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Study Reveals What Words Men And Women Use To Write About Love, And The Difference Is Striking
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Study Reveals What Words Men And Women Use To Write About Love, And The Difference Is Striking

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As gender roles are merging and same-sex romance has become accepted more than ever, Josh Katz, Claire Cain Miller and Kathleen A. Flynn have decided to determine if men and women speak the same language when they talk about love. To determine that, they have examined modern love essays, submitted to The New York Times. “We examined the last four years of essay submissions and charted the words along two dimensions: whether the essay was published and the author’s gender,” they wrote.

Words towards the top of their chart are more likely in published essays, and those at the bottom are more likely in rejected ones. Moreover, the words on the right side are more likely to be written by women, and those on the left are more likely in essays by men. “We found overlap in both dimensions, represented by words in purplish circles near the center of the chart. But there were striking differences, too.”

First, let’s examine the difference between men and women. “When men wrote about family, they used words like ‘father,’ ‘dad’ and ‘son,’ while women used ‘mother,’ ‘mom’ and ‘daughter.’ (And we checked — in these essays, the writers were almost always referring to their own or their partner’s family members, not themselves.)”

A study by Michael Baker and Kevin Milligan backed up these findings, stating that parents’ feelings are stronger towards a child of the same sex with who they ten to spend more time with.

Another paper suggests that women express more emotions than men. This was also evident in the essays. “Men’s words tended to be more active: ‘bomb,’ ‘hit,’ ‘strike,’ ‘punch,’ ‘battle.” Women were more likely to describe feelings: ‘resentment,’ ‘furious,’ ‘agony,’ ‘hurt;’ they were also significantly more likely to use the word ‘feel.'” Men, however, weren’t writing about different emotions; they were simply mentioning fewer of them.

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When talking about rejected and published essays, the analysis points out the nouns at the top of the chart. “They suggest specific characters who might stride through a story — one’s father, doctor, children, mother, boyfriend or therapist — as well as where it might unfold: at a party, in an apartment, on the couch, at dinner, in bed, on a futon, at the altar, in the hospital. That specificity appears to have caught an editor’s attention and made for engaging reading.”

Judging by this data, it is safe to say that when writing about love, men are more likely to write about sex, and women about marriage. Also, women focus more on feelings, men – on actions. The authors of the study state that the report might represent an unrepresentative sample, but what do you think about their findings? Let us know in the comments below.

More info: The New York Times

To determine if men and women speak the same language when they talk about love, a group of journalists examined lots of modern love essays

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 The words on on the left are more likely written by men

And the words on the right side are more likely to be written by women

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The findings show some very important differences: “When men wrote about family, they used words like ‘father,’ ‘dad’ and ‘son,’ while women used ‘mother,’ ‘mom’ and ‘daughter”

Also, it showed that women express more emotions than men: “Men’s words tended to be more active: ‘bomb,’ ‘hit,’ ‘strike,’ ‘punch,’ ‘battle.’ Women were more likely to describe feelings: ‘resentment,’ ‘furious,’ ‘agony,’ ‘hurt”

 

Judging by this data, it is safe to say that when writing about love, men are more likely to write about sex, and women about marriage

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The authors of the study state that the report might represent an unrepresentative sample, but what do you think about their findings? Let us know in the comments below

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Author, BoredPanda staff

Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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Jef Bateman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe men use "father," "son," and "dad" because they are more likely to be in that role, yes? It seems that the actual graphic is more interesting than the analysis of it; the authors mainly pick and choose the elements that fit their preconceptions. What about men using the word "couple" more frequently? Or "play"? Or "relationship"?

Noctis Nix
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it's not. But it's intriguing. This is bored panda. If you're here then you're bored. Why does it need to be important? Importance doesn't fix boredom, interest does.

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Jef Bateman
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe men use "father," "son," and "dad" because they are more likely to be in that role, yes? It seems that the actual graphic is more interesting than the analysis of it; the authors mainly pick and choose the elements that fit their preconceptions. What about men using the word "couple" more frequently? Or "play"? Or "relationship"?

Noctis Nix
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it's not. But it's intriguing. This is bored panda. If you're here then you're bored. Why does it need to be important? Importance doesn't fix boredom, interest does.

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