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Love makes the world go round. And friendships make life more bearable and fun. Research shows that stable, healthy friendships are beneficial to our well-being and can even help us to live longer, healthier lives. Many of us would love for our friendships to last forever. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.
Best friends part for many reasons. Sometimes they drift apart, other times they cut ties after an argument, or one does something totally unforgivable. If you've ever lost a bestie, you might know the heartbreak can be similar to that of losing a lover. When someone went online and asked "how did you lose your best friend?", they were inundated with answers. From "blurred lines", to infidelity, to disability, Bored Panda has gathered the most raw and honest responses.
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#1
It was October 16, 2015. I was working from home that day when I saw a call from him at around 9:15am. I had to ignore the call because I was in an online meeting.
At 2pm my Dad calls my phone, which is unusual since he knows I'm working. I answer it.
He is speaking quietly and very calmly. He says, "Son, I love you very much. I have some terrible news. Jared passed away this morning." Jared's wife was calling me from his phone to say she found him dead.
I couldn't process what he was saying. I said, "That's not funny. Jared, his wife and me and my wife were supposed to meet up next weekend for dinner."
Jared had sleep apnea surgery that same week. He had taken a painkiller and benadryl together. It stopped his heart.
He died 2 days before his 40th birthday.
We were friends since grade school. We did everything together, he was my brother. He was the best man at my wedding earlier that year. I had just shared my son's heartbeat with him via a text message 2 days before. Jared was so excited to be his crazy uncle.
I miss him every single day.
#3
Depression. I pulled away from everyone because I didn't want to inflict myself on them.
ETA: Holy c**p, I'm so sorry so many of us are in the same boat. ☹
Here's to hoping there's a light at the end of this tunnel.
John Mosley 1 month ago
I lost nearly all of my friends this way. The depression lasted several years so I understand. I'm doing better now and I really appreciate the two guys who checked in on me while I was going through it. It seemed like when I was in it deeply and feeling worthless and like no one loved me one or the other would call. Life savers!
Regardless of the reason, losing a best friend can be devastating. That person was likely part of your life for a while. Someone you shared your innermost thoughts, fears and secrets with. You might have laughed and cried together. And suddenly, they're gone.
Therapists say the brain interprets loss as emotional trauma. There are physical symptoms that come with it. You might not want to eat. Your memory, sleep, and general brain function could be affected. The trauma could last months, or even years.
#5
I started using a wheelchair.
I learned the hard way that most friends just can't deal with that. Almost all of my friends today never knew me as a walking person.
#6
Best friend/room mate and I were watching quantum leap (episode "So help me God") when he suddenly jumped up and yelled "OH F**K"! He promptly collapsed and hit the floor. I tried to catch him before he bounced off the coffee table but ended up going down with him. Realized when doing CPR he was dead. Hypertropic cardiomyopathy, a birth defect, his heart exploded basically. He had strep for a couple weeks and was struggling with it, this ultimately is what caused his heart to give. When he left the apartment that morning to goto class I remember thinking "Geez he looks horrible, he might die..." Drank for a year solid after that.
Edit: Just realized it has been 16 years to the exact day. No wonder why I'm not sleeping...
Display_Name 1 month ago
I was born with a heart defect as well. Any illness/infection is 3x as bad as someone without a heart defect. I've almost unalived from a kidney infection. I went to sleep feeling fine and woke up in the middle of the night with a high grade fever. Another time a brown recluse bit my lower leg. The infection ran straight through me and added a boil the size of a golf ball several feet from the the actual puncture wound. The nurse said if I waited one more day then there would be no use in them lancing it because I wouldn't be alive.
There are various symptoms of grief that go with the loss of a bestie. You might experience confusion, anger, guilt, sadness, shock, denial and even physical pains before you find yourself accepting the situation. It's important to note that acceptance doesn't mean you no longer grieve the loss, or miss your friend. It means you've decided to move on with your life and cope.
#7
Not me but my son. Him and his high school sweetheart broke up after 4 years together and his best friend immediately swooped in on the girl. Kinda a gut punch after my son had leaned on the best friend in times of trouble with the girl. Turned out he was simply setting up his own hustle. Then to top it all off, the now former best friend and former girlfriend went to work on the rest of the friend group to ice out my son. Damn teens can be cruel as hell. He’s got a great attitude about the whole mess though, he says “those were high school friends, on to better things”.
#8
I noticed that he never came to my place to catch up. I stopped going over to his place to see how long until he noticed....
It's been 5 years now 🤷♂️.
AtMostAFabulist 1 month ago
Been there. I realized I would always make the plans to get together. We even went to the same community College for a while. I stopped making an effort and that was pretty much it. I got a letter from them like 5 + years later after i moved out of state, saying it would be a shame to end our long friendship. I steamed open the letter to read it, sealed it back up and wrote return to sender on the envelope.
#9
Car accident in 1988. Still call her Mum on birthdays, Mothers Day etc.
She was 5 days younger than me. We always said we'd do a double 21st. She only made it to 19
Miss you, Tracey.
“Prioritizing self-care, revisiting positive memories, and leaning on your support network can help you navigate this challenging period,” reads one therapy website. It's not unusual for friendships to end. Friends will come and go throughout our lives. But when a friend becomes like family, it's a different story altogether. So it goes without saying that some friendships will take longer to get over than others.
#10
I got tired of it being all about her all of the time. I couldn't tell her anything in my life good
or bad because she would make it about herself.
Lynn Donovan 1 month ago
The same happened to me. We spent all college years talking about anything but serious stuff. She was very childish and fixated on a lot of weird things but I indulged her, because she was younger than me. When I had a burnout, she made it all about herself somehow. The straw that broke the camel back: we were hanging out at my place and I received a call from my partner. His grandmother had just passed. I was distraught and told my friend. Her answer? "Oh my god, it's my fault !" She had this weird thing going where she thought somebody she knew would die every year during her birthday month. No, she never met my partner's grandmother but still, it was her fault and she made it all about her. I told her I was driving her home (she didn't drive) so I could be with my partner. I ghosted her after that. I keep thinking about her sometimes and realized that she may have been on the spectrum and I felt guilty but I never found the courage to reconnect.
#11
Eh he stole my idea and took the credit. A*****e didn't even admit it to me. He got hit by a bus tho, and I lost my bus driving licence.
#12
He k*lled himself. i often go and meet up with his little brother and we play with his toy cars. i think it takes my mind off it as much as his.
"After losing a friend, allow yourself to grieve as you would for a family member," adds the site. "While some may not view the loss of friendship as equivalent to more accepted forms of grief, your experience is valid. Permitting yourself time and space to heal is essential.”
#13
I moved out of our apartment when I got tired of his boyfriend doing nothing but play League of Legends all day long. I was the one paying for the internet and transferred it to my new apartment, and decided not to share the login information so they could use the crappy xfinity open internet, and apparently that's all it took. From that moment on I was the enemy.
I learned my lesson in just how little I was valued in that friendship.
#14
Codependency. I became basically obsessed with her and it just became too toxic. I had to cut it off because it was eating me up inside and she didn’t deserve how I was treating her.
#15
I realized that I’m always the first one reaching out.. I stopped messaging them to see if they’d notice or try to reach out to me.. well it’s been two years.
Upstaged75 1 month ago
This is literally the exact same thing that happened to me. We were best friends since 5th grade. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding. She lives far away but I know she visits her family for the holidays - in the same town where I live. One year she just didn't reach out when she was here. So I decided to see how long it would take if I didn't contact her first. It's been over 2 years now. I've stopped caring. There are other people in my life who actually want to be there.
Sometimes you might think you've healed and moved on, only to be triggered by something that breaks your heart all over again. Birthdays, holidays, or even places could cause sadness. You should try plan ahead for those circumstances if you can. So that you're better able to manage your emotions.
If you ever feel like you can't cope, it's best to seek professional help from a therapist. Have you ever gone through a bad break-up with a bestie? What did you do to help you cope? Let us know in the comments.
#16
His wife tried to sleep with me. I didn’t let it happen and I told him about it. They reconciled and had more kids, then it got weird whenever I was around so we drifted apart.
Cooking Panda 1 month ago
Having kids doesn't fix your relationship. If anything, they add to the burden
#17
Best friend is gay. Known him for about 35 years. Marries a woman who is a total religious psycho. She even lied to him for years about her age before they married. Always tells him what to do and he’s the type who can’t say no. She finds gay porn on his phone and makes him delete all social media, cut off ties to everyone he knows (outside of family), get STD tested, confess to their preacher and his parents, makes him get a new phone and puts tracking software on it.
I haven’t seen or heard from him in nearly a year and have no idea how to contact him. He should have never kept secrets from her, but he should have never married her in the first place. I wish there was something I could do.
#18
He stayed up all night putting finishing touches on a senior term paper in high school. The deadline for the paper was unforgiving and at least one person missed the deadline every year. Paper was worth 50% of the term grade. He was a smart guy, top 5 in a class of 500.
Anyway, he didn’t show up at school the next day. Around mid day they announced his death due to a traffic accident on his way to school.
I’m not sure he was my best friend though he was a very good friend, but I’m pretty sure I was his best friend. Good guy, lousy ending. RIP RC.
#19
Best friends since we were 12.
Best Man at my wedding when we were 28.
Day after the wedding he never spoke to me again.
No explanation. Calls and texts went unanswered.
He would avoid being at any social event I would be at, which was a few because we had the same circle of friends.
Tried for two years to keep that friendship alive.
#20
I’m a Leo. My freind saw a STUPID A*S ZODIAC TIKTOKER saying that Leo’s are the most dangerous to be freinds with. Bam. Gone. M.i.a.
#22
My ex wife. Even after we split we stayed close, co-parenting, helping each other out. She died 3.5 years ago. I could have made peace I think but after her death and our daughter was living with me full time I found out about how abusive my ex had been to her when I was around and it felt like losing her all over. Like I thought I knew who she was in the 13 years we'd had both together and separated, but it turns out I knew nothing. Now I'm just angry about it, like how dare you get to do this s**t and then leave me to clean up your mess. How dare you have peace when my daughter has nothing but struggles and therapy. I fele like we were robbed of the good person, the good mother I thought she was.
Ciaran McK 1 month ago
As hard as it seems its best to let that stuff go and concentrate fully on your daughter which it seems you are doing anyway. Best of luck to you both going forward
#23
He married a girl who was a psychology major and she used that major to manipulate and control him. When they had a kid she was threatening him daily to take their daughter and leave forever if he so much as texted his friends. Its been about four years now and I miss the guy, but the poor sap made his decisions and I constantly wonder how miserable he is.
#24
I was six months pregnant at the time and all I could think was "do I really have the bandwidth to take care of two babies?" I haven't spoken to her since
#25
Honestly, they just expected more out of me than I was capable of giving. Just blurred lines and unrealistic expectations.
Orwell 1 month ago
As someone on the receiving end, this sucks. After 30 years of sharing, and several of giving every bit of emotional and financial support I could, when I had a complete breakdown, she was too busy 'cleaning her house' to even respond to my calls and messages. It's wrong to bail on people when things get hard.
#26
I met him on Fortnite, then we found out we only lived an hour away from each other's houses. He was my best friend for 2 years, then sadly he died from a car accident involving a moose.
#27
I finally realised she'd been treating me like s**t for years and I deserved better.
#28
She passed away aged 26.
Cancer's a b***h.
Edit: thanks everyone. My friend was the best person in the world. Was lucky to have her in my life even if that time was cut short. Sorry to anyone else who's had to deal with the loss of someone to cancer. Here's hoping that one day there will be a cure.
Also thanks for the silver. No idea what that actually means but appreciate it nevertheless (:.
DuckDuckGooseberry 1 month ago
It wasn't cancer, but I lost a very close friend suddenly a couple of years ago. It feels like the sparkle left my life then, it hasn't come back yet. The world feels a bit more grey... I'm not sad all the time or anything, but there's a definite difference looking at "me before" and "me now"
#29
No idea. He slowly stopped answering calls, texts, emails.... his wife, even more so. I'd occasionally stop by to see them and everything appeared to be OK. They never stopped to see us, even though his mother lived just a few miles away. I just quit trying.
The Cute Cat 1 month ago
A friend in need is a friend indeed. It is hard to keep up friendship when we have no similar thing to do..
#30
F*ck that b!!!
She stopped talking to me because I confronted her about the ways she was abusing my friendship.
I let her move in with me because she said she was in dire straits with her husband, even though my house was already crowded. She moved in, and would just party every weekend.
She would try to win over my friends, by embarrassing me in front of them.
I could go on and on, I’m so happy she’s out of my life!!
#31
No jokes.This guy was always naive as hell and I accepted it.But one day he asked me to talk with him without phones on street.Warning,dumbest part starts,he said that his grandma told him that he is Stalin grandson.Then he said he wants ro start a revolution against Putin and he wants me to participate in that.I refused,and he stoped being my friend.(Sorry for my bad english,as you could understand,Im from Russia)
P.S about the phones part.He thout goverment can listen to us through them and get rid of him if they hear the revolution part.
#32
He got married, and she doesn't allow him to hang out with anyone without her.
#33
Best friend/ love of my life. She took her own life and left me, month before we had a miscarriage and it took a toll on her mental and her demons just got the best of her. Can’t wait to see her and my unborn child after this.
#34
He stole from uh...everyone.
He took my money twice, once straight up taking the whole a*s wallet too. On another occasion he wanted to "borrow" my Gameboy Color and my extra copy of Pokemon Yellow. Important detail is the quotes around borrow. M**********r never brought it back, probably never played it.
Supposedly he did s**t like this for d***s. But on other occasions he has stolen things just for the f**k of it, so who knows.
I was not the only victim.
#35
Sudden brain aneurysm at 42.
Steve Robert 1 month ago
I lost my soulmate exactly the same way. We had know each other since I was ten and she was eight. Last thing she said to me was " You know I've always loved you.". Went to bed and she never woke up. But every day I say those last words.
#36
She went through a terrible depression and processing severe trauma, and I didn't understand how to truly support her.
I hope to be in touch with her again so I can apologize. Completely lost contact.
#37
Her boyfriend hit on me quite aggressively and I told her and she didn't believe me until he did it to another one of her friends a few months later.
#38
Got them a job at the place I worked for a long time. They made him a supervisor and it went to his head. Worst mistake I had made in a long time.
#39
I took her for granted. I figured that she would always be there. I wasn’t taking care of myself and I didn’t see how that was impacting her. She left because of it. We were in love but we were also each other’s best friend. I wish I didn’t lose her but it’s taught me so much about myself that I’m glad she did it. I’m doing really well now. I wish things could have been different but I wouldn’t have learned any other way. The hard road is s****y but it can be the best way to grow as a person.
#41
He passed away in a car accident in 2019 right before his first college football game, the only best friend i truly had. i was about to travel to his school to see him play..then i got the call that he passed.
#42
This was back when we where 13 or so
She wanted me to drop stuff I liked to do because it was to nerdy. Being involved with the scouts, reading, drawing all not cool apparently
We went to different high schools and she was embarrassed of me with her new friends.
I did not do that and I haven't seen her in years. We spend pretty much our whole childhood together.
#43
Every conversation and activity was them-centric. When I had a bad day, they would turn it to a story about themself; they wouldn't want to go for a hike but would goad me into paying $40 to see a (s****y) play; they had a crush on every opp-sex friend of ours and got upset if I hung out with the friends solo.
I told them a very gentle version of that after having been best friends for about 7 years and their reply was "Nope, I don't do that.".
#44
Friend moved to the other side of the planet, with their spouse, to be nearer to both their families. I never understood what real friendship was before friend was in my life; and now they're alive, but not here.
#45
He became a conspiracy theorist. I called him out on the horse s**t and told me to "F**k off! I don't want to talk to you, I don't want to see you! I'M F****N' DONE WITH YOU!!".
#46
I’d say I’ve had three “best friends” I’ve lost over my lifetime.
First one: I was the a*****e.
Second one: He was the a*****e.
Third one: Just drifted apart as our lives went our separate ways.
#47
Slowly everybody just grew apart.
#48
Our parents got married for 3 years and then they divorced and now i don't have a best friend 🥲.
#49
Well, we just stopped talking. I guess I was a toxic guy and took her for granted.
Honestly, she listened to everything I just said and I barely asked how she was. And the main problem was that it was covid times so no meeting. I mean even if it weren't covid, she lived in an entirely different city. But ya, she was an extroverted person and liked to talk. We just never talked on the phone cause I really felt uncomfortable calling anyone but my dad. But when she did call me, we would talk for hours like literally 1 or 2 hours. And I would just be a s**t guy and just never bother to ask how she is or if everything is fine I did but I would forget stuff. Once I learned from my mistakes, she just stopped talking to me.
She constantly tried to pull me out of my comfort zone and be the most therapeutic friend possible, Praising me for everything i did. And I am not gonna lie, the second part is more true than the first one.
I actually have a constant reminder of her on me so I will never forget her. I have this small fine scar on my right hand that, she accidentally scratched me with her long nail. I thought it would heal but I never thought it would leave a mark. It did. I guess in a way even she did.
#50
He was already passed out drunk himself so he likely didn't feel anything, but it was still such a terrible senseless way to go. That was 10 years ago last June. He was barely 21, the nicest guy you'd ever meet, and one hell of a bassist. Miss ya, Jake
IDK_Something 1 month ago
This one confused me so I followed the link and found this: "Similar story here. He was the passenger in a single-car accident. The driver was drunk, showing off, and drifting on an unfamiliar dirt road in California. They found the car at the bottom of a 70-foot cliff. Everyone in the car walked away except my friend, who died instantly. He was already passed out drunk himself so he likely didn’t feel anything, but it was still such a terrible senseless way to go. That was 10 years ago last June. He was barely 21, the nicest guy you’d ever meet, and one hell of a bassist. Miss ya, Jake."
What do you think ?
Keith Lancaster 1 month ago
I was nineteen and very depressed. I told what I thought was my best friend that I was Gay and asked him not to tell anybody. He told everybody we knew and suddenly I had no friends at all. He tried to contact me on FB a couple of years ago as though nothing had happened. Don't think so, mate.
DC 1 month ago
None of these were your friends, actually. Let me have a guess ... strictly religious environment, with all the bigotry and sweeping-under that just seems to come naturally with it...?
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J. Maxx 1 month ago
I was a newcomer to the friend group. Gregory was a charismatic, fantastic sweetie that everyone loved. Greg had HIV that turned into AIDS about a year into my being a part of the group. Everyone else had known each other for years. When Gregory was in the hospital the first time, he told his doctor, nurse me, and my best friend that should he get to the hospice stage, he wanted to die at my home. I was floored and a little overcome but so touched. I was living at home with my Mom, sister, and stepfather. All knew Greg, and all agreed that if he needed hospice, he was very welcome to come to our home. One of his oldest friends found out and called his estranged family. A family that Gregory had had no contact with (due to them throwing him out when he was barely a teen due to him being Gay) in many, many years. Gregory was furious, and the next thing I knew, I was shut out. Greg died alone in the hospital.
Kombatbunni 1 month ago
He had plenty of time for his gaming friends but no spare time to see me, for the last five years. This year I quit trying and said see ya later. Almost 20 years of friendship ended, right before my birthday :(
Pheolei 1 month ago
I walked away from religion and because of that she thought I had no morals? A different friend she was to toxic and was ruining my relationship with my husband and lastly I found out this "friend" was talking behind my back and hated the people I care about the most. I have a very bad habit of picking out friends who are similar to family members that has caused a lot of trauma growing up.
KillerKiwi 1 month ago
Yeah generally people who leave their religion eat orphans. But seriously, I hate it when people just assume that since you’re not religious/as religious as they are that it means you have no morals. My mom deals with this a lot where we live due to the large population of Mormons. She’s got a pixie cut and doesn’t dress like Mormon women, and they like to automatically assume they know her just based on her looks and that she isn’t a Mormon. Sorry this happened to you
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Captive 1 month ago
When I was studying I met this dude and we became best friends. After a year he changed so much. He got jealous of the female attention that I was getting instead of him since he was used to that before me. He became straight toxic. Gave him a chance and told him but eventually cut him off
Lyoness 1 month ago
My exbf & I bitterly parted ways last year. In the years prior to this she struggled with health issues, kid issues, daddy issues and infidelity (on her part). As much as she'd let me I was there for her, bringing over meals, listening, talking her husband down when he wanted to leave her. Then last year I struggled myself. I live with a mental illness and it was particularly bad, my father was diagnosed with cancer and I discovered my partner had been unfaithful. All I asked was for her to listen. She said I was "too negative" and that she didn't see the point in listening if I wasn't going to take her advice. Oh, and she claimed I was "giving in" to my disorder because I chose therapy, medication and a sabbatical instead of "just dealing with it" like she did (though she'd never been diagnosed with anything). And then she was surprised when I didn't want to see her when she said she was "entitled" to my time so she could explain why I was wrong to block her. Screw you Mel.
Courtney Christelle 1 month ago
The final nail in the coffin, when I realized our friendship was over, was when he got married and didn’t even tell me. I saw the pictures in Facebook. We had been friends literally our whole lives.
JC R. 1 month ago (edited)
After 18 years (we were practically sisters) and me being there (almost daily) to help raise her two kids after a bad break up with her abusive husband, she met a guy and forgot our friendship existed. She didn't want to introduce me to him. I initiated more than one discussion about when i would meet him...but nope. After 8 months of them dating, she decided to move to another city to be with him. This move forced a meeting and he said something inappropriate to me. When she and I spoke about it, she said it was my fault because I didn't do anything, like "invite him to a movie with her kids and I" to get to know him during those 8 months, so of course he was uncomfortable and was just trying to get to know me. She protected him and somehow made me the bad guy. Four weeks later she moved. Her kids are older so I still have a relationship with them. It's been 2 years and I wish I didn't miss her anymore, but she was family. I wish her all the best.
DadManBlues 1 month ago
He was probably not the best but one of my very few close friends. He moved from Hungary to Canada with his wife. I took them to the airport. Then they went absolutely no contact. They're doing alright, sometimes they contact our common friends, but not me. We never had an argument, never owed money to the other or the like. I tried to contact him a few times - no answer. I have no f**king idea what happened.
Okiedokie 1 month ago
Took his own life. Over twenty years of friendship. He was an addict & his gf died of similar reasons a few years prior. I don’t think he ever recovered. For a while, living was a nightmare. I made some very bad life choices without him yanking me back from dumb decisions. Even with his troubles he still made time for me. I miss him every single day.
ZuriLovesYou 1 month ago (edited)
She found someone she liked better. I just wasn't good enough for her anymore.
Nimitz 1 month ago
I came out. Steve was an amazing best friend through thick and thin. He wasn't any way a fair weather friend. But he had several former roommates go full stalker on his a*s after they admitted they were gay. We weren't roommates when I came out, but I never heard from him again once I did. Then he died of COVID. RIP to the man who was the brother I always wanted. I'll always be sad we never had a chance to reconcile
KillerKiwi 1 month ago
I think it’s happening right now, unfortunately. She’s being weird and distant and she’s not doing it to just me, either. Nothing big has happened, and she hasn’t said that anything is bothering her so I really don’t what’s going on. My other best friend had a really good friend she did everything with and then they girl basically just ghosted her. 😕 My best friend and her ex best friends are in the same friend group, so there’s a chance it could be related but there’s a serious lack of communication going on. The last time I texted her (and then left her on read) was Friday. I’ve got terrible luck with forcing people I care about away on October 3rd, I guess. Did the same damn thing last year except it was with someone I loved a little bit differently than her. 😔
Brenda 1 month ago
I've lost several over the years. Most recent, and the one I'll never recover from, was losing my husband November 12, 2023 - just a week after my birthday. In October 2021, he had a heart attack. They refer to it as "The Widowmaker" because only about 5% survive in it. 11 new stents and 2 replacement stents later, he was doing fairly well. October 2022, he had a stroke, but we got him to the hospital in time for the meds that stop it. Life Flighted to a different hospital for emergency surgery with an hour. 3 days later, he was discharged, only needing speech therapy. But being forced to retire caused depression. He stopped taking care of himself, not taking meds. August 2023, diagnosed with congestive heart failure. November 2023, he suffered a massive stroke and died in my arms. We were together more than half my life
Guess Undheit 1 month ago
Her father died. She has a history of mental illness (including hospitalizations and self-unaliving attempts), sending me a "we need time apart message". Then she started bad mouthing me, likely a result of prior mental breakdowns which run in the family. I chose to say nothing for the past nearly three years, and not get into a war of words. I keep the audio recordings of her mental health freakouts for the doctors. I'd prefer not to make them public, but if worst comes to worst, I'll let others hear the recordings and what's really going on in her head.
Leoninus Fate 1 month ago
lost my bff when she wouldn't tell her partner to stop making fun of my mom who had passed away 2 minutes before, said it was sad I wasn't the one to die, that she died to get from me, telling me my mom hated me, BFF and her partner know I was adopted, her partner told me that my mom {who adopted me} died like my birth mom cause she knew how f*cked up I was, how she wished my cancer took me or my brain tumor should have made me die instead. I asked my BFF "Please stop your partner from talking/saying those words to me" and my BFF said {actual words}" Im not going to hold anyone LEASHS anymore Lee" Then I said "If you won't tell them to stop I will" Then my BFF said " You can't tell [partner} to stop" I then super mad, told her "SO YOU won't HOLD ANYONEs LEASH! BUT YOU WOULD HOLD MINE? THEN GOOD BYE I hope everything they said about me they get to say about you and your family..." and I then blocked them all out of my life.. My BFF was like my Sister... we were friends for 20 years
Selena Wilson 1 month ago
When we were 9, her foster mother beat her death. Her name was Annette and 45 years later I can still see her face in my mind.
Linda Rogers 1 month ago
I was ten years married. It wasn’t going well. My best friend sympathised. She was always borrowing my clothes. Ran off with my husband. Posted back to me a dress and earrings she had borrowed. Earrings broken and dress stained with red wine. They married and divorced. Karma!
Eva Sawyer 1 month ago
Lost my best friend of 30+ years in 2016 over a difference in politics. This was someone that had been there since I was like 8 years old - and all it took was one difference of opinion for a switch to flip and suddenly it was like the previous 30 years had never happened. I am still sad about it.
Sven Horlemann 1 month ago
I got 2 best friends. Both I lost because when they married, the new wife was simply jealous of the close relationship and history we had. Nothing you can do.
Seadog 1 month ago
My best friend (male) has been my bf since we met in high school. I had tickets to an ELO concert and the person that was supposed to go got grounded the night before. So a scramble for me to find someone. A mutual friend introduced us and that was it. Best friends ever since. Best friend (female). We met at work, she picked up where a former coworker had left off in getting me to open my eyes to the reality of my bad marriage. After I finally saw what everyone else had been seeing and telling me for years, I got a divorce. She and I ended up dating for about a year but that day came that I knew deep down would come and we parted ways but we're still friends. She doesn't correspond as much as I'd like but I figure she sees what she lost when she sees me and new wife happy together. Funny thing is, the buy that was her next boyfriend hated me. They also split after a year or so and now he and I talk quite often.
Esther Archuleta 1 month ago
She lied about me in my presence. She created a situation at work, was unable to resolve it with her supervisor. She became angry, cried and threatened to commit suicide. I went to HR and got the situation resolved. Years later, while having lunch with mutual friends, the subject came up and she said it had been me all along. I can forgive her, but I can no longer be friends. I am the last to go no contact.
brittany 1 month ago (edited)
friends since 5th grade. in college i got in a relationship that became abusive. i escaped eventually but she blamed me for "ruining things" in our friendship and not being there bc he would control who i saw and when and i had to call him all the time or he'd get mad or worse. eventually my friend and i just stopped talking. it's NEVER your fault that someone is abusing you and if youre in a bad relationship i hope you make it out and have the support you need to thrive.
Roald Vd Munt 1 month ago
For everyone hurt in the past - sure, I know what it means. But don't get stuck in the past because of that bad experience. By bad memories or worries about the future we deny ourselves the chance to live fully in the now. Once I realised only the now is relevant, my life got a lot less complicated. Appreciate who you have around now, today, this moment.
CrazyKnitter 1 month ago
I only had one friend who I deliberately decided to stop speaking to. She had a s****y home life with really crazy Christian parents and we gave her a lot of slack because of that. They were really insane. But the breaking point was when she was high on something and called her bf while in the middle of having sex with another guy and we literally had to talk P off the edge of a building. He was a good guy and didn't deserve that. I never spoke to her again after that.
Samsquatch & Monko 1 month ago
They already lied so much and generally a bad friend. Then they became addicted To the DSMP. Suddenly every positive trait I had was somehow similar to some goddamn minecraft youtubers….
Kangaroo 1 month ago
The instructions were “how did you lose your best friend?” Death counts. No one specified it had to be about arguing or betrayal.
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Keith Lancaster 1 month ago
I was nineteen and very depressed. I told what I thought was my best friend that I was Gay and asked him not to tell anybody. He told everybody we knew and suddenly I had no friends at all. He tried to contact me on FB a couple of years ago as though nothing had happened. Don't think so, mate.
DC 1 month ago
None of these were your friends, actually. Let me have a guess ... strictly religious environment, with all the bigotry and sweeping-under that just seems to come naturally with it...?
Load More Replies... J. Maxx 1 month ago
I was a newcomer to the friend group. Gregory was a charismatic, fantastic sweetie that everyone loved. Greg had HIV that turned into AIDS about a year into my being a part of the group. Everyone else had known each other for years. When Gregory was in the hospital the first time, he told his doctor, nurse me, and my best friend that should he get to the hospice stage, he wanted to die at my home. I was floored and a little overcome but so touched. I was living at home with my Mom, sister, and stepfather. All knew Greg, and all agreed that if he needed hospice, he was very welcome to come to our home. One of his oldest friends found out and called his estranged family. A family that Gregory had had no contact with (due to them throwing him out when he was barely a teen due to him being Gay) in many, many years. Gregory was furious, and the next thing I knew, I was shut out. Greg died alone in the hospital.
Kombatbunni 1 month ago
He had plenty of time for his gaming friends but no spare time to see me, for the last five years. This year I quit trying and said see ya later. Almost 20 years of friendship ended, right before my birthday :(
Pheolei 1 month ago
I walked away from religion and because of that she thought I had no morals? A different friend she was to toxic and was ruining my relationship with my husband and lastly I found out this "friend" was talking behind my back and hated the people I care about the most. I have a very bad habit of picking out friends who are similar to family members that has caused a lot of trauma growing up.
KillerKiwi 1 month ago
Yeah generally people who leave their religion eat orphans. But seriously, I hate it when people just assume that since you’re not religious/as religious as they are that it means you have no morals. My mom deals with this a lot where we live due to the large population of Mormons. She’s got a pixie cut and doesn’t dress like Mormon women, and they like to automatically assume they know her just based on her looks and that she isn’t a Mormon. Sorry this happened to you
Load More Replies... Captive 1 month ago
When I was studying I met this dude and we became best friends. After a year he changed so much. He got jealous of the female attention that I was getting instead of him since he was used to that before me. He became straight toxic. Gave him a chance and told him but eventually cut him off
Lyoness 1 month ago
My exbf & I bitterly parted ways last year. In the years prior to this she struggled with health issues, kid issues, daddy issues and infidelity (on her part). As much as she'd let me I was there for her, bringing over meals, listening, talking her husband down when he wanted to leave her. Then last year I struggled myself. I live with a mental illness and it was particularly bad, my father was diagnosed with cancer and I discovered my partner had been unfaithful. All I asked was for her to listen. She said I was "too negative" and that she didn't see the point in listening if I wasn't going to take her advice. Oh, and she claimed I was "giving in" to my disorder because I chose therapy, medication and a sabbatical instead of "just dealing with it" like she did (though she'd never been diagnosed with anything). And then she was surprised when I didn't want to see her when she said she was "entitled" to my time so she could explain why I was wrong to block her. Screw you Mel.
Courtney Christelle 1 month ago
The final nail in the coffin, when I realized our friendship was over, was when he got married and didn’t even tell me. I saw the pictures in Facebook. We had been friends literally our whole lives.
JC R. 1 month ago (edited)
After 18 years (we were practically sisters) and me being there (almost daily) to help raise her two kids after a bad break up with her abusive husband, she met a guy and forgot our friendship existed. She didn't want to introduce me to him. I initiated more than one discussion about when i would meet him...but nope. After 8 months of them dating, she decided to move to another city to be with him. This move forced a meeting and he said something inappropriate to me. When she and I spoke about it, she said it was my fault because I didn't do anything, like "invite him to a movie with her kids and I" to get to know him during those 8 months, so of course he was uncomfortable and was just trying to get to know me. She protected him and somehow made me the bad guy. Four weeks later she moved. Her kids are older so I still have a relationship with them. It's been 2 years and I wish I didn't miss her anymore, but she was family. I wish her all the best.
DadManBlues 1 month ago
He was probably not the best but one of my very few close friends. He moved from Hungary to Canada with his wife. I took them to the airport. Then they went absolutely no contact. They're doing alright, sometimes they contact our common friends, but not me. We never had an argument, never owed money to the other or the like. I tried to contact him a few times - no answer. I have no f**king idea what happened.
Okiedokie 1 month ago
Took his own life. Over twenty years of friendship. He was an addict & his gf died of similar reasons a few years prior. I don’t think he ever recovered. For a while, living was a nightmare. I made some very bad life choices without him yanking me back from dumb decisions. Even with his troubles he still made time for me. I miss him every single day.
ZuriLovesYou 1 month ago (edited)
She found someone she liked better. I just wasn't good enough for her anymore.
Nimitz 1 month ago
I came out. Steve was an amazing best friend through thick and thin. He wasn't any way a fair weather friend. But he had several former roommates go full stalker on his a*s after they admitted they were gay. We weren't roommates when I came out, but I never heard from him again once I did. Then he died of COVID. RIP to the man who was the brother I always wanted. I'll always be sad we never had a chance to reconcile
KillerKiwi 1 month ago
I think it’s happening right now, unfortunately. She’s being weird and distant and she’s not doing it to just me, either. Nothing big has happened, and she hasn’t said that anything is bothering her so I really don’t what’s going on. My other best friend had a really good friend she did everything with and then they girl basically just ghosted her. 😕 My best friend and her ex best friends are in the same friend group, so there’s a chance it could be related but there’s a serious lack of communication going on. The last time I texted her (and then left her on read) was Friday. I’ve got terrible luck with forcing people I care about away on October 3rd, I guess. Did the same damn thing last year except it was with someone I loved a little bit differently than her. 😔
Brenda 1 month ago
I've lost several over the years. Most recent, and the one I'll never recover from, was losing my husband November 12, 2023 - just a week after my birthday. In October 2021, he had a heart attack. They refer to it as "The Widowmaker" because only about 5% survive in it. 11 new stents and 2 replacement stents later, he was doing fairly well. October 2022, he had a stroke, but we got him to the hospital in time for the meds that stop it. Life Flighted to a different hospital for emergency surgery with an hour. 3 days later, he was discharged, only needing speech therapy. But being forced to retire caused depression. He stopped taking care of himself, not taking meds. August 2023, diagnosed with congestive heart failure. November 2023, he suffered a massive stroke and died in my arms. We were together more than half my life
Guess Undheit 1 month ago
Her father died. She has a history of mental illness (including hospitalizations and self-unaliving attempts), sending me a "we need time apart message". Then she started bad mouthing me, likely a result of prior mental breakdowns which run in the family. I chose to say nothing for the past nearly three years, and not get into a war of words. I keep the audio recordings of her mental health freakouts for the doctors. I'd prefer not to make them public, but if worst comes to worst, I'll let others hear the recordings and what's really going on in her head.
Leoninus Fate 1 month ago
lost my bff when she wouldn't tell her partner to stop making fun of my mom who had passed away 2 minutes before, said it was sad I wasn't the one to die, that she died to get from me, telling me my mom hated me, BFF and her partner know I was adopted, her partner told me that my mom {who adopted me} died like my birth mom cause she knew how f*cked up I was, how she wished my cancer took me or my brain tumor should have made me die instead. I asked my BFF "Please stop your partner from talking/saying those words to me" and my BFF said {actual words}" Im not going to hold anyone LEASHS anymore Lee" Then I said "If you won't tell them to stop I will" Then my BFF said " You can't tell [partner} to stop" I then super mad, told her "SO YOU won't HOLD ANYONEs LEASH! BUT YOU WOULD HOLD MINE? THEN GOOD BYE I hope everything they said about me they get to say about you and your family..." and I then blocked them all out of my life.. My BFF was like my Sister... we were friends for 20 years
Selena Wilson 1 month ago
When we were 9, her foster mother beat her death. Her name was Annette and 45 years later I can still see her face in my mind.
Linda Rogers 1 month ago
I was ten years married. It wasn’t going well. My best friend sympathised. She was always borrowing my clothes. Ran off with my husband. Posted back to me a dress and earrings she had borrowed. Earrings broken and dress stained with red wine. They married and divorced. Karma!
Eva Sawyer 1 month ago
Lost my best friend of 30+ years in 2016 over a difference in politics. This was someone that had been there since I was like 8 years old - and all it took was one difference of opinion for a switch to flip and suddenly it was like the previous 30 years had never happened. I am still sad about it.
Sven Horlemann 1 month ago
I got 2 best friends. Both I lost because when they married, the new wife was simply jealous of the close relationship and history we had. Nothing you can do.
Seadog 1 month ago
My best friend (male) has been my bf since we met in high school. I had tickets to an ELO concert and the person that was supposed to go got grounded the night before. So a scramble for me to find someone. A mutual friend introduced us and that was it. Best friends ever since. Best friend (female). We met at work, she picked up where a former coworker had left off in getting me to open my eyes to the reality of my bad marriage. After I finally saw what everyone else had been seeing and telling me for years, I got a divorce. She and I ended up dating for about a year but that day came that I knew deep down would come and we parted ways but we're still friends. She doesn't correspond as much as I'd like but I figure she sees what she lost when she sees me and new wife happy together. Funny thing is, the buy that was her next boyfriend hated me. They also split after a year or so and now he and I talk quite often.
Esther Archuleta 1 month ago
She lied about me in my presence. She created a situation at work, was unable to resolve it with her supervisor. She became angry, cried and threatened to commit suicide. I went to HR and got the situation resolved. Years later, while having lunch with mutual friends, the subject came up and she said it had been me all along. I can forgive her, but I can no longer be friends. I am the last to go no contact.
brittany 1 month ago (edited)
friends since 5th grade. in college i got in a relationship that became abusive. i escaped eventually but she blamed me for "ruining things" in our friendship and not being there bc he would control who i saw and when and i had to call him all the time or he'd get mad or worse. eventually my friend and i just stopped talking. it's NEVER your fault that someone is abusing you and if youre in a bad relationship i hope you make it out and have the support you need to thrive.
Roald Vd Munt 1 month ago
For everyone hurt in the past - sure, I know what it means. But don't get stuck in the past because of that bad experience. By bad memories or worries about the future we deny ourselves the chance to live fully in the now. Once I realised only the now is relevant, my life got a lot less complicated. Appreciate who you have around now, today, this moment.
CrazyKnitter 1 month ago
I only had one friend who I deliberately decided to stop speaking to. She had a s****y home life with really crazy Christian parents and we gave her a lot of slack because of that. They were really insane. But the breaking point was when she was high on something and called her bf while in the middle of having sex with another guy and we literally had to talk P off the edge of a building. He was a good guy and didn't deserve that. I never spoke to her again after that.
Samsquatch & Monko 1 month ago
They already lied so much and generally a bad friend. Then they became addicted To the DSMP. Suddenly every positive trait I had was somehow similar to some goddamn minecraft youtubers….
Kangaroo 1 month ago
The instructions were “how did you lose your best friend?” Death counts. No one specified it had to be about arguing or betrayal.
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