Without even mentioning who’s who, She couldn’t of made it more obvious who’s the step kid in the situation and which ones her precious cherub who deserves everything 😆

YTA plain and simple

Love that nobody comes back to the fact that the daughter had to actively snoop to find the candy, so mom is not only rewarding the tantrum but also the prior invasion of privacy that initiated the little Karenette's tantrum...

YTA. Being a little crybaby does not counter entitledness or stealing.

This is a perfect example of why blended families can be so difficult. My ex used to target my sons just like this and favor her own kids. She is an ex for that exact reason.

YTA, mom!! This was an opportunity to teach your daughter about how the "real world" works in terms of getting what she wants, and you blew it! Instead of threatening your stepson to make him share his snacks, which he's bought with HIS own money, you should've backed him up, saying to daughter, "Honey, that's his, he bought it, he said no, move on." You also want to instill in your little girl the value of work, by teaching her how people are paid for the work they do. Start by having her do chores around the house (folding laundry or helping you change baby's diaper, for example), then pay her a couple of bucks per chore. Then teach her how to save some money, whether it's opening a bank account or having a piggy bank at home to put spare change in. That way, she'll have money to buy her own snacks and not bug her brother so much!

You taught your daughter if she comes running to you whining, she gets what she wants. You need to parent better.

This reminds me so much of one of my aunts. I had bought myself some snacks and one of my aunts, one of my uncles and my cousin was visiting. I was eating some of my snacks and my cousin asked for some so I gave her some. A few days later I was snacking again and she asked for some. I told her no (I can't remember why I think I just didn't feel like sharing) and her mom got so mad at me. And she asked one of my other aunts to get my cousin some snacks and told my cousin not to share with me. (My cousin shared anyway because she knew that I had shared and she understood that you don't always have to share your stuff) lol

Sorry, not sorry, but what a b***h! Yeah sure, the son could have been nice to his sister and shared his candy, but he bought it himself and didn’t feel like it then. Maybe he’s used to the sister getting preferred treatment - that’s what I’m sensing here. He’s just wanted to keep something for himself. She’s a little brat for snitching and causing a ruckus. That’s how she gets her own way I see.

I'm guessing the kid gets that a lot already. No better way to drive a wedge between siblings.

I hope she learned her lesson. He bought those snacks for himself with the money he earned at his job. Her son is not legally obliged to give his little sister something that he bought for himself with his own money. The Parents are legally obliged to provide their underage children with necessities like food and shelter, not doing so is considered child neglect.

YTA, plain and simple.

Sorry mom, YTA. You're the adult. You could have handled that better. First, your 8 yr old daughter had no right to pick thru a bag that your step son brought home. Second, you allowed her to be a spoiled brat and cry when she got told no. She's old enough to understand that not everything is hers. You could have said: "that bag belongs to X. I'll get some candy for you when I go shopping." And then do it. Third, you had no right to bring up the food you pay for as parents. That's your job, to feed your family, whether they're your biological children or not. So that was a p*ss-poor argument to make. **Fourth, maybe he could have given a little something to his sister. Just a token. Even tho he bought it, he doesn't have to be so selfish about it to an 8yr. Next time, don't let her see it. Take it directly to his room. Blended families can be a hard adjustment. You aren't making it any easier.

It bothers me she didn't say his little sister or refer to them as siblings. (Instead her daughter) it also bothers me that he didn't want to share with his little sister. In our house if ur not going to share u don't eat what u have in front of someone else. (not saying he was doing that but it is rude not to offer if u r) He may just not have wanted to open them yet and may have been planning on sharing when he did or eating them in his room) U also don't get ur way at that age by crying for something. Although it is ok for a child to cry if they're disappointed. Give them a hug and let them know u understand they're disappointed but don't give them what they r crying for. That is a (in mommy language) BIG no no !!! Just "snacks" for thought lol

Jesus I don't even have to read this all the way through to know who's the bad guy here. He bought it, he keeps it. End of story. Your kids gonna hate you later in life.

Not a good idea. All you have achieved is to teach your daughter how to blackmail people into getting what she wants.

YTA all day long who tells a 17 year old child that they can keep him from eating their food when you're responsible for them. You can also go to jail for neglect. She's stupid and needs to grow up. She argued with a 17 year old than threaten him. She would have hated me I would have said no punish me than see if I care she still won't be getting none of my candy. As soon as my dad got home I would have told him and would have been off of punishment. Who threatens a kid to share their stuff with another kid. That's call being a bully. She used her authority to get her way for her child. If you want your child to have candy than keep some in the house for them.

I can't choose. I mean that the mother could be tired. I mean with a 7-month year old whos TEETHING that can be pretty tiring. So I can't choose!

I'm surprised you didn't insist he share his money with her as well. Tell us you don't care for this kid without telling us you don't care for him. In my book, your husband is TA for not making sure the woman he's marrying will accept and love his son. Now the poor kid has to deal with a stepmother and spoilt step sibling who threatens his livelihood, sense of security and safety. I feel sorry for the stepson to have to deal with all a that till age 18. Do better.

Yta.

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What ever happened to sharing would it killed him to part with some

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They just snacks ?? I don't see the big deal. Had him a 5er or 10er ...actually 20 is better stopp whining an go get more jesus

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So he buys anything he wants. Now that he’s working who should pay for his haircuts, clothes, transportation to work, college in the future? My brother went to work on his 16th birthday. After school, weekends, vacation time. Dad explained he would now be responsible for his haircuts, and that what Dad had been putting in a bank account every week since he was born would from then on go into an account for me. That they couldn’t afford to do it for me when I was born, this seemed only fair. It didn’t make brother jump for joy. But he said ok. He graduated college Cum Laude, after continuing to work all those hours throughout college too. Paid for everything, including clothing and transportation. Graduated with more money in the bank then was there at the beginning. Didn’t waste money on toys or snacks. But if he did buy some he’d have given some to me. He wasn’t selfish, just a bit tight fisted. My folks were just young marrieds during the Great Depression and it really affected Mom.

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I'm gonna say the parents are the AH's, but for a different reason. Now is the time to teach the son about savings, budgeting, and investments. He can still purchase his fun and treats with his money, but why isn't he being taught about fiscal responsibly?

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So two ah here. 17 yr old and stepmom. Advice next time let 8yr old tell daddy and cry to him about it dad's don't like their kids crying or at least I don't. Anyway I said ah but it's not really that so much as it could have been handled better. My 8 yr old is stingy sometimes her 6yr old brother gets that it was her money. So honestly dad's an ah too for being unable to step into the shoes of the woman he is supposed to love to see that he would probably have done same thing to stop crying anyway next time put it in her dad see how he handles it. Bc dad. Backed up son it will happen again. GL