It just so happens that nothing in this world is perfect, and very often marriages break up and new families are formed on their basis. True, the relationship between stepparents and children is not always so cloudless – and most often it depends on the adults.

Since the time of the fairy tale about Cinderella, we are all well-acquainted with this quite traditional story, and from year to year it is repeated in a variety of circumstances. For example, like in this tale from the user u/Street-Rise-2663.

The author of the post has two kids with her husband and a 17 Y.O. stepson from the man’s former relationship

Image credits: Iam Elago (not the actual photo)

The teen recently got a part-time job at Starbucks so he usually spends money on gaming equipment, clothes and snacks

Image credits: Street-Rise-2663

The boy recently brought some snacks home and didn’t want to give any candy to his 8 Y.O. half-sister despite her begging

Image credits: slgckgc (not the actual photo)

Image credits: Street-Rise-2663

The woman ended up threatening to ground the stepson if he didn’t share, and both the boy and his dad were upset with this

So, the Original Poster (OP) says that she has been married for many years, and she and her husband have an eight-year-old daughter as well as a seven-month-old baby. In addition, the OP’s husband also has a 17-year-old son from his previous relationship. Around Christmas, the teen got a part-time job at Starbucks, and since then he has been trying to spend the money he earns on gaming equipment, games and clothes, and also on buying snacks.

One beautiful day, the teenager came home from work with a big pack of snacks, and the author’s daughter, seeing some candy there, asked for one for herself. The boy refused, saying that he bought them for himself with his own money, but the girl continued begging him. As a result, a quarrel broke out, and the OP’s daughter ran in tears to complain to her mom.

She had just put a teething baby to bed (those who have encountered this period in the kids’ life will understand easily…), so she wanted nothing but silence. The woman demanded that her stepson share some candy with his half-sister, and when he repeated his arguments, she replied that, for example, she and his dad also buy groceries with their own money and, following the teen’s logic, then they should not share with him either.

The fight continued until finally the OP threatened to ground the stepson unless he shared the candy with the girl. He eventually obeyed, however, apparently, he complained to his dad, because in the evening the author of the post happened to have an unpleasant conversation with her spouse, who was indignant that his son was treated like a small child, and that the money he earns belongs to him and only him. However, the original poster is not that sure that she is wrong in this situation.

Image credits: Bradley Gordon (not the actual photo)

The situation here is, by the way, very ambiguous. On the one hand, our entire culture and history encourages teenagers to make money from an early age by telling various inspiring stories about John D. Rockefeller, Thomas Edison and Steve Jobs. On the other hand, there are directly opposite stories – for example, about Macaulay Culkin and his father, who actually ruined his son’s career after running his son’s money.

“[Teens] need that power, that statement of being an individual,” US News quote Pegi Burdick, an LA-based financial coach. “Parents need to have boundaries and know when to keep silent.” Moreover, according to experts, if you want your teenager to learn how to properly manage their money in the future, you should close your eyes (and mouth as well) if these expenses seem stupid to you. In the end, the experience gained by personal example is assimilated much better than someone else’s.

Admittedly, most people in the comments also fully share the idea that the teen’s money is his choice, and that if parents are obliged to provide food for their children, then a teenager should absolutely not share with his half-sister if he does not want to. The general message of most commenters is: “Don’t be the Evil Stepmother.” Although some folks in the comments say sadly: “Too late…” So what do you think of this tale’s characters?

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However most folks in the comments sided with the author’s stepson, urging her not to be the ‘evil stepmother’

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