Inlaws have awful taste, and dude is right not to want to serve them good they won't appreciate. Maybe just go out to eat when they come over, that way you can order something tasty, and they can order chicken tenders or whatever.

I just wouldn’t buy and make them steak.

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Definitely the a hole. Get the same cut of meat for everyone. I grew up eating over well done steaks. Luckily I dated a guy who made steaks medium. Now I eat mine medium rare, my husband likes medium to medium rare. My mom still likes well done. But I buy the steaks all together. I just get my moms a thinner cut and make it well done. She loves it. We can go to a steakhouse sometimes and they still don't make it like I do, no pink but not dry.