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Young Woman Films Her Customer’s Cringy Attempts To Hit On Her At Work Despite Her Not Being Interested, Goes Viral
It shouldn’t be rocket science to sense when a person doesn’t want to talk to you. And that should be respected at all costs, especially if the one being chatted up is a young woman busy working her shift at a store. But 19-year-old TikToker Mickey Ruiz, @mickey.ruiz, has recently revealed what too many women have to go through on a daily basis when men maliciously refuse to regard their personal boundaries.
In a very uncomfortable-to-watch video captioned “Why do men?”, you hear a man relentlessly bombarding her with inappropriate and overly personal questions in a bid to flirt her up, while she demonstrates her blatant disinterest. The video has been viewed more than 8 million times and most people seem to be appalled at the man’s behavior, while others genuinely worry for her safety.
Let’s see the full footage right below, which just shows us all that just like “no means no,” so does “not interested means get the heck outta here, I am just trying to do my job.” And whatever the situation, this has no exceptions, ever.
The 19-year-old TikToker Mickey Ruiz has recently shared uncomfortable footage of a man relentlessly chatting her up while she’s busy doing her shift at work
@mickey.ruizReply to @rixy_21 repost with captions. #ChiliDogYumPlz #foryou #fyp #LiveFlowSweatDuet #TheSuicideSquadMovie♬ original sound – mickey serbia-ruiz
The man bombarded Ruiz with personal and inappropriate questions although she continually showed her total disinterest
Throughout this unwanted encounter, the woman felt deeply uncomfortable but she was still trying to do her job
When it seemed like the man would finally pack up and leave, he kept on torturing Ruiz with yet more unwanted attention
She later posted another video discussing criticism and explaining why women often choose to answer creeps’ questions in fear of their safety
@mickey.ruizReply to @john.jimenez19 and women are the entitled and stuck up ones…♬ original sound – mickey serbia-ruiz
“Harassment at work is sadly a very common problem—especially for women and young workers. Our research has found that just over half (52%) of women workers have experienced sexual harassment at work, rising to 63% for women aged 18 to 24,” Frances said.
“Sexual harassment is more common from colleagues, but it happens from customers and clients too. Of those women who have been sexually harassed at work, 7 per cent said it was from a customer or client. But if you are young and serving customers it is much higher, with nearly half (46%) of young workers in customer service roles saying they have been sexually harassed by a customer.”
When it comes to crossing the personal line, Frances said that nobody should be sexualized, denigrated or intimidated when they are doing their job. “Workplace sexual harassment is not only unwanted touching, hugging, or even assault. It can also be suggestive remarks and unwanted flirting.”
Frances continued that “if a customer or client gets suggestive, or personal and persistent, you shouldn’t have to brush it off,” TUC general secretary warned. “They have crossed the line and you should report it to a manager and your union representative.”
“Trade unions have recently won agreement from the government to toughen up the law. Employers will soon be required to take steps to prevent sexual harassment in workplaces—not only from colleagues, but also customers and clients. A date has not yet been set, but this change to the law cannot come soon enough, and we hope it will make a big difference protecting people at work.”
Many people felt absolutely appalled by the man’s behavior, while others shared how sadly this is all too common for women working in customer service
What do you think ?
Jayne Kyra 3 years ago (edited)
Those saying "I would have told him off" and such... You may be able to get away with it as a man, but *many* women do not have that option unless we want to risk being shouted at and/or assaulted. We can only hope the creeps leave eventually or someone else makes them leave. (I worked at a bar when I was 18/19 and could write a book about the creeps as this guy.) EDIT: someone had their knickers in a bunch, so I changed it to MANY women. Happy?
Sneeze 3 years ago
Yeah I work at a zoo, (im in guest relations, 15 y/o) and I was selling tickets and this middle-aged man starts hitting on me. He's looking down at my shirt, and is asking all sorts of unnessicary questions to "get to know me" even after the transactions over and I say the "have a great day!" he even asks for my social media and number... (which this is my only sm) and I just told him "could you please step aside so I can help the next customer?" I deflected all of his questions or answered very vaguely. He got kicked out of the park later for smoking and not stopping on multiple occasions of being told not to.
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Otter 3 years ago
Why do guys do this? Do they really think that she'll change her mind if they just keep displaying greater degrees of insensitivity? Or do they think that she'll actually be intimidated into sexual acts? Or are they just all "I WILL NOT BE IGNORED, DAN"?
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
They figure they can wear her down until she says OK, just to get rid of him. Because these guys live in a fantasy world, and they saw it happen in a movie once—-most likely a porno flick.
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Susan M Gendron 3 years ago
When I was a teller MANY years ago, a learned to just start answering the question with a question. "Why do you ask"? They get the drift after a few times..
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
That is the BEST way to respond to invasive questions!!!
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Helen Haley 3 years ago
If you look more than 5 years older than her, just don't. If she looks underage, just don't. Even if you fall within correct parameters, obvious signs of distress shouldn't be ignored. Being creepy or overly persistent is threatening. Knock it off. If you must, just give them your card and say they're free to call you sometime to go on a date. The ball is now in there court, you haven't been threatening, and you haven't taken up more than your alotted time.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
NEVER do this. EVER. It is not acceptable anywhere, at any time.
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Caro Caro 3 years ago
We should put a sign on the doors "All security videos of creeps will be put online". Flippin Heck, that poor girl. If aunty caro caro had been there .... he would have had a problem: ME.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
I’m right there with you, Caro Caro! Happened to me a lot when I was younger too, and even as a teen and twenty something I wasn’t scared to loudly tell them to f**k off either. But, because you have to be at least basically nice to customers at work, I ended up with a stalker. Even changed jobs to get away from him—-but someone at my former job f*****g told him where my new job was! Luckily I lived in a resort, and he was from out of town, so I only had to be on guard in tourist season, plus the front office people at my new job became fiercely protective once I told them what the deal was with him. Funny how I was never in the office….He finally stopped stalking me when I got married. So, basically, it took me being in a legally committed relationship with another man for the asswipe to leave me alone! Anyway, now that I’m older (60), have perfected my angry Tasmanian Devil (the cartoon, I’m not Tasmanian) mom voice, and no longer have any f***s to give, I like to roll up and verbally pound on guys like this just like you do. Humiliating a creep loudly and publicly is so incredibly satisfying.
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Victoria Lenny 3 years ago
if ur a cis man and you came here to speak over women's lived experiences, maybe ask yourself why ur more concerned with upholding patriarchy than you are with protecting women.
Anissa Lim 3 years ago
This reminds me of when I was walking down to my car from my friend’s house at night & a group of 3 guys started asking me questions while I was waiting for the traffic light next to them. It was random question like where are you from, what’s your name etc but there was no conversation prior to that. I was uncomfortable af & ignored them, then they started saying ni hao, xie xie & random ass mandarin because I look Chinese but in fact I don’t understand mandarin or cantonese. They might think they’re being funny or cute but if you do that to a woman walking alone at night, it’s creepy as fk!!
-michael_the_trans_demon- 3 years ago
As I trans dude that looks female I have had more than enough experience with creeps like this. I learned three very, very important things: 1. Don't give out info that [creep] could use to find you. 2. If he doesn't leave after you rack up the price and hand him bag, call someone. It doesn't matter if it's your father or a emergency officer, call someone. 3. If you call a male friend to help you out, sometimes that works as well, especially if he [creep] thinks you're single. I hope this helps anyone who's been in a situation like this.
blugeagua 3 years ago
At least she gave him "info" that wasn't actually true.
Load More Replies... Seabeast 3 years ago
It's best not to answer any personal questions from someone like this. Just give him a blank stare when he asks things like "Where do you go to school". Girls are still brought up to be "nice" and to feel that they are obligated to answer any and all questions directed to them.
blugeagua 3 years ago
But there's a problem with that. Many times girls have ignored men, only for the men to get violently angry when we don't answer their questions. So it's more of a defense mechanism to engage because we don't want to get hurt or killed.
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Aisling Raye 3 years ago
I'm sitting here trying to think of a profession (that involves working with the public, so not a call center or lab research)that this doesn't happen in. I can only speak to working in medicine bc that's been most of my life. Yes I have to touch yoi to place EKG leads or draw blood or start an IV or splint or cast you (list that goes on and on)No that doesn't mean you can touch me too. Don't even get me started on working in physical therapy. If someone's job means they have to physically interact with you that is NOT AN INVITATION. Also, it must be so awful to have to work in a climbing gym or with zip lines. I can't even imagine helping someone in/out of one of those harnesses. Oh or working in shoe sales! I don't want to think about this anymore.
Otter 3 years ago
When I worked on the hospital floor occasionally I'd see GFs or wives who would stay with a hospitalized man 24/7. Half of them were just plain devoted, and the other half were there because the moment she left the room he'd be hitting on the younger nurse's aides.
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TrashPandaSociety 3 years ago
Many adult men, of all ages thinks that women are on planet Earth to service their needs. I am not here for you, dude. I am not here to cook and clean for you and to bring you a beer and a 'sammich'. I do not exist on planet Earth to suck your d**k and help you bust a nut. A lot of men get verbally and physically violent when a female tells them "no". This toxic masculinity needs to stop.
Vishy 3 years ago
That's exactly what I had in mind. If a woman being harassed at work or anywhere says no or something more extreme there are chances that the guy might hurt her physically. Being a man I have heard such ignorant assholes talk that way.
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Pearl 3 years ago
It IS that bad. For those of you say that he was "just hitting" on her, would you like being asked if you have social media, if you go to college, where that college is and how old you are? Honestly "hitting" in public (talking to random strangers who have nothing to do with you and asking them questions to see if they like you) should not even be a thing.
Lunar Bicycle 3 years ago
Just let a woman do her job! If I encounter an attractive cashier, I say the same old polite “hi, how’s your day going?, thanks, have a great day” things I say to every cashier. She doesn’t want to be hit on while she’s working! Or studying. Or riding the bus. Or working out. Or walking her dog. Or shopping. Or checking her mail. Or riding the elevator. Or buying lunch... (Can you sense the pattern here?)
Lauren Caswell 3 years ago (edited)
It takes just one bad experience of ignoring an aggressive male to scare you off ignoring them again. I made the mistake of ignoring a drunk man at some house party when I was walking past on the same street on my way home. I didn't make eye contact, kept walking, his attitude changed like a switch "You too good for me B!TCH?", and he came out into the street after me. I don't know what I would have done tbh: but I heard another voice shout "Bro leave her alone!" And I saw a dude grab him. I turned around and fast walked home(I cannot run) the last few blocks. Never again. We can't just ignore them. And thank u mystery dude who pulled his asshole friend into line.
Mazer 3 years ago
Job one: to be safe requires you reveal no personal information at al….NONE. The appropriate response to the first personal question is: “Sir, I am at work and don’t know you, I am not comfortable giving you any personal information Thank You for your interest, have a nice day” If the person persists, reply to every question after that with “have a nice day”
Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
There are probably a lot of people who wouldn't see anything inappropriate about the guy's behavior because he's not saying anything overtly sexual. I've worked as both a waitress and a retail employee, and you have to deal with all sorts of people - both men and women - who are socially inept, or lonely and looking for someone to chat with. And you have to treat them like customers, which means being pleasant and sometimes indulging them a bit. (And truthfully, sometimes you do meet cool people who you enjoy chatting with.) But that also makes it really uncomfortable when someone starts to cross a line. Or when they don't do anything technically wrong, but you're getting a weird vibe from them. Most employees do not receive any training on how to deal with this, and they don't know what do do because they don't know what kind of support they would get from their boss because there's so much grey area. (So glad I don't work in either of those industries any more.)
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Yes, it's wrong "Technically" and REALLY wrong. It's not the words, but it's still a verbal assault. You NEVER indulge this nonsense. Do not let them get past the first obnoxious word.
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago (edited)
Men who do this already know that it's wrong, they do it because they think they can get away with it; and they often do, because shitty leadership will often punish women who stand up for themselves. Also, anyone saying they would have 'told him off'? There are countless news stories of men who have stalked, assaulted, raped and murdered women for telling them no, and we have no way of knowing if the guy who is already making us uncomfortable is one of those guys. It's not worth the risk.
Boop le nose 3 years ago
Jeez, who goes to a store that a cashier has so much time for that convo cashier: Hi, starts scanning items me: Hi, starts loading shopping cart c: That's 350€ please m: Can I pay with a card? (obviously I can, but asking anyway), I pay. Ok thanks, have a nice evening/day/weekend c: Have a nice day Who the f**k has time for a convo as long as the one in this post lol
Quinn Nix 3 years ago (edited)
Say politely but firmly, "Sir, it's store policy for workers *not* to give personal information to customers. And we're being monitored." If the customer asks for details about that, say, "I'm not going to discuss it any further. I could lose my job."
Gabby M 3 years ago
I wish that men would stop taking up so much damn space. They're privileged and that's why they think they're entitled to a conversation with a woman. Ugh
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
True. And what are they doing about it?
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Sasy 3 years ago
When I was 14 working after school a drunk very well known actor came in to order some food, I was very calm and cool but inside was very excited to see this person in RL as I liked the show he was a police officer on and was married and like an older father age bracket and just an overall good man in the show. To then when asking him what sauce he would like with his order his reply was ' hot and spicy just like you' and leered at me coming forward over the counter. I gave him his meal and went to the back of the store until he left, I was mortified but still remember 35 years on how awful that felt. It happens a lot, but that particular case just made it horrible.
OhForSmegSake 3 years ago (edited)
Sometimes it's not a customer, sometimes it's your boss. The same boss who is (unbeknownst to you) underpaying you while you work you butt off but still barely make rent, cover your bills and feed yourself. Add in a shitty job market so you're too afraid to quit...
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 3 years ago
Ugh, I hate things like this. It's just plain disgusting. He should have taken the hint after all her short and uncomfortable answers. It hasn't happened yet to me, but I have a feeling it'll be soon and I have no idea what to do in these situations.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Practice selective deafness. When they babble, look them in the eye and say, "Sorry, what did you say?" ...///... Also, practice the dead stare. You may have to do this in a mirror for awhile. Look them in the eye, maintain eye contact, and say NOTHING. People get freaked out by this and most will leave.
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Gigantor the Bog Monster 2 years ago
This man here has no creepy friends because he has excised all of those cretins from his life, and at anytime he finds that someone else he is acquainted with is like that he informs them of their filth and goes no contact. I can admit that as a young man I fell into some of these activities but I grew up and changed my life and circle of associates accordingly.
Nightshade1972 2 years ago
When I was in my 20s, I was a grocery cashier. Most of my coworkers were teenagers, still in HS. One evening, at home, I got a phone call. Didn't recognize the Caller ID, didn't recognize the voice, didn't recognize the name. They finally told me that So-and-so, a fellow grocery employee, had given them my number. When I asked him why, he admitted that he lied and told Coworker that he "lost" my number, which is why Coworker gave it to him. I ended that conversation very quickly. Next time I saw Coworker at work, I told him what had happened, and told him that the guy had lied to him just to get my number. To his credit, Coworker was horrified, and apologized profusely. Never had any further dealings with the guy who called me--apparently he was let go not long thereafter, because he viewed his time at the grocery store not as "work," but as "free time to (try to) pick up cute chicks."
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
The man in the video believes that the entire world owes conversation and money to him.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Why, is that the script you use when you abuse women?
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Janet C 3 years ago (edited)
And this is the problem. She made it clear she was not interested and he kept on. She was AT WORK and he kept on. This is NOT okay. And are you really that clueless? Just read the other comments from women right here on this page.
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, but Roger, you’re a man. It’s so much different for a woman who may be smaller and not as strong as a man, and who has so much more to lose if he gets pissed off at her. Men don’t have to go through life being all too aware of that kind of constant threat. You have to keep in mind that women have actually been murdered for nothing more than turning down a man’s advances—-and it didn’t matter whether she knew him or he was some random stranger harassing her on the street.
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Jayne Kyra 3 years ago (edited)
Those saying "I would have told him off" and such... You may be able to get away with it as a man, but *many* women do not have that option unless we want to risk being shouted at and/or assaulted. We can only hope the creeps leave eventually or someone else makes them leave. (I worked at a bar when I was 18/19 and could write a book about the creeps as this guy.) EDIT: someone had their knickers in a bunch, so I changed it to MANY women. Happy?
Sneeze 3 years ago
Yeah I work at a zoo, (im in guest relations, 15 y/o) and I was selling tickets and this middle-aged man starts hitting on me. He's looking down at my shirt, and is asking all sorts of unnessicary questions to "get to know me" even after the transactions over and I say the "have a great day!" he even asks for my social media and number... (which this is my only sm) and I just told him "could you please step aside so I can help the next customer?" I deflected all of his questions or answered very vaguely. He got kicked out of the park later for smoking and not stopping on multiple occasions of being told not to.
Load More Replies... Otter 3 years ago
Why do guys do this? Do they really think that she'll change her mind if they just keep displaying greater degrees of insensitivity? Or do they think that she'll actually be intimidated into sexual acts? Or are they just all "I WILL NOT BE IGNORED, DAN"?
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
They figure they can wear her down until she says OK, just to get rid of him. Because these guys live in a fantasy world, and they saw it happen in a movie once—-most likely a porno flick.
Load More Replies... Susan M Gendron 3 years ago
When I was a teller MANY years ago, a learned to just start answering the question with a question. "Why do you ask"? They get the drift after a few times..
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
That is the BEST way to respond to invasive questions!!!
Load More Replies... Helen Haley 3 years ago
If you look more than 5 years older than her, just don't. If she looks underage, just don't. Even if you fall within correct parameters, obvious signs of distress shouldn't be ignored. Being creepy or overly persistent is threatening. Knock it off. If you must, just give them your card and say they're free to call you sometime to go on a date. The ball is now in there court, you haven't been threatening, and you haven't taken up more than your alotted time.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
NEVER do this. EVER. It is not acceptable anywhere, at any time.
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago
We should put a sign on the doors "All security videos of creeps will be put online". Flippin Heck, that poor girl. If aunty caro caro had been there .... he would have had a problem: ME.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
I’m right there with you, Caro Caro! Happened to me a lot when I was younger too, and even as a teen and twenty something I wasn’t scared to loudly tell them to f**k off either. But, because you have to be at least basically nice to customers at work, I ended up with a stalker. Even changed jobs to get away from him—-but someone at my former job f*****g told him where my new job was! Luckily I lived in a resort, and he was from out of town, so I only had to be on guard in tourist season, plus the front office people at my new job became fiercely protective once I told them what the deal was with him. Funny how I was never in the office….He finally stopped stalking me when I got married. So, basically, it took me being in a legally committed relationship with another man for the asswipe to leave me alone! Anyway, now that I’m older (60), have perfected my angry Tasmanian Devil (the cartoon, I’m not Tasmanian) mom voice, and no longer have any f***s to give, I like to roll up and verbally pound on guys like this just like you do. Humiliating a creep loudly and publicly is so incredibly satisfying.
Load More Replies... Victoria Lenny 3 years ago
if ur a cis man and you came here to speak over women's lived experiences, maybe ask yourself why ur more concerned with upholding patriarchy than you are with protecting women.
Anissa Lim 3 years ago
This reminds me of when I was walking down to my car from my friend’s house at night & a group of 3 guys started asking me questions while I was waiting for the traffic light next to them. It was random question like where are you from, what’s your name etc but there was no conversation prior to that. I was uncomfortable af & ignored them, then they started saying ni hao, xie xie & random ass mandarin because I look Chinese but in fact I don’t understand mandarin or cantonese. They might think they’re being funny or cute but if you do that to a woman walking alone at night, it’s creepy as fk!!
-michael_the_trans_demon- 3 years ago
As I trans dude that looks female I have had more than enough experience with creeps like this. I learned three very, very important things: 1. Don't give out info that [creep] could use to find you. 2. If he doesn't leave after you rack up the price and hand him bag, call someone. It doesn't matter if it's your father or a emergency officer, call someone. 3. If you call a male friend to help you out, sometimes that works as well, especially if he [creep] thinks you're single. I hope this helps anyone who's been in a situation like this.
blugeagua 3 years ago
At least she gave him "info" that wasn't actually true.
Load More Replies... Seabeast 3 years ago
It's best not to answer any personal questions from someone like this. Just give him a blank stare when he asks things like "Where do you go to school". Girls are still brought up to be "nice" and to feel that they are obligated to answer any and all questions directed to them.
blugeagua 3 years ago
But there's a problem with that. Many times girls have ignored men, only for the men to get violently angry when we don't answer their questions. So it's more of a defense mechanism to engage because we don't want to get hurt or killed.
Load More Replies... Aisling Raye 3 years ago
I'm sitting here trying to think of a profession (that involves working with the public, so not a call center or lab research)that this doesn't happen in. I can only speak to working in medicine bc that's been most of my life. Yes I have to touch yoi to place EKG leads or draw blood or start an IV or splint or cast you (list that goes on and on)No that doesn't mean you can touch me too. Don't even get me started on working in physical therapy. If someone's job means they have to physically interact with you that is NOT AN INVITATION. Also, it must be so awful to have to work in a climbing gym or with zip lines. I can't even imagine helping someone in/out of one of those harnesses. Oh or working in shoe sales! I don't want to think about this anymore.
Otter 3 years ago
When I worked on the hospital floor occasionally I'd see GFs or wives who would stay with a hospitalized man 24/7. Half of them were just plain devoted, and the other half were there because the moment she left the room he'd be hitting on the younger nurse's aides.
Load More Replies... TrashPandaSociety 3 years ago
Many adult men, of all ages thinks that women are on planet Earth to service their needs. I am not here for you, dude. I am not here to cook and clean for you and to bring you a beer and a 'sammich'. I do not exist on planet Earth to suck your d**k and help you bust a nut. A lot of men get verbally and physically violent when a female tells them "no". This toxic masculinity needs to stop.
Vishy 3 years ago
That's exactly what I had in mind. If a woman being harassed at work or anywhere says no or something more extreme there are chances that the guy might hurt her physically. Being a man I have heard such ignorant assholes talk that way.
Load More Replies... Pearl 3 years ago
It IS that bad. For those of you say that he was "just hitting" on her, would you like being asked if you have social media, if you go to college, where that college is and how old you are? Honestly "hitting" in public (talking to random strangers who have nothing to do with you and asking them questions to see if they like you) should not even be a thing.
Lunar Bicycle 3 years ago
Just let a woman do her job! If I encounter an attractive cashier, I say the same old polite “hi, how’s your day going?, thanks, have a great day” things I say to every cashier. She doesn’t want to be hit on while she’s working! Or studying. Or riding the bus. Or working out. Or walking her dog. Or shopping. Or checking her mail. Or riding the elevator. Or buying lunch... (Can you sense the pattern here?)
Lauren Caswell 3 years ago (edited)
It takes just one bad experience of ignoring an aggressive male to scare you off ignoring them again. I made the mistake of ignoring a drunk man at some house party when I was walking past on the same street on my way home. I didn't make eye contact, kept walking, his attitude changed like a switch "You too good for me B!TCH?", and he came out into the street after me. I don't know what I would have done tbh: but I heard another voice shout "Bro leave her alone!" And I saw a dude grab him. I turned around and fast walked home(I cannot run) the last few blocks. Never again. We can't just ignore them. And thank u mystery dude who pulled his asshole friend into line.
Mazer 3 years ago
Job one: to be safe requires you reveal no personal information at al….NONE. The appropriate response to the first personal question is: “Sir, I am at work and don’t know you, I am not comfortable giving you any personal information Thank You for your interest, have a nice day” If the person persists, reply to every question after that with “have a nice day”
Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
There are probably a lot of people who wouldn't see anything inappropriate about the guy's behavior because he's not saying anything overtly sexual. I've worked as both a waitress and a retail employee, and you have to deal with all sorts of people - both men and women - who are socially inept, or lonely and looking for someone to chat with. And you have to treat them like customers, which means being pleasant and sometimes indulging them a bit. (And truthfully, sometimes you do meet cool people who you enjoy chatting with.) But that also makes it really uncomfortable when someone starts to cross a line. Or when they don't do anything technically wrong, but you're getting a weird vibe from them. Most employees do not receive any training on how to deal with this, and they don't know what do do because they don't know what kind of support they would get from their boss because there's so much grey area. (So glad I don't work in either of those industries any more.)
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Yes, it's wrong "Technically" and REALLY wrong. It's not the words, but it's still a verbal assault. You NEVER indulge this nonsense. Do not let them get past the first obnoxious word.
Load More Replies... Tracy Wallick 3 years ago (edited)
Men who do this already know that it's wrong, they do it because they think they can get away with it; and they often do, because shitty leadership will often punish women who stand up for themselves. Also, anyone saying they would have 'told him off'? There are countless news stories of men who have stalked, assaulted, raped and murdered women for telling them no, and we have no way of knowing if the guy who is already making us uncomfortable is one of those guys. It's not worth the risk.
Boop le nose 3 years ago
Jeez, who goes to a store that a cashier has so much time for that convo cashier: Hi, starts scanning items me: Hi, starts loading shopping cart c: That's 350€ please m: Can I pay with a card? (obviously I can, but asking anyway), I pay. Ok thanks, have a nice evening/day/weekend c: Have a nice day Who the f**k has time for a convo as long as the one in this post lol
Quinn Nix 3 years ago (edited)
Say politely but firmly, "Sir, it's store policy for workers *not* to give personal information to customers. And we're being monitored." If the customer asks for details about that, say, "I'm not going to discuss it any further. I could lose my job."
Gabby M 3 years ago
I wish that men would stop taking up so much damn space. They're privileged and that's why they think they're entitled to a conversation with a woman. Ugh
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
True. And what are they doing about it?
Load More Replies... Sasy 3 years ago
When I was 14 working after school a drunk very well known actor came in to order some food, I was very calm and cool but inside was very excited to see this person in RL as I liked the show he was a police officer on and was married and like an older father age bracket and just an overall good man in the show. To then when asking him what sauce he would like with his order his reply was ' hot and spicy just like you' and leered at me coming forward over the counter. I gave him his meal and went to the back of the store until he left, I was mortified but still remember 35 years on how awful that felt. It happens a lot, but that particular case just made it horrible.
OhForSmegSake 3 years ago (edited)
Sometimes it's not a customer, sometimes it's your boss. The same boss who is (unbeknownst to you) underpaying you while you work you butt off but still barely make rent, cover your bills and feed yourself. Add in a shitty job market so you're too afraid to quit...
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 3 years ago
Ugh, I hate things like this. It's just plain disgusting. He should have taken the hint after all her short and uncomfortable answers. It hasn't happened yet to me, but I have a feeling it'll be soon and I have no idea what to do in these situations.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Practice selective deafness. When they babble, look them in the eye and say, "Sorry, what did you say?" ...///... Also, practice the dead stare. You may have to do this in a mirror for awhile. Look them in the eye, maintain eye contact, and say NOTHING. People get freaked out by this and most will leave.
Load More Replies... Gigantor the Bog Monster 2 years ago
This man here has no creepy friends because he has excised all of those cretins from his life, and at anytime he finds that someone else he is acquainted with is like that he informs them of their filth and goes no contact. I can admit that as a young man I fell into some of these activities but I grew up and changed my life and circle of associates accordingly.
Nightshade1972 2 years ago
When I was in my 20s, I was a grocery cashier. Most of my coworkers were teenagers, still in HS. One evening, at home, I got a phone call. Didn't recognize the Caller ID, didn't recognize the voice, didn't recognize the name. They finally told me that So-and-so, a fellow grocery employee, had given them my number. When I asked him why, he admitted that he lied and told Coworker that he "lost" my number, which is why Coworker gave it to him. I ended that conversation very quickly. Next time I saw Coworker at work, I told him what had happened, and told him that the guy had lied to him just to get my number. To his credit, Coworker was horrified, and apologized profusely. Never had any further dealings with the guy who called me--apparently he was let go not long thereafter, because he viewed his time at the grocery store not as "work," but as "free time to (try to) pick up cute chicks."
CodeineDreaming Future 2 years ago
The man in the video believes that the entire world owes conversation and money to him.
Aunt Messy 3 years ago
Why, is that the script you use when you abuse women?
Load More Replies... Janet C 3 years ago (edited)
And this is the problem. She made it clear she was not interested and he kept on. She was AT WORK and he kept on. This is NOT okay. And are you really that clueless? Just read the other comments from women right here on this page.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, but Roger, you’re a man. It’s so much different for a woman who may be smaller and not as strong as a man, and who has so much more to lose if he gets pissed off at her. Men don’t have to go through life being all too aware of that kind of constant threat. You have to keep in mind that women have actually been murdered for nothing more than turning down a man’s advances—-and it didn’t matter whether she knew him or he was some random stranger harassing her on the street.
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