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“Am I Wrong For Not Attending My Daughter’s Gender Reveal For Her Lizard?”
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“Am I Wrong For Not Attending My Daughter’s Gender Reveal For Her Lizard?”

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It’s no secret that more and more people are choosing to live childfree. If you’re new to the topic and would like to find out why exactly people make such a seemingly unusual decision, and what they think of it when they’re 50 and older, read our articles here and here.

This story comes from a 48-year-old mother to a 23-year-old daughter who “decided to remain childfree for multiple reasons.” Instead, the daughter “has a blue-tongued skink who she heavily adores” wrote mom in a recent post on r/AITA that amassed 18.5k upvotes. The family drama started after mom “got a text asking if I’d come to her gender reveal party she was having.” And it turns out, she was less than excited with the invitation.

Read the full story right below, to find out if the mom came (spoilers: she didn’t see the point!) and be sure to check out what the people in the community had to comment about the whole incident.

Image credits: JoshBerglund19 (not the actual photo)

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Then, mom added a couple of pieces of background info ‘to clear things up’

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But it seemed like many weren’t supportive of mom’s decision to not come and said she was an A-hole

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Ilona Baliūnaitė

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I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Ilona Baliūnaitė

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Jenn C
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter- gives long list of legitimate reasons for not wanting a child. Mother- you just haven't found the right man. Seriously?!

Sonia Bailey
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the bit I find most disturbing - she says her daughter is asexual but clearly doesn't respect her identity. The mother is totally the asshole here.

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Honu
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. Mom seems like lacks a sense of humor. When I read the title, I was thinking, "Is this a little kid? That seems pretty strange for an adult." Then I read the post. "Hmm. It's an adult. Oh, they totally are doing this as a joke! It's just fun silliness. What the heck is Mom's problem?" She was told it was a joke and then unilaterally decided to turn it into something serious. I don't see how she could not have known this would dredge up these past issues. I suspect she was looking for conflict and she got it. So, yeah, pretty sure she would've ruined the party if she had gone.

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Troux
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It seems like the mom is not respecting the child free decision. The party isn't about the lizard and it isn't about the lack of a human baby, yet that's all the mom seems to be focused on. The mother and daughter are on two completely different wavelengths.

elSti
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3 years ago

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she is not agreeing. Not participating and not agreeing is different from not respecting it.

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Jenn C
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter- gives long list of legitimate reasons for not wanting a child. Mother- you just haven't found the right man. Seriously?!

Sonia Bailey
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the bit I find most disturbing - she says her daughter is asexual but clearly doesn't respect her identity. The mother is totally the asshole here.

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Honu
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. Mom seems like lacks a sense of humor. When I read the title, I was thinking, "Is this a little kid? That seems pretty strange for an adult." Then I read the post. "Hmm. It's an adult. Oh, they totally are doing this as a joke! It's just fun silliness. What the heck is Mom's problem?" She was told it was a joke and then unilaterally decided to turn it into something serious. I don't see how she could not have known this would dredge up these past issues. I suspect she was looking for conflict and she got it. So, yeah, pretty sure she would've ruined the party if she had gone.

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Troux
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It seems like the mom is not respecting the child free decision. The party isn't about the lizard and it isn't about the lack of a human baby, yet that's all the mom seems to be focused on. The mother and daughter are on two completely different wavelengths.

elSti
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3 years ago

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she is not agreeing. Not participating and not agreeing is different from not respecting it.

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